Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[OmegaK2099]

That's the same thing Asia Argento did two a boy she preyed on.

Its fukked up but It doesn't help that I have feelings for her as well. I was fresh out of highschool when I met her. I lost my virginity to her, She was the first real relationship I had ever been in. I think it's pretty much over anyway. I called her out on it and she got all hurt. Told me I hurt her.

 

[OmegaK2099]

Is she preying on younger men? Yes or no? Sounds like you are making excuses for her.

Nah as far as I can tell her last couple of relationships were with older guys

 

[Neuromancer]

Its fukked up but It doesn't help that I have feelings for her as well. I was fresh out of highschool when I met her. I lost my virginity to her, She was the first real relationship I had ever been in. I think it's pretty much over anyway. I called her out on it and she got all hurt. Told me I hurt her.

How old was she again? Cause it sounds like she preys on young boys.

 

[OmegaK2099]

How old was she again? Cause it sounds like she preys on young boys.

I was 19 she was 24 ,I met her when I was going to art school, Should have known it would have been trouble judging by the way it started. She was taking classes also. We used to chat about music. It lead to other things.

 

[bigde09]

Wtf is up with older women constantly asking about my relationships

Telling me a need to be married and where are my kids

Any other late 20s early 30s brehs dealing with this?

It's honestly annoying every family function. And its never the men that ask me this shyt . Always the women


I told my aunt straight up I enjoy having sex with multiple women

All the time I turn 30 next year. A lot of them see how care free I am and they don’t like that

 

[Apollo Creed]

I was 19 she was 24 ,I met her when I was going to art school, Should have known it would have been trouble judging by the way it started. She was taking classes also. We used to chat about music. It lead to other things.

Take a step back. Now if you dont subscribe to 'cultural norms' then cool disregard but I still think Nature is a factor undeniable.

MOST WOMEN (never say all because no absolutes exist), want established men because it yields security. Being established comes with age thus Older Man + Younger woman is normal.

On the flip side, A younger man who is still working on himself, is not in a position to truly provide and protect for an older a woman, nor should he take on that burden (because if thats what the woman wants she will get with a man that is further along). Also there comes a time if the man wants kids the older woman has lower probability of giving him those things (if he doesn't want kids fine).

So that leaves you to what does the older woman want with the younger man? If they are just FWBs then cool nothing wrong with that they both grown, but real relationship? lol what are they even working towards, hence the red flag.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

All the time I turn 30 next year. A lot of them see how care free I am and they don’t like that

same same same.

It really does irks them that at my age they already had 2+ kids and a slew of responsibilities, meanwhile I'm here only obligated to worry about me, myself and I.

Aunt at my sister's gender reveal: You need to have one!

Aunt #2 at sister's gender reveal: why aren't you settled down. You're a good catch. you just haven't met the right girl yet!

Aunt # 1 two months later at the baby shower: where is your girlfriend?

Me playing with my baby cousins (Aunt #3): You need to have your own. What are you waiting on?

Like God damn. Without fail I will have this conversation at every family event at least 3 times same song and dance if my grandmother shows up.

shyt low-key annoying though

 

[OmegaK2099]

Take a step back. Now if you dont subscribe to 'cultural norms' then cool disregard but I still think Nature is a factor undeniable.

MOST WOMEN (never say all because no absolutes exist), want established men because it yields security. Being established comes with age thus Older Man + Younger woman is normal.

On the flip side, A younger man who is still working on himself, is not in a position to truly provide and protect for an older a woman, nor should he take on that burden (because if thats what the woman wants she will get with a man that is further along). Also there comes a time if the man wants kids the older woman has lower probability of giving him those things (if he doesn't want kids fine).

So that leaves you to what does the older woman want with the younger man? If they are just FWBs then cool nothing wrong with that they both grown, but real relationship? lol what are they even working towards, hence the red flag.

Worded that wrong, she was like a best friend at the point. I just thought I was the youngest guy she was with, because she had me believing what she told me from the start about me "meaning more to her than anyone else."


Sounds like she's just good at telling dudes what they want to hear. I'll be there for her while she's going through her health issues, but anything more than that I'm not going to do. Again I probably deaded everything by bringing it back up and her getting so hurt about it.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Worded that wrong, she was like a best friend at the point. I just thought I was the youngest guy she was with, because she had me believing what she told me from the start about me "meaning more to her than anyone else."


