Despite what you may have heard from women or read, women are not naturally monogamous. They are not designed to stay with one man. They are designed to seek out and be with the BEST man they can find.
This is true
I will give some of my feelings towards this topic for the younger crowd on here. kevm3 you appear to be a comm major or one who has taken several sociology classes. It could possibly be due to your experience with women, but you bring up lots of examples that the average Joe does not. It sounds like you would have been in some of my classes when these debates would come up, maybe even an argumentation class in where the topic was law and court cases had to be broken down and discussed.
1 - Handling the "remain friends or keep in contact" tactic females love to use when they don't want a relationship with you (or anyone). This generally happens to us when we are in our teens-early 20's. Women past the age of 25 usually don't do this. Now you can view this in 2 ways - you are not good enough for her, but likes the option that if her current bf hurts her you will take care of her or you have done something right in where she views you as a potential mate in the future...A serious one. Normally our ego is hurt and the first thing would be to text or call back and call her bytch, slut, or whatever possible negative slur you can throw at her. The problem is that those responses only hurt your chances and exposes your bruised ego to not only the female, but to her friends as she will no doubt talk about it with them...this hurts you as well because there is a good chance you will find 2-3 of her friends attractive as well (more down below). The proper way to handle it is to go away, but try to end it as clean and respectful as possible - even if you are crushed inside. I have always been one to look at female-male friendships as interesting as a very high percentage of these cases there is always 1 in the equation that wants it to go along a bit further than the other one does, the longer the "friendship" goes the higher the probability that one is going to develop some extremely strong feelings for the other. Its best that you don't put yourself in that position as inevitably that uncomfortable situation is going to arise, its not a matter of IF...it's a matter of WHEN.
Ask yourself this question, haven't you noticed the patterns in our social lives? "Hot Women" usually hang out with "Hot Women", "Thugs" usually hang around the similar crowd, Hipsters usually hang around with the same crowd as well. Now, if you try to replicate that kind of relationship with the opposite sex (and are both straight) what exactly is the benefit for both of you if there is absolutely no attraction? Not much, sure you might convince yourself that you see her as "just a friend", but the numbers are against you and there is a high probability that you are in denial of whats really going on. I wish I can find a quick poll online, but those who have studied this can confirm that when polled and asked "Would you have sex with your friend of the opposite sex?" The answer is always "yes" and usually by a large margin over the other options. Yes, this should also bring up a red flag if your "GF" has many "Guy" friends...that doesn't even need a bullet point.
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the confidence you have in yourself, your ability to dominate and influence situations,
Cats who live life with the "it can't happen to me" mentality are the ones who get devastated when they find out their girl does some foul shyt. They initially blind themselves and fail to read the signs because they underestimate the woman and overestimate the security of their relationship.
If you know it could happen to you, you will always place reality over fantasy and u will make decisions based off of what u see, not what I foolishly believe. Those are the ones who always get done dirty.
Your angel could be the next man's whore. The signs are always there.
I really have to laugh at some chicks, some chick who I once considered a friend has a kid. She has slept Aroujd with nearly 30 guys and is now a single mom. The other day she brought up "why did you never try and pick me up"
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Always pay attention to a woman and what celebrity she endorses. I knew a young woman willing to pay $100 for R Kelly tickets. Yet she isnt living in a good area,her job trying to cut her hours.Now look nothing wrong with entertainment,but there is a limit.Paying $100 when you can barely pay your rent says alot and im sorry I take little stuff like that into consideration,more then anything.Like somebody says if she quoting Marilyn Monroe,Kim K watch out.I think we need to play chess with women when it comes to conversation.Bring up topics such as politics,religion etc...you find out alot about a woman when it comes to her views.If she is nonchalant about important things,then she will be nonchalant about other.No man wants an airhead.
I learned this the hard way..I just couldn't imagine that the girl I was with at the time could do some foul shyt behind my back..until it happened..That shyt literally sent me into a range of emotions for a few days...Now I don't put anything past a woman, and I prepare for the worst. Fuk all that "bu bu bu if you go in thinking it will fail, it will fail" OH fukkING WELL..That's why I advocate prenups and keeping back-up plans.
I used to think that was important, but it's really not...at least not for me at the moment.
What's more important is her actions, which reveal her true character.
One girl i was with was always talking about church and how it makes her feel good to go, and sing songs, etc.,.....yet, she was sneaking on the low, lying constantly, and was in a lesbian relationship a long time before I dated her(she didnt tell me until 2-3 months into things). I dont judge anybody....but you should judge yourself. If ur claiming to be one thing, and doing completely opposite, then you're only playing yourself in the longrun of life.
And she also was always talking about Obama and politics.
But she was also a huge fan of Love & Hip Hop....
I'm not judging against any of those shows, but.....alot of people lie about religion all the time b/c it's attractive in our society and it sounds good....they dont follow any of it unless it suits them. This one lady I used to work with was jealous to a detriment, would stab you in the back and lie on you, try to make you look bad at all costs.....but was the first one talking about her church and humming church songs at her desk. Watch ACTIONS.
And well we ALL know politics is nothing but lies and slanted truth. lol