Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

@Boxing&Jesus

it’s too late. Once y’all break up and ur girl goes and fuccks someone else, any positive hope for whatever relationship y’all had is doomed. Cuz you’ll always think of it, even if y’all got back together.

the only way, and I repeat, the ONLY chance you have to recover the power u once had here is to:

1. STOP telling her u wanna be with her.
2. STOP bringing up marriage and that relationship bs.
3. If she calls u to wanna fucck, go over and fucck her with reckless abandon. Then after y’all done, get up and leave. Tell her U got dinner plans with some friends. Or u got sh1t to do.
4. Stop chasing!!!

With women, knowing she has u begging and in a desperate state of want frees her to be aloof. You’re safe. In the bag. No need to worry about him. Nah you should never let a woman feel this way about you.

This is your only way. But from reading your post I know u won’t have the discipline to see it through.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

@Boxing&Jesus

it’s too late. Once y’all break up and ur girl goes and fuccks someone else, any positive hope for whatever relationship y’all had is doomed. Cuz you’ll always think of it, even if y’all got back together.

the only way, and I repeat, the ONLY chance you have to recover the power u once had here is to:

1. STOP telling her u wanna be with her.
2. STOP bringing up marriage and that relationship bs.
3. If she calls u to wanna fucck, go over and fucck her with reckless abandon. Then after y’all done, get up and leave. Tell her U got dinner plans with some friends. Or u got sh1t to do.
4. Stop chasing!!!

With women, knowing she has u begging and in a desperate state of want frees her to be aloof. You’re safe. In the bag. No need to worry about him. Nah you should never let a woman feel this way about you.

This is your only way. But from reading your post I know u won’t have the discipline to see it through.

Man if that's my only option I'll become disciplined and do it.

 

[Apollo Creed]

When me and my ex first started dating I was 25 and she was 23 and she always wanted marriage and kids and I never wanted that until now.

She told me the relationship was a mistake and so I broke up with her at beginning of the covid and she went home. Even though I did not want to break it off, but how could I recover from that as a man. She came back and we started talking again but she never expressed to me until recently that she was crying, sick wanting to kill me etc. And she said I never asked to be her man again when she came back. In our absence I smashed some hinge bytches and realized it's really not shyt out here man, she claimed she went on dates but never fukked anyone and they wasn't me.

I'm 28 now and a man on some sap can't see myself without her. Her line sister set her up on a blind date with this nikka and she been smitten ever since "I guess he paid for every meal and built her a desk one time and never complained" I'm like is that the only complaint? "oh no you just never wanted marriage and kids and now you want it" she called me Lawerence from Insecure. I went to Dubai and brought this girl back diamond earrings mind you and a silk scarf.

She claims the nikka has been waiting for years to date her and all this shyt and I never talked like his before. When she first told me she would continue dating this nikka, I was sick and distraught and still am. I lost 17 pounds, been in church, waiting for my insurance to kick in February. I have been real distraught about this shyt and I don't have any male role models or mentors to talk to about this that are mature enough except my friend who's 29 with a wife and kid and is super Christian and is a father who a pastor. All my close friends my age are big gmb and I thought the same, plus I never saw that work in my life but I want to change that.

Her" I'm just on Facebook and seeing people with kids and marriage and family" Me: Okay my Facebook will have mad baby showers but no marriage and free such and such.

She was saying she would call me when she wanted dikk but if they start fukking she's not mixing both of us. She been face timing me and shyt and she admitted they fukked, and that shyt felt like a nikka stabbed me in my balls man, but 2 weeks ago she called me and told me to come over, I stopped jerking off too and brought the rose toy and everything, went in on her shyt.

She admitted that was one of the best she's had but still say she don't wanna be with me right now

Then yesterday she said if he asks her to be his girl she's gonna say yes, but then saying I look good at the end of the call and saying she love me.

I think this nikka slightly makes more money and I been about that too, like I'm actively studying for sec +, I have no kids, I'm about to get my own place next year in NY, B.A. degree, but she looks at social media and sees shyt and feel like I should be ahead I guess. I'm literally like the savior of my family though, nobody else has even come close to this meanwhile she comes from 2 parent's both college grads.

Breh's Idek how to move forward with this shyt man, I linked with a hinge girl and I couldn't even get hard, for the first time in my life. fukked up about this, and been praying, talking to God, preacher and more positive people but I want her and want to get married and have kids. I know I gotta really level up but I dead can't even focus.

Got damn Disney has done aa number on yall.

Calm down breh, nothing is ever that serious.

