Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[sixsixtwo]

Reading this give me douche-chills, blech..

"I've been with my boyfriend for 5+ years and we've been living together for 2.5 years. He makes double what I make and yet we still split things 50-50, right down the middle. I have been ok with doing that so far, because my mum sends me $600 a month to go towards my rent. That all ends in December.

We are moving to a bigger apartment, at his insistence, next week, where my share of the monthly rent will be 69% of my bimonthly paycheque.

Every time I bring up the fact that I would like to look into how we can split our finances more fairly, my boyfriend gets upset and seems to think that I'm just looking for a free ride.

That is not the case at all, I just want the same opportunity that he has to pay off his debts. Right now, my bimonthly paycheques bring me juuuuuust back into the clear from my overdraft, but then with all the bills and expenses, I have spent most of my money within 4 days and have to try to last the next week and a half on $100 (impossible).

I have tried to explain to him that a lot of couples split their expenses based on income levels and he seemed repulsed by the idea at first. Now he is KIND of warming up to it, but is only willing to pay an extra $100 for rent/month and pay slightly more for groceries.

That doesn't really help at all and I can't get him to see that this is driving me crazy. I need advice on how to approach him and how to explain why we need to do this. Please, please help!"

My boyfriend makes double what I make and insists that we split payments on everything 50-50. I need advice! : TwoXChromosomes

 

[Red Omega]

Some of the antics I been using with the girl I been seeing lately that have been working incredibly well.

-Mention hardly anything about your personal life, try to come off as a mystery. Eventually you will get the "I still haven't figured you out" line which is a good thing.

-Something I had read on here previously about showing different sides of yourself all the time, one day by crazy talkative, next day be quiet, next day be sexual, next day be distant. This will keep her on edge.

-The last thing you ever want is to come off predictable, or for a chick to have "figured you out" once that happens you are no longer interesting to them.

This chick been paying for dates and actually went and bought us knicks tickets because she knew I was a huge fan.

Be confident, don't say too much and slang good dikk and you will always be good, but when and not if, but when the day comes she switches up, always be ready to cancel that bytch with no hesitation

 

[MikelArteta]

The less you say the less you can mess up, I'm naturally introvert, so I'm always quiet and observant. Women love to talk so let them spill the beans on everything, being quiet chicks will think something is wrong that they did something and will try and make it up to you.

I used to do that, text a chick all the time then go cold and shed wonder what she did wrong

 

[MikelArteta]

Leykis is killing it today with the car analogy

 

[sixsixtwo]

Wedded bliss:

"I've been with my wife fourteen years, and got my first blowjob just this past March. I never thought I'd get one, and always carried a lingering sadness about the fact that I would never get that form of acceptance from her. She still won't go to completion with them, and has said flat out that she will never swallow, so I will live with what I get. And there is hope, I was told fourteen years ago I would never get a blowjob from her either."

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

Leykis is killing it today with the car analogy

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[sixsixtwo]

"The only thing that has really given me some solace is realizing that it was really my own fault. My wife has been pretty authentic throughout our relationship. Unlike a lot of the men here with wives who were all over them at the start, she was never into sex really and quickly she tapered it off. She never really pretended to be a sexual person, although she was of course more willing at the start, as everybody is. It was 100% my fault for just accepting it and not expecting more. I was too scared to throw away the first relationship I had. I thought I'd never find another and so I just accepted it instead of dealing with all of my insecurities.


Now it's me that has changed. I finally dealt with those insecurities and want a real relationship now (as in it feels real to me). The issue is that she never wanted this. She indicated from the start that she was looking for a beta provider to have children with. I was that guy at the time. I was very beta and subservient to women. I thought that this is what you do. I thought I couldn't be a guy with options. I had no idea what was really important to me or thought about long term consequences. So of course I ended up with a low/no drive woman who wasn't interested in the arousal part of attraction. Now if I ask for that she sees it as me changing the agreement. She never wanted the alpha sexual guy who stuck up for himself, but that's who I've become.


