Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Swing said:
Let me get the brehs input on this, I feel confident on how I handled it but I’d like to hear some feedback.

Matched with a girl on Tinder, nice convo for a couple of days, build a good connection. Asked her out for a wednesday, she said she couldnt cuz she was going horseback riding and wouldnt make it home to shower. She could come see me but she said if Inwouldnt mind a little ”horse smell”.

This was a blatant shyt test and I roasted her ass for it and told her hell nah.

Sh came back with thursday, I said cool. Got her number. This was sunday evening.

I was gonna hit her up on wednesday to set up time and place, just a quick coffee nothing fancy. (maybe I fukked up here, too long of a break in contact?)

Im lining my beard up and she hits me up asking what the details are for tomorrow, which I took as a good sign, first time she initiated. We confirm and I keep it brief.

Next day, 3 hours before we’re supposed to meet up she cancels, emergency at work, she works with teens who come from messed up backgrounds. She apologizes and asks me what Im doing next week and can we re-schedule. No concrete proposal of a day, just ”next week”.

Ofcourse Im a little pissed but I respond telling her that its cool, no worries, hope everything works out. I tell her I start working next week but we can get in touch and make it happen. I leave it open, dont plan or commit to anything.

She responds 2 hours later, she’s still with the kid at the police station. She tells me to get back to her with how next week looks.

Maybe I shouldnt have responded but Im out getting lit so I respond back, basically putting the ball in her court, ”Ur cute, u let me know which days work for you, I think that will be easier”

No response

Im thinking Ive done all the initiating and suggesting, the horse shyt (no pun) and her half flaking on me... atleast she should give a concrete date for the run back? I get the feeling this is another test to see If I’ll rattle off all the days Im free next week in hopes of making plans with her way in advance... looking extra bad after she cancels and me complying with making plans right away.

I put the pressure back on her and its a win-win; if here interest is high enough she’ll get back to me and she invests... if not, I dont take a second L and waste time and energy and risk a second flake.

Am I wrong?
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you did the right thing at the end but i think that you would have been better off just setting a time and place from the beginning. For example, after the horse shyt, when she said Thursday, you could say "Cool, so how about Thursday at 8PM we meet at ABC place, does that work for you?". That way you don't have to confirm shyt, and if she wants to cancel, she will have to initiate contact she can't wait for you to contact to confirm and then she cancels.


Ofcourse Im a little pissed but I respond telling her that its cool, no worries, hope everything works out. I tell her I start working next week but we can get in touch and make it happen. I leave it open, dont plan or commit to anything.
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see right there, it's not clear who has to do what. Personally i try to always tell girls "I'll let you know/i'll call you" or "Let me know when.../call me when blablabla" so that i don't wait on bytches. Everytime i deviate from that, shyt goes left (flaking). instead of the bold, maybe something like "I start working next week but when you'll know what time you'll be free shoot me a text (or call, which ever way you do with her) to let me know if we're both free". So right away you put it in her court. That's pretty much the move she did on you first. you did the right thing at the end but it looked tacky because you're both struggling for power. If she liked you like that, she would make things easy. she keeps testing you cause she's not sure about you (either because of your behaviour OR because she has her own issues). The no response is because she knows what you are doing. and she knows you know what she is doing. I would honestly just bush at this point cause that shyt is not attractive to me (phone games, flaking with no clear counter offer, shyt test when i haven't even met you, ect). I wouldn't take that shyt from a girlfriend, why would i take that shyt from a stranger? just my 2 cents.
 
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Turbulent said:
maybe something like "I start working next week but when you'll know what time you'll be free shoot me a text (or call, which ever way you do with her) to let me know if we're both free". So right away you put it in her court. That's pretty much the move she did on you first. you did the right thing at the end but it looked tacky because you're both struggling for power. If she liked you like that, she would make things easy. she keeps testing you cause she's not sure about you (either because of your behaviour OR because she has her own issues).
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The bold is where I fukked up... damn. Good shyt breh.

Instead of one move I made two and lost momentum. Had the right plan but executed poorly

And ur right, it became a power thing. I really didnt mean for it to turn out that way. Im just thinking that if I would have cancelled I would at least make it up by coming back with days Im free and able to meet up.
 
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Swing said:
The bold is where I fukked up... damn. Good shyt breh.

Instead of one move I made two and lost momentum. Had the right plan but executed poorly

And ur right, it became a power thing. I really didnt mean for it to turn out that way. Im just thinking that if I would have cancelled I would at least make it up by coming back with days Im free and able to meet up.
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at that point it was your best move breh. it's just that it's your best move in an already bad situation. But at least it exposed the fact that she's playing games. And the thing is, hindsight is 20/20. it's easy for someone on the outside to point out what it is. it's another thing to be in the middle of it and make the call live. Anyone could fukk up from time to time. being in these situations a few times is what makes it easier to make the right move.
 
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at that point it was your best move breh. it's just that it's your best move in an already bad situation. But at least it exposed the fact that she's playing games. And the thing is, hindsight is 20/20. it's easy for someone on the outside to point out what it is. it's another thing to be in the middle of it and make the call live. Anyone could fukk up from time to time. being in these situations a few times is what makes it easier to make the right move.
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:salute:

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Sonny Bonds said:
And I think her pictures were a couple of years old.
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Can we talk on this? I'm seeing a lot of women using two-three year old photos on the dating apps. The disrespect of it all.

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All my dating profile pics are from the last two months. Sometimes before I date I'll maybe go see if their IG or FB is their open and see the year that the pics they used were from.
 
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MITS said:
yup it’s cuffing season for sure

These females handing out they number ASAP
Online matches have damn near doubled.
Hella more females out at bars and night clubs
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Yeah I need to get back on it before winter comes
 
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Just bushed my entire roster before cuffing season

Turning 27 in November, any chick I take seriously (outside of smashing) has to be potential wifey material.


Got a high 6 figure job waiting for me after law school is over. No kids, no stds


I’m not settling for shyt hereafter :ufdup:
 
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bruh

wanna tell this chick why i really wanted her number, i got it cause i needed these books AND i think she fine as hell so yeah
2 birds 1 stone
 
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