Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

There is a lot of variables that come in mind though.

First, if a dude is nice because that's who he is then he should remain nice. There is a difference between being a nice person and being someone who can't stand up for themselves or believes in boundaries and morals. A dude is losing if he changes how he acts for a female. For example, he believes he has to be an a$$hole to get a female when he's probably a good dude at heart. It's straight-up losing for a man to lower himself to that. Now if he's pretending to be a nice dude just to get laid it's a different type of story. Dudes will snap on their own grandmothers or best friend of ten years for leaving the lights on in the bathroom but will let a girl they just met break all the rules just so he can smash. That's the corny shyt right there.

As for some mothers punking and softening their sons, it's somewhat true but not all of the time. I mean shout out to moms because they're awesome but not all of them are innocent as the public tries to display them as. I grew up with a few dudes who's mothers were straight-up a$$holes that punked their sons in public for absolutely no reason. And of course, I knew what brehs was going through at home behind closed doors. The common factor was always the same for these moms though. They either hated the dad or he wasn't present at all so in some weird way they take it out on the children.

Another reason why moms soft dudes up at a young age is because they love them. There is never any ill-intent when it comes to this variable. They are the codependents in their sons' lives as they give advice on dealing with women. But that's when the father needs to be present more than ever. A mother's love is unconditional and a child always needs that father to hit them with a dose of reality when need be.

Everything can be solved if a breh has a strong male role model to teach him. This could be their fathers, step-fathers, uncles, older cousins and so on. And if they don't have dope male figures to follow then they should try to find a source through media. I listen to dudes like Dante Nero, Joe Rogan, Charlagmane Tha God, Lord Jamar, T.K. Kirkland, etc. A lot of them dabble in the same medium but all dudes with different personalities that have one thing in common. They are up there in age.

Respect your elders is a saying for a reason. A lot of them have wisdom that the youth could use. But in our culture, especially hip-hop, we look at you as trash once you hit a certain age. This leaves young men being softened up by their moms and their role models are 20-year-olds who never make it past 25. The result is brehs nowadays have women issues, discipline issues, common sense issues, morality issues, self-esteem issues, and a shyt ton of other things.

This is my point and most people don't even speak on this. I've seen it countless times over the years. They take all that hate out on their sons because they chose to mess with a man they knew was no good in the first place.

It may not always be a deliberate sabotage, but other times its subconscious. A lot of these women know they ain't shyt, so deep down they feel as if they warn their sons about the no good women out there then they are actually telling on themselves. Men are way more inclined to warn their daughters about men than women are to warn their sons. It's always the father (if he is around) who warns their sons. Like you said, a male role model is vital.

As for being a genuinely nice person, yes by all means be that. However the reality is, life is harsh and sometimes you will have to tweak certain things about yourself in order to adapt and survive your environment.

 

[Astroslik]

Easy to say all that from a male perspective. It's easier for us to give someone the benefit of the doubt or find some positivity in someone. Nobody is trying to constantly fukk us. We don't live in a reality where rape or assault is a gigantic possibility wherever we go.

There are good dudes out there with good motives but she can't drop that mindset just for a couple of dudes.

And if I ever have a daughter I'm a tell her that shyt. .

wtf are you talking about? Nothing is easier/harder for either gender. The current dating landscape is war. Just as many lame nikkas as there are wack bytches. People trying to figure out what they can get out of you. Don't even get me started if you're a single male, no kids, with his shyt together.

 

[DaRealness]

The biggest thing I'm noticing about women is how many don't assume positive intent. It's amazing how many women are reluctant to give the benefit of the doubt and create negative situations by simply believing that one exists. Not everyone is out to play you, hurt you, or take advantage of you. It's the most amazing form of confirmation bias. You make the choice on what your beliefs are. If you change your beliefs, you can quite literally change the way you see the world.