There is a difference between wanting marriage and being ready for marriage, at 28 imo you are still too young unless you trying to do a 50/50 Partnership and even then you need to be sure your finances/assets are in order.

Did this girl even have wife qualities or you just like her lol. Your mind is too clouded in emotion to make logical decisions. You need to cut her off and cut off all dating and spend 3-6 months alone and write out what you want in life at the start of those 3-6 months, do some soul searching/travel and then come back and ask yourself is this still what you want.

As a Man you need to live by No take backs, if it was meant to be yall would have done the thing from the jump. God puts people in your life to teach you things, so you need to ask yourself what lesson did you learn from this relationship instead of beating a dead horse.

 

[DJSmooth]

When me and my ex first started dating I was 25 and she was 23 and she always wanted marriage and kids and I never wanted that until now.

She told me the relationship was a mistake and so I broke up with her at beginning of the covid and she went home. Even though I did not want to break it off, but how could I recover from that as a man. She came back and we started talking again but she never expressed to me until recently that she was crying, sick wanting to kill me etc. And she said I never asked to be her man again when she came back. In our absence I smashed some hinge bytches and realized it's really not shyt out here man, she claimed she went on dates but never fukked anyone and they wasn't me.

I'm 28 now and a man on some sap can't see myself without her. Her line sister set her up on a blind date with this nikka and she been smitten ever since "I guess he paid for every meal and built her a desk one time and never complained" I'm like is that the only complaint? "oh no you just never wanted marriage and kids and now you want it" she called me Lawerence from Insecure. I went to Dubai and brought this girl back diamond earrings mind you and a silk scarf.

She claims the nikka has been waiting for years to date her and all this shyt and I never talked like his before. When she first told me she would continue dating this nikka, I was sick and distraught and still am. I lost 17 pounds, been in church, waiting for my insurance to kick in February. I have been real distraught about this shyt and I don't have any male role models or mentors to talk to about this that are mature enough except my friend who's 29 with a wife and kid and is super Christian and is a father who a pastor. All my close friends my age are big gmb and I thought the same, plus I never saw that work in my life but I want to change that.

Her" I'm just on Facebook and seeing people with kids and marriage and family" Me: Okay my Facebook will have mad baby showers but no marriage and free such and such.

She was saying she would call me when she wanted dikk but if they start fukking she's not mixing both of us. She been face timing me and shyt and she admitted they fukked, and that shyt felt like a nikka stabbed me in my balls man, but 2 weeks ago she called me and told me to come over, I stopped jerking off too and brought the rose toy and everything, went in on her shyt.

She admitted that was one of the best she's had but still say she don't wanna be with me right now

Then yesterday she said if he asks her to be his girl she's gonna say yes, but then saying I look good at the end of the call and saying she love me.

I think this nikka slightly makes more money and I been about that too, like I'm actively studying for sec +, I have no kids, I'm about to get my own place next year in NY, B.A. degree, but she looks at social media and sees shyt and feel like I should be ahead I guess. I'm literally like the savior of my family though, nobody else has even come close to this meanwhile she comes from 2 parent's both college grads.

Breh's Idek how to move forward with this shyt man, I linked with a hinge girl and I couldn't even get hard, for the first time in my life. fukked up about this, and been praying, talking to God, preacher and more positive people but I want her and want to get married and have kids. I know I gotta really level up but I dead can't even focus.

I actually feel more sorry for other breh. It don't sound like she likes him too much, he is just there to pass time.

Once she finds a better nikka than both of yall she gonna kick both of yalls asses to the curve.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

Got damn Disney has done aa number on yall.

Calm down breh, nothing is ever that serious.

There is a difference between wanting marriage and being ready for marriage, at 28 imo you are still too young unless you trying to do a 50/50 Partnership and even then you need to be sure your finances/assets are in order.

Did this girl even have wife qualities or you just like her lol. Your mind is too clouded in emotion to make logical decisions. You need to cut her off and cut off all dating and spend 3-6 months alone and write out what you want in life at the start of those 3-6 months, do some soul searching/travel and then come back and ask yourself is this still what you want.

As a Man you need to live by No takebacks, if it was meant to be yall would have done the thing from the jump. God puts people in your life to teach you things, so you need to ask yourself what lesson did you learn from this relationship instead of beating a dead horse.

That's what I was thinking like I feel like 28 is young but I also feel like I need to mature and definitely get my paper up as well as Investment and finances. She makes more money, and she said she grew up with her father paying for everything. I guess this other nikka pays for everything and sometimes especially, in the beginning, I would ask her to pay for maybe the uber after like 3 restaurants in NYC I paid for like wth I work in non-profit. She sees some celebrities and line sisters getting married and is feeding and talking about fertility at an older age.

