Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[VertigoKnight]

What’s y’all take on the struggles of moving on?

I’m struggling heavy. I have a girl that I’m dealing with, but I can stop thinking about my ex.

I’ve been moved out the house we shared for about a month now, no contact. We haven’t had any intimacy since I got caught cheating back in July.

I keep checking her IG and shyt… she be posting stuff about dating and she been out of town a couple of times. She definitely fukking someone else because she spend the night away from the house like once a week. Can’t bring myself to uninstall the doorbell camera because umma nosy stalker ass obsessed nikka right now still in his feelings.

I’m trying my best to be happy with the new chick and stop watching my ex new life.



It hurts and I can’t even enjoy my favorite foods at the moment. Stomach be gurgling n shyt… no appetite. Can’t sleep. Tryna not to go out sad like Kanye lol

I understand that cheating was wrong and that’s her excuse, but even before then, after she finally got her life together she started acting funny with the p*ssy and trying to call shots. Being all difficult and combative. Got super cocky like she can get any nikka to take care of her. After I built her up and took care of the household.

shyt makes me mad on god

It’s hard.

When me and my ex wife officially split. It was hard to know some other guy fukked her less than three weeks later, I even had live updates before and after the deed between her and her friends as she left her discord notifications on and they popped up on the iPad we shared.

I never want to have that feeling again. But a full social media blackout of her is something that is invaluable. Heck when I split with my ex I also split with a woman I thought I was in love with who dumped me as things got too hot and ‘confusing’ for her and she bailed. So it was a double whammy.

I guarantee you after 2 months you’ll think of her but the feeling will lessen, I actually worked with my ex for a few months so I got to see her daily but we kept it professional.

We even talked about our dating lives until she got upset that I was dealing with Asian and Persian women.

But time does heal wounds now she barely comes up in my mind, occasionally I remember the good times but other than that

 

[RaspberryFitted]

That’s good. You plan on going to their place, your place, or hotel?

Tell them your location for that too. Give names too lol.

her spot. Don’t really like people knowing where I stay, plus I was taught going to her place makes her feel more “safe” but women be setting dudes up so

preciate you on the location gem. I also remembered to give someone I trust the contact info of that girl

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I never get proximity p*ssy bruh. Always a chick that fw me that lives in Bumblefukk, Nowhere and was in the city for a few days.

What’s ya guideline on how far you’d link up with a chick?

 

[DJSmooth]

I need some advice y'all. Been dating this chick for awhile and she had this male friend who she led on and basically friend zoned him years ago back in college. According to her story he moved on is engaged and soon to be married. She has hung out with the couple and has spoke to him from time to time even though she initially friend zoned him and they are just friends from back in high school.

She wants to go his wedding and I told her no.

Do y'all feel I'm being insecure or am I justified?

It ain't that serious. A wedding is just for a day.

It would be a problem if they were hanging out weekly just her and her male friend by themselves.

 

[Guvnor]

It ain't that serious. A wedding is just for a day.

It would be a problem if they were hanging out weekly just her and her male friend by themselves.

I hear you. he had feelings for her in the past though.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I hear you. he had feelings for her in the past though.

if they really “friends” and she ya girl then go to the wedding with her.

 

[Guvnor]

if they really “friends” and she ya girl then go to the wedding with her.

She did suggest that but I shot her down. Maybe I was bugging, can't front I can be insecure.

I put my foot down and now I don't wanna look weak by changing up. fukk!

 

[Apollo Creed]

She did suggest that but I shot her down. Maybe I was bugging, can't front I can be insecure.

I put my foot down and now I don't wanna look weak by changing up. fukk!

yeah that was an L on your part. People bring their gf/bf to friends weddings all the time. If anything her asking you to go should have deaded your concerns, because if she was creeping she wouldn't even bring up the wedding, and just do her thing lol. Dont mess up a good thing trying to be too tough for your own good lol

 

[DapMeUp!]

Not going to front, it's refreshing going through this thread with a clear mind not dealing with women at this point in time.

Not that I'm enjoying seeing the brehs struggle, but if I was going through some of the struggles you brehs are going through it would have me fukked up right now.
I'm more focused than I have ever been and I really can't afford to be thrown off track.

So as much as I would like to be dating or entertaining women right now, I got to remember the bullshyt that comes with and realize I'm not in the position to be dealing with that right now.

 

[Serious]

delete the social and all of that and go completely no contact

only problem is when they try to come back

It’s not a problem at all, you ignore them

 

[Canon]

It’s not a problem at all, you ignore them

hard in my case because she comes when I teach BJJ classes and shyt

 

[Serious]

hard in my case because she comes when I teach BJJ classes and shyt

A man must have discipline.

You gotta move on. A lot of the time, you don’t even really want them, you want the possessiveness, chase and control over an ex. Get off that internal mindset.


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[Canon]

A man must have discipline.

You gotta move on. A lot of the time, you don’t even really want them, you want the possessiveness, chase and control over an ex. Get off that internal mindset.


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oh nah I got a new chick its just annoying

 

[eXodus]

Hey bruhs with small rotations (2-3 chicks) how do y’all plan to do Valentine’s Day this year?

im usually in a relationship/dating exclusively or last year wasn’t dating at all with covid n shyt.. but this year have a couple situations. They both know I see other ppl and it’s cool if they do they thing too.

I’ve been able to manage Xmas and New Years and spread my time out, without shyt being too weird but I feel like Valentine’s Day gonna be interesting this year.

 

[Tr0yTV]

Hey bruhs with small rotations (2-3 chicks) how do y’all plan to do Valentine’s Day this year?

im usually in a relationship/dating exclusively or last year wasn’t dating at all with covid n shyt.. but this year have a couple situations. They both know I see other ppl and it’s cool if they do they thing too.

I’ve been able to manage Xmas and New Years and spread my time out, without shyt being too weird but I feel like Valentine’s Day gonna be interesting this year.

If you got 3. Plan dates for the day before valentines, day of, and day after. You can lie to spare their feelings or tell them the truth because they know you talk to other women. Women get turned on/competitive when they know you have other women.