Tl&Dr sorry I go on these rants brehs. I just feel like dudes not men anymore
I think my generation of dudes aren't men. I'll even call myself out on it. This ain't no anti-female post because it's not really about them but at the same time it's why a lot of dudes can't get females. There isn't masculantity within today's generation like it used to be. I don't blame women or society for making it happen I blame us for simply giving up and letting it happen.
First of all dudes don't even have any skills for anything. Nowadays we fail a few times at something and we determine its not for us. I get that sometimes it's not for you but most of the time it's a skill that can be learned if you truly put your effort into it. And when I mean effort I mean you put your phone away and any other distraction and work on your craft for hours everyday. If you not doing that then you not working hard to achieve something. Something most dudes don't understand.
Dudes don't even have their own dreams anymore. I know there are some brehs who want to be a rapper and basketball player within every bone in their body and then i know some brehs who want that life because everyone else around them does. Men don't out here not dreaming anymore and this why dudes be struggling. Every man knows deep down there some interest or hobby he dreams of doing and getting paid by doing it but he doesn't follow thru because he's scared of his dreams getting shot down. Dream for you
Passion... I rarely see passion from dudes my age. Passion just to be happy. Passion to talk to others. Passion to learn something new and make most out of the day. Passion to just be young and alive. All I see is dudes with air pods in classrooms or social settings not saying shyt. This generation likes to play the "cool guy who doesn't give af" role. You see how I say play and role? Because they are trying so hard not to care that they actually care. The ones who care about something so much like their goals, kids, jobs, etc. Are the ones who truly don't care about shyt because they're focused and passionate
Dudes don't face their fears or handle their emotions properly anymore. Afraid of a neighborhood at a certain time or driving after a few drinks?? That's not the fear I'm talking about because fear is sometimes a good thing to help you stay away from stupid shyt or dying. But being afraid or rejection or even approaching a female shouldn't be in any men's mind. All she can do is say no and as a men you should take rejection like you would if your friend had to go to work instead of hanging out with you that weekend. It be like oh it's cool we can just hang out some other time. Why can't it be like oh it's cool I respect your wishes, I'm still emotionally fine and maybe I'm not the person you want but that doesn't reflect on who i am.
Brehs let tinder or a few rejections or the bytches not wanting him lower his self esteem and self worth. That's why they don't want you b. A man status not determined by what type of females like him.
Another part of dudes emotions nowadays is they don't know how to handle this disrespect or communicating with friends. There no point in going straight to fighting or dishing out dirt when someone does something wrong to you. Real men control their emotions even if they can't control everything else. You'd be surprised how a convo can turn around if you remain respectful to the person who was being disrespectful to you. Like maybe that person was having a bad day and accidently took it out on you but you turned everything around by keeping your ground.
And stop being soft because you're friends don't hit you up anymore. Maybe they going thru shyt. Real men make contact to real friends no matter what just because... like 2pac said I ain't mad at ya.
Then there just stuff in general like keeping the house clean, having nice hygiene, kicking it with whoever you want it don't matter if your friends are black white and so on, posture, taking care of yourself, looking people in the eye, being able to talk to anyone...
Dudes nowadays stripped from all of this and wonder why women not tryna get with them