Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Yuzo Lightheart]

I might go as far to say 99.8% of all women and that's me being generous. How many stories have you heard of women dying for her man? I can't think of any off the top of my head, but you'll hear several stories of a dog dying for his master. In fact, in Japan, they have a statue built of a dog that would come to the train station to wait for his master every day. When his master died, the dog still came to the train station to wait for his master until he died too. Is it a wonder why I find dogs to be such amazing creatures? The loyalty is unparalleled.

there was a theory i forgot where i read it but i will try to look for it again. it stated that hunter gatherer societies were more likely to create monogamous pair bonding systems vs sedentary agriculturist societies, which were a lot more likely to develop polygamous/polyamorous societies. that changed when the main religions became popular and started to literally force monogamy on all societies but the argument behind this point was this:

in mobile hunter gatherer societies a woman depends on a man for literally everything. that is, if she doesnt have a man, she will actually die. so its the highest priority for her to find a man and do everything in her power to keep him because in these kinds of societies a man = life and no man = death

however in sedentary agriculturist societies, food and shelter is more abundant meaning that people can survive more easily. this probably is more true in climates where the environment is not harsh ie warm climates vs really harsh cold climates. it creates a more relaxed and easy going lifestyle for everyone and what happens is that women are a lot less likely to create monogamous pair bonds with men, or in your own words, they will be less loyal. the reason for that, is because they simply dont have to.

the underlying principle is this: in harsh conditions, a woman is more likely to choose monogamy, however in more relaxed and comfortable settings, she is more likely to choose other things

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[sixsixtwo]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6


Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved

Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of.

In the same respect that women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make in order to facilitate their imperatives, women can’t actualize how a man would have himself loved by her. It is not the natural state of women, and the moment he attempts to explain his ideal love, that’s the point at which his idealization becomes her obligation. Our girlfriends, our wives, daughters and even our mothers are all incapable of this idealized love. As nice as it would be to relax, trust and be vulnerable, upfront, rational and open, the great abyss is still the lack of an ability for women to love Men as Men would like them to."

Read more: https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/

 

[CrossBones]

ah the retroactive redefinition of the relationship. its funny cause i got hit with a relationship retcon before too. chick knows damn well yall were exclusive but nobody technically came out and said it directly even if it was implied and she does you dirty then tries to redefine what was obviously going on at the time.

the thing about woman and i think i said this before is they have to justify or rationalize their shytty behavior. a woman can't do a man dirty just cause she's a shytty person at least in her own mind. she has to find some logical escape for her shytty behavior so she's go over and over what she's doing till she finds a logical crack she can squeak through then when she's confronted about it she'll fall back on that.

most of these situations are just them bullshytting themselves so they can feel ok about what they do even if it is wrong.

I just got caught up in "How to Win Friends and Inlfuence People" and the first chapter is about that. a murderer, al capone, a failed politician who managed a record loss for his party, and a man wrapped up in an oil scandal who used the military to protect his oil reserves all came down and admitted in the end "To all whom it may concern deep down I was a kind hearted individual who would never harm another human being." "I am a giver to the community and made sure people were fed" "I dont see how I could have done things any different" and "Im not the sell out, Im the one who was betrayed!"

everyone had found reasons and excuses for their actions. people are typically like that and the reason being is this: we crave acceptance so much, that we avoid rejection and criticism at all costs.



people at a factory didnt want to wear their hard hats all the time. for their own safety. the man in charge of safety would go by, in an authoritive voice and say "HEY, PUT ON YOUR HARD HATS. ITS THE RULES."

they would, then later theyd walk away and take them off. like fukk him dont tell me what to do

then later he decided to change up his approach and say "hey, is that hat uncomfortable or the wrong size? remember to put them on, its for you own safety."

he got more positive responses and people tended to keep them on afterwards. his approach to the problem changed from criticism to concern, and he got better results from it.


so while this answer goes around the issue a bit, the point here is that people will duck and dodge being at fault until their face is blue. women especially. we have to accept that may happen.

the best approach to a problem when we see its happening before our face, is to have the ability to show concern about the issue at hand, but still have the power over this situation to where we call the shots. direct criticism can result in lies, anger, and hard feelings.

we just can never let someone redefine a relationship or what happened in the past to the point where we just go along with it. we in effect compromise our own integrity. its bs and we know it.

so the best solution is to access the issue early and once its been acknowledged, call the final shot. wrapping ourselves in the emotion of the situation and how wrong the other person is doesnt do anything but draw out all the negatives. we will argue with them over something that they themselves will not admit any faul in. thats delusional shyt.

