Chick calls me at 4 am complaining I didn't call her after we fukked. Asked me if I didn't feel I did anything wrong, I said of course I didn't but all I could think was "why did I pick up the phone?".
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Rev Leon Lonnie Love
damned mine eyes, DAMNED mine eyes!!
trying to feed their ego once more at your expense. Them knowing that they steal can get you if they wanted even after they broke it off is the ultimate ego stroker for them cause it confirms to them that they "still got it". Some do it only when things ain't going right for them in their current situation and use that feeling of you still entertaining them after all this time as confidence boost.
I'd never give a bytch the time of day after our shyt is dead and buried. I know better now
trying to feed their ego once more at your expense. Them knowing that they steal can get you if they wanted even after they broke it off is the ultimate ego stroker for them cause it confirms to them that they "still got it". Some do it only when things ain't going right for them in their current situation and use that feeling of you still entertaining them after all this time as confidence boost.
I'd never give a bytch the time of day after our shyt is dead and buried. I know better now
I def feel you on this one.
What got me a lil tripped up is that shawty and I really only interacted a couple times. We don’t really have history like that SA chick I was messing with.
It’s been like 2 months since last contact prior till today.
We’ll see....
Long story short she told about some experimentation that she did in the past (college) but I mistook it as something recent (past year of so). I asked to call up her friend and let's get it done.
She was like "nah, that was in college like 5 years ago, so you thought I was out there like that. I don't like when people make assumptions of me" etc.
I told her I was joking but she wasn't hearing it. She said let's end the talk.
I tried to call her a few days after to smooth things over but she never replied my call. Tried to call again after that but no bueono. After that I cut my losses short and moved on
I'll call her tonight and gauge where her heads at but tbh, idk. Dating women is an expense and I already have a big trip to Nigeria in like 10 weeks.
A few drinks here and there, a couple nights out on town etc can easily add up to like $300-400.
$400 would do me so well in Lagos
She that uptight
drugxglory
Street Struck
that avatarpositively....but history wont let me shake off the feeling that I shot myself on the foot and its only a matter of time she uses that shyt against me
I'm going to Ghana in January after New year's so I'm kinda butt hurt. How crazy is it in the Christmas in Nigeria. I want detailsIt's crazy cuz ole girl got like 5 years on me. I thought she would have been open to having convo about it.
I feel you about having some options for winter. However, even building those options is some bread. Right now I'm in the interview process for a new job. If that clicks before November then I could possible entertain getting back out there, but even still. I'd rather ball out for 2 weeks in Nigeria.
Christmas in Nigeria is like a damn movie
Christmas in Nigeria is an absolute move. In Ghana I'm sure it's the same as well. Take the excitement of summer in the US but condense it into a 3 week period from the week prior to Christmas to the week after New Year's.
There's a lot of jubilation in the air and many people in the diaspora return home. It's a time to catch up and just have fun. I usually catch up with boys I went to high school with and we just have a good time in general.
Parties, Parties, Parties. So much so that even non-African blacks (particularly Afro-caribbeans) are hopping on the wave.
And my goodness the women that be showing out
I should have cut out like 3 days from my Euro trip to tack onto my Naija trip. I'd even venture out to Accra for a few nights.
Let me and my boys hit up the Cantonments or Vienna City. Them Ghanian baddies all posted out
I'd imagine the experience you'd have in Accra would be similar to that of Lagos or even a Nairobi. Not too sure about a Jo'Burg, however.
I fukked upChristmas in Nigeria is an absolute move. In Ghana I'm sure it's the same as well. Take the excitement of summer in the US but condense it into a 3 week period from the week prior to Christmas to the week after New Year's.
There's a lot of jubilation in the air and many people in the diaspora return home. It's a time to catch up and just have fun. I usually catch up with boys I went to high school with and we just have a good time in general.
Parties, Parties, Parties. So much so that even non-African blacks (particularly Afro-caribbeans) are hopping on the wave.
And my goodness the women that be showing out
I should have cut out like 3 days from my Euro trip to tack onto my Naija trip. I'd even venture out to Accra for a few nights.
Let me and my boys hit up the Cantonments or Vienna City. Them Ghanian baddies all posted out
I'd imagine the experience you'd have in Accra would be similar to that of Lagos or even a Nairobi. Not too sure about a Jo'Burg, however.
Should've just paid extra for the Christmas time ticket
I'm not saying you should have shut down any convos but at the same time, if she's the one who ended the convo cause she got upset even though you explained... She should be the one starting the convo again. You should have given her space and showed her you're sticking to your guns, not try to call her 3times. I know you didn't ask for advice on this and what's done is done but this one here is for the youth reading this.Long story short she told about some experimentation that she did in the past (college) but I mistook it as something recent (past year of so). I asked to call up her friend and let's get it done.
She was like "nah, that was in college like 5 years ago, so you thought I was out there like that. I don't like when people make assumptions of me" etc.
I told her I was joking but she wasn't hearing it. She said let's end the talk.
I tried to call her a few days after to smooth things over but she never replied my call. Tried to call again after that but no bueono. After that I cut my losses short and moved on
I'll call her tonight and gauge where her heads at but tbh, idk. Dating women is an expense and I already have a big trip to Nigeria in like 10 weeks.
A few drinks here and there, a couple nights out on town etc can easily add up to like $300-400.
$400 would do me so well in Lagos
Killigraphy
Banned
I've gotten to the point where its all "to be continued", for me there is no longer rejection, just Part 2 of Killigraphy's defeat of the female ego and further takedown of the villainess, that night. My favorite lines are; "you're not my type" and "I don't like guys with long hair"....they think its kryptonite...that green shyt only does one thing to me;
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Killigraphy
Banned
You have to initiate. I mentioned this before in the thread. Women aren't natural leaders, they follow, and they follow when instructed properly. Now.....before I dive in....don't be rapey, keep your hands to yourself. When you do start physical contact, keep it light, hand touching, arms, shoulders...its a slow build (kino escalation)....don't just grab her legs and assume its gonna be A-ok. Let's say you already know that bit, then work on small/light touches. From hands to wrists...my technique is to neg/instruct via small things like greetings; "Thats not how you shake like an adult"...and follow through. For some reason, patty cake has always worked, don't ask me why, or how, but women love that silly fukking "game", and will play it with a guy almost instantly...same thing with Numbers, they just can't say no...use that to your advantage.
Basically, think of her like a horse, you want to get her used to your touch, don't just slap her ass right away, thats how you get kicked into oblivion. I get away with a lot, seeing as I'm a natural/chad so I do whatever, from playing with hair, to picking up girls without the escalation part...this of course is highly subjective and built around the kind of guy you are and or look like. If you look like a troll, you can't just jump into level 10, but if you go to the gym, take care of yourself, and are the life of the party, the energy is understood and wanted.
I take it you're more of the quiet type? Nothing wrong with that, your strength is a quiet storm, spread yourself all over, from the mental game, to the physical, and she'll be thinking about your touch/assertiveness and wit, all the time. Don't be friendly, be a beacon of guidance. Be a teacher, not a friend. Instruct her, guide her, like a silk scarf in a flowing river, you flow in any current. Don't over think it either, amuse yourself, but also keep her understanding that you aren't there to waste time, instead use that time to flirt.
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Nah, I have my ticket for a few days after Christmas. Before Christmas was mad pricey. As far as you’re within that window I mentioned then you good.
Same here
