Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

I think you did the right thing her path is different she wants to wait for marriage you want it now. Find someone who wants it now. If my oath isn't aligning with a woman then I'm wasting my time.

If anyone remembers, I was talking to a chick who was a good girl. She also a cheerleader at my uni, and an aerospace engineer. SO shes busy, but shes also a good girl. Virgin, doesn't party much at all, basically the wifey type. She shy and inexperienced so i gave her a lot of passes.

Well she started coming over alot to begin things, eventually it ended up with her staying over a lot, but she wouldn't let me hit. first she didn't wanna take any clothes off, then it was only the shirt, then it was topless, then it was pants. Took two months for her to relax enough to be sexual. Then she hit me with the she was waiting for marriage speech for actual sex and how she had to protect herself. Along with that came the what are we doing and how do you feel about me speech.

Although I was feeling her, I couldn't help but feel I was giving up my manhood. I would usually never let a chick stay over and not be getting the draws. I just told her, I was already showing her with my time, patience and openness. I told her it was ridiculous shes thinks it's okay for her to come over and not be busting it open and I've been patient but she's not getting a title til we smash.

Plus, while It was clear she was super interested. she wouldn't let me see her room (cuz it was always messy) and she lived only a few apts down yet she wants complete access to my life, leaving toothbrushes over and shyt. It just felt like I was inviting and sacrificing for someone in my life but she wasn't.

she starts ranting on "well if you can't tell me how you feel, I don't feel comfortable being naked around you"

I immediately hit the kicked her ass out , ignored everything from her. She saw me on an occasion some time after with another chick walking into my apt.

I did right bruhs, right?

No matter how moral she is, isn't that just crazy making?

 

[The ADD]

If anyone remembers, I was talking to a chick who was a good girl. She also a cheerleader at my uni, and an aerospace engineer. SO shes busy, but shes also a good girl. Virgin, doesn't party much at all, basically the wifey type. She shy and inexperienced so i gave her a lot of passes.

Well she started coming over alot to begin things, eventually it ended up with her staying over a lot, but she wouldn't let me hit. first she didn't wanna take any clothes off, then it was only the shirt, then it was topless, then it was pants. Took two months for her to relax enough to be sexual. Then she hit me with the she was waiting for marriage speech for actual sex and how she had to protect herself. Along with that came the what are we doing and how do you feel about me speech.

Although I was feeling her, I couldn't help but feel I was giving up my manhood. I would usually never let a chick stay over and not be getting the draws. I just told her, I was already showing her with my time, patience and openness. I told her it was ridiculous shes thinks it's okay for her to come over and not be busting it open and I've been patient but she's not getting a title til we smash.

Plus, while It was clear she was super interested. she wouldn't let me see her room (cuz it was always messy) and she lived only a few apts down yet she wants complete access to my life, leaving toothbrushes over and shyt. It just felt like I was inviting and sacrificing for someone in my life but she wasn't.

she starts ranting on "well if you can't tell me how you feel, I don't feel comfortable being naked around you"

I immediately hit the kicked her ass out , ignored everything from her. She saw me on an occasion some time after with another chick walking into my apt.

I did right bruhs, right?

No matter how moral she is, isn't that just crazy making?

Big picture you were up front about what you wanted. I don't see the issue.

 

[twan83]

In her words, I wasn't committing to her in the way she was hoping for. Mainly, not pushing to meet her parents after she said that she only wants me to meet them if I'm thinking about proposing to her in the near future and not considering having kids early because she was having issues with her ovaries.

what kind of fukked up shyt
that doesnt even make any sense too me

so in order too meet the parents i have to be thinking bout proposing off the bat

and bring up kids situation even after that dumb ass response

better learn to think before u speak i tell some females shyt will get u in quicker than aaron rodgers football release

 

[kevm3]

If anyone remembers, I was talking to a chick who was a good girl. She also a cheerleader at my uni, and an aerospace engineer. SO shes busy, but shes also a good girl. Virgin, doesn't party much at all, basically the wifey type. She shy and inexperienced so i gave her a lot of passes.

Well she started coming over alot to begin things, eventually it ended up with her staying over a lot, but she wouldn't let me hit. first she didn't wanna take any clothes off, then it was only the shirt, then it was topless, then it was pants. Took two months for her to relax enough to be sexual. Then she hit me with the she was waiting for marriage speech for actual sex and how she had to protect herself. Along with that came the what are we doing and how do you feel about me speech.

