Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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:wow: so today this girl decided to put me on death row brehs. She handed my ass to me and told me she is fed up of having to argue with me every time we chill together and having to walk on eggshells. she told me i got some deep insecurities I need to deal with and that she's hurt and the only way right now for her to get her peace of mind and happiness back is if i'm no longer in her life. she says i'm manipulative and that I have no accountability for my actions and that everything is always her fault in my eyes....and because of that she feels like her attraction towards me has went out the window. :wow:

funny thing is she still maintains that we stay in contact (by that she means we can still talk and visit each other but no sex or kissing) so that she can monitor and see if im changing and if she feels that i'm serious about making change and putting her happiness in the forefront. I asked her though "whats the point of keeping contact when u say u no longer like me as much, also surely u might want to see someone else then :patrice:", but she insists that because she had no one in her life before we met then she has no reason to jump on another dude and that the reason she's saying we can still keep in contact is to give me another chance cause she insists shes not talking to other dudes.

I don't know what to do brehs. I like the girl, she's cool and all but this whole thing of being put in jail is making me skeptical.Like i don't know how i'm gonna be evaluated or how long this gonna last. im in a lose-lose situation: If I say "fukk this we might as well cut ties if we cant work it out while still together as normal" she gonna be like I never cared for her to begin with and basically affirm her suspicions of me being an insecure aint shyt mofo. If I stay and agree to be put in deathrow i'll be allowing her to put her foot on my neck and have me behave just like how she wants :snoop:


I need some opinions on this :francis:

Absolutely not! Do not fall for this. Don't let some broad keep you on the string, keeping you on hold and setting you on the back burner. nikka - you worth more than that. If a woman wants to jump ship, let her and makes sure she has a cinder block tied to her fukking ankles too. You don't need any woman putting some shyt like "to give you me another chance...". fukk that. I guarantee she got dikks appointments already lined up into mid next week.

With that being said, you may have some insecurities or whatnot, but those are things that you have to work through; however, that doesn't give her the right to make you feel less of a person and that there is somethign wrong with you. We all have insecurities, so don't think that there is something wrong with you.

My ex tried to force that shyt into my head and for a while I believed it. Then I came to a reasoning that, I am who I am. as long as you are happy who you are, then so be it.
 

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:wow: so today this girl decided to put me on death row brehs. She handed my ass to me and told me she is fed up of having to argue with me every time we chill together and having to walk on eggshells. she told me i got some deep insecurities I need to deal with and that she's hurt and the only way right now for her to get her peace of mind and happiness back is if i'm no longer in her life. she says i'm manipulative and that I have no accountability for my actions and that everything is always her fault in my eyes....and because of that she feels like her attraction towards me has went out the window. :wow:

funny thing is she still maintains that we stay in contact (by that she means we can still talk and visit each other but no sex or kissing) so that she can monitor and see if im changing and if she feels that i'm serious about making change and putting her happiness in the forefront. I asked her though "whats the point of keeping contact when u say u no longer like me as much, also surely u might want to see someone else then :patrice:", but she insists that because she had no one in her life before we met then she has no reason to jump on another dude and that the reason she's saying we can still keep in contact is to give me another chance cause she insists shes not talking to other dudes.

I don't know what to do brehs. I like the girl, she's cool and all but this whole thing of being put in jail is making me skeptical.Like i don't know how i'm gonna be evaluated or how long this gonna last. im in a lose-lose situation: If I say "fukk this we might as well cut ties if we cant work it out while still together as normal" she gonna be like I never cared for her to begin with and basically affirm her suspicions of me being an insecure aint shyt mofo. If I stay and agree to be put in deathrow i'll be allowing her to put her foot on my neck and have me behave just like how she wants :snoop:


I need some opinions on this :francis:

She feels you have all the power in the relationship and is giving you a false ultimatum because she wants some or all of that power. Like @Yashin said...tell her ain’t nothing gonna change about you. You gonna continue doing you and if she has a problem with that...then to cease all communication and move on.

That whole spiel about staying in contact is bullshyt. She wants you as the safety net incase shyt with another nikka doesn’t work out.
 

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So met up with the Korean chick I started talking to last week this past Friday at a local cocktail bar.