I was dating girls who came from more money than her and have more than her now and they all insisted that they at least pay for something on the date.

I haven't seen my father since I was 9, and the nikka is damn near homeless, I have no blueprint for how this shyt goes. I think she has wife qualities, that's literally all she fukking cares about, being a wife and mother nurturing etc

I think I do need to take a break from dating, I go on hinge and can probably hit a broad but I know that's a dopamine hit. I get horny but I'll probably just put my energy elsewhere.

 

[Wargames]

When me and my ex first started dating I was 25 and she was 23 and she always wanted marriage and kids and I never wanted that until now.

She told me the relationship was a mistake and so I broke up with her at beginning of the covid and she went home. Even though I did not want to break it off, but how could I recover from that as a man. She came back and we started talking again but she never expressed to me until recently that she was crying, sick wanting to kill me etc. And she said I never asked to be her man again when she came back. In our absence I smashed some hinge bytches and realized it's really not shyt out here man, she claimed she went on dates but never fukked anyone and they wasn't me.

I'm 28 now and a man on some sap can't see myself without her. Her line sister set her up on a blind date with this nikka and she been smitten ever since "I guess he paid for every meal and built her a desk one time and never complained" I'm like is that the only complaint? "oh no you just never wanted marriage and kids and now you want it" she called me Lawerence from Insecure. I went to Dubai and brought this girl back diamond earrings mind you and a silk scarf.

She claims the nikka has been waiting for years to date her and all this shyt and I never talked like his before. When she first told me she would continue dating this nikka, I was sick and distraught and still am. I lost 17 pounds, been in church, waiting for my insurance to kick in February. I have been real distraught about this shyt and I don't have any male role models or mentors to talk to about this that are mature enough except my friend who's 29 with a wife and kid and is super Christian and is a father who a pastor. All my close friends my age are big gmb and I thought the same, plus I never saw that work in my life but I want to change that.

Her" I'm just on Facebook and seeing people with kids and marriage and family" Me: Okay my Facebook will have mad baby showers but no marriage and free such and such.

She was saying she would call me when she wanted dikk but if they start fukking she's not mixing both of us. She been face timing me and shyt and she admitted they fukked, and that shyt felt like a nikka stabbed me in my balls man, but 2 weeks ago she called me and told me to come over, I stopped jerking off too and brought the rose toy and everything, went in on her shyt.

She admitted that was one of the best she's had but still say she don't wanna be with me right now

Then yesterday she said if he asks her to be his girl she's gonna say yes, but then saying I look good at the end of the call and saying she love me.

I think this nikka slightly makes more money and I been about that too, like I'm actively studying for sec +, I have no kids, I'm about to get my own place next year in NY, B.A. degree, but she looks at social media and sees shyt and feel like I should be ahead I guess. I'm literally like the savior of my family though, nobody else has even come close to this meanwhile she comes from 2 parent's both college grads.

Breh's Idek how to move forward with this shyt man, I linked with a hinge girl and I couldn't even get hard, for the first time in my life. fukked up about this, and been praying, talking to God, preacher and more positive people but I want her and want to get married and have kids. I know I gotta really level up but I dead can't even focus.

I can’t tell you if she is the one, or if she if she is marriage material because that is subjective. Based on what you said though it pretty clear you would have to propose to her to get back what you had. That is the ultimatum she is giving you in plain sight. I am not even sure the other dude exist, but regardless, she is only making moves to pressure you into proposing. She got you in the Marriage Red Zone and is making that push to get a touch down.

Now with that said I am not on team #GMB. However, I recognize that GMBs are usually right because men tend to get married because they get caught up in lust and infatuation.

If you like spending time with her even when you are getting p*ssy elsewhere or she can’t give you p*ssy, and you want to have kids with her, and you miss her as being a part of your life. Then man do what will make you happy, because life is too short to not be happy. Just make sure it’s what you want because if not she is going to run your pockets and make the misery you are in now a permanent part of your life story if you get a divorce.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

I actually feel more sorry for other breh. It don't sound like she likes him too much, he is just there to pass time.

Once she finds a better nikka than both of yall she gonna kick both of yalls asses to the curve.

