Chick calls me at 4 am complaining I didn't call her after we fukked. Asked me if I didn't feel I did anything wrong, I said of course I didn't but all I could think was "why did I pick up the phone?".


trying to feed their ego once more at your expense. Them knowing that they steal can get you if they wanted even after they broke it off is the ultimate ego stroker for them cause it confirms to them that they "still got it". Some do it only when things ain't going right for them in their current situation and use that feeling of you still entertaining them after all this time as confidence boost.I've always wondered what prompts some ladies to reach back out after a long time, especially if they're the ones that broke it off.
trying to feed their ego once more at your expense. Them knowing that they steal can get you if they wanted even after they broke it off is the ultimate ego stroker for them cause it confirms to them that they "still got it". Some do it only when things ain't going right for them in their current situation and use that feeling of you still entertaining them after all this time as confidence boost.
I'd never give a bytch the time of day after our shyt is dead and buried. I know better now![]()
Long story short she told about some experimentation that she did in the past (college) but I mistook it as something recent (past year of so). I asked to call up her friend and let's get it done.
She was like "nah, that was in college like 5 years ago, so you thought I was out there like that. I don't like when people make assumptions of me" etc.
I told her I was joking but she wasn't hearing it. She said let's end the talk.
I tried to call her a few days after to smooth things over but she never replied my call. Tried to call again after that but no bueono. After that I cut my losses short and moved on
I'll call her tonight and gauge where her heads at but tbh, idk. Dating women is an expense and I already have a big trip to Nigeria in like 10 weeks.
A few drinks here and there, a couple nights out on town etc can easily add up to like $300-400.
$400 would do me so well in Lagos![]()
that avatarpositively....but history wont let me shake off the feeling that I shot myself on the foot and its only a matter of time she uses that shyt against me
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I'm going to Ghana in January after New year's so I'm kinda butt hurt. How crazy is it in the Christmas in Nigeria. I want detailsIt's crazy cuz ole girl got like 5 years on me. I thought she would have been open to having convo about it.
I feel you about having some options for winter. However, even building those options is some bread. Right now I'm in the interview process for a new job. If that clicks before November then I could possible entertain getting back out there, but even still. I'd rather ball out for 2 weeks in Nigeria.
Christmas in Nigeria is like a damn movie![]()
I'm going to Ghana in January after New year's so I'm kinda butt hurt. How crazy is it in the Christmas in Nigeria. I want details
I fukked upChristmas in Nigeria is an absolute move. In Ghana I'm sure it's the same as well. Take the excitement of summer in the US but condense it into a 3 week period from the week prior to Christmas to the week after New Year's.
There's a lot of jubilation in the air and many people in the diaspora return home. It's a time to catch up and just have fun. I usually catch up with boys I went to high school with and we just have a good time in general.
Parties, Parties, Parties. So much so that even non-African blacks (particularly Afro-caribbeans) are hopping on the wave.
And my goodness the women that be showing out
I should have cut out like 3 days from my Euro trip to tack onto my Naija trip. I'd even venture out to Accra for a few nights.
Let me and my boys hit up the Cantonments or Vienna City. Them Ghanian baddies all posted out
I'd imagine the experience you'd have in Accra would be similar to that of Lagos or even a Nairobi. Not too sure about a Jo'Burg, however.
I'm not saying you should have shut down any convos but at the same time, if she's the one who ended the convo cause she got upset even though you explained... She should be the one starting the convo again. You should have given her space and showed her you're sticking to your guns, not try to call her 3times. I know you didn't ask for advice on this and what's done is done but this one here is for the youth reading this.Long story short she told about some experimentation that she did in the past (college) but I mistook it as something recent (past year of so). I asked to call up her friend and let's get it done.
She was like "nah, that was in college like 5 years ago, so you thought I was out there like that. I don't like when people make assumptions of me" etc.
I told her I was joking but she wasn't hearing it. She said let's end the talk.
I tried to call her a few days after to smooth things over but she never replied my call. Tried to call again after that but no bueono. After that I cut my losses short and moved on
I'll call her tonight and gauge where her heads at but tbh, idk. Dating women is an expense and I already have a big trip to Nigeria in like 10 weeks.
A few drinks here and there, a couple nights out on town etc can easily add up to like $300-400.
$400 would do me so well in Lagos![]()
This girl I recently slept with told me that she's been on 5-6 dates with one dude who is a 'nice guy', but she feels a much stronger connection with me after two dates.
It's kind of funny actually. I still sometimes trip about certain women not feeling me, but realize that there are so many opportunities for me to meet similar women and those I may be more physically and mentally attracted to than those who curved me.
We already friends / friendly. I'm in a class with her and we sit next to each other and whatnot and have had a bunch of normal conversations and I've flirted with her a little bit too. We even kinda hung once after class but that was just sitting around talking. I'm just a little stuck now I suppose (I'm not even sure if she's into me like that but that's what I'm tryna find out by asking her to something)
I fukked up
Should've just paid extra for the Christmas time ticket
Same hereI’m tired of all the women I have. I Lowkey want to settle down but I’m so picky smfh. Gonna just build a new roster and see who stands out I guess