My now demanding sex from a woman who was never into it just causes strife in our relationship. I can't alpha my way into her desiring me because she never really did. She was attracted to me on a mental level for sure - as a nice guy who would be a good provider and father. I am still that, but now I see that I won't be happy indefinitely being married to a friend. So really, it's my own fault for not dealing with my issues before entering into relationships. I should have dated a lot more and got to know what I needed out of life. I shouldn't have just jumped and held onto the first woman who was interested in me. Of course that wouldn't work out in retrospect.


It really is ME that is being unfair and changing the conditions of the relationship. In that way, do I not have a responsibility to lie in the bed I made and find a way to be happy? Does my family not deserve this?"

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

Yup

Like the saying goes, whoever hesitates usual lose. Just wish her for the best and KIM.

 

[MikelArteta]

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[Akata Man Bromo]

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Repped

 

[MikelArteta]

Leykis going in on simps changing religions moving away, getting pets and children because of a "nice piece of ass"

 

[malbaker86]

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[MikelArteta]

I don’t have time to really do this justice, but I’ll take a quick shot at it. I share your view in wanting marriage for both men and women. This is why I write on the topics I write about. Marriage is too essential to turn our backs on, even though it has suffered great violence from the culture, the state, and a treacherous church.

The analogy I’ll offer isn’t perfect but hopefully gets the basic idea across. Those of us who are happily married are sitting in a fine restaurant, enjoying our meals. Outside are a crowd of would be patrons, but the restaurant is full and they won’t be seated. However, the crowd outside decides to make the best of it. They set up a grill and hold an impromptu cookout. Some number of them comment that they wouldn’t trade sitting in our boring stuffy restaurant for the experience of cooking and eating in the outdoors with the company of the rest of the crowd. While I think the restaurant is better, I’m not going to call out to them, to try to convince them that they really should regret that they didn’t get a table. Instead I’m going to focus what influence I have on making that option available to more diners. I’ll try to get the restaurant down the street to start following the health codes so they don’t poison people. But to do that first I have to take on the corrupt health inspector (the church), etc. Besides, who am I to tell the people making the best of the cookout that they don’t really enjoy being there more than they would enjoy being in the restaurant? Not all of us have the same tastes. Given the lack of options, I truly hope that the cookout is what makes them happy. If someone wants to know how they can get a table I’ll offer the best advice I have on finding one, including advice on avoiding restaurants like the one down the street.

The lack of open tables at the restaurant is visible in the data I’ve shown here, both in delayed marriage trends by women and in the kicking of fathers out of the home. Not everyone gets this “food poisoning”, but those who do can suffer immensely.

Dalrock, although your analogy is interesting, it is incomplete. You need to include the whole picture. And that is, some number of couples in the restaurant suddenly leave; the woman stands up, shrieks to the management that her escort is simply beastly, and a couple of pug-ugly bouncers come, rough him up, take his wallet, beat the snot out of him, and throw him out the back door into the alley. She stays for a while, paying for the meal out of his wallet, and then slowly walks out the front door, to cruise around the barbecue grills for a while.. And everyone pretends nothing just happened, although some murmur of “what did HE do?” floats ’round the room. For some odd reason, there are more and more empty tables in this restaurant. Fewer customers are coming in the front door. Business is down. The restaurant manager worries out loud that his business isn’t going well. But his bouncers continue to beat, rob, and eject men any time a woman demands it.

Those men at the barbecue grills? More than a few of them used to eat in the restaurant. But after getting beaten up, robbed, beaten up some more and thrown away in to the alley, they don’t much care for restaurant food any more. They regard it as too expensive, one way or another.

There is another group circulating around the barbecue grills, and out into the street. These are women who alternate between snacking at the barbecue grills, and importuning men to take them into the restaurant. They insist they only want good restaurant food, as they wipe the grease from the barbeque off of their fingers. Some of these women used to eat in the restaurant, but decided to have their escorts beaten and robbed. For some reason they find it a bit more difficult to get an escort back into the restaurant than previously was the case.

There’s also a shadowy crowd out beyond the barbecue grills that most diners in the restaurant can’t see. This crowd is almost entirely men. Many of them are young, but some are middle-aged or even old. No way they get into the restaurant. Although some of them used to eat there, before they got beaten up, robbed, and thrown into the alley. And nobody wants them too close to the barbecue grills, either. The women who eat at the grills and want into the restaurant scorn them. These men exist in the shadows, chewing on a dried out piece of jerky.

