1) YOU need to be in the front and your woman behind you. Both physical and mentally.
One guy I can give props to is Ludacris. He has a fine woman, and if you notice, she's usually BEHIND him in these pictures.. You can tell he's the one in control in that relationship. He's also smart enough not to rush to put her on camera and observe that in just about every pic of them, she is indeed walking BEHIND him. The man needs to be in the FRONT. She quit her school to be with him, not the other way around. He allowed himself to be chased to an extent. Now do I have this misconception that she won't hit him with that whole child support/alimony hustle? Absolutely not. For now though, Luda is handling the situation as he should.
Stop 'upgrading' these women and stop dealing with attention whores and do NOT deal with a woman that does not allow you to lead, aka be in front. Here are some visual cues as to what I'm talking about:
You never hear about her and every time you see her, it's with him. You ever hear about Ladanian Thomlinson's wife? They have low-profile women and they aren't rushing to show them off on national television. At least on the surface they are playing the game right. If a woman isn't willing to let you be in the front, don't deal with her.
Now this is Joe Buddens and Tahiry
This fella is either on the side of her or behind her and is ALWAYS attention whoring, using him as a prop, showing off her booty... and throughout their whole relationship, Buddens empowered that behavior, putting her all on camera. You all know how this one turned out. Let me reiterate: Be in FRONT, be in control, avoid attention whores and do not deal with women that do not allow you to lead.