Sounds like she's just good at telling dudes what they want to hear. I'll be there for her while she's going through her health issues, but anything more than that I'm not going to do. Again I probably deaded everything by bringing it back up and her getting so hurt about it.

when you with a chick the other dudes dont matter. The only time another man matters if it is interfering with your time with said person. I wouldn't even have convo with a woman about who she has been with. All that matters is whatever her past is doesn't 1.Hit close to home (i.e. ex with dudes you close to, known whore in your town, etc) 2.Come with incurable diseases 3.Come with financial luggage

 

[boombanoo]

Posting this here to vent cause I don’t know where else to..basically 8 year relationship all but over with someone I wanted to be with forever ignored the signs for 6 months and now we got 6 more months on this lease together and she already gone emotionally, cold winter incoming.

1. Biggest red flag that I let slide: following everything opening up after the pandemic - she starts hanging out with new friends who are all single, previously her friends were all in relationships, started off they were just going to get coffee and shyt but then..

2. Starts wanting to go out with them every Friday night, acting like it’s a girls only night but now it’s going to clubs with just them.
3. I find out other guys from their jobs are out at these outings, especially on nights where I’m busy at work or don’t have an option to go..oh forgot all these girls bi too

4. Girlfriend discovers after 8 years that she bi too, when I’m with her and her friends they all talking about how hot both girls and guys they are are now.
5. She starts saying she’s either too broke or too busy to to do stuff with me but got money for drinks and ubers when out with her new girlfriends, and went on two vacations this year with her cousins.
6. Her gay friend from work always talking to her about how hot their coworkers are.
7. When we hang out with my friends or alone she goes out of her way to act like a different person emotionally detached .
8. Spending 2+ hours in bathroom every night when that’s talking/intimate time in the past. Then when I try to initiate she says I only do when she’s half asleep, cold ass plan by her not gonna lie

Just the tip of iceberg. This a girl where we just got a dog together this year, been living together for years, and were having serious plans with buying a house/marriage in the very near future and it’s about to be thrown all away.

Swear I’m a goddamn idiot not seeing the early signs with the new friends and letting shyt spiral, I thought we had an understanding with each other but she just confiding in her friends now and I’m cut out emotionally, she still come home acting like it’s all alright I’m sure to ride it out til the lease is over.

If anyone reads this novel and are dumb like me, don’t be and fix shyt as soon as there’s a potential problem. Once she’s gone she’s gone

 

[Apollo Creed]

Posting this here to vent cause I don’t know where else to..basically 8 year relationship all but over with someone I wanted to be with forever ignored the signs for 6 months and now we got 6 more months on this lease together and she already gone emotionally, cold winter incoming.

1. Biggest red flag that I let slide: following everything opening up after the pandemic - she starts hanging out with new friends who are all single, previously her friends were all in relationships, started off they were just going to get coffee and shyt but then..

2. Starts wanting to go out with them every Friday night, acting like it’s a girls only night but now it’s going to clubs with just them.
3. I find out other guys from their jobs are out at these outings, especially on nights where I’m busy at work or don’t have an option to go..oh forgot all these girls bi too

4. Girlfriend discovers after 8 years that she bi too, when I’m with her and her friends they all talking about how hot both girls and guys they are are now.
5. She starts saying she’s either too broke or too busy to to do stuff with me but got money for drinks and ubers when out with her new girlfriends, and went on two vacations this year with her cousins.
6. Her gay friend from work always talking to her about how hot their coworkers are.
7. When we hang out with my friends or alone she goes out of her way to act like a different person emotionally detached .
8. Spending 2+ hours in bathroom every night when that’s talking/intimate time in the past. Then when I try to initiate she says I only do when she’s half asleep, cold ass plan by her not gonna lie

Just the tip of iceberg. This a girl where we just got a dog together this year, been living together for years, and were having serious plans with buying a house/marriage in the very near future and it’s about to be thrown all away.

Swear I’m a goddamn idiot not seeing the early signs with the new friends and letting shyt spiral, I thought we had an understanding with each other but she just confiding in her friends now and I’m cut out emotionally, she still come home acting like it’s all alright I’m sure to ride it out til the lease is over.

If anyone reads this novel and are dumb like me, don’t be and fix shyt as soon as there’s a potential problem. Once she’s gone she’s gone

Break the lease, pay the penalty yourself and bounce. Never live with a woman you aren't legally married to or that aint ya mama lol.

 

[Chrishaune]

Posting this here to vent cause I don’t know where else to..basically 8 year relationship all but over with someone I wanted to be with forever ignored the signs for 6 months and now we got 6 more months on this lease together and she already gone emotionally, cold winter incoming.

1. Biggest red flag that I let slide: following everything opening up after the pandemic - she starts hanging out with new friends who are all single, previously her friends were all in relationships, started off they were just going to get coffee and shyt but then..

