Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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You right. I managed to cut her off but the comfort zone was too much. Luckily I got a bag coming in from savings and work so I can improve myself.

I got her a job at my work so Imma have to transfer.

Fr sometimes I feel like I’m shaming my brothers with this shyt but we all gotta learn.

Won’t let me rep but always appreciate your insight and advice.


Why breh, why?????

She ate good off of you and left you high and dry.

Don't do shyt for any woman - let her make her own way. Unless we are together, I ain't putting a broad on anything.

Hope you learned your lesson on this one.
 

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Why breh, why?????

She ate good off of you and left you high and dry.

Don't do shyt for any woman - let her make her own way. Unless we are together, I ain't putting a broad on anything.

Hope you learned your lesson on this one.

It’s my nature man. I’m way too selfless and not even simp shyt, I’m one of those people who will give you the shirt off my back,male or female. I cant eat and watch others around me struggle.

I’m tryna change but it’s hard. I’m starting to understand people will take advantage.
 

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Someone is about to get bushed....​
 
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It’s my nature man. I’m way too selfless and not even simp shyt, I’m one of those people who will give you the shirt off my back,male or female. I cant eat and watch others around me struggle.

I’m tryna change but it’s hard. I’m starting to understand people will take advantage.

I learned this the hard way...

Worry about yaself and put energy into you...
People not gonna jump out the window the same way you would for them..
Nothing wrong with getting her a job, i think you thought that was an entry into her vagina..
 

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I learned this the hard way...

Worry about yaself and put energy into you...
People not gonna jump out the window the same way you would for them..
Nothing wrong with getting her a job, i think you thought that was an entry into her vagina..

Nah, Im naive and dumb but I’m not stupid enough to think thats how things work.

If I give you some shyt then it’s no ulterior motives, we both know women don’t really appreciate shyt anyway.

I offered several of my friends the opportunity but only she took it. And in her credit, she would probably do the same in return.

I genuinely just give way too much out and it’s draining. I’m tryna psychoanalyze why I do it in all honesty.
 

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Nah, Im naive and dumb but I’m not stupid enough to think thats how things work.

If I give you some shyt then it’s no ulterior motives, we both know women don’t really appreciate shyt anyway.

I offered several of my friends the opportunity but only she took it. And in her credit, she would probably do the same in return.

I genuinely just give way too much out and it’s draining. I’m tryna psychoanalyze why I do it in all honesty.

So what exactly went wrong with this female?
You said she would have looked out for you, so what did you want from her in return?:patrice:
 

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It’s my nature man. I’m way too selfless and not even simp shyt, I’m one of those people who will give you the shirt off my back,male or female. I cant eat and watch others around me struggle.

I’m tryna change but it’s hard. I’m starting to understand people will take advantage.


I understand what you saying, but at some point, you have to accept the fact that you can't help everyone. Now if she was just a friend in the beginning, then that's different. But if it was some chick you was trying to get with - you wrong for that in my point of view. You have to look at the end game on how things may end up...
 

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So what exactly went wrong with this female?
You said she would have looked out for you, so what did you want from her in return?:patrice:

What went wrong is that I didnt shoot my shot over a year ago. Too scared of getting curved and peeped her game. The lines have become blurred now and I cant even tell my emotions apart.

It’s confusing because I don’t think I even like her, theres no common
ground but I think it’s like the “old” me likes her. Theres some emotion there but I know deep down that she has too many options, doesnt want to commit and is manipulative.

I didnt want anything from her in return for the job part, thats a seperate thing that I did for basically everyone not just her.
 

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I understand what you saying, but at some point, you have to accept the fact that you can't help everyone. Now if she was just a friend in the beginning, then that's different. But if it was some chick you was trying to get with - you wrong for that in my point of view. You have to look at the end game on how things may end up...

Expound on how Im wrong breh :ohhh:


The job was recent but I was tryna get with her ages ago but fell back

I know I aint playing this right but this shyt is a dub. I just want out before it eats me up :francis:
 

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What went wrong is that I didnt shoot my shot over a year ago. Too scared of getting curved and peeped her game. The lines have become blurred now and I cant even tell my emotions apart.

It’s confusing because I don’t think I even like her, theres no common
ground but I think it’s like the “old” me likes her. Theres some emotion there but I know deep down that she has too many options, doesnt want to commit and is manipulative.

I didnt want anything from her in return for the job part, thats a seperate thing that I did for basically everyone not just her.

Your not being honest..:pachaha:

If you just admit that you thought it would get you brownie points, it would be easier to move on and take your L..

You can't separate feelings because you got her a job..it don't work that way..there was a part of you who thought that there was a chance somewhere to wiggle in there
 

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Expound on how Im wrong breh :ohhh:


The job was recent but I was tryna get with her ages ago but fell back

I know I aint playing this right but this shyt is a dub. I just want out before it eats me up :francis:


doing things like setting her up for job - AT YOUR PLACE - is way out of pocket... now you talking about you have to get transferred... see how you fukked up your shyt and not hers? take care of yourself first, people second.

Answer me this: Is she going to ask for a transfer? I bet a my Coli cash that's a no. that's what i mean when you are wrong. Don't shyt where you eat at. Thats why i never put friends on where I work at - NEVER. I'll help them get a job somehwere else, but not where i work out. too many things can cause the work environment to go south
 

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Your not being honest..:pachaha:

If you just admit that you thought it would get you brownie points, it would be easier to move on and take your L..

You can't separate feelings because you got her a job..it don't work that way..there was a part of you who thought that there was a chance somewhere to wiggle in there

I can see why you think this but fr it wasnt a specific thing for her. I legit told everyone.

Infact my other friend who worked there first actually told us both originally, I just managed to get in months before she did.

If I expected sex or a relationship in exchange for a job, lord knows Id be in some :dame: situations.

But yeah apart from the job, I am fukking up Ill be honest. :manny:
 

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doing things like setting her up for job - AT YOUR PLACE - is way out of pocket... now you talking about you have to get transferred... see how you fukked up your shyt and not hers? take care of yourself first, people second.

Answer me this: Is she going to ask for a transfer? I bet a my Coli cash that's a no. that's what i mean when you are wrong. Don't shyt where you eat at. Thats why i never put friends on where I work at - NEVER. I'll help them get a job somehwere else, but not where i work out. too many things can cause the work environment to go south

Lesson learnt I guess. Sometimes as a youngin you gotta get burnt to realise not to play with fire.

Atleast Ill be getting more pay now:pachaha:
 

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I watched a decent amount of the Corey Wayne videos on his YouTube...

One point that he stressed was basically don’t text/talk to females too much or they’ll lose interest...

I agree 100% with that...

But here’s where I have a unique situation and don’t know how to handle it..


I have a female I met through a fb group back in September ... We started talking on message, then FaceTime/text all that... We ended up vibing so well that she came out here to CHICAGO (from TEXAS) the third week of November

Everything went great, we vibed just as well in person as we did on the phone...


So now she’s coming back out here in the middle of January ...


My issue is how do I keep someone interested in another state without over doing it on the communication...

She’s the type that’ll text me good morning & have whole random convos through out the day leading into night time then a good night text...

I don’t wanna text too much and fck it up like you can with any other female but then again it’s not like I can just pull up & see her in person whenever so phone calls/snaps/FaceTime is all we can do...

How should I handle this
 
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