Firstly wow! I'd seen pics of her and was impressed but we know how chicks be doing all sorts with these image apps. But when this chick turned up. Shorty is bad. Her body in person was :banderas:

Thighs and waist looking right, her batty and breasts were just crazy. But with how many women I've dated and slept with, a good body but no personality is a turn off at this point. Luckily she's a smart one, early thirties, a lawyer. Kinda kooky, but thoughtful and sexy.

Spent 5 hours just flirting, chatting, touching and drinking.

Walked her home with my arm round her waist and kissed her at her building. Didn't feel the need to try and push for pum pum just yet.
 

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Wait...why are you arguing with women breh?

Not on some macho shyt, but just...if she's the one that's fed up that means you're the one that feeds these arguments. Which is definitely not supposed to be how it goes, they're supposed to want to argue and you're supposed to coldly tell them you don't do "couple fights" and leave them to cool off until they're willing to talk to you like adults.

If you "like the girl" then why are you making her feel that everything is her fault?

Talk to us breh.

You're right i shouldnt have, but im the type to constantly call out shyt when i dont fukk with it. I guess it made her feel attacked every single time.

Absolutely not! Do not fall for this. Don't let some broad keep you on the string, keeping you on hold and setting you on the back burner. nikka - you worth more than that. If a woman wants to jump ship, let her and makes sure she has a cinder block tied to her fukking ankles too. You don't need any woman putting some shyt like "to give you me another chance...". fukk that. I guarantee she got dikks appointments already lined up into mid next week.

With that being said, you may have some insecurities or whatnot, but those are things that you have to work through; however, that doesn't give her the right to make you feel less of a person and that there is somethign wrong with you. We all have insecurities, so don't think that there is something wrong with you.

My ex tried to force that shyt into my head and for a while I believed it. Then I came to a reasoning that, I am who I am. as long as you are happy who you are, then so be it.
I feel you breh , I feel you. crazy thing is she already did something like this before and I told her i aint gonna have it and told her to kick rocks....a week later she came back and wanted to play for my team again and sure enough we made up and started over. She was so calm with it this time around, I could tell she meant every word and I could sense the resentment in her tone. :wow:


She feels you have all the power in the relationship and is giving you a false ultimatum because she wants some or all of that power. Like @Yashin said...tell her ain’t nothing gonna change about you. You gonna continue doing you and if she has a problem with that...then to cease all communication and move on.

That whole spiel about staying in contact is bullshyt. She wants you as the safety net incase shyt with another nikka doesn’t work out.

that bolded part is absolutely true, she hates that a lot. She even told me today that Im selfish and conceited and that I always make her feel less of a human by how things are always her doing whenever we argue, so she told me she's done with walking on egg shells cause of me and that she feels the only way she can regain her happiness and peace of mind is if she stops fukking with me.
 

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She feels you have all the power in the relationship and is giving you a false ultimatum because she wants some or all of that power. Like @Yashin said...tell her ain’t nothing gonna change about you. You gonna continue doing you and if she has a problem with that...then to cease all communication and move on.

That whole spiel about staying in contact is bullshyt. She wants you as the safety net incase shyt with another nikka doesn’t work out.

Basically what a Chinese chick I'm dating tried a few months ago. Gave me an ultimatum. I told her I already explained my situation to her. Out of a long relationship and not looking to get serious with or exclusive with anyone at this time

Left it there for a while. Then two weeks later she tells me we need to talk. Comes to my place. We talk and she starts crying. Tells me she really,really loves me and wants to be with me. I tell her I really like her a lot and we can continue to spend time together and have fun.

She's very traditional but has seemingly come round to my situation and doesn't push. Tbh I would happily wife this chick but still need to get stuff out of my system. Before I can be ultra serious with a woman.

Also saying all this upfront has meant less stress for me seeing different women. We all know where we stand from the off.

Of course women will slowly try and change that ha
 
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that bolded part is absolutely true, she hates that a lot. She even told me today that Im selfish and conceited and that I always make her feel less of a human by how things are always her doing whenever we argue, so she told me she's done with walking on egg shells cause of me and that she feels the only way she can regain her happiness and peace of mind is if she stops fukking with me.

If that is the case, why does she have to tell you? If i needed to lookout for myself, you think i would let someone kno i was cutting them off? :hhh:

Naa. I would just cut them off.