 

[MikelArteta]

I might go as far to say 99.8% of all women and that's me being generous. How many stories have you heard of women dying for her man? I can't think of any off the top of my head, but you'll hear several stories of a dog dying for his master. In fact, in Japan, they have a statue built of a dog that would come to the train station to wait for his master every day. When his master died, the dog still came to the train station to wait for his master until he died too. Is it a wonder why I find dogs to be such amazing creatures? The loyalty is unparalleled.

 

[kevm3]

Dog stands guard over deceased owner

An extremely dedicated dog has continued to show its loyalty, keeping watch on its owner's grave six years after he passed away.
Capitan, a German shepherd, reportedly ran away from home after its owner, Miguel Guzman, died in 2006. A week later, the Guzman family found the dog sitting by his grave in central Argentina.
Miguel Guzman adopted Capitan in 2005 as a gift for his teenage son, Damian. And for the past six years, Capitan has continued to stand guard at Miguel's grave. The family says the dog rarely leaves the site.
"We searched for him, but he had vanished," widow Veronica Guzman told LaVoz.com. "We thought he must have got run over and died.
'The following Sunday we went to the cemetery, and Damian recognized his pet. Capitan came up to us, barking and wailing as if he were crying."
Adding to the unusual circumstances, Veronica says the family never brought Capitan to the cemetery before he was discovered there.
"It is a mystery how he managed to find the place," she said.

Cemetery director Hector Baccega says he and his staff have begun feeding and taking care of Capitan.
"He turned up here one day, all on his own, and started wandering all around the cemetery until he eventually found the tomb of his master," Baccega said.
"During the day he sometimes has a walk around the cemetery, but always rushes back to the grave. And every day, at six o'clock sharp, he lies down on top of the grave, stays there all night."
But the Guzman family hasn't abandoned Capitan. Damian says the family has tried to bring Capitan home several times but that he always returns to the cemetery on his own.
"I think he's going to be there until he dies, too. He's looking after my dad," he said.

 

[winb83]

I just got caught up in "How to Win Friends and Inlfuence People" and the first chapter is about that. a murderer, al capone, a failed politician who managed a record loss for his party, and a man wrapped up in an oil scandal who used the military to protect his oil reserves all came down and admitted in the end "To all whom it may concern deep down I was a kind hearted individual who would never harm another human being." "I am a giver to the community and made sure people were fed" "I dont see how I could have done things any different" and "Im not the sell out, Im the one who was betrayed!"

everyone had found reasons and excuses for their actions. people are typically like that and the reason being is this: we crave acceptance so much, that we avoid rejection and criticism at all costs.



people at a factory didnt want to wear their hard hats all the time. for their own safety. the man in charge of safety would go by, in an authoritive voice and say "HEY, PUT ON YOUR HARD HATS. ITS THE RULES."

they would, then later theyd walk away and take them off. like fukk him dont tell me what to do

then later he decided to change up his approach and say "hey, is that hat uncomfortable or the wrong size? remember to put them on, its for you own safety."

he got more positive responses and people tended to keep them on afterwards. his approach to the problem changed from criticism to concern, and he got better results from it.


so while this answer goes around the issue a bit, the point here is that people will duck and dodge being at fault until their face is blue. women especially. we have to accept that may happen.

the best approach to a problem when we see its happening before our face, is to have the ability to show concern about the issue at hand, but still have the power over this situation to where we call the shots. direct criticism can result in lies, anger, and hard feelings.

we just can never let someone redefine a relationship or what happened in the past to the point where we just go along with it. we in effect compromise our own integrity. its bs and we know it.

so the best solution is to access the issue early and once its been acknowledged, call the final shot. wrapping ourselves in the emotion of the situation and how wrong the other person is doesnt do anything but draw out all the negatives in a situation. we will argue with them over something that they themselves will not admit any faul in. thats delusional shyt.

yeah but how many times does a man cheat on a woman and blame her? usually if a man gets caught cheating he'll own it and try to talk her down on some i made a mistake stuff or tell her he still loves her and try to work it out. a woman will cheat on a man and blame him and totally feel like its his fault she did it even if deep down she wanted to do it and was just looking for an excuse to do so.

