I've had the same type of conversation with a female friend of mine. She actually saw i was right and felt a little depressed, lol. I said almost the exact same things you said and she kept asking me what she could do as a woman to find happiness and be in a good relationship. I told her being a woman, the best she could do is better herself and bring something to the table besides sex. I told her to be the best person she can be, and strive to better herself.but Reincar I think the issue is only because Nash was the poisonous one. She wasnt.
Anyways I needa let out a rant relative to another thing I've learned given the Nigerian girl. After we got off the phone I was telling her that in a world with 7 Billion people she will be hard pressed to find a man that is perfect for her and in sync with all her principles, values etc. My sentiment is that these things take work, patience and compromise from both parties. She was working but i guess she just ran out of gas.
Anyways...her reply to this was, "but why settle." Why settle for some body who isnt 100% perfect for you or at least damn near close. It's crazy the idea these women have about the game and how it works. Here you have a woman that basically hasnt had to work for anything in life and consequently I guess her dad's spoilage has transpired to ordinary life situations to the point where she doesnt wanna work to even build a relationship.These women will be the first to tell you, "I dont approach guys" yet still believe that they will run in to Mr. Perfect who has to do all the below:
A) Notice her,
B) Find her attractive enough
C) Catch a good vibe
D) The hardest part which is muster up the courage to talk to her even if A/B are good
E) Not say anything stupid to eff it up because he is nervous
Just to get the number and take it from there. And then with him being so great he must brush off the temptation all other women just for the sake of this lone female indefinitely. He must ignore the risk when she can easily just say, "You know what, I aint feeling this nikka anymore" and leave without a consequence.
I guess they think God will put off fixing world peace and finding a cure for diseases just to give em a man. The almight father will shine a light through the sky and everything. If only it were that simple; we'd all win.
and finally i told her after that, that she has no choice in the matter. She will go to the guy she finds the most attractive that approaches her anyway. All she can do is hope and pray that this dude doesn't end up being abusive because once she chooses him and submits to him, he owns her. So she better hope he's righteous. then she started talking about how it's not fair and how we can be such a$$holes as men and i realized i was probably just wasting my time trying to teach game to someone who simply doesn't want to learn. She also told me she shouldn't have to settle and she deserves to be happy and all of this entitlement mentality. I just zoned out at some point.
,her sister tried to arrange for me to get a great position with her company,somehow it fell thru. Then my ex tried to help as well.Remind you I didnt ask my ex to help,it was sort of like the scene from "Soul Food" when Nia Long tried to pull strings for Lem (Mekhi Phifer) when he didnt want her to help cause he felt he can find a job on his own.It was same thing here (minus me not having a record).Long story short. A woman may tell you,she will stick thru tough times yaddda yadda but best believe she will complain to her homegirl and maybe sister bout you being unemployed.WOmen dont understand stuff happens,especially in these times we are living. Loyalty is a rare trait.Thats what made our grandparents and parents marriages successful..."For better or worst" meant good times and bad times.In 2012 going into 2013 its now "When it gets worst" bail.
) or charismatic, rich etc she stuck with my dad because she knew that at the very least he could educate his children. (My dad is a PhD Civil Engineer) I wonder how many girls have that same mentality.
sort of like Jack Arnold from Wonder Years
Whats sad is the humble women are the waitresses,unemployed and blue collar ones.Once a woman gets a job they acting out on some ATL Diva-Housewive stuff.