She wants you to chase after her and by her getting mad at you for not caring shows its all about power to her. She is bounded and controlled by her emotions towards you and is pissed because of that.
 

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If that is the case, why does she have to tell you? If i needed to lookout for myself, you think i would let someone kno i was cutting them off? :hhh:

Naa. I would just cut them off.

She wants you to chase after her and by her getting mad at you for not caring shows its all about power to her. She is bounded and controlled by her emotions towards you and is pissed because of that.
And here I was thinking girls want men who are leaders and who will put that foot on their neck and not let up.
But it seems like when they finally meet a nikka like that they cave in and start to feel some type of way about not having the power hold the nikka by his nuts :wow:

imma give this another 5 days and digest it properly then hit her up on saturday and tell her whats really on my mind. I enjoyed her company and that p*ssy was :ohlawd:, but I dont think I can deal with my insecurities quick enough for her or in the way she wants me to by being her buddy-buddy. If she cant be my woman and help me work through the bullshyt together then I might as well do it alone with no pressure. It is what it is I guess :francis:
 

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:wow: so today this girl decided to put me on death row brehs. She handed my ass to me and told me she is fed up of having to argue with me every time we chill together and having to walk on eggshells. she told me i got some deep insecurities I need to deal with and that she's hurt and the only way right now for her to get her peace of mind and happiness back is if i'm no longer in her life. she says i'm manipulative and that I have no accountability for my actions and that everything is always her fault in my eyes....and because of that she feels like her attraction towards me has went out the window. :wow:

funny thing is she still maintains that we stay in contact (by that she means we can still talk and visit each other but no sex or kissing) so that she can monitor and see if im changing and if she feels that i'm serious about making change and putting her happiness in the forefront. I asked her though "whats the point of keeping contact when u say u no longer like me as much, also surely u might want to see someone else then :patrice:", but she insists that because she had no one in her life before we met then she has no reason to jump on another dude and that the reason she's saying we can still keep in contact is to give me another chance cause she insists shes not talking to other dudes.

I don't know what to do brehs. I like the girl, she's cool and all but this whole thing of being put in jail is making me skeptical.Like i don't know how i'm gonna be evaluated or how long this gonna last. im in a lose-lose situation: If I say "fukk this we might as well cut ties if we cant work it out while still together as normal" she gonna be like I never cared for her to begin with and basically affirm her suspicions of me being an insecure aint shyt mofo. If I stay and agree to be put in deathrow i'll be allowing her to put her foot on my neck and have me behave just like how she wants :snoop:


I need some opinions on this :francis:
DROP
THAT
CHICK
NOW
:camby:
 

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:wow: so today this girl decided to put me on death row brehs. She handed my ass to me and told me she is fed up of having to argue with me every time we chill together and having to walk on eggshells. she told me i got some deep insecurities I need to deal with and that she's hurt and the only way right now for her to get her peace of mind and happiness back is if i'm no longer in her life. she says i'm manipulative and that I have no accountability for my actions and that everything is always her fault in my eyes....and because of that she feels like her attraction towards me has went out the window. :wow:

funny thing is she still maintains that we stay in contact (by that she means we can still talk and visit each other but no sex or kissing) so that she can monitor and see if im changing and if she feels that i'm serious about making change and putting her happiness in the forefront. I asked her though "whats the point of keeping contact when u say u no longer like me as much, also surely u might want to see someone else then :patrice:", but she insists that because she had no one in her life before we met then she has no reason to jump on another dude and that the reason she's saying we can still keep in contact is to give me another chance cause she insists shes not talking to other dudes.

I don't know what to do brehs. I like the girl, she's cool and all but this whole thing of being put in jail is making me skeptical.Like i don't know how i'm gonna be evaluated or how long this gonna last. im in a lose-lose situation: If I say "fukk this we might as well cut ties if we cant work it out while still together as normal" she gonna be like I never cared for her to begin with and basically affirm her suspicions of me being an insecure aint shyt mofo. If I stay and agree to be put in deathrow i'll be allowing her to put her foot on my neck and have me behave just like how she wants :snoop:


I need some opinions on this :francis:
she's the manipulative one. You need to throw her in the bushes. Fukk what dhe thinks. Let her believe you're insecure, who gives a fukk. She made her choice, now she needs to go find happiness else if she's not feeling good with you
 

