One thing a man will realize the more he deals with women is the idiotic game of contradictions that it ultimately entails. Those who you would think women would reward the most are rewarded the least and vice versa. So with that said, there are men women reward with words and there are men that women reward with actions.
When dealing with women, you will often come across these little tests that she will use to check your manhood. If you are not aware of them and you 'fail them,' her behavior towards you will suddenly change for the worst.
There are men women will praise with words. These are the men who often agree with women, cosign their actions whatever they may be and who pattern their behavior after what women say they want. They often take on the traits of women in that they will use shaming language when you attempt to deviate from the rules women have given them to follow and protect. These 'agreeable men' are very quick to cosign what a woman says. They are the 'nice guys' of the bunch and allow women to lead them. Their reward is mostly always verbal. "Awww you're so sweet." "You're such a great friend." "A woman would love to have a man like you (but not me)." "You are marriage material." Women will dole praises on these guys, but beyond perhaps a pity encounter or two, women will avoid dealing with them much more than a few conversations and using them for favors and emotional support.
On the other hand, you have the men who women reward with actions. A lot of times, women will bad mouth these men, but they deal with them in ways the former party could only wish for. "Ugh, he's such a loser." "He doesn't respect women, ugh." "Ugh, I hate him." And yet for some reason, the woman has 2 kids by this guy and has done everything in the book with him and she won't stop dealing with him. In the meanwhile, she is using verbal praise man as a complaint outlet, while he looks on jealously.
The key factor between the two men is the former can be controlled by and caters to the woman, while the later is not able to be controlled and does not cater to the woman. The former man neuters his opinion so as not to offend the woman, while the latter speaks his opinion freely, even if it is offensive to the woman. The former caters his whole nature towards pleasing a woman and making sure she is emotionally satisfied, while the latter does none of that and yet he is the one who has the woman hooked.
Why is this? Forbidden Fruit Syndrome.
I will discuss this in the next post.
When dealing with women, you will often come across these little tests that she will use to check your manhood. If you are not aware of them and you 'fail them,' her behavior towards you will suddenly change for the worst.
There are men women will praise with words. These are the men who often agree with women, cosign their actions whatever they may be and who pattern their behavior after what women say they want. They often take on the traits of women in that they will use shaming language when you attempt to deviate from the rules women have given them to follow and protect. These 'agreeable men' are very quick to cosign what a woman says. They are the 'nice guys' of the bunch and allow women to lead them. Their reward is mostly always verbal. "Awww you're so sweet." "You're such a great friend." "A woman would love to have a man like you (but not me)." "You are marriage material." Women will dole praises on these guys, but beyond perhaps a pity encounter or two, women will avoid dealing with them much more than a few conversations and using them for favors and emotional support.
On the other hand, you have the men who women reward with actions. A lot of times, women will bad mouth these men, but they deal with them in ways the former party could only wish for. "Ugh, he's such a loser." "He doesn't respect women, ugh." "Ugh, I hate him." And yet for some reason, the woman has 2 kids by this guy and has done everything in the book with him and she won't stop dealing with him. In the meanwhile, she is using verbal praise man as a complaint outlet, while he looks on jealously.
The key factor between the two men is the former can be controlled by and caters to the woman, while the later is not able to be controlled and does not cater to the woman. The former man neuters his opinion so as not to offend the woman, while the latter speaks his opinion freely, even if it is offensive to the woman. The former caters his whole nature towards pleasing a woman and making sure she is emotionally satisfied, while the latter does none of that and yet he is the one who has the woman hooked.
Why is this? Forbidden Fruit Syndrome.
I will discuss this in the next post.
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" The reaction is sometimes priceless especially if its in person. A simple "Hey what's up?" is not going to get it done. You have to put your foot on her neck so she gets the point immediately that she made a mistake years earlier. There is no argument if some feel it might come off too strong initially...remember there is a really small chance she is coming back to just "be friends". She either heard something and is intrigued at how you are living or something in the past has triggered an emotional need to see how you are doing now. 
