Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Action Mike]

What the logic in I would paying for and engagement, wedding, etc. but you wouldn’t travel with same said person until y’all are married?

I agree, that no trips is extreme

It's even a requirement before getting even more serious - a big eye opener on certain things going on vacation

 

[RealAssanova]

What the logic in I would paying for and engagement, wedding, etc. but you wouldn’t travel with same said person until y’all are married?

Added level of security (eventhough marriage these days don’t mean anything) that comes in a marriage that doesn’t come in a relationship.

Besides, women these days act like they single until they married...

 

[VertigoKnight]

A small trip is good to see how you and her cope out of both your comfort zones.

Me personally? Never out of country and at most three days.

 

[Krisrunner2049]

Brehs I’m thinking of staying in Vegas permanently all this year or maybe next year. Newsom still got these hoes in LA shooki saw more fine hoes in Vegas than ever in LA, got hella sexual attention, I’m the big 22 now I can’t afford to spend another year of my life withering away in depressing ass dry ass LA when I could be livin my best life in Vegas. I think Vegas might be the key also to reaching my goal of 200 bodies. Anyone that has done similar lemme know whatchall be oni can work a low tier job and live in an entry level apartment anywhere not just in LA for those that will say this endeavor is lame behaviorim not finna waste my prime years

 

[The ADD]

Added level of security (eventhough marriage these days don’t mean anything) that comes in a marriage that doesn’t come in a relationship.

Besides, women these days act like they single until they married...

Lol at your first time traveling with your wife being the honeymoon

Some women act like that and some don’t.

Y’all wild. A trip is somehow more risk than getting married and everything that entails

Come on guise

 

[OmegaK2099]

you got any family? Close friends? I feel you should confide in them. A woman won’t be much help with the trauma you’re experiencing.

get well with the ulcer btw. I had a bacteria in my stomach that had the potential to become an ulcer.

The friends I was hanging with were real shytty, i cut alot of people off. I just started hypnotherapy and thats helped Me get my mind right. Before the ulcer acted up again I was back in the gym and was focused on my music. The shyt with me and my ex is over but I'm still haunted by all of it and it's been fukking with my mental health. So far I only told my therapist and I just opened up to my mom because I was ashamed of Going through all that and what she put me through. It was mainly fukked up mindgames and manipulation shyt my ex did. I've been struggling with feelings of self worth and wanting to commit that lately. I mean I've always had those feelings, my ex knew I had those feelings but she didn't care.

 

[Reality]

What the logic in I would paying for and engagement, wedding, etc. but you wouldn’t travel with same said person until y’all are married?

I agree, that no trips is extreme

It's even a requirement before getting even more serious - a big eye opener on certain things going on vacation

A small trip is good to see how you and her cope out of both your comfort zones.

Me personally? Never out of country and at most three days.

Nothing pulls forward potential issues in a long term relationship or marriage like travel IMO. I say this after taking some Ls.

Your approaches to money, planning, leisure/what you do with "free" time, sex, get highlighted like crazy. Same flash points as a marriage. What went down the last few times I traveled w/ exes was a microcosm of the relationship.

Girl A
*Best parts of the trip were smashing multiple times a day; incredible sexual chemistry
*Could not get on the same page about activities - I wanted a good mix of being active, staying on schedule, and just chilling to get my money's worth; she was cooler lounging around; she spent hella time on the phone on her fam even though it could wait and we had places to be
*Roller coaster of great sex, arguments, make-up sex, and relationship on the brink

Girl B
*Completely on the same page in terms of mix of activities, planning, etc.
*Stable, respectful, good communication
*Lacked sexual spontaneity because she was focused on logistics, anxious about some things, etc.

The 1st time traveling with both was ~ a year into what would be 3+ year relationships undone by the problems seen traveling.

 

[Action Mike]

These joints are really trying to go raw on the first night.

Yo its crazy!

Had one literally pull the shyt off me, had to back up and look at this bytch doing that defensive giggle shyt

 

[Apollo Creed]

I agree, that no trips is extreme

It's even a requirement before getting even more serious - a big eye opener on certain things going on vacation

yeah nothing wrong with trips lol that going half tends to be when folks cant afford something. As a Man you take lead and just assign something for her to cover just to see if she is willing to put skin in the game (you should be able to pay for everything but if she cant even the handle the assignment of covering say ubers, then you better off traveling solo and just tricking when you get to the spot)

 

[Apollo Creed]

Nothing pulls forward potential issues in a long term relationship or marriage like travel IMO. I say this after taking some Ls.

