Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Straw Hat Luffy

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First off... FUKK TINDER.


It's totally ruined the landscape and dating for guys like me who only do cold approaches.



Good thing i got my good years in before dating apps and social media completely killed courtship and regular guys tryna get it in.




But yeah. Damn your boy striking out cold out here. While i'd love to attribute it solely to the aforementioned/technology... i just gotta go harder.



Always remininsce about the good ole days when i would go out, get a few numbers and strike with at least 1 or 2 quality women a month. Or hook up with customers from work. Shiit ain't what it used to be. But i'm appreciate for the experiences.



What i do chalk up to my failures as of late are a couple things.



1. My mullett that i refuse to cut off.


2. Karma (for all the infidelity towards the one woman who truly loved me... i honestly feel like the cosmos are instantly punishing me by either sending me crazy/deranged/non-dateable women or, like now... none at all).


Real chat...


I'm currently in a spell so dry you'd think i was a witch at a desert.



Really don't know what to do but hope that 2020 treats me better and finally gives me peace and true love.



At 37... i'm done being a playboy (i know i know, it's not like i have a choice now given how rough it's been for your boy, but since 30... i've been serial dating/hooking up and perhaps, this is mama's way of making me ultimately appreciate someone when they finally do come into my world).



I promise i will make you proud and give you a grand child that you can adore from up above.




Just got to man. I got to.




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tinder trash but not for the reasons you listed.
Cold approach as a success probably has increased more now than ever since women aren’t approached like they used too.
 

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Recap...got a girls # from a app..i checked her insta n looked diff.

She a single mom (L)
Hiding her stomach but shes mad skinny
Liar
Drinks ALOT

..she stays blocks away so i thought maybe i can blow a load on her face n ghost her...so today i hit her up..so she deleted my #bcuz i didnt text her for a 2 days....she lied n said that her phone broke...when on her insta she made a post a month ago "after years i got a iphone 7" heres the thing metro in my city dont sell the old ass iphones









You sound like a bytch ass faggit b :scust:
 

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I think I might consider taking a break, too. I just get mentally tired of the process.

I don't like the fact that you can't trust alot of these women. They have so many options in this era of dating apps/social media from so many thirsty dudes out there.

It's like they'll be obsessed texting you 1-2 days when they first contact you, you have alotta things in common....this one girl told me to save her # as "the One".....then the next day they fade out for seemingly no reason. And the messd up part is that age don't matter, LOL. You got 40-50 yr old chicks out here still playing the game b/c they can get younger dudes who just want sex.

Even a chick you've gone on 10-11 dates with, how tf can you trust anybody & have that peace of mind in this era? :patrice:

This is the truth. Age has nothing to do with maturity at all. I've associated with women in that age range who might as well have been teenagers by the way they act: annoying, still only care about rocking name brands, going out every night, dumb as fukk and can't hold a serious discussion about anything, playing games etc.

As a man you might as well deal with younger women.
 

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I don't understand the obsession with online dating. Why not just work on your social circle and meet women organically?

Was at a gathering this weekend it was like 10 dudes and 30-40 women. All the chicks were college educated, most didn't have any kids, one was lawyer another a pharmacist, all black women making something of themselves.

Go outside. Participate in hobbies. Be friendly. Make some friends.
 

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I don't understand the obsession with online dating. Why not just work on your social circle and meet women organically?

Was at a gathering this weekend it was like 10 dudes and 30-40 women. All the chicks were college educated, most didn't have any kids, one was lawyer another a pharmacist, all black women making something of themselves.

Go outside. Participate in hobbies. Be friendly. Make some friends.


Not sure why I keep on seeing brehs in here making statements like this, as if you can't be doing the bolded as well as using dating apps.
I actually haven't had any real success with them shyts tbh and meet the vast majority of my women on nights out/social gatherings etc....
But as brehs have already stated, it's just another tool that gets you to the same end result. If you are having success then why not?
 
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Do you guys feel if it was socially acceptable to go dutch the first two dates it would eliminate flaky women and women who just go on dates for free meals?
 