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And here I was thinking girls want men who are leaders and who will put that foot on their neck and not let up.
But it seems like when they finally meet a nikka like that they cave in and start to feel some type of way about not having the power hold the nikka by his nuts :wow:

imma give this another 5 days and digest it properly then hit her up on saturday and tell her whats really on my mind. I enjoyed her company and that p*ssy was :ohlawd:, but I dont think I can deal with my insecurities quick enough for her or in the way she wants me to by being her buddy-buddy. If she cant be my woman and help me work through the bullshyt together then I might as well do it alone with no pressure. It is what it is I guess :francis:


You need to understand that her shaming language is manipulating you in a way to doubt who you are as a man. :ufdup:


Whenever a chick uses those kinds of tactics, it's time to fall back. ALL. THE. WAY. BACK.

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Your problem breh is that your cutoff game needs work. As you get older you learn to drop these chicks without a second thought over time. :myman:
 

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You're right i shouldnt have, but im the type to constantly call out shyt when i dont fukk with it. I guess it made her feel attacked every single time.

I feel you breh , I feel you. crazy thing is she already did something like this before and I told her i aint gonna have it and told her to kick rocks....a week later she came back and wanted to play for my team again and sure enough we made up and started over. She was so calm with it this time around, I could tell she meant every word and I could sense the resentment in her tone. :wow:

that bolded part is absolutely true, she hates that a lot. She even told me today that Im selfish and conceited and that I always make her feel less of a human by how things are always her doing whenever we argue, so she told me she's done with walking on egg shells cause of me and that she feels the only way she can regain her happiness and peace of mind is if she stops fukking with me.

I concur with the brehs, you need to cut her off. She's a dangerous manipulator, the type to never admit she's one because she has "the best of intentions". She can only hurt you if you let her breh.

From what I gather there are things you need to work over for yourself as well, so take the time to take care of you breh.
 

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Most of these nikkas foolish this shyt really simple.

Stay true to yourself. That is what you do. If you a bow down as nikka and like that shyt do that. If you a real nikka who don't take shyt and want several hoes be that. nikka examplify your true self and be unaffected how they think of it or how it make them feel. Do you and live your life for you all the time. You do this you get all the hoes. If you natually confident nikka walk around and BE THAT if you a ho own shyt cuz. I be me all the time and I keep 5 dimes in rotation new ones every month and they know they in rotation cause they know uma hoe who dont give af with good dikk and they dont trip cause they know ian no sucka ass nikka and aint finna here shyt. Than they know I am racked up but ia coming out of pocket for no more than lunch, SIMPLE. Stop being phony as nikkas and be you and be proud of that shyt. That gets any women and they go no choice but the respect your mind unless the natural you just some clown ass push over nikka
 

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Listen to this nikkas. May sound cruel but this shyt just keep things peaceful.

Most of these nikkas foolish this shyt really simple.

Stay true to yourself. That is what you do. If you a bow down as nikka and like that shyt do that. If you a real nikka who don't take shyt and want several hoes be that. nikka examplify your true self and be unaffected how they think of it or how it make them feel. Do you and live your life for you all the time. You do this you get all the hoes. If you natually confident nikka walk around and BE THAT if you a ho own shyt cuz. I be me all the time and I keep 5 dimes in rotation new ones every month and they know they in rotation cause they know uma hoe who dont give af with good dikk and they dont trip cause they know ian no sucka ass nikka and aint finna here shyt. Than they know I am racked up but ia coming out of pocket for no more than lunch, SIMPLE. Stop being phony as nikkas and be you and be proud of that shyt. That gets any women and they go no choice but the respect your mind unless the natural you just some clown ass push over nikka

first you say you gotta lie in order to be successful with a woman you're dealing with, but then in your next post you advocate not giving a fukk and staying true to yourself. :patrice:

is it oochie wallie :hula:or one mic, breh?
 

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@ZoeGod Breh what are doing for the rest of the year to up our market value? :yeshrug:
Working out, eating right, get my body right, focus on my grades but still go out to approach broads in the club and cut off lame nikkas that I know that ain’t about shyt. Chill with nighas who are winners in women, money, careers matter of fact in life. Also change my clothes and style. Basically total self improvement.
 
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