Although I was feeling her, I couldn't help but feel I was giving up my manhood. I would usually never let a chick stay over and not be getting the draws. I just told her, I was already showing her with my time, patience and openness. I told her it was ridiculous shes thinks it's okay for her to come over and not be busting it open and I've been patient but she's not getting a title til we smash.

Plus, while It was clear she was super interested. she wouldn't let me see her room (cuz it was always messy) and she lived only a few apts down yet she wants complete access to my life, leaving toothbrushes over and shyt. It just felt like I was inviting and sacrificing for someone in my life but she wasn't.

she starts ranting on "well if you can't tell me how you feel, I don't feel comfortable being naked around you"

I immediately hit the kicked her ass out , ignored everything from her. She saw me on an occasion some time after with another chick walking into my apt.

I did right bruhs, right?

No matter how moral she is, isn't that just crazy making?

If busting nuts is your main priority over loyalty, then I guess your decision makes sense.

On the other hand, men complain about cheating females and hoes but treat women who are preserving themselves like trash. We can't hardline women into sex if we want them to be chaste.

If you're not looking for a serious relationship right now, then you can live with your decision. If you were looking for a woman to build with over the long term, then you might have messed up there.

 

[Gus Money]

I talked to my girl about possibly moving if I get this new job, and it didn't go well. She started crying right away and I felt pretty bad/guilty about it. But I know the right choice is to take this job if I'm lucky enough to get it after the next interview. I can't pass up an opportunity like this.

It's weird because my views on making sacrifices for a relationship have changed over the past few years. Three or four years ago I would have sacrificed anything to be with the chick who I was dating. Now I know that I need to put myself first or I will look back on my life.

 

[EA]

what kind of fukked up shyt
that doesnt even make any sense too me

so in order too meet the parents i have to be thinking bout proposing off the bat

and bring up kids situation even after that dumb ass response

better learn to think before u speak i tell some females shyt will get u in quicker than aaron rodgers football release

She was with her ex for 5 years (and engaged) and she said she didn't wanna be one of those girl who brings a different guy home every month so she only wanted me to meet her parents if I was "serious about us." (Like a committed, exclusive relationship for over a year and briging her around the fam isn't serious )

The baby shyt pissed me off because I was still in university at the time and the last thing she should have wanted if she really cared about my (and her) future was for me to get distracted by baby stuff when I'm trying to graduate.

She said she saw the error of her ways/thinking within a couple weeks of me cutting her off after she dumped me and she's been asking for me back ever since.

I was able to tolerate it for a while after graduating because I was looking for a job and needed the pick me up but now I've got a good but demanding job, I'm not tryna hear her crying and draining me after I've worked 50+ hours for the week.

 

[International Playa]

One thing I've noticed is that many people want a relationship but few are willing to do the work. Imagine being unemployed and finally getting a job, yet you show up and do nothing, how long do you think your going to last before you get fired. You have to do the work assigned etc. to meet the criteria to get paid. Now look at relationships everyone brings out that bs I'm loyal, loving, committed bla bla but few are willing to do the work. Talking to exes, talking to a gaggle of male friends, going out with the girls to the bar or club, posting photos on instagram daily to a harem of male followers.

And just because she's fine or sucks your dikk or gives you vagina that a bunch of other dudes have had your scared to check her,

Thats one thing that bothers me, chicks going to the club twerking/whining on other guys, but they have a boyfriend. The things you have to accept or tolerate in this generation is crazy

 

[kevm3]

I talked to my girl about possibly moving if I get this new job, and it didn't go well. She started crying right away and I felt pretty bad/guilty about it. But I know the right choice is to take this job if I'm lucky enough to get it after the next interview. I can't pass up an opportunity like this.

It's weird because my views on making sacrifices for a relationship have changed over the past few years. Three or four years ago I would have sacrificed anything to be with the chick who I was dating. Now I know that I need to put myself first or I will look back on my life.

A woman can up and leave at any time, but you'll still have bills to pay.

 

[kevm3]

Thats one thing that bothers me, chicks going to the club twerking/whining on other guys, but they have a boyfriend. The things you have to accept or tolerate in this generation is crazy

Simp negroes keep on pushing the limits and making excuses for these women. Next it'll be just because she sleeps with another man doesn't mean she's not relationship worthy.

 

[Music Fiend]

If busting nuts is your main priority over loyalty, then I guess your decision makes sense.

