Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Straw Hat Luffy]

So this girl's boyfriend adds me on FB so I accept. 20 minutes later he blocks me. I notice this because when you accept someone they appear at the top of your friend list. I decided to look her up and I realized she deleted me.

That shyt super weird to me and I already don't trust people from my area. I like her statuses as I like everyone elses that comes across my timeline so it's not like we had anything going. We actually never talked really lol.

I just get super paranoid over that shyt. Like damn breh why are you threatened? I just be busy with school minding my own business meanwhile that couple probably had an argument over me.

lmfao.

 

[jadillac]

Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?

Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.

And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.

Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....

BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.

Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.

We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.

What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?

@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?

 

[LeVraiPapi]

Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?

Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.

And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.

Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes....but when I do that to her she'll text like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye"

BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.

Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.

We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker.

What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?

@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?

Ask her about her past. She seems to have trust issues and she will keep up that wall until you finally break through it or unlock her insecurities. Females like her want you to hang out and build her up first. She still wants you around but you need to up your game and take over the games at the table. Tomorrow, tell her you dont like it when she does not reply. Tell her why but dont just put it as "you" don't like it. Explain to her that its rude and condescending. Explain to her that type of behavior does not sit well with you if she wants to be taken seriously.

Keep your voice calm but stay with a firm tone. Use your hands and bring them towards your chest when you're talking. Keep your arms open as you making a firm point. Keep making eye contact.

Girls like this needs to be guided and led by a steong man. If she flups out, give her a handshake and tell her "I'm sorry but it was nice meeting you" She will go home blaming herself and she will hit you up for sure. If she doesnt, then let it be.

If she texts you, she is definitely feeling you so dont think she being a bad woman for that. She just wants to see you sweat and pass a few tests.

You shoukd ask if theres a guy in the wing that shes waiting for. Have her come out her shell.

 

[LeVraiPapi]

Shes testing you. Repeat the same statement. "I'd like to see you in those pants in person, they're nice! where'd you get them?"

Definitely. The conpliment was too dry and left rooms for too many conclusions. I would say something like. Those pants would look nice on you. The color would match your skin tone. You have style, huh?

 

[jadillac]

Ask her about her past. She seems to have trust issues and she will keep up that wall until you finally break through it or unlock her insecurities. Females like her want you to hang out and build her up first. She still wants you around but you need to up your game and take over the games at the table. Tomorrow, tell her you dont like it when she does not reply. Tell her why but dont just put it as "you" don't like it. Explain to her that its rude and condescending. Explain to her that type of behavior does not sit well with you if she wants to be taken seriously.

Keep your voice calm but stay with a firm tone. Use your hands and bring them towards your chest when you're talking. Keep your arms open as you making a firm point. Keep making eye contact.

Girls like this needs to be guided and led by a steong man. If she flups out, give her a handshake and tell her "I'm sorry but it was nice meeting you" She will go home blaming herself and she will hit you up for sure. If she doesnt, then let it be.

If she texts you, she is definitely feeling you so dont think she being a bad woman for that. She just wants to see you sweat and pass a few tests.

You shoukd ask if theres a guy in the wing that shes waiting for. Have her come out her shell.

Thanks breh. This is really good advice. Some of it I already know but it helps to see it reinforced.

Tomorrow will definitely be a turning point one way or the other.

 

[Astroslik]

Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?

Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.

And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.

Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....

BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.

Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.

We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.

What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?

@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?

It's likely too late, you're in the friend zone.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Restarted my Tinder account and once again I'm shocked to see chicks I was messing with in Jan and Feb still on here. Still using the same pictures.


It's kinda sobering that many of these women are probably never going to find a man that they actually want. Or they're going to have to lower their standards signifcantly . Tbh many of them are probably earning so much money they don't really need a man per se. But these are women in their mid thirties. Cant be fun going home to an empty apartment every night or buying a dog or cat as an affection substitute.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?

Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.

And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.

Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....

BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.

Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.

We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.

What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?

@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?

This is why I avoid any friends of friends situations. You have to be extra careful as the chick could say you strong armed her if you try to get physical. Then your shared friends are going to hear back.

She's let you hug and kiss her cheek, I would have gone for the kiss on her lips by at least the second date, she may think you're not going to do anything more than cheek kissing and may have put you in the 'non sexual friends' category.

How old is this chick?

 

[jadillac]

Restarted my Tinder account and once again I'm shocked to see chicks I was messing with in Jan and Feb still on here. Still using the same pictures.


It's kinda sobering that many of these women are probably never going to find a man that they actually want. Or they're going to have to lower their standards signifcantly . Tbh many of them are probably earning so much money they don't really need a man per se. But these are women in their mid thirties. Cant be fun going home to an empty apartment every night or buying a dog or cat as an affection substitute.

This I can comment on....

1. I used to be on POF back in like 2012, then I got on/off for several years. Got back on again in 2017, and many of those SAME chicks were on there with the SAME pictures from years ago. Yes, I said YEARS. I got off and haven't been back on any sating site since then. I just try to meet chicks where I'm at.