Every once in a while, some fat guy from the restaurant management strolls outside, and hollers at all the men in the street:

“HEY ! Why don’t you Man UP and find a nice lady to escort into this restaurant? The food is great! And if you get beaten, robbed and thrown in the alley it’s all your fault! C’mon in! Be a man!”

Most of the women stand with him, and echo his “Man UP!” call, ululating in chorus. The barbecue crowd jeers at him. The men in the shadows gnaw on their dried out jerky and stare at him in utter silence. He goes back into the failing restaurant and tells everyone inside how great the service is. As he speaks, another male patron is beaten, robbed, and as he’s being ejected out the back door he grabs a knife in the kitchen, then stabs himself in the heart and dies in the alley.

No one in the restaurant one says a word, everyone looks away and pretends nothing just happened.

I believe this fills out the scenario a bit. How one views the restaurant depends on where one stands. Sitting in a cozy booth in the back, with family all around, the restaurant is a great place. Standing outside by the barbecue grills, the restaurant may look too expensive, the dress code too stuffy. From across the street in the shadows the restaurant looks good, but seeing man after man being beaten, robbed, and thrown away into a dumpster-strewn alley leads to a different perspective on the restaurant than one might get in the cosy back booth. The view from the backside of the restaurant, the alley? Standing outside, with empty pockets, black eyes, and a broken nose & fingers, the restaurant is a crooked deal, run by thieves, cheats, and liars.

 

[patscorpio]

1 - Handling the "remain friends or keep in contact" tactic females love to use when they don't want a relationship with you (or anyone). This generally happens to us when we are in our teens-early 20's. Women past the age of 25 usually don't do this. Now you can view this in 2 ways - you are not good enough for her, but likes the option that if her current bf hurts her you will take care of her or you have done something right in where she views you as a potential mate in the future...A serious one. Normally our ego is hurt and the first thing would be to text or call back and call her bytch, slut, or whatever possible negative slur you can throw at her. The problem is that those responses only hurt your chances and exposes your bruised ego to not only the female, but to her friends as she will no doubt talk about it with them...this hurts you as well because there is a good chance you will find 2-3 of her friends attractive as well (more down below). The proper way to handle it is to go away, but try to end it as clean and respectful as possible - even if you are crushed inside. I have always been one to look at female-male friendships as interesting as a very high percentage of these cases there is always 1 in the equation that wants it to go along a bit further than the other one does, the longer the "friendship" goes the higher the probability that one is going to develop some extremely strong feelings for the other. Its best that you don't put yourself in that position as inevitably that uncomfortable situation is going to arise, its not a matter of IF...it's a matter of WHEN.

so fukking accurate its ridiculous..esp the bolded because that's what went down with my last ex..she happened to be 25 too...before we were got together..she was like my homie, then turned into a homie/lover/friend, then bf/gf (she pushed the relationship issue in an e-mail to me)...we broke up after a little under 3 months because she didn't want a part time bf who she couldn't see every day (i was travelling for work at that time)..even though i made an effort to call almost every day...talked about maybe in the future we can try it again..i felt like she didn't give it enough time before she made that decision but you can't force someone to be in a relationship with you..so that was that.it ended clean and we went back to the homie/lover/friend for a brief time, then back to homies...full circle shyt lol

now i rarely talk to her or anything these days due to her messing with a man that was married even though dude was going through a separation and defending her actions publicly when ppl criticized it...i don't condone ratchetness so im leaving her alone until she gets her mind right...funny thing is i ignore her...haven't had a convo with her in 2 years, haven't seen her in 3 but she still goes all out to get my attention and keep in contact....added my gf to her FB (never met her before), has convos with her (my gf the shyt outta her in them convos lol), sends me random texts talking about she's seen somebody that looks and acts like me, etc etc..ill never understand fully how the female brain works

 

[patscorpio]

real talk this is prolly the most progressive thread of this whole forum..ive read this thread on and off for the past couple months..you'd think for a thread about dealing with women you'd tend to see repetitive posts on advice and whatnot...i honestly haven't felt like that yet...there's always some new jewel of wisdom or knowledge being dropped by the brehs