 

[CrossBones]

perfect vision is the key to your life and how youre going to live it. we need requirements in place so that our standards can be kept up. in order for us to attain what we really want we need to know what will and wont work in the frame.

too many of us, seem to work within a loose frame in life and let it all just happen as it goes. we assume that going to school will give us a good future. but to what? and doing what? and how far do you want to go in that field? what position are you aiming for really? whats the highest you want to get in there? where are you really going to be happy?

how thorough, and honest to ourselves are we that we have crystal clear life goals in our head, so that we're not just out there floating and trying to fit in with what we're "supposed" to do? do we know what standards we should have that would make us happy? do we know what it takes from us, in order for us to fulfill our vision accordingly?

it seems like we compromise our own goals by either 1) not having them in place so we end up doing whatever, and getting tied up with whoever, or 2) letting the vision go - only to realize later that we shouldnt have, and 3) not having the standards set realistically, so that we know what to look for to make our recipe successful. and it all has to be made ahead of time.

why is it that we approach it like, I guess Im going to play the field now since this didnt work. or, I need to get married soon - so we end up chosing the wrong one just to be in a rush. too reactionary and not forward thinking enough.

if we knew ahead of time that we wanted to play the field, then why are we getting stuck in relationships when we dont want to be in? we didnt nip the issue in the bud to start off, thats why. our cookbook of success wasnt prepared right, thats all.

why do we try to settle down with a girl when she doesnt really hold you down like that to begin with? she isnt interested in YOUR goals, so why is she on the team even? if you had to be high status and on point to talk to her, and then when youre low she doesnt want to fukk with you, there can never really be a fair exchange on this level. do you want to stay in that? at least know what it is and not delude yourself so when the time comes, youre not caught off guard.

so, who is your ideal girl? what is it about a woman that makes you want to keep her? and what is it about a girl that makes sure you want to avoid her? you cant just keep buckshotting at women in your life, hoping soon you hit the jackpot if you just stick it out with her. not when you can find the right ingrediants beforehand to make sure if shes right or not.

the standards must always be in play.

bottomline, what does she do for you? and when? is she cooperative or not?

then, how many kids do you want, and at what time in your life would be best for it? what kind of place are yall going to live to be happy? wait until school is over to marry her? do you even want to be married? know this BEFORE fukking with any woman. have your ideals set, so that you wont be backed into a corner later. and make sure you chose someone who has the right stuff. otherwise, abort.

without this list, this code to abide by, we will be at the mercy of other people and wherever life chooses to take you.

choosing any old thing just out of love, is an emotional issue. it might sound cold, but you need the right standards in order to have your happiness straight and your goals right.

get some time out. and really think. really now picture your life, and what the pot of gold and treasure that you want consists of. then look at how to get it. always make sure in your life, that youre not compromising your vision and integrity. have it so youre not going to be looking back at things saying, I knew I shouldnt have given up on .... (myself)

if we start living real random and at the whims of someone else, we start losing our vision, and our plan. and no, not everything is going to work out exactly as we want it to, but how far are you willing to deviate from that plan? just how much of your recipe needs to be in play for something to work out for you? and for what good reason would there ever be to compromise your vision? answer that yourself.

 

[philmonroe]

I just got caught up in "How to Win Friends and Inlfuence People" and the first chapter is about that. a murderer, al capone, a failed politician who managed a record loss for his party, and a man wrapped up in an oil scandal who used the military to protect his oil reserves all came down and admitted in the end "To all whom it may concern deep down I was a kind hearted individual who would never harm another human being." "I am a giver to the community and made sure people were fed" "I dont see how I could have done things any different" and "Im not the sell out, Im the one who was betrayed!"

everyone had found reasons and excuses for their actions. people are typically like that and the reason being is this: we crave acceptance so much, that we avoid rejection and criticism at all costs.



people at a factory didnt want to wear their hard hats all the time. for their own safety. the man in charge of safety would go by, in an authoritive voice and say "HEY, PUT ON YOUR HARD HATS. ITS THE RULES."

they would, then later theyd walk away and take them off. like fukk him dont tell me what to do

then later he decided to change up his approach and say "hey, is that hat uncomfortable or the wrong size? remember to put them on, its for you own safety."

he got more positive responses and people tended to keep them on afterwards. his approach to the problem changed from criticism to concern, and he got better results from it.


so while this answer goes around the issue a bit, the point here is that people will duck and dodge being at fault until their face is blue. women especially. we have to accept that may happen.

the best approach to a problem when we see its happening before our face, is to have the ability to show concern about the issue at hand, but still have the power over this situation to where we call the shots. direct criticism can result in lies, anger, and hard feelings.

we just can never let someone redefine a relationship or what happened in the past to the point where we just go along with it. we in effect compromise our own integrity. its bs and we know it.

so the best solution is to access the issue early and once its been acknowledged, call the final shot. wrapping ourselves in the emotion of the situation and how wrong the other person is doesnt do anything but draw out all the negatives in a situation. we will argue with them over something that they themselves will not admit any faul in. thats delusional shyt.

