Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I have a big issue....

You see, it's not that I'm a complete lame, it's just that I don't always have the ability to make women laugh. For one, it's my sense of humor (dark, twisted, snide, etc.) Not saying it's too advanced on some pretentious shyt, but there aren't too many females that appreciate that kind of humor. Two, I'm not very good at feigning small talk, therefore I'm not very good at making little corny jokes and shyt. The fact that I haven't even been able to get out to practice and socialize makes things even more frustrating....


Reread your post and you’ll see the problem.

All this negative self projection no wonder your having issues,


It’s not your job to be a talented comedian to every girl you meet nor should you want to.


Its your job to find a girl that feeling you and cooperating, becuz what’s funny to one person might be digusting, corny, or lame to the next :yeshrug:
 

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How can I stop being so sprung?

I just started dating this girl a few weeks ago, and I am deeply in love with her and I’m not sure she really feels the same.

Everytime she needs something or wants something from me, I get it. I’ve had a couple girlfriends before but she is one of the finest and is real popular at school. She confides in me everything about life and all that

Some of my friends that are more experienced with girls have been clowning on me, and I came in here and started reading post and realized I’m fukkng up again!

How can I fall back on her some but still show her I care brehs?
 

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fukk more women.


How can I stop being so sprung?

I just started dating this girl a few weeks ago, and I am deeply in love with her and I’m not sure she really feels the same.

Everytime she needs something or wants something from me, I get it. I’ve had a couple girlfriends before but she is one of the finest and is real popular at school. She confides in me everything about life and all that

Some of my friends that are more experienced with girls have been clowning on me, and I came in here and started reading post and realized I’m fukkng up again!

How can I fall back on her some but still show her I care brehs?
 

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I have a big issue....

You see, it's not that I'm a complete lame, it's just that I don't always have the ability to make women laugh. For one, it's my sense of humor (dark, twisted, snide, etc.) Not saying it's too advanced on some pretentious shyt, but there aren't too many females that appreciate that kind of humor. Two, I'm not very good at feigning small talk, therefore I'm not very good at making little corny jokes and shyt. The fact that I haven't even been able to get out to practice and socialize makes things even more frustrating....

Simple....every chick you see out in public.....smile at em n speak to em.

“Good morning”

“Good afternoon”

“Hey how u doing?”

You’ll be surprised
 

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I have a big issue....

You see, it's not that I'm a complete lame, it's just that I don't always have the ability to make women laugh. For one, it's my sense of humor (dark, twisted, snide, etc.) Not saying it's too advanced on some pretentious shyt, but there aren't too many females that appreciate that kind of humor. Two, I'm not very good at feigning small talk, therefore I'm not very good at making little corny jokes and shyt. The fact that I haven't even been able to get out to practice and socialize makes things even more frustrating....
you'd be surprised at how many women are in to the same type of humour as you. I know this one girl (super attractive) we would always be awkward with eachother and i had her pegged as a softie. But then one day i made a twisted joke (forgot what it was about) and she started laughing really hard and added on. Then i told her "you are evil, didn't know you had a dark side like that." in a teasing way. she replied" every one has a dark side". And ever since then we've been cool with each other.

You have to be you unapologetically. When you make your jokes or whatever, you can't be afraid cause it comes off as weak and trying too hard to impress her. Say your shyt without giving a fukk if she still likes you or not. Or if she laughs or not. Or if shyt gets awkward. You're not a clown who's job is to entertain her. Your only job is to be you and keep perfecting you for the benefit of you. Other people getting joy and entertainment out of it is just a happy side effect. Stop trying to impress and shift it towards trying to express more.
 
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How can I stop being so sprung?

I just started dating this girl a few weeks ago, and I am deeply in love with her and I’m not sure she really feels the same.

Everytime she needs something or wants something from me, I get it. I’ve had a couple girlfriends before but she is one of the finest and is real popular at school. She confides in me everything about life and all that

Some of my friends that are more experienced with girls have been clowning on me, and I came in here and started reading post and realized I’m fukkng up again!

How can I fall back on her some but still show her I care brehs?

You're fukking up breh. :smugdraper:
 

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Simple....every chick you see out in public.....smile at em n speak to em.

“Good morning”

“Good afternoon”

“Hey how u doing?”

You’ll be surprised

I think I should get out of my head and start doing that....I always worry about coming off as awkward....

you'd be surprised at how many women are in to the same type of humour as you. I know this one girl (super attractive) we would always be awkward with eachother and i had her pegged as a softie. But then one day i made a twisted joke (forgot what it was about) and she started laughing really hard and added on. Then i told her "you are evil, didn't know you had a dark side like that." in a teasing way. she replied" every one has a dark side". And ever since then we've been cool with each other.

You have to be you unapologetically. When you make your jokes or whatever, you can't be afraid cause it comes off as weak and trying too hard to impress her. Say your shyt without giving a fukk if she still likes you or not. Or if she laughs or not. Or if shyt gets awkward. You're not a clown who's job is to entertain her. Your only job is to be you and keep perfecting you for the benefit of you. Other people getting joy and entertainment out of it is just a happy side effect. Stop trying to impress and shift it towards trying to express more

The last paragraph is exactly whats wrong with me. It stems from living most of my life in sorrow, thus its like my brain is just used to processing negative energy even when I'm conciously trying to keep it out...

It's like a good part of me is confident, but there are still thought patterns that are tripping me up...
 

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I think I should get out of my head and start doing that....I always worry about coming off as awkward....



The last paragraph is exactly whats wrong with me. It stems from living most of my life in sorrow, thus its like my brain is just used to processing negative energy even when I'm conciously trying to keep it out...

It's like a good part of me is confident, but there are still thought patterns that are tripping me up...
being conscious of it is the first step. You just gotta work on constantly reworking on your thought patterns.
 

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I be trying to understand why a chick be feeling entitled to things just for fukking, ain’t putting no money in my pocket
 
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Discuss.

The frustration of meeting women and being alone when you actually WANT somebody.

The games and rejection can get pretty heavy at times.

Literally, this is the issue. You have to not want them for them to even consider it. I'm not talking about fake not wanting someone. I mean you have to have 200% conviction in your soul when you walk around that you're the shyt and you don't need anyone, no matter how good they look. When you reach that point, trust me you'll know. Just work on improving your mentality to shift more towards that end of the spectrum; convince yourself that you literally need no chick. Not even for sex.

The dudes that get the most p*ssy naturally don't even care for it.
 
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You have to be you unapologetically. When you make your jokes or whatever, you can't be afraid cause it comes off as weak and trying too hard to impress her. Say your shyt without giving a fukk if she still likes you or not. Or if she laughs or not. Or if shyt gets awkward. You're not a clown who's job is to entertain her. Your only job is to be you and keep perfecting you for the benefit of you. Other people getting joy and entertainment out of it is just a happy side effect. Stop trying to impress and shift it towards trying to express more.

Dope shyt. Great advice.
 

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How can I stop being so sprung?

I just started dating this girl a few weeks ago, and I am deeply in love with her and I’m not sure she really feels the same.

Everytime she needs something or wants something from me, I get it. I’ve had a couple girlfriends before but she is one of the finest and is real popular at school. She confides in me everything about life and all that

Some of my friends that are more experienced with girls have been clowning on me, and I came in here and started reading post and realized I’m fukkng up again!

How can I fall back on her some but still show her I care brehs?

Is this the same one who going to college That you was talking to us about?
 
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