All that said, many women are flat out being damaged by no good men. Straight up. If you're going to wife something, find someone who hasn't been hurt and put through the wringer. Many women are truly never the same afterwards and you'll never really know the type of woman you're dealing with until you have a conflict or an issue and see how she responds,

I stopped caring a very long time ago about women's sob stories when I became more experienced and seen how many of them really get down.

They seem to be just fine when they're playing needless games and causing the same damage to the good dudes they claim don't exist. I know "GMB" has been a running joke on this site for years, but look at the many threads that show examples of men who were done dirty and had their lives nearly or totally destroyed by women just because. If you notice, it's always laughed off and treated as a joke - even by other men.

Dudes get dissed and flat out ridiculed for not meeting certain standards even when he has his shyt together. Many of these women go for men they knew were no good from the jump and then turn around and lump everyone in a box when things get fukked up.

 

[jadillac]

I stopped caring a very long time ago about women's sob stories when I became more experienced and seen how many of them really get down.

They seem to be just fine when they're playing needless games and causing the same damage to the good dudes they claim don't exist. I know "GMB" has been a running joke on this site for years, but look at the many threads that show examples of men who were done dirty and had their lives nearly or totally destroyed by women just because. If you notice, it's always laughed off and treated as a joke - even by other men.

Dudes get dissed and flat out ridiculed for not meeting certain standards even when he has his shyt together. Many of these women go for men they knew were no good from the jump and then turn around and lump everyone in a box when things get fukked up.

Bingo. And it becomes a chicken or egg argument.. Which came first?

"No good dudes" are usually created bc at some point early a dude prob got played. Could've been as simple as he liked a girl in 4th grade and carried her books/walked her home each day. Then one day he waits up to walk her home and she never shows up. He looked for her and saw her kissing another boy,and his heart got broke

And maybe that happened twice, so after the 2nd time he was like "man, I'm never getting my heart broke again"

I feel like men in general are biologically hardwired to be protectorant of girls, carry books, walk girls home etc. Things of that nature.

Some dudes change early, some later

 

[DaRealness]

Bingo. And it becomes a chicken or egg argument.. Which came first?

"No good dudes" are usually created bc at some point early a dude prob got played. Could've been as simple as he liked a girl in 4th grade and carried her books/walked her home each day. Then one day he waits up to walk her home and she never shows up. He looked for her and saw her kissing another boy,and his heart got broke

And maybe that happened twice, so after the 2nd time he was like "man, I'm never getting my heart broke again"

I feel like men in general are biologically hardwired to be protectorant of girls, carry books, walk girls home etc. Things of that nature.

Some dudes change early, some later

True, but a lot of people dismiss men's pain because they like to claim it's because of childhood experiences of being rejected by a girl when they were 14 years old so personally I don't even like to use that narrative because it gives people a reason to dismiss it. That may happen, but I don't know any adult male who is damaged because he was turned down by a girl in school, but I do know men who were damaged because they found out the child they were raising wasn't theirs, or they did what they felt was the right thing by being a stepfather only to be walked out on and those kids taken away like he never existed, or any other adult situation. If there is anything from childhood that would damage a man it would be emotional and mental abuse at the hands of his mother. A girl turning you down ain't shyt, a mother who is your very first female point of reference mishandling you sets the tone for the rest of your life. That's the thing most people don't wanna speak on because men are told to "man up". But we excuse women's actions cos their dad walked out on the family 30 years ago.

You're right about boys being hardwired to look after and protect women. Boys always protect their sisters (rightfully so of course), but when do you ever hear of sisters protecting their brothers? Oh I forgot, we're supposed to be punching bags and just take any and everything thrown at us because some dude supposedly did a woman wrong.

Again, until females acknowledge their part in the mess and take accountability and call out others, their cries will fall on my deaf ears.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Easy to say all that from a male perspective. It's easier for us to give someone the benefit of the doubt or find some positivity in someone. Nobody is trying to constantly fukk us. We don't live in a reality where rape or assault is a gigantic possibility wherever we go.