Dang its so funny everytime I see somebody that reads this book and I can tell you read it by the stories. Its a good book that everybody should read and think and grow rich.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Nudie
There are 32,000 more black women than black men in Canada

 

[gameover82]

What type of trickery is this

 

[CrossBones]

yeah but how many times does a man cheat on a woman and blame her? usually if a man gets caught cheating he'll own it and try to talk her down on some i made a mistake stuff or tell her he still loves her and try to work it out. a woman will cheat on a man and blame him and totally feel like its his fault she did it even if deep down she wanted to do it and was just looking for an excuse to do so.

"I can do things with the next girl I cant with her" "she is getting kind of fat" "this other girl was giving me play and I didnt even have to do nothing!" "but this girl ass was fat " "she doesnt have to know"

sure, women make more excuses to a man when shes caught, which is what youre saying, but thats because shes meant to be in the subserviant role. a woman has to answer to us. this doesnt absolve a man and his ability to ever do wrong, but as her provider and as the man, we dont really have to explain everything to her. we're the bosses. our role is just to make sure we dont fukk up that position. youre saying, that men wont lie about our role in cheating like them, but thats only part of the issue. as leaders we end up shouldering more responsibility for any mistake anyways. even though we dont have control over another person, thats just the dynamics of it. they answer to us, and in turn they turn into children making excuses.

at times, people in general, will find reasons to do wrong and make it sound right. especially to someone they are under. thats really the gist of it.

 

[philmonroe]

perfect vision is the key to your life and how youre going to live it. we need requirements in place so that our standards can be kept up. in order for us to attain what we really want we need to know what will and wont work in the frame.

too many of us, seem to work within a loose frame in life and let it all just happen as it goes. we assume that going to school will give us a good future. but to what? and doing what? and how far do you want to go in that field? what position are you aiming for really? whats the highest you want to get in there? where are you really going to be happy?

how thorough, and honest to ourselves are we that we have crystal clear life goals in our head, so that we're not just out there floating and trying to fit in with what we're "supposed" to do? do we know what standards we should have that would make us happy? do we know what it takes from us, in order for us to fulfill our vision accordingly?

it seems like we compromise our own goals by either 1) not having them in place so we end up doing whatever, and getting tied up with whoever, or 2) letting the vision go - only to realize later that we shouldnt have, and 3) not having the standards set realistically, so that we know what to look for to make our recipe successful. and it all has to be made ahead of time.

why is it that we approach it like, I guess Im going to play the field now since this didnt work. or, I need to get married soon - so we end up chosing the wrong one just to be in a rush. too reactionary and not forward thinking enough.

if we knew ahead of time that we wanted to play the field, then why are we getting stuck in relationships when we dont want to be in? we didnt nip the issue in the bud to start off, thats why. our cookbook of success wasnt prepared right, thats all.

why do we try to settle down with a girl when she doesnt really hold you down like that to begin with? she isnt interested in YOUR goals, so why is she on the team even? if you had to be high status and on point to talk to her, and then when youre low she doesnt want to fukk with you, there can never really be a fair exchange on this level. do you want to stay in that? at least know what it is and not delude yourself so when the time comes, youre not caught off guard.

so, who is your ideal girl? what is it about a woman that makes you want to keep her? and what is it about a girl that makes sure you want to avoid her? you cant just keep buckshotting at women in your life, hoping soon you hit the jackpot if you just stick it out with her. not when you can find the right ingrediants beforehand to make sure if shes right or not.

the standards must always be in play.

bottomline, what does she do for you? and when? is she cooperative or not?

then, how many kids do you want, and at what time in your life would be best for it? what kind of place are yall going to live to be happy? wait until school is over to marry her? do you even want to be married? know this BEFORE fukking with any woman. have your ideals set, so that you wont be backed into a corner later. and make sure you chose someone who has the right stuff. otherwise, abort.

without this list, this code to abide by, we will be at the mercy of other people and wherever life chooses to take you.

choosing any old thing just out of love, is an emotional issue. it might sound cold, but you need the right standards in order to have your happiness straight and your goals right.

get some time out. and really think. really now picture your life, and what the pot of gold and treasure that you want consists of. then look at how to get it. always make sure in your life, that youre not compromising your vision and integrity. have it so youre not going to be looking back at things saying, I knew I shouldnt have given up on .... (myself)

if we start living real random and at the whims of someone else, we start losing our vision, and our plan. and no, not everything is going to work out exactly as we want it to, but how far are you willing to deviate from that plan? just how much of your recipe needs to be in play for something to work out for you? and for what good reason would there ever be to compromise your vision? answer that yourself.

