Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[jadillac]

I havent watched that whole video Realest posted....but let me say this:

Be careful of these women in general.

Once I found out this last girl was shady/foul....I coulda played it off and just kept going over there for from time to time. But i dont really need to be involved in that type of stuff.

Because who's to say the other dude or dudes shes messing with wouldn't think he was the only man? Who's to say he wouldn't show up randomly while I was over there? Is he gonna understand that she's talking to several dudes? Is she gonna lie on me to protect herself?

In general, just think about the fact, now days you can talk to chicks on the internet and 2-3 hours later go over to their house the first time to meet in person. That's insane! She doesnt know you...but moreso you dont know her from squat. She could be living foul...she could be setting you up to rob you or otherwise.

Not trying to scare you, but just be mindful.

 

[winb83]

2 - How I deal with the women who came back around.

A whole bunch of you are going to see this as common sense, but you'd be surprised how many guys around my age out here ask me how to handle these situations of a woman coming back.

Those of us in here in our mid to late 20's should know this game very well. I specifically wanted to address this one right after #1 because it shows that if you play your cards right from a very early age...you will get them coming around 99% of the time. Most of us don't grow up with our dads in the house, but luckily for me I had some uncles around who taught me the game at a very early age. Unfortunately there are some in here who never had that opportunity and have blown their chances early with some girls they were interested in at an early age due to not handling things correctly. I can tell with some of the threads that pop up in here.

First off I want to say that chances are in this stage of the game the women have kids or emotional baggage that might not even be worth taking them seriously. In January I was a single man again for the first time since 2005. I was just relaxing and just plotting the next stage of my life and out of nowhere a couple of females started popping up on my Facebook. Getting random pokes, messages, texts, emails, and pics without even asking for them. My status? I'm in my late 20's I have my own place with no kids, no baggage, minimal student loan debt, and I am free to go wherever I want due to the fact that I have made most of my money on the internet as opposed to a job with a physical presence. Obviously this does not make me particularly stand out over other potential guys the women are after, but I do have 2 aces in my pocket - They have met me already and I was never an a$$hole. Now, don't misinterpret that. The key is finding the right balance as women want an Alpha Male, but to be smooth about it and never simp.

Now obviously if a woman is hitting you up after many months or in this next personal case YEARS then there is vulnerability. Why on earth would a female contact a guy who they gave no chance to or ignored earlier in life? So many people talk while you are not around...I was even a bit surprised as I have stayed to myself and kinda let me past go from the heights so chances are she has dug up some information on you while the break occurred.

The first response is the most important - timing and overall attitude will nail her 99% of the time. I tend to side with giving a quick question and compliment - usually a "How you doin beautiful? " The reaction is sometimes priceless especially if its in person. A simple "Hey what's up?" is not going to get it done. You have to put your foot on her neck so she gets the point immediately that she made a mistake years earlier. There is no argument if some feel it might come off too strong initially...remember there is a really small chance she is coming back to just "be friends". She either heard something and is intrigued at how you are living or something in the past has triggered an emotional need to see how you are doing now.

The idea is to not go overboard and give her the upper hand. Do NOT ask her out, Do NOT ask for her number, Do NOT give up all your information immediately, Do NOT really ask how she is doing. Keep things simple, general talk...most of the time she will want to be the one speaking out, giving you updates and killing you with questions. Keep her on her toes, keep her guessing. You don't have to make it a point that you are single or in a relationship as chances are she either knows the answer to that or simply does not care if she has already made it a point to get in contact with you again.

