Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I agree it takes two to tango. Here, we criticize men for wifing up hoes as much as we mash on hoes for their behavior. We've called out kanye for wifeying kim kardashian, wiz khalifah for wrapping up amber rose, and it's no surprise that ice-t is finding out coco is disloyal. If some cat posted about how he wifeyed the neighborhood slut, he'd get clowned.

A very large portion of this thread deals with different ways of men stepping up and changing their gameplan on dealing with women, but then again, there comes a point where you can only step your game up so far and you come to a point where you realize it's not you but you find out that a lot of women in this society have problems that need to be addressed.

I'mma be real with you man. In this day and age, with a lot of women, it is actually unproductive to come across as a responsible guy. He's often looked upon as 'boring' and placed in the provider category while swag daddy who spends all his money on clothes, drinking, weed, and his car is out here impregnating these ladies. You will actually be PUNISHED by being too responsible in many cases. If it was only a few isolated examples of this happening, that would be one thing, but this is extremely common in this society.

It is not uncommon to see women impregnated by drug dealers, guys with no jobs and no desire to pursue a career, etc. When women are willingly choosing men of low standards to procreate with, they need to be just as actively addressed as these losers who are popping off inside of women and running away from their responsibilities.

That's why I don't ever advocate or teach 'player tactics', but instead choose to advocate respectful, long-term relationships, because THAT is what will eventually create a stable environment for the kid. Smashing a bunch of hoes you don't care for will only increase the likelihood of getting one of them pregnant and leaving the child in a single parent situation because the man can't stand the woman and vice-versa. But what is sad is that in this day and time, we've come to a point in society where if you're not smashing the female within a week of meeting her, you will be chastised for doing it wrong, and you will actually lose respect in the minds of a lot of women. And that's seriously a problem. Being respectful and waiting will get you tossed in the provider category while she will sleep with the next man on the side. If men are actively punished for being responsible and rewarded for being irresponsible, how do you think they will act? Unless they are uncommonly principled, they will engage in whatever behavior they are immediately rewarded for. This is why I commonly tout men to have righteous principles regardless of whether women reward them for it or not, because if they simply acted based upon what women rewarded them with, they would engage in a player lifestyle.

Now, I've read tons of self-help books to realize that most of them are utter nonsense. They pretty much advocate a 'positive mentality', and pretty much being a sunshine pumper. But if you really look at the most successful people... just take a look at football coaches for example... the sunshine pumpers, aka the ones who only talk about thinking positive and try to avoid criticizing their players are the ones whose teams are met with little success. The hard-nosed coaches who get on their players are the ones who actually have successful teams. Success doesn't come from sunshine pumping, speaking positive mantras and 'ignoring negativity.' It comes from having a realistic mentality, which involves not only painting a positive goal, but also directly dressing the problems at hand, which many in this day and age view as negativity or complaining. Success comes from continuously engaging in actions that lead to a desired outcome. A huge portion of that requires active instruction and criticism, which involves chastising one when they hold improper beliefs and engage in improper actions.

Speaking up on these issues is of the utmost importance. If no one ever spoke up about a lack of civil rights, we'd never have them. This is why speaking on these issues instead of being silent on them and 'manning up', aka silently dealing with the burdens of the issue without ever eliminating the issue in the first place won't do anything but exacerbate the problem. The real manning up is speaking on it and getting it corrected.

The bold is what Im talking about, these are the women we need to avoid, but dudes still wanna try to save them, get played in the process and then call foul. How can they call foul when they knew what type of chick she is. You thinking im taking sides but im not. Only reason why im speaking against the men cuz its them thats complain on here not the women, Im not gonna c/s the shyt we do cuz im a man, just because I get at dudes more then women doesnt mean im putting a :cape: on. Too keep it real I expect much more from my brothers, we make the most important decisions in this world and for a man not to wrap it up and have kids and then leaving is unacceptable. We need to draw the line and let them follow and we need to take responsibility for our actions.

Yes they need to chose better men, and wrap it up and love themselves more so they wont drop the draws at any nikka with game, but this isnt about them, its about us. As for the sunshine pumping, its nothing wrong with it long as its equal to the criticism and vice versa. I learned this working with my lil brehs and sistas at the center. These kids dont take kindly to criticism and too much will push them away but you cant give them too much lean way other wise they will walk all over you. We aint winning no chips but they saying in school and out of jail. I will admit speaking with them has changed my posting style on here, so I may come off as a guy that ignore the bad things in our community but plz dont get it twisted for a second Im not. Just after dealing with the affects first hand in person you gotta remind yourself about the positive stuff cuz as of right now I just dont see enough.
 

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No positive deed will go unpunished. i can respect his positive heart and wanting to be there for that child, but this cat will most likely be hit with child support and cheated on, with his woman running right back to that irresponsible ex.

