Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I need some advice y'all. Been dating this chick for awhile and she had this male friend who she led on and basically friend zoned him years ago back in college. According to her story he moved on is engaged and soon to be married. She has hung out with the couple and has spoke to him from time to time even though she initially friend zoned him and they are just friends from back in high school.

She wants to go his wedding and I told her no.

Do y'all feel I'm being insecure or am I justified?
Is she going to the wedding by herself, or yall going together...? Is she going by herself, she gonna fukk him one last time and I highly doubt it would be the last time.

Bottom line, she thinking about that dude way to much... I, personally, would tell her she can go, have her fun, and then tell we are done. She already tipped her hand.
 

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Is she going to the wedding by herself, or yall going together...? Is she going by herself, she gonna fukk him one last time and I highly doubt it would be the last time.

Bottom line, she thinking about that dude way to much... I, personally, would tell her she can go, have her fun, and then tell we are done. She already tipped her hand.
Well according to what she told me they never had sex. She just led him on cause it was after a break up and he was there but she eventually told him the feelings weren't mutual.
 

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Well according to what she told me they never had sex. She just led him on cause it was after a break up and he was there but she eventually told him the feelings weren't mutual.


The honestly what is the point of her going then? Be careful breh, that shyt ain't passing the sniff test if you know what I mean. She could be shyt testing to see if you are willing to put up with this type of foolishness...
 

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The honestly what is the point of her going then? Be careful breh, that shyt ain't passing the sniff test if you know what I mean. She could be shyt testing to see if you are willing to put up with this type of foolishness...
She claims cause they were friends since high school and have mutual friends. She just never liked him like that. I told her cut him off and she says she dialed back the convos and they no longer chat with each other which is true.
 

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She claims cause they were friends since high school and have mutual friends. She just never liked him like that. I told her cut him off and she says she dialed back the convos and they no longer chat with each other which is true.

I assume dude invited her to the wedding? If she really is done with dude she would just send a gift. If they were really friends she wouldnt have emotionally manipulated him to get over her breakup.

remember anything a woman does to another man she will eventually do it to you.
 

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I assume dude invited her to the wedding? If she really is done with dude she would just send a gift. If they were really friends she wouldnt have emotionally manipulated him to get over her breakup.

remember anything a woman does to another man she will eventually do it to you.

Well they were never together from what she told me, or even dated. They were in college and he was giving her attention so she just let him do it then when he tried to let her know how he felt she shot him down.

However the bolded is a great point. I'll ask her about it and see what she says cause that is foul asf.
 

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Well they were never together from what she told me, or even dated. They were in college and he was giving her attention so she just let him do it then when he tried to let her know how he felt she shot him down.

However the bolded is a great point. I'll ask her about it and see what she says cause that is foul asf.

I wouldn't even ask. I would go to the Wedding with her and peep the energy, but also the signs are there to prepare for the inevitable. I won't tell you to bail now, but with stuff like that, for me at least she doesn't have the qualities I'd look for in a partner. You're your own man, but I would make sure not to get so invested in her where she is your life because thats how you fall off your square trying to make her happy. Like I said if she can even admit to you she strung a man along, and one that she considers a friend ( because most chicks bush dudes they use for attention once they get someone they deem better), then your time will come one day lol
 

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Matched with this girl on Hinge. We chatted I asked for her number. She says she only gives her number once she meets the guy. I was like let’s talk on the hinge phone app. We talked had a good convo for about 30 min.

Set up a date, she asked to reschedule for whatever reason. I said we won’t be able to meet again until the following month when I get back in town. I asked for her number again and she hit me with the same line so I unmatched.

Was this being impatient or just reading her correctly?
 

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Matched with this girl on Hinge. We chatted I asked for her number. She says she only gives her number once she meets the guy. I was like let’s talk on the hinge phone app. We talked had a good convo for about 30 min.

Set up a date, she asked to reschedule for whatever reason. I said we won’t be able to meet again until the following month when I get back in town. I asked for her number again and she hit me with the same line so I unmatched.

Was this being impatient or just reading her correctly?

I Would have unmatched after the first ask.
 

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She says she only gives her number once she meets the guy
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Was this being impatient or just reading her correctly?
You read it right. Phone numbers > social media app. We either set the date up in the app (even if we do that, you’ll need my # regardless) or we build rapport through the phone.

don’t fall for the IG/Snap okey doke.
 
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