After the small talk is over, the ending of that first conversation is key as well. Don't say in closing "Goodbye" or whatever the you young guys be saying. Say something sincere and its up to you if you want to add her name to the end of the statement. A simple "Take Care "Name"" will do. It will trigger the response that she might be losing contact with you again and obviously if the effort was made to run into you again it will either cause her to give you her phone number, ask if you are free in the coming week, or maybe even ask where you are heading right now. This is why giving your phone number or any direct contact outside of facebook is a big no-no at the very start. You play situations like this correctly and trust me dudes...you will get most if not all really wondering what is going on. As far as my recent experience? I was single from January to about a month or so ago. 12 females wanted to know what was going on with Liquid and I had 11 of them right where I wanted. The other is pretty shy, but I know still asks about me due to a mutual acquaintance from the past


There is obviously more to this, but I don't like getting too personal on here

if a woman passes you over for whatever reason then comes back into your life later trying to be down with you you should probably pass on her. i don't care how much you liked her in the past. why should you settle for being somebody's second, third, forth, or something further down the line choice.

if she was still in her prime and things went the way she really wanted she wouldn't be talking to you. its better to get with somebody new that has you as the first choice isn't it?

 

[George Gooney]

2 - How I deal with the women who came back around.

A whole bunch of you are going to see this as common sense, but you'd be surprised how many guys around my age out here ask me how to handle these situations of a woman coming back.

Those of us in here in our mid to late 20's should know this game very well. I specifically wanted to address this one right after #1 because it shows that if you play your cards right from a very early age...you will get them coming around 99% of the time. Most of us don't grow up with our dads in the house, but luckily for me I had some uncles around who taught me the game at a very early age. Unfortunately there are some in here who never had that opportunity and have blown their chances early with some girls they were interested in at an early age due to not handling things correctly. I can tell with some of the threads that pop up in here.

First off I want to say that chances are in this stage of the game the women have kids or emotional baggage that might not even be worth taking them seriously. In January I was a single man again for the first time since 2005. I was just relaxing and just plotting the next stage of my life and out of nowhere a couple of females started popping up on my Facebook. Getting random pokes, messages, texts, emails, and pics without even asking for them. My status? I'm in my late 20's I have my own place with no kids, no baggage, minimal student loan debt, and I am free to go wherever I want due to the fact that I have made most of my money on the internet as opposed to a job with a physical presence. Obviously this does not make me particularly stand out over other potential guys the women are after, but I do have 2 aces in my pocket - They have met me already and I was never an a$$hole. Now, don't misinterpret that. The key is finding the right balance as women want an Alpha Male, but to be smooth about it and never simp.

Now obviously if a woman is hitting you up after many months or in this next personal case YEARS then there is vulnerability. Why on earth would a female contact a guy who they gave no chance to or ignored earlier in life? So many people talk while you are not around...I was even a bit surprised as I have stayed to myself and kinda let me past go from the heights so chances are she has dug up some information on you while the break occurred.

The first response is the most important - timing and overall attitude will nail her 99% of the time. I tend to side with giving a quick question and compliment - usually a "How you doin beautiful? " The reaction is sometimes priceless especially if its in person. A simple "Hey what's up?" is not going to get it done. You have to put your foot on her neck so she gets the point immediately that she made a mistake years earlier. There is no argument if some feel it might come off too strong initially...remember there is a really small chance she is coming back to just "be friends". She either heard something and is intrigued at how you are living or something in the past has triggered an emotional need to see how you are doing now.

The idea is to not go overboard and give her the upper hand. Do NOT ask her out, Do NOT ask for her number, Do NOT give up all your information immediately, Do NOT really ask how she is doing. Keep things simple, general talk...most of the time she will want to be the one speaking out, giving you updates and killing you with questions. Keep her on her toes, keep her guessing. You don't have to make it a point that you are single or in a relationship as chances are she either knows the answer to that or simply does not care if she has already made it a point to get in contact with you again.

After the small talk is over, the ending of that first conversation is key as well. Don't say in closing "Goodbye" or whatever the you young guys be saying. Say something sincere and its up to you if you want to add her name to the end of the statement. A simple "Take Care "Name"" will do. It will trigger the response that she might be losing contact with you again and obviously if the effort was made to run into you again it will either cause her to give you her phone number, ask if you are free in the coming week, or maybe even ask where you are heading right now. This is why giving your phone number or any direct contact outside of facebook is a big no-no at the very start. You play situations like this correctly and trust me dudes...you will get most if not all really wondering what is going on. As far as my recent experience? I was single from January to about a month or so ago. 12 females wanted to know what was going on with Liquid and I had 11 of them right where I wanted. The other is pretty shy, but I know still asks about me due to a mutual acquaintance from the past


There is obviously more to this, but I don't like getting too personal on here

 

[Two Stacks]

*continues soaking in knowledge*

it feels so great to be free...no kids, no baggage.

its always funny when a woman realizes she fukked up...and that you will never pay her mind again.