Pretty much women don't care how much you sacrificed or how grateful you are only think about themselves
 

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This fits me to the T, at least in the past. I cannot emphasize enough how many times I have had women who were attracted to me at first began treating me as if I was "boyfriend material" because I wanted to get know them as people and show respectfulness towards them instead of pursuing them for sex initially,which resulted in turning these particular women off. It's funny because women often claim that men want them for one thing (sex) but immediately become turned off by a man to whom they are attracted DOES NOT pursue sex in the beginning and instead, attempts to vibe with them on an intellectual level.

When you become successful, "boyfriend zone" is the new "friend zone"

in a way, bum ass nyggas have it easier than successful dudes when it comes to casual sex. women see the bums, realize they have nothing going for them, and have no interest in being in a relationship with them. but if they're horny they're quick to let them hit it, sometimes even on the first night, with no strings attached. there are even some cases when the bum ass nygga is the one who catches feelings while the women is like :childplease: "I just used you for dyck", straight up flipping it on 'em

but when they meet a dude who has a lot going for him or is a "good catch" they hold off on the sex in an attempt to get him to wife her. obviously this is great for successful dudes who want to pursue meaningful relationships, but for a successful dude who just wants to hit its :sadcam: I guess the trick for the successful dudes is to adopt the mentality of the bum ass nygga. don't flaunt your accomplishments or showcase your positive attributes if you're just trying to hit it

most important part of that article though is the point the dude made about women being just as capable as men at having sex with someone that they don't even like. don't let women fool you with that "I'll only sleep with him if I feel like we have a real connection" bullshyt lol
 

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Goku saved the world countless times and Chi-Chi continued to nag him over stupid things

:wow:
 

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Goku saved the world countless times and Chi-Chi continued to nag him over stupid things

:wow:




Even if he has godly powers and puts the galaxy before himself, the domestic shiit is always prevalent and unceasing (and not to mention, repugnant).


*sighs*


The daily struggles of (not just an oriental cosmic super hero, but) men.


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Classic movies but when you look back on them growing older.......it really was disgusting

:merchant:

The hoe Jasmine didn't pay attention when you were broke and all of a sudden you caping for her(PUN intended) and simping

Man and If I start talking about this dude I am gonna start seething and lose it.......








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An embarrassment to black men everywhere


Thank god that lame left that show :whew:
 

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Fellas, find yourself a traditional woman :wow:

A girl who will even get sad and offended when you dont want her to cook for you
A girl who will wash your dirty draws and offer to buy you underwear because you left a backup pair at home while staying over
A girl who feels the need to repent when she undermines or disrespects you
A girl who doesnt believe in promoscuity
A girl who has the utmost respect for her parents
A girl who will heed to your knowledge and advice
A girl who is willing to follow your lead
A girl who supports your aspirations etc etc

I aint even ego tripping brehs.

I finally took my girls virginity last night after about 11 weeks. In doing so, I could have her as my slave if I want to. But I will take the high road and treat this women with the divine respect that she deserves and reciprocates. The odds are against us, but you never know. :to:
 

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"I got no game it's just some bytches understand my story..."

this one here goes out to the players.

When you get a chick by playing with her emotions or when you somehow con a chick, realize that it's not your game that's strong. it's hers that's weak. If you start to think your game is strong, your ego will have you believe you can cheat (i mean cheat in a sports kind of way) and then next thing you know you slip cause you thought you were so great. So keep that in mind: it's her game that's weak, not your game that's particularly strong. then you realize that you will eventually meet your match and it's stressful.

The only strong game is no game. Plus it reduces stress.
 

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When you become successful, "boyfriend zone" is the new "friend zone"

in a way, bum ass nyggas have it easier than successful dudes when it comes to casual sex. women see the bums, realize they have nothing going for them, and have no interest in being in a relationship with them. but if they're horny they're quick to let them hit it, sometimes even on the first night, with no strings attached. there are even some cases when the bum ass nygga is the one who catches feelings while the women is like :childplease: "I just used you for dyck", straight up flipping it on 'em

but when they meet a dude who has a lot going for him or is a "good catch" they hold off on the sex in an attempt to get him to wife her. obviously this is great for successful dudes who want to pursue meaningful relationships, but for a successful dude who just wants to hit its :sadcam: I guess the trick for the successful dudes is to adopt the mentality of the bum ass nygga. don't flaunt your accomplishments or showcase your positive attributes if you're just trying to hit it

most important part of that article though is the point the dude made about women being just as capable as men at having sex with someone that they don't even like. don't let women fool you with that "I'll only sleep with him if I feel like we have a real connection" bullshyt lol


Why else you see so many bum ass nikkas? Cause there is no incentive to improve. Why get a degree when you can come up to her and fukk her the same night? Why build wealth when you have a harem of dimepieces at your disposal? Sad to say, but people of Gen X and Y are proud of being underachievers when it means you have all the p*ssy in the world.
 
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