2. Starts wanting to go out with them every Friday night, acting like it’s a girls only night but now it’s going to clubs with just them.
3. I find out other guys from their jobs are out at these outings, especially on nights where I’m busy at work or don’t have an option to go..oh forgot all these girls bi too

4. Girlfriend discovers after 8 years that she bi too, when I’m with her and her friends they all talking about how hot both girls and guys they are are now.
5. She starts saying she’s either too broke or too busy to to do stuff with me but got money for drinks and ubers when out with her new girlfriends, and went on two vacations this year with her cousins.
6. Her gay friend from work always talking to her about how hot their coworkers are.
7. When we hang out with my friends or alone she goes out of her way to act like a different person emotionally detached .
8. Spending 2+ hours in bathroom every night when that’s talking/intimate time in the past. Then when I try to initiate she says I only do when she’s half asleep, cold ass plan by her not gonna lie

Just the tip of iceberg. This a girl where we just got a dog together this year, been living together for years, and were having serious plans with buying a house/marriage in the very near future and it’s about to be thrown all away.

Swear I’m a goddamn idiot not seeing the early signs with the new friends and letting shyt spiral, I thought we had an understanding with each other but she just confiding in her friends now and I’m cut out emotionally, she still come home acting like it’s all alright I’m sure to ride it out til the lease is over.

If anyone reads this novel and are dumb like me, don’t be and fix shyt as soon as there’s a potential problem. Once she’s gone she’s gone

Yeah, she's waiting to leave when she's ready. You need to cut it off now and let her feel it.

She's been using you breh. She'll find a simp, I'm sure.

 

[OmegaK2099]

when you with a chick the other dudes dont matter. The only time another man matters if it is interfering with your time with said person. I wouldn't even have convo with a woman about who she has been with. All that matters is whatever her past is doesn't 1.Hit close to home (i.e. ex with dudes you close to, known whore in your town, etc) 2.Come with incurable diseases 3.Come with financial luggage

Again the age thing just bothers me, I mean dude was barely old enough to drink. Am I being childish?

 

[OmegaK2099]

when you with a chick the other dudes dont matter. The only time another man matters if it is interfering with your time with said person. I wouldn't even have convo with a woman about who she has been with. All that matters is whatever her past is doesn't 1.Hit close to home (i.e. ex with dudes you close to, known whore in your town, etc) 2.Come with incurable diseases 3.Come with financial luggage

Am I in the right to just drop her entirely and leave her to her health problems Alone? Apart of me wants to....is 21 too young for 28? Is any guy cool with hearing this information about a woman telling them they were with a younger guy but it's okay because it was just a fling?

 

[DJSmooth]

Posting this here to vent cause I don’t know where else to..basically 8 year relationship all but over with someone I wanted to be with forever ignored the signs for 6 months and now we got 6 more months on this lease together and she already gone emotionally, cold winter incoming.

1. Biggest red flag that I let slide: following everything opening up after the pandemic - she starts hanging out with new friends who are all single, previously her friends were all in relationships, started off they were just going to get coffee and shyt but then..

2. Starts wanting to go out with them every Friday night, acting like it’s a girls only night but now it’s going to clubs with just them.
3. I find out other guys from their jobs are out at these outings, especially on nights where I’m busy at work or don’t have an option to go..oh forgot all these girls bi too

4. Girlfriend discovers after 8 years that she bi too, when I’m with her and her friends they all talking about how hot both girls and guys they are are now.
5. She starts saying she’s either too broke or too busy to to do stuff with me but got money for drinks and ubers when out with her new girlfriends, and went on two vacations this year with her cousins.
6. Her gay friend from work always talking to her about how hot their coworkers are.
7. When we hang out with my friends or alone she goes out of her way to act like a different person emotionally detached .
8. Spending 2+ hours in bathroom every night when that’s talking/intimate time in the past. Then when I try to initiate she says I only do when she’s half asleep, cold ass plan by her not gonna lie

Just the tip of iceberg. This a girl where we just got a dog together this year, been living together for years, and were having serious plans with buying a house/marriage in the very near future and it’s about to be thrown all away.

Swear I’m a goddamn idiot not seeing the early signs with the new friends and letting shyt spiral, I thought we had an understanding with each other but she just confiding in her friends now and I’m cut out emotionally, she still come home acting like it’s all alright I’m sure to ride it out til the lease is over.

If anyone reads this novel and are dumb like me, don’t be and fix shyt as soon as there’s a potential problem. Once she’s gone she’s gone

Women are never yours, it's just your turn.

You need to get out of there asap, it don't matter if you have to move back in with your parents.