Your approaches to money, planning, leisure/what you do with "free" time, sex, get highlighted like crazy. Same flash points as a marriage. What went down the last few times I traveled w/ exes was a microcosm of the relationship.

Girl A
*Best parts of the trip were smashing multiple times a day; incredible sexual chemistry
*Could not get on the same page about activities - I wanted a good mix of being active, staying on schedule, and just chilling to get my money's worth; she was cooler lounging around; she spent hella time on the phone on her fam even though it could wait and we had places to be
*Roller coaster of great sex, arguments, make-up sex, and relationship on the brink

Girl B
*Completely on the same page in terms of mix of activities, planning, etc.
*Stable, respectful, good communication
*Lacked sexual spontaneity because she was focused on logistics, anxious about some things, etc.

The 1st time traveling with both was ~ a year into what would be 3+ year relationships undone by the problems seen traveling.

yeah traveling is a safer way than cohabitating to see someones real side. See how they treat people, how annoying they are, etc.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

The friends I was hanging with were real shytty, i cut alot of people off. I just started hypnotherapy and thats helped Me get my mind right. Before the ulcer acted up again I was back in the gym and was focused on my music. The shyt with me and my ex is over but I'm still haunted by all of it and it's been fukking with my mental health. So far I only told my therapist and I just opened up to my mom because I was ashamed of Going through all that and what she put me through. It was mainly fukked up mindgames and manipulation shyt my ex did. I've been struggling with feelings of self worth and wanting to commit that lately. I mean I've always had those feelings, my ex knew I had those feelings but she didn't care.

Good. Glad you cut off the negative people in your life and you’re back into therapy for your health. As for your trauma with your ex, it’s good to hear you are taking steps to address and patch that wound.

Whatever feelings of loneliness you feel, do NOT use women to combat that. Friends, families, community service.. anything but another woman. From what I’m reading, physically and mentally you aren’t in the position to a) have a healthy relationship with a woman and b) provide a stable foundation if things do get seriously. Even hooking up with women in your position sounds risky, because it could lead to the possibility of you getting attached to said hook up.

 

[OmegaK2099]

Good. Glad you cut off the negative people in your life and you’re back into therapy for your health. As for your trauma with your ex, it’s good to hear you are taking steps to address and patch that wound.

Whatever feelings of loneliness you feel, do NOT use women to combat that. Friends, families, community service.. anything but another woman. From what I’m reading, physically and mentally you aren’t in the position to a) have a healthy relationship with a woman and b) provide a stable foundation if things do get seriously. Even hooking up with women in your position sounds risky, because it could lead to the possibility of you getting attached to said hook up.

My friend encouraged me to hit up the club again and find someone to hook up with Just for one night. He Said it might help

 

[Guvnor]

you're dealing with a modern woman but it sounds like you expected a traditional spouse. If a chick is working you can't expect her to get off work and cater to you 100%. The work world is draining, but we (men and women) still tend to hold traditional expectations from the 'love display' stand point when we really moving like non gendered partners lol.

We gotta adjust our expectations, unless you plan on 'retiring' a woman.

Valid point but here is the situation. Don't like to get this graphic or even calculated when it comes to sex but here goes!

How would you feel if your girl only had sex with you once in two weeks? Y'all only see each other twice a week usually.

I get she is tired and she works a high stress job but that right there sucks.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

My friend encouraged me to hit up the club again and find someone to hook up with Just for one night. He Said it might help

If that’s what you want, cool. Yet your trauma with your ex playing mind games and manipulation sounds like a bad mixture. Can you truthfully say you are emotionally intelligent to fukked a chick without thinking of ya ex girl or your mental issues?

 

[Guvnor]

Nothing pulls forward potential issues in a long term relationship or marriage like travel IMO. I say this after taking some Ls.

Your approaches to money, planning, leisure/what you do with "free" time, sex, get highlighted like crazy. Same flash points as a marriage. What went down the last few times I traveled w/ exes was a microcosm of the relationship.

Girl A
*Best parts of the trip were smashing multiple times a day; incredible sexual chemistry
*Could not get on the same page about activities - I wanted a good mix of being active, staying on schedule, and just chilling to get my money's worth; she was cooler lounging around; she spent hella time on the phone on her fam even though it could wait and we had places to be
*Roller coaster of great sex, arguments, make-up sex, and relationship on the brink

Girl B
*Completely on the same page in terms of mix of activities, planning, etc.
*Stable, respectful, good communication
*Lacked sexual spontaneity because she was focused on logistics, anxious about some things, etc.

The 1st time traveling with both was ~ a year into what would be 3+ year relationships undone by the problems seen traveling.

My problem is I least get either girl A or B. How can I get a combo of both lol.