Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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So question, would you say it’s a good thing when woman say they find me mysterious or too good to be true. Keep in mind this isn’t something I do intentionally but almost every women I’ve been with or dated tells me they can’t quite figure me out and I always wonder why lol.
 

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So question, would you say it’s a good thing when woman say they find me mysterious or too good to be true. Keep in mind this isn’t something I do intentionally but almost every women I’ve been with or dated tells me they can’t quite figure me out and I always wonder why lol.

depends on your end goal. But it's good that she doesn't have you 'figured out' (you never want that to happen), but if you only want to smash the 'too good to be true' could mean she grouped you into the potential hubby category instead of the F Boy category, so she may play stupid games when it comes to sex so you dont think she is a whore,
 

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depends on your end goal. But it's good that she doesn't have you 'figured out' (you never want that to happen), but if you only want to smash the 'too good to be true' could mean she grouped you into the potential hubby category instead of the F Boy category, so she may play stupid games when it comes to sex so you dont think she is a whore,
And they are going to ask a metric ton of questions trying to figure you out.
 

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So question, would you say it’s a good thing when woman say they find me mysterious or too good to be true. Keep in mind this isn’t something I do intentionally but almost every women I’ve been with or dated tells me they can’t quite figure me out and I always wonder why lol.

That's a positive. You don't wanna be showing your cards to people in general anyway.
 

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So question, would you say it’s a good thing when woman say they find me mysterious or too good to be true. Keep in mind this isn’t something I do intentionally but almost every women I’ve been with or dated tells me they can’t quite figure me out and I always wonder why lol.

Always be as mysterious as the dark side of the moon....sure some Disney writer wrote that for a song, but in all honesty, thats what men usually are. Not on purpose, but because our struggle isn't one of sharing, its one of dealing with our problems single-handedly, with the support of our fellow man and moving on. We nod at hardships and don't really talk about it with women, because they don't really care/listen, but a male friend will remember something you told them 10 years ago. Sure you can put on the mysterious persona and she be none the wiser, but in general, share less, let them jump through hoops.

"We are attracted to that which retreats from us" . Heidegger said that, and he was dead on.

"Act like a girl can't join your club, and she'll do almost anything to get in" - Groucho Marx....both these men clearly crushed a lot of p*ssy, or at the very least, understood women on every level.
 

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depends on your end goal. But it's good that she doesn't have you 'figured out' (you never want that to happen), but if you only want to smash the 'too good to be true' could mean she grouped you into the potential hubby category instead of the F Boy category, so she may play stupid games when it comes to sex so you dont think she is a whore,
I think she does look at me as a potential hubby but at the same time she thinks I may have a lot of other women or may be a player cause I don’t give her a lot of time like she is used to with other men(I admit I’m terrible at texting and don’t really call her more than once a week). Also smashing is no problem to keep it short. I mean she done payed for plush hotel rooms just so I could take it down and we could spend the night together along with my favorite food and etc and she treats me very well. I do the same for her from time to time cause she earned that from me and I do care about her. It’s just that she says I’m different from the other men she deals with and she feels there is more to the story which is odd because I try to be transparent, she even knows there is another woman in the picture which I probably should have never told her but she accepted it and is giving me time to make a decision.

I guess she see’s me like a hubby type with a little bit of a fukk boy edge to me lol.
 

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I think she does look at me as a potential hubby but at the same time she thinks I may have a lot of other women or may be a player cause I don’t give her a lot of time like she is used to with other men(I admit I’m terrible at texting and don’t really call her more than once a week). Also smashing is no problem to keep it short. I mean she done payed for plush hotel rooms just so I could take it down and we could spend the night together along with my favorite food and etc and she treats me very well. I do the same for her from time to time cause she earned that from me and I do care about her. It’s just that she says I’m different from the other men she deals with and she feels there is more to the story which is odd because I try to be transparent, she even knows there is another woman in the picture which I probably should have never told her but she accepted it and is giving me time to make a decision.

I guess she see’s me like a hubby type with a little bit of a fukk boy edge to me lol.

if she investing money into this then she has skin in the game, so you cant really lose in this situation to be honest. Only way you take an L in dating is you are putting in all the effort for the HOPES of smashing. And when I say effort I'm talking money AND time. With dealing with women you gotta do one or the other (time or money) but not both unless its your wife.
 

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if she investing money into this then she has skin in the game, so you cant really lose in this situation to be honest. Only way you take an L in dating is you are putting in all the effort for the HOPES of smashing. And when I say effort I'm talking money AND time. With dealing with women you gotta do one or the other (time or money) but not both unless its your wife.
Agreed @Guvnor she's invested, nothing wrong with that
 

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Appreciate the advice fellas! Thanks a lot. About to hit up Macy’s later and see what pieces I can find.

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Quick gem:

Stop trying to predict what she wants or needs from you and then giving it to her. Get her used to coming to you. And get her used to not expecting anything from you if she doesn't come to you.

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Women are used to the attention, so in turn when they don't get it, they become rambling, overthinking, repost whores who want someone to talk to. Make your time costly, and on your terms. The minute more men start realizing this, the game will go through a dramatic shift.
 
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