Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

nikkas still using dating apps?

I guess those of us who cold approach still have an advantage thought brehs would’ve learned this by now..

sometimes i drive to work, sometimes i take the bus, sometimes i take a uber

just because you use dating apps doesn't mean that you don't connect with women offline

 

[Astroslik]

sometimes i drive to work, sometimes i take the bus, sometimes i take a uber

just because you use dating apps doesn't mean that you don't connect with women offline

It seems like it’s your main tool in the shed. No need to get defensive breh

 

[MikelArteta]

It seems like it’s your main tool in the shed. No need to get defensive breh

its one of the tools at my disposal, not getting defensive breh

i live in a big city and if i'm not mistaken you live in chicago so a big city as well. Your offline net can only go so far

 

[Astroslik]

its one of the tools at my disposal, not getting defensive breh

i live in a big city and if i'm not mistaken you live in chicago so a big city as well. Your offline net can only go so far

I feel like it’s a great supplement.

Nothing beats an in person cold approach though. All the transaction costs of online dating is reduced to nill.

 

[MikelArteta]

in a few days chicks who haven't spoke to you in months will hit you up, just brush that ish off

 

[jadillac]

I think I might consider taking a break, too. I just get mentally tired of the process.

I don't like the fact that you can't trust alot of these women. They have so many options in this era of dating apps/social media from so many thirsty dudes out there.

It's like they'll be obsessed texting you 1-2 days when they first contact you, you have alotta things in common....this one girl told me to save her # as "the One".....then the next day they fade out for seemingly no reason. And the messd up part is that age don't matter, LOL. You got 40-50 yr old chicks out here still playing the game b/c they can get younger dudes who just want sex.

Even a chick you've gone on 10-11 dates with, how tf can you trust anybody & have that peace of mind in this era?

 

[MikelArteta]

I think I might consider taking a break, too. I just get mentally tired of the process.

I don't like the fact that you can't trust alot of these women. They have so many options in this era of dating apps/social media from so many thirsty dudes out there.

It's like they'll be obsessed texting you 1-2 days when they first contact you, you have alotta things in common....this one girl told me to save her # as "the One".....then the next day they fade out for seemingly no reason. And the messd up part is that age don't matter, LOL. You got 40-50 yr old chicks out here still playing the game b/c they can get younger dudes who just want sex.

Even a chick you've gone on 10-11 dates with, how tf can you trust anybody & have that peace of mind in this era?

i've probably met up with like 50-60 different women this year, can't even remember all their names. Most went nowhere and it's just like you mention chicks from hot to cold so fast and more times than not it just means you were a 10 day contract like in the nba and it wasn't renewed. Once I feel like it's going nowhere I Just eject now. I message no reply adios, I schedule and she flops adios, I notice i'm always the one messaging or calling adios. I message a chick and 3 days later OMG just saw this adios. I'm no longer interested adios

 

[Auger]

I think I might consider taking a break, too. I just get mentally tired of the process.

I don't like the fact that you can't trust alot of these women. They have so many options in this era of dating apps/social media from so many thirsty dudes out there.

It's like they'll be obsessed texting you 1-2 days when they first contact you, you have alotta things in common....this one girl told me to save her # as "the One".....then the next day they fade out for seemingly no reason. And the messd up part is that age don't matter, LOL. You got 40-50 yr old chicks out here still playing the game b/c they can get younger dudes who just want sex.

Even a chick you've gone on 10-11 dates with, how tf can you trust anybody & have that peace of mind in this era?

It's not about trust, it's about a connection.

Consider this, in order for someone to ignore their other options you'd have to leave a
serious impression on them. To the point where they would stop wondering what else is out there. if you don't think you've left that impression on someone, don't be surprised if they continue to play the field. Nobody is owed anything.

Those who have more options will continue to leverage them.

 

[Abraxus]

So a female friend I've known for over a year seems to have caught feelings for me... I'm not attracted to her in that way and it feels awkward as fukk. Is it up to me to do anything about it? Or do I just not say shyt and hope she gets it? I've never flirted with her or given her any mixed signals, she's like one of the guys to me.

She hoop wit us and everything (she played D1 at DePaul back in the day, shyt is fun as hell when she on the team)

She just suddenly started complimenting me a lot and calling/texting me at random times to "see how I'm doing", and she keeps inviting me to come "watch a movie and cuddle" with her. I just tell her I'd rather go hoop or do something else.