 

[George Gooney]

sup goonie, I didn't know you were back on here lol.

chillin breh. I dont agree with rewarding a woman who's been intentionally absent from your life with affection...Maybe i'm wrong but fukk a stranger bytch.

 

[Two Stacks]

chillin breh. I dont agree with rewarding a woman who's been intentionally absent from your life with affection...Maybe i'm wrong but fukk a stranger bytch.

preach nikka

 

[kevm3]

How to deal with women coming back around? I don't.

I might be friendly with them, but it will not go past that any more. When they come back around, it's not going to work out past a couple of weeks of decent behavior. It ultimately gives them a cosign that you are a back-up type dude. Essentially, it tells her that you will be there if she screws up, so she will sample you a little while to let herself know that she still has you, and then after a week, two weeks or a month, she will be back in the wind looking for an upgrade. I simply cannot reward a woman who wants to jump from ship to ship and think she will come right on back around and have me waiting for her.

 

[kevm3]

Yeah you definitely don't have to treat them badly on some look at what you missed out on lil girl tip, like you still harbor that anger that she chose someone else and now is your chance to show her up.

You simply make a note in your mind that she chose her destiny to move on with someone else and that her choice isn't consequential enough to move you... so while friendly, you clearly draw a line that she cannot cross, but you do not emotionally react. In your mind, you simply think "Babygirl, if you think you're going to approach me on some I've been through the rest and you're the last decent option left, you're out of your mind." We can have cordial conversations, but don't ask me for favors or expect me to take you out to dinner or any of that.

 

[kevm3]

Now here is one point I want to reiterate and it is very important. Love your self-respect more than any woman. This is an absolute must. The moment you hear a woman ask you to do something degrading or you start getting it in your mind to do something degrading, remember those words.

One super simp line you will often hear is, "What one man won't do for her, another man will." Let them negroes do that then. You're not her butler and she sure won't respect you if you act like one. This is powerful right here: Never let a woman hold her vagina over your head. It's really easy as a man to get into that zone of dealing with a woman and she asks you for something and you start thinking, "Man if I don't do this, I might lose her. She might sleep with someone else, etc." We mistakenly think that our own actions control what she will do with her vagina. COMPLETELY wrong answer. She's going to do with her vagina whatever she chooses to do, regardless of what you do. You could do everything you think she wants and she'll still go sleep with someone else. You can either choose to walk out of the dealings with a cheating broad with your head up and not missing a beat, or you can sit back with your head down, looking defeated because you're reflecting over all of the sucker manuevers you engaged in in an attempt to keep her around.

I remember dealing with my ex. I made sure she had nothing to worry about. I was there for her when she needed and all of that and she still ended up cheating. I eventually ended up questioning her on why she did what she did. Guess what she answered. "For attention." You could make sure a woman is completely satisfied, but you know why she will cheat on you? She wants 'new attention." For no other reason than that. You go hard for a woman and she will cheat on you for something as trivial as attention. That taught me a whole lot right there.

Let me tell you one of the most important things you will ever hear when dealing with women. You will never get your true respect and adoration as a man if you let what a female is 'offended by' control you. Females don't really have many tools to use other than their vagina, seduction and the level of concern about their emotions that a man has for them. This is how they get away with bringing so little to the table and yet have a man doing so much for them. This is what conartists do. Take something inherently worthless, wrap a grand story around it, and emotionally manipulate you into giving up something much more valuable in exchange for it and making you think YOU got the deal.

A female will use the 'offended by' tactic as psychological manipulation to get you to do something even if she is in the wrong. For example, you take her out to eat, but she thinks the restaurant isn't 'up to her worth', so she is 'offended by' that. "Listen here, lil momma, you better be grateful you're getting a free anything at all. I'm the one offended... offended by your lack of appreciation. You ain't did nothing to deserve me taking you to some high class restaurant like that, so if you're really that offended I can take your butt home right now."