2. Don't feel sorry for any of them bc more than likely they are unrealistic or have entitlement mindsets or are just simply unpleasant to be around.

3. Most of these chicks aren't really "single". I used to wonder how everytime i went out I'd always see chicks with a dude and I'd be like "damn, every woman has a boyfriend" But then you get online and see throngs of "single" women. The fact is most of these women dont have boyfriends, but they have "situations" (friends with benefits) on the low. And they'll be dating on these websites looking for a good dude, all while doing their dirt on the side and telling anyone who asks that they are perfectly single

 

[VertigoKnight]

This I can comment on....

1. I used to be on POF back in like 2012, then I got on/off for several years. Got back on again in 2017, and many of those SAME chicks were on there with the SAME pictures from years ago. Yes, I said YEARS. I got off and haven't been back on any sating site since then. I just try to meet chicks where I'm at.

2. Don't feel sorry for any of them bc more than likely they are unrealistic or have entitlement mindsets or are just simply unpleasant to be around.

3. Most of these chicks aren't really "single". I used to wonder how everytime i went out I'd always see chicks with a dude and I'd be like "damn, every woman has a boyfriend" But then you get online and see throngs of "single" women. The fact is most of these women dont have boyfriends, but they have "situations" (friends with benefits) on the low. And they'll be dating on these websites looking for a good dude, all while doing their dirt on the side

I was being semi sarcastic. But yes, no doubt a lot of times these chicks are sharing a guy. Whose probably seeing 4-5 women. I'm usually the guy they doing that quiet dirt with. I'm upfront to most of these women, I'm not looking for a relationship but open to one. That way we both know what's what going into this.

And yeah unrealistic entitlement runs heavy. A lot of women are in the mindset that if they don't feel butterflies on a first date it's not meant to be. Rinse and repeat till 30yrs old turns into 39yrs old and they still chasing a fantasy prince whose never coming. Meanwhile they've been getting dikked down every few months by a guy whose not settling and become more and more cynical.

 

[young yeesh]

@jadillac i wouldn’t worry about how it would seem to other people if you assert that you not here to be friend zoned. Anyone that thinks that’s “thirsty” is weird they damn selves

 

[LeVraiPapi]

It's likely too late, you're in the friend zone.

Nah man. He should not be telling her he wants physical and all that. Take her out and let the chemistry build and go for the kill. In my life I never tell a girl I dont wanna be just friends. I keep my intentions a mystery. If she tells me she wants to be friends, I act like she never said it. I just become more serious with her in my tone and let her get comfortable then go for it. So basically I'm telling her nah I ain't trynna be friends. Women love mystery and spontaneity. Give it to them. Some like the long game but some go steaight to it.

This is why I avoid any friends of friends situations. You have to be extra careful as the chick could say you strong armed her if you try to get physical. Then your shared friends are going to hear back.

She's let you hug and kiss her cheek, I would have gone for the kiss on her lips by at least the second date, she may think you're not going to do anything more than cheek kissing and may have put you in the 'non sexual friends' category.

How old is this chick?

Breh, whats the rush in kissing her ? What is it gonna get you ? Think about it. You force a kiss onto her when she ain't ready, how do you think she will see you ? My guess is thirsty or weird. Dont give her that power over you. Play it cool.

That's why I always tell my neggas to have an option 2 when they talking to a chick they're feeling. It takes your mind off of her and you get a clearer mi deer to deal with her games.

@jadillac i wouldn’t worry about how it would seem to other people if you assert that you not here to be friend zoned. Anyone that thinks that’s “thirsty” is weird they damn selves

Breh, he's not friend zoned though. Chick probably wanna take it slow because she doesnt want mutual friends to hear she gave it up easily. All in all, breh has a date tonight and let's hope he puts his foot down in a wise man way and make her realize she got lucky to meet him

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

Talking to this girl online, told her

“I’d like to see you in those pants”

She goes: huh?




How would you respond?

I know when women say huh usually means “I’ll give you one more chance to clean it up”

Seems like women love to play dumb with certain questions.

Say it again, in all caps tho

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?

Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.

And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.

Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....

BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.

Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.

We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.

What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?

@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?

Loool nikka cut off communication with her.

 

[Deafheaven]

I was being semi sarcastic. But yes, no doubt a lot of times these chicks are sharing a guy. Whose probably seeing 4-5 women. I'm usually the guy they doing that quiet dirt with. I'm upfront to most of these women, I'm not looking for a relationship but open to one. That way we both know what's what going into this.

And yeah unrealistic entitlement runs heavy. A lot of women are in the mindset that if they don't feel butterflies on a first date it's not meant to be. Rinse and repeat till 30yrs old turns into 39yrs old and they still chasing a fantasy prince whose never coming. Meanwhile they've been getting dikked down every few months by a guy whose not settling and become more and more cynical.

That part. this is easily the most annoying thing about dating in this era. Byrds have watched to many romcoms and envision some shyt thats not entirely feasible.