She usually has a tomboy style but she has started dressing more feminine with tight clothes if she knows I'm going to be at a certain place. And she follows me around a lot.

She's the homie though, I don't feel attracted to her and I never have. I had actually assumed she was lez this whole time.. Do I just address the shyt to make it clear?

I checked up on a friend like this last month. We hadn’t talked since 2016 so I’m just chatting up and catching up. She kept swooning over her new dude I kept congratulating. Flash forward two weeks and I’m like hey, I’m up your way you wanna link and hang for a min? Me and this girl never had anything but friendship and although she fine her face is like a 3. 4 on a good day. She wouldn’t respond to my text. I’m like so she posting shyt on whatsapp like how girls get in their feelings when their man dog em out. I ask if she’s ok she goes in on me talking about I never liked her , never tried to be with her etc. and I’m like man I don’t like you like that yo! Told her good luck in your future, I’m out!

 

[jadillac]

It's not about trust, it's about a connection.

Consider this, in order for someone to ignore their other options you'd have to leave a
serious impression on them. To the point where they would stop wondering what else is out there. if you don't think you've left that impression on someone, don't be surprised if they continue to play the field. Nobody is owed anything.

Those who have more options will continue to leverage them.

You're right. But my thing is, why continue going on dates with someone if ur not feeling them like that?

If a person isnt leaving an impression like you spoke of, then why have them as an "option"?

I feel like women do this, but men don't really do it. If I dont like to be around someone I wont continue to entertain them

 

[Auger]

You're right. But my thing is, why continue going on dates with someone if ur not feeling them like that?

If a person isnt leaving an impression like you spoke of, then why have them as an "option"?

I feel like women do this, but men don't really do it. If I dont like to be around someone I wont continue to entertain them

There's no rhyme or reason to why we act the way we do when dealing with other people's emotions.

Men do the same but instead of dates and initial courtship, they do it with sex. Some men will weigh their options with sex, leaving some women just as clueless and frustrated.

 

[Max.]

Ay breh!!!

That mixed chick was cool! I didnt smash.she told me before hand she wanted to just hang at her place since its our first time meeting..(i rubbed by her p*ssy tho)...i ended up staying the night...n shorty was like when can i see u again?? Ass was phat ...

Only real bad thing is she stays 45 mins away..but she takes classes by the college where i stay...

 

[SAINT]

Ay breh!!!

That mixed chick was cool! I didnt smash.she told me before hand she wanted to just hang at her place since its our first time meeting..(i rubbed by her p*ssy tho)...i ended up staying the night...n shorty was like when can i see u again?? Ass was phat ...

Only real bad thing is she stays 45 mins away..but she takes classes by the college where i stay...

where’d you meet her at?

 

[Max.]

where’d you meet her at?

I saw her bumble n didnt even swipe...i just added her instagram...liked a few pics n DM...i honestly wasnt expecting a response...but she was super cool about it..we texted n met up like 5 days later..

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

First off... FUKK TINDER.


It's totally ruined the landscape and dating for guys like me who only do cold approaches.



Good thing i got my good years in before dating apps and social media completely killed courtship and regular guys tryna get it in.




But yeah. Damn your boy striking out cold out here. While i'd love to attribute it solely to the aforementioned/technology... i just gotta go harder.



Always remininsce about the good ole days when i would go out, get a few numbers and strike with at least 1 or 2 quality women a month. Or hook up with customers from work. Shiit ain't what it used to be. But i'm appreciate for the experiences.



What i do chalk up to my failures as of late are a couple things.



1. My mullett that i refuse to cut off.


2. Karma (for all the infidelity towards the one woman who truly loved me... i honestly feel like the cosmos are instantly punishing me by either sending me crazy/deranged/non-dateable women or, like now... none at all).


Real chat...


I'm currently in a spell so dry you'd think i was a witch at a desert.



Really don't know what to do but hope that 2020 treats me better and finally gives me peace and true love.



At 37... i'm done being a playboy (i know i know, it's not like i have a choice now given how rough it's been for your boy, but since 30... i've been serial dating/hooking up and perhaps, this is mama's way of making me ultimately appreciate someone when they finally do come into my world).



I promise i will make you proud and give you a grand child that you can adore from up above.




Just got to man. I got to.




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