So real talk, screw doing what you think a woman might like. ALWAYS maintain your self-respect. Never allow a female to 'boy you', or in other words, engage in actions that emasculate you. If you think you turning down her request that you don't want to do will make her cheat on you, you're thinking the wrong thing. In fact, giving in will make her MORE likely to cheat on you because she lost respect for you, and even more important, your decisions never should be made in an attempt to try to keep her vagina exclusive. You can do everything right and she'll let another guy blast it out because she wanted new attention.

Here are some examples of being 'boyed' For example, if you're dating some single mom and she asks you to babysit her kid while she goes out to the club, that's being boyed. Say no off the bat. If you're dating some woman but she feels comfortable staring at other guys, or even worse, making comments about other dudes while she is with you, she is boying you. I remember hearing cats saying stuff like, "Well me and my girl, we have discussions about other people who look attractive. I don't mind telling her and she doesn't mind telling me." The only person she should be saying is attractive like that is YOU. Screw putting up with a woman who slobbers all over celebrities, especially in front of you. What in the world are you spending all this time and effort with a woman for when she is telling you IN YOUR FACE that if a man with more fame and riches came along, she would be doing her thing at the speed of lightning? A simp negro would justify it talking about, "Well they ain't never going to meet, so it's cool." He's basically satisfied with being her 'fine enough for now,' man. What he doesn't know is that if she is willing to slobber over some celebrity, she is most likely willing to slobber over the neighorhood star. What a person does with a little thing, they will do with a big thing. If she's slobbering over a celeb in front of you, she will probably slobber on somebody that's popping around the neighborhood when you're not around. If she's willing to lie about something little, then she will lie about something big.

Man, it's really crazy how disrespectful and how much men are willing to go for in order to keep these women around... and where did it get them? They do all of this for these women who bring nothing to the table, but are they more loyal? Naw, they are cheating more than ever. It's gotten so bad that a negro got to pay for the wedding, but these broads aren't even taking the man's last name. They are putting a dash with their last name on there too LOL.

 

[kevm3]

you already know how that relationship will end. The level of suckerism and simpitude is at an all-time high in this day and age... We even have cats out here proud to be wifing up strippers and buying them houses. So many cats have been raised without hearing the real. Too bad some of these cats need to experience a financial and emotional beating and in the extreme cases a physical beating from these women in order to understand what the real is.

 

[marcuz]

One of my friends requested me on facebook and I did not recognize who it was because he straight up TOOK her last name

ask him how can he live with himself

 

[beezy]

One of my friends requested me on facebook and I did not recognize who it was because he straight up TOOK her last name

I wish i could NEGATIVE dap this shyt 1000x dafuq wrong with nigg@s!?

 

[Liquid]

lol nah I am not going to hit him up asking wtf is wrong with him. He just got married a couple of weeks ago.

 

[sixsixtwo]

This nikka threw his life away for a single mother of 3.. I swear, you cannot make this shyt up.. No self-worth, no self-esteem.. Totally idiotic..


Pictured: Woman shot dead in hotel room with lover 'by ex-boyfriend as she begged for mercy' | Mail Online


UPDATE:

Killer commits suicide.

KINGSTON, Jamaica - Reports are circulating that Joseph Kernizan, the man suspected to have killed Captain Barkey and his lover Tracy Bennett in a Bronx motel parking lot, has committed suicide.

According to nbcnewyork.com 42-year-old Kernizan killed himself in Florida as a task force moved in to arrest him, a law enforcement source familiar with the investigation told NBC 4 New York.


The law enforcement source said Joseph Kernizan killed himself in Miami as police tried to get into his building to arrest him for allegedly killing 50-year-old Wayne Hamilton (Captain Barkey) and 38-year-old Bennett outside the Holiday Motel in Eastchester early Saturday.

http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/news/...cide-NY-report

 

[sixsixtwo]