Nah she likes this nikka, when I mention him she smiles and got mad when I said I would knock him out, also said he does stuff without her asking but also says " he doesn't check all her boxes" but who knows they started talking late August and she wanna be his girl

 

[Apollo Creed]

That's what I was thinking like I feel like 28 is young but I also feel like I need to mature and definitely get my paper up as well as Investment and finances. She makes more money, and she said she grew up with her father paying for everything. I guess this other nikka pays for everything and sometimes especially, in the beginning, I would ask her to pay for maybe the uber after like 3 restaurants in NYC I paid for like wth I work in non-profit. She sees some celebrities and line sisters getting married and is feeding and talking about fertility at an older age.

I was dating girls who came from more money than her and have more than her now and they all insisted that they at least pay for something on the date.

I haven't seen my father since I was 9, and the nikka is damn near homeless, I have no blueprint for how this shyt goes. I think she has wife qualities, that's literally all she fukking cares about, being a wife and mother nurturing etc

I think I do need to take a break from dating, I go on hinge and can probably hit a broad but I know that's a dopamine hit. I get horny but I'll probably just put my energy elsewhere.

her having her dad in her life = she gonna see you as his replacement = another bill. At 28 you not ready for that. IMO you shouldn't even think about it till 35, because there are a ton of responsibility that comes with being a husband no matter how much a woman sells you on it (because she wants it for her benefit not yours). No woman is gonna wanna work after kids, even if she goes to work she will have resentment that you weren't able to 'retire her' even if its temp for the kid to reach say age 5 (if she was a real workaholic she would be one of those weirdo "im putting my career first" chicks but even that is cap).

Dont let anyone shame you to do anything you aren't ready for (the fact they trying to sell you on it once again means its for their benefit not yours).

Right now you are in a case of where you been gaslit to think you need to do something you aren't ready for. Every man wants to reproduce, but many understand its best to do it on your terms so you can provide the optimal situation for your family.

 

[Wargames]

Nah she likes this nikka, when I mention him she smiles and got mad when I said I would knock him out, also said he does stuff without her asking but also says " he doesn't check all her boxes" but who knows they started talking late August and she wanna be his girl

See that is manipulation a woman gives to her first choice.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Nah she likes this nikka, when I mention him she smiles and got mad when I said I would knock him out, also said he does stuff without her asking but also says " he doesn't check all her boxes" but who knows they started talking late August and she wanna be his girl

you shouldn't even be talking to ex's unless they reaching out because a family member of theirs you met died and they need a shoulder to cry on.

 

[Wargames]

you shouldn't even be talking to ex's unless they reaching out because a family member of theirs you met died and they need a shoulder to cry on.

Based on what this dude said they sound less like Ex’s and more they took a break.

Breaks usually lead to becoming ex’s are couples getting proposed.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

her having her dad in her life = she gonna see you as his replacement = another bill. At 28 you not ready for that. IMO you shouldn't even think about it till 35, because there are a ton of responsibility that comes with being a husband no matter how much a woman sells you on it (because she wants it for her benefit not yours). No woman is gonna wanna work after kids, even if she goes to work she will have resentment that you weren't able to 'retire her' even if its temp for the kid to reach say age 5 (if she was a real workaholic she would be one of those weirdo "im putting my career first" chicks but even that is cap).

Dont let anyone shame you to do anything you aren't ready for (the fact they trying to sell you on it once again means its for their benefit not yours).

Right now you are in a case of where you been gaslit to think you need to do something you aren't ready for. Every man wants to reproduce, but many understand its best to do it on your terms so you can provide the optimal situation for your family.

I agree I'm too young but she and social media makes me feel like I'm old because her parents got married already by this age and had kids etc. I know I'm not ready but I don't want to keep dating different people either, I had enough sex with diff women.

She def is a career-focused woman, she even wants to hyphen her last name for marriage because she wants to be in media and is always talking about her job and leveling up

 

[RealCrownHeights]

you shouldn't even be talking to ex's unless they reaching out because a family member of theirs you met died and they need a shoulder to cry on.

She called me on facetime all this week to talk but admitted if she dates him we can't talk like that

 

[Apollo Creed]

Based on what this dude said they sound less like Ex’s and more they took a break.

Breaks usually lead to becoming ex’s are couples getting proposed.

"breaks"

yall love confusion.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I agree I'm too young but she and social media makes me feel like I'm old because her parents got married already by this age and had kids etc. I know I'm not ready but I don't want to keep dating different people either, I had enough sex with diff women.

She def is a career-focused woman, she even wants to hyphen her last name for marriage because she wants to be in media and is always talking about her job and leveling up

breh only person you listen to is God and right now he looking at you in disgust. He aint put you on earth and bless you with life to do this to yourself. Breh read what you just typed
1.career focused
2.hyphen name
3.social media makes me feel....