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Man I hate when FB (which I’m never on) sends me these notifications that some skank I knocked down years ago is trying to connect or add me. Why would I add you? :gucci: Fastest way (if you on social media like that) for somebody to be snooty in your business. :comeon: You can tell who really lonely and out of options around this time of year

:mjlol:
 

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I think the person isn't really trying to add you

That's just Facebook bullshytting to get more action

this girl was an active friend request , not a suggestion. I added her just to see what she’d say and here we go with the bullshyt :dwillhuh: talking about we met in 17’ in a quick romance but fizzled out and I’m like what?:mjtf: If it was anything worth continuing then we’d be good to go but imma have to say, nah dawg. That’s a NO for me on the reconnect. Enjoy your life !
 

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It's not about trust, it's about a connection.

Consider this, in order for someone to ignore their other options you'd have to leave a
serious impression on them. To the point where they would stop wondering what else is out there. if you don't think you've left that impression on someone, don't be surprised if they continue to play the field. Nobody is owed anything.

Those who have more options will continue to leverage them.

For a woman it's all about 'connection' or to be blunt making their stomach and p*ssy tingle. So that leads to sex very early and maybe a realtionship down the line but that intially important sexual attraction is there.

One of my female friends went out on a date this weekend with a lightskin breh. She was excited all week. I mean this guy ticked all her boxes. good looking, tall, into the right music etc. She meets the guy for dinner and she said as soon as they hugged and started chatting face to face she felt her attraction slowly going down. They left the restaurant and she knew she wasn't feeling him and there was no connection.

He suggests going to a club for dancing and at the club she ended up checking out other guys but didn't act on it because she was technically still on her date. I wonder if homeboy knew he was onto a loser early and thought going dancing would lead to more touching and contact?

She lets him sleep over as he lived outside of downtown and he didn't even get any p*ssy. And this is a chick who has a fair amount of one night stands.

I don't know if she's given him the ol "you're a nice guy but..." message yet but still.

:francis:
 

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For a woman it's all about 'connection' or to be blunt making their stomach and p*ssy tingle. So that leads to sex very early and maybe a realtionship down the line but that intially important sexual attraction is there.

One of my female friends went out on a date this weekend with a lightskin breh. She was excited all week. I mean this guy ticked all her boxes. good looking, tall, into the right music etc. She meets the guy for dinner and she said as soon as they hugged and started chatting face to face she felt her attraction slowly going down. They left the restaurant and she knew she wasn't feeling him and there was no connection.

He suggests going to a club for dancing and at the club she ended up checking out other guys but didn't act on it because she was technically still on her date. I wonder if homeboy knew he was onto a loser early and thought going dancing would lead to more touching and contact?

She lets him sleep over as he lived outside of downtown and he didn't even get any p*ssy. And this is a chick who has a fair amount of one night stands.

I don't know if she's given him the ol "you're a nice guy but..." message yet but still.

:francis:
Believe hoe babble, brehs
 

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Nah. fukk Tinder/dating apps. I'm not saying that it can't be an option, but it should be last. Most men use it as a way not to approach women in real life. Dudes develop all those passive-aggressive tendencies by waiting to get home to spit game to a chick through messenger rather when they are in a public together. Dating/hook-up apps are unrealistically favored in the female's favor.

I always use the example of how my roommate and I hung out with these chicks at a bar. Both of them had 100s of matches on Tinder and Bumble, 50 snap convos, and 10 text conversations. Of course, all of them were from dudes tryna get these girls. We went back to one of those chick's houses and we smashed them. What blew my mind is that I knew if I had matched with them through Tinder instead of knowing them in person I probably wouldn't have smashed oh girl.

You don't think you gonna be the only dude who won't be on these apps being "up-front" right? :mjlol:

Women also use Tinder to look for the perfect dude they believe is their dream guy. Most dudes aren't girls type/dream dude so most guys never even have a chance of matching with a lot of these women. The crazy thing is those same women will let you smash because you're dope as fukk in person.
 
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