There are good dudes out there with good motives but she can't drop that mindset just for a couple of dudes.

And if I ever have a daughter I'm a tell her that shyt. .

I’m speaking on with people you already have an established bond with. You just can’t have a successful relationship or friendship if you go around thinking everyone is out to do you dirty. You can be guarded but you have to give people in your life the benefit of the doubt.

 

[SATAN]

First, if a dude is nice because that's who he is then he should remain nice.

I feel like genuinely nice guys are screwed, women don't respect a nice guy and they don't want a nice guy.

I'm talking about men who are genuinely nice because it's who they are

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

wtf are you talking about? Nothing is easier/harder for either gender. The current dating landscape is war. Just as many lame nikkas as there are wack bytches. People trying to figure out what they can get out of you. Don't even get me started if you're a single male, no kids, with his shyt together.

like fabulous said

nikkas tryna hit it and even bytches on the low be.

We have it easier.

We don't have it easier in the fact it's harder for us to get laid we don't have it easier in the fact that we have to work harder in a relationship

But we have it easier in giving someone the benefit of the doubt because most people don't give a fukk about a dude. And that's coming from both genders for him.

A chick being nice to u could really be she's wanting to be nice. You gaining friends is because those dudes want to be your friends.

As a dude you know a chick is liking you for your money and not for who you are. Even if you're rich bytches not throwing the p*ssy at you 247... You not walking thru a door and women you have never met before automatically know that you're single with no kids and money.


If you're a chick... dudes are tryna fukk u and so are women. You meet up with someone you have to accept the possibility of rape happening...

The risks are way higher for women in this situation

If a dude can't tell that a chick is only talking to him for his money or people are only hanging out with him for a certain reason then that's his fault.

Women can easily get a partner. Women can easily get fukked with no social skills or personality. What it's hard to do is give someone the benefit of the doubt when you literally gotta turn down dikk 80 times a week.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I feel like genuinely nice guys are screwed, women don't respect a nice guy and they don't want a nice guy.

I'm talking about men who are genuinely nice because it's who they are

Nah.

Nice dudes get laid and get in relationships all the time.

Lots of women with shyt taste in men but there are millions of women looking for honest good dudes.

What they aren't looking for is boring men who are easy to push over because they don't have a backbone.


Lots of nice men just happen to be boring push overs.


Nice guys who are dope credibilble dudes will find someone out there

 

[Real N Quotes]

 

[Everything Zen]

You shouldn't have ever needed to do that in the first place.

That sounds more like probation than s relationship lol

Keep that in mind whenever you do choose to be in a relationship with someone.

i might have worded it a bit strongly, but I hear ya...

it's a fine line to try to walk. as my lady, she has the right to know what im up to at any given time and vice-versa but im not so cool on the little guilt trip i have take when life just happens and I don't keep her super up to date.

i place a huge amount of value on being able to move as i please and not having to explain or justify said moves to anyone.

 

[Canon]

i might have worded it a bit strongly, but I hear ya...

it's a fine line to try to walk. as my lady, she has the right to know what im up to at any given time and vice-versa but im not so cool on the little guilt trip i have take when life just happens and I don't keep her super up to date.

i place a huge amount of value on being able to move as i please and not having to explain or justify said moves to anyone.

this sounds ridiculous

 

[Everything Zen]

this sounds ridiculous

you gonna elaborate or...

 

[jadillac]

You can be a nice guy and still draw the line in the sand.

The problem is that women often mistake that initial niceness up front as meaning ur always nice/boring etc.

 

[Ahadi]

I have a topic. When a chick is boring, or if you find the conversations boring. Is that her fault or yours?
To make the topic clearer I want to state that the chick actually likes you and messages you a lot to hang out.
Chicks can be fukking boring

You dip. As a man, you take control of your life. If you feel your wasting time or energy. Just dip.