This post is so true but regarding bold truthfully alot of people aren't going to say it but the only time some can be "players" and the like is when they have someone. They not aggressive when they don't have that safety help (football fans know) but when they do most aggressive corners in the world. I tell my friends not to make fun but I just notice how once they already have a girl they get real bold approaching other women since they know win/lose they have someone at home. I wish those types would be like that without having to have a chick at home.

Believe it or not some guys stay with a chick when they know the final outcome because she is good looking and subconsciously then didn't think they could get her. That has to be one of the top reasons cause like I always say alot of guys let females get away with stuff they would never let male friends get away with. I've always said I want a chick that is like my male closest friends but a female version but until I find that just will enjoy life as I have been.

 

[sixsixtwo]

"1. Realize it’s not her, it’s you.

When you get needy or oneitisy, you’re going to think it’s because she’s Not Like The Rest™ or because She’s So Great™ or because She’s So Hot™. It’s actually none of these things. The issue at hand is you, not her. The feelings of oneitis are being generated from within you, they are not something being transmitted from her to you, at least not in the literal sense.

“But BD, you don’t understand. I’ve fukked 57 women and this chick really Is Different™. I’m not just saying that because I’m some dumb AFC. She really is.”

First of all, you’re in NRE. That means you’re probably wrong about that assessment because you’re in a wildly irrational (though pleasurable) state. After a few months, once the NRE has died down, many guys have been “shocked” to find out that little miss Not Like The Rest™ is really Just Like The Rest, Only A Little Better™.

Second, even if she is different, by getting needy/oneitisy with her you are failing to remember two things:

A. There are other women out there like her. Statistically, there are millions of women out there just as good as her or better.

B. She’s not going to be in your life forever. Women don’t do that. In the modern era, ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE TEMPORARY, and that includes marriage. Making long-term commitments to a woman is an extremely dangerous thing to do these days, and if you do it while in the throws of NRE, neediness, or oneitis, it’s just that much worse.

2. Realize it’s just chemicals in your brain.

Allow me to quote Franco:


Falling in love is an organic (biological) psychosis the purpose of which is to keep two individuals long enough together to guarantee pregnancy to happen and the care of the child long enough for the child to survive.

Amen.

For you Disney guys, this chick is not your soul mate. She is not the One You’ve Always Been Looking For™.

For you loser guys, this chick is not the Only Woman Who Will fukk Me™.

For you players, this chick is not Ms. Not Like The Rest™.

In all cases, she’s just something you’re looking at that’s creating a temporary biochemical reaction in your brain rendering you very happy, stupid and irrational.

Now look. I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy a new woman in your life. I certainly enjoy that all the time. I even get NRE from time to time (I never get oneitis, but I do get NRE sometimes). So enjoy the good feelings. Consistent good feelings are what life is all about. The minute you start getting needy, or pussing out, or start to beta yourself, or stop focusing on other women, or start making compromises or promises to little miss Not Like The Rest™, you need to understand you’re placing the future of your life at risk for a few squirts of chemicals in your brain.

Keep this shyt in perspective."

Read more: Nine Steps To Avoid Neediness and Oneitis | The Blackdragon Blog

 

[kevm3]

When you really start winning with women is when you stop caring.
WHen you don't care what they think of you. When you stop parsing your conversation to try to please her. When you stop trying to shoot these women exclusive contracts... Why does this work? Because she no longer has power over you. Women always seek a man more powerful than her, both mentally and physically. A lot of men realize the PHYSICAL part, as in a woman doesn't want to deal with a man she can beat up, but they don't realize the MENTAL portion of the game. If she can take advantage of you mentally, manipulate you and disrespect you, then she will see you as mentally weak and act accordingly.

Stop catering to these women and getting emotionally hooked to them. They really shouldn't be the problem that they are in this day and age. Relationships should be SIMPLE, but we allow these women to throw things in a twist because we get too caught up on them emotionally and try to force something to work that the woman doesn't want to work. When you can get to the point of sending a woman out the door at any second and can keep it pushing in your life, then that's when a lot of these problems will go away.