On the other hand, men complain about cheating females and hoes but treat women who are preserving themselves like trash. We can't hardline women into sex if we want them to be chaste.

If you're not looking for a serious relationship right now, then you can live with your decision. If you were looking for a woman to build with over the long term, then you might have messed up there.

Im looking for long term. But arent those red flags?

I do care about her, but its hard to deal with someone whose not willing tobhave understanding and wants me to be an open book.

I told her i was wrong for handling it like that. And she was all cocky on aome yeah u fd up, blah blah. Just no acxountability. Then she starts playing games.

Weve made plans since like 4 times (she initiates) for her to come thru and hang but then she bails last minute saying shes sick or just flake and will say that she doesn't want to put herwelf in the same situation as last time.

. then shell text my phone on the weekends at 2am and i told her dont hit me up after 10pm unless its a booty call.

I'm not for the simp shyt. I moved on and am dating others.

Maybe I was right the first time around And need to stop letting her in.

 

[TRUEST]

If busting nuts is your main priority over loyalty, then I guess your decision makes sense.

On the other hand, men complain about cheating females and hoes but treat women who are preserving themselves like trash. We can't hardline women into sex if we want them to be chaste.

If you're not looking for a serious relationship right now, then you can live with your decision. If you were looking for a woman to build with over the long term, then you might have messed up there.

while i understand your premise, my experiences with women in general cautions my eagerness to agree with it.

see, theres something ol boy just wasn't doing right to get her to sleep with him. just because she wouldn't do it with him doesn't mean she wouldn't give it up to the next guy (who knows what he is doing) in under 48 hours.

i think ol boy screwed up by burning bridges. he shoulda found what it is that turns her on and use those things against her. him trying to reason with her to get her to sleep with him is a mighty turn off. u NEVER explain to a woman why she should have sex with u. its pathetic and just goes against the art of seduction.

 

[sfgiants]

Again, okc is

 

[Phitz]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/i-read-that-if-a-woman-only-wants-a-relationship.318000/

maybe I shoulda posted this scenario in here

 

[kevm3]

Im looking for long term. But arent those red flags?

I do care about her, but its hard to deal with someone whose not willing tobhave understanding and wants me to be an open book.

I told her i was wrong for handling it like that. And she was all cocky on aome yeah u fd up, blah blah. Just no acxountability. Then she starts playing games.

Weve made plans since like 4 times (she initiates) for her to come thru and hang but then she bails last minute saying shes sick or just flake and will say that she doesn't want to put herwelf in the same situation as last time.

. then shell text my phone on the weekends at 2am and i told her dont hit me up after 10pm unless its a booty call.

I'm not for the simp shyt. I moved on and am dating others.

Maybe I was right the first time around And need to stop letting her in.

It'd be a red flag if she was known for sleeping around but is playing celibate with you or she is trying to play the sweet girl role, but you know she's doing her thing. If she's a legit virgin and actually holds herself to that standard, then you won't be able to easily sleep with her. if it was easy to break through her defenses, such as, say in a 3 day or couple of week period, she wouldn't be a virgin because someone else would have already gotten to her.

Honestly, it depends on how she's playing it. If you think she's role-playing Ms. Chaste to get in a relationship with you while doing her thing on the side, then yea, she's a waste of time. If you actually feel she's being honest with her commitment to staying a virgin until she's married, then it's not a red flag because if she's true to her commitment, then it won't be easy to sleep with her period... not for you or anyone else.

When dealing with such a situation, you also have to question yourself. Would that be a commitment of hers that you would be able to respect if she was true with it? If not, then it's probably best that you two went your separate ways.

 

[kevm3]

while i understand your premise, my experiences with women in general cautions my eagerness to agree with it.

see, theres something ol boy just wasn't doing right to get her to sleep with him. just because she wouldn't do it with him doesn't mean she wouldn't give it up to the next guy (who knows what he is doing) in under 48 hours.

i think ol boy screwed up by burning bridges. he shoulda found what it is that turns her on and use those things against her. him trying to reason with her to get her to sleep with him is a mighty turn off. u NEVER explain to a woman why she should have sex with u. its pathetic and just goes against the art of seduction.

I agree if she was already sleeping around and having fun but decided to shut the taps off on him to try to show she's 'relationship material', then she's playing with him.

On the other hand, there are legitimate virgin women out there who are committed to waiting until marriage, and she may be one of them, and you won't be able to game her into bed. It really depends on what type of woman she is and if she is legitimate, whether he can respect that commitment or not.