Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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nah. a very bad move. unless u own ur own business (which can be operated from anywhere) and uve been married to the woman for years annnnnd shes far more into u than u are into her. even then, its risky to uproot ur life for a woman. this is where being a man comes into play. as a man, u lead the household and a move should only be mandatory if it is because of YOUR job since ur are expected to be the breadwinner anyway.
if the move is in the same state but a different city, then maybe. but still. i wouldnt do it.
As a single man with no kids I'm just working on my skills and being adaptable. I want to be at a spot where I can move anywhere and get a job.
Practice makes perfect(or close to it) breh. The only way you will build up that "I don't care" attitude is to approach them if you are interested and see what happens. The worst they can say is no..so what, no big deal, you move on to the next.i can talk to women. the approach in public is the hardest part.
Been married for 5 years, about to move a 2nd time (I passed on an earlier move and decided to do long distance) due to her job. Will probably have to give up my job and that would suck in the short term but in the long term, it will work out.
IMO, If you not willing to move for your wife (for a move that makes sense or is unavoidable), I question whether you want to be married to her.
nah my dude. the worst they can say is no. but the worst they can do is humiliate you in front of a lot of people and ruin your chances of getting with other girls who see u get rejected.
to threadstarter. when u kick it to girls, start small talk. how are you, what are you up to. what's going on. a girl who's interested will answer those questions and will throw them back at you. how are YOU doing? where are YOU from? etc. if a girl gives u one word answers, just keep it moving. dont think "aaah she wants me to try harder".
let me put things in perspective for you. i started working in the real world at age 17. i've worked at quite a lot of places, and there are a few things i know very well.
1. it is very important you love the ambiance of your job. you shouldn't be terrified to go to work every day. and when i say ambiance, i mean, the people u work with, the sitting arrangement, your boss.
2. the salary
3. location of the job. how far is it from your house. spending 3+ hours roundtrip commuting on a daily basis aint the life. it sucks ass. trust me on that.
now, its very rare to find a job where u can satisfactorily check off all these three categories. and when you do find one, i assure u, it will be a very terrible mistake on your part to quit it unless your wife is making a ton of money more than you, in which case, you will have the luxury of bouncing from one job to the next till you find the one that works for you, at the new location.
uprooting ur life, just because, is silly. it aint about love. it's about practicality. the job u leave may be far more reliable than whichever one u get at the new location. which brings me back to the original point of your wife making a ton more than you to justifiably warrant a move on your part.
I'm aware of all this. Been working in Corporate america since 2003. I love all 3 things you listed about my job, but the move makes sense for us even if my next job takes a hit in the short term. I'm established in my career.
My wife is just starting her first real surgeon gig after finishing up med school-residency-training, so it was more important that she start off somewhere she can be successful and create a solid foundation. Yes, she'll (Finally) be making more than me.
I took all ego and emotion out of figuring out whether it was a good move and signed off on it. Only willing to do that for a spouse. For a GF tho? Hell no.
I make 6 figs, and when she starts she will double up on me. Hence the "makes sense" caveat.
in the end, i will probably still be able to keep my job and work remotely.
Oh yeah no doubt, I definitely wouldn't recommend getting at a chick who's with her crew or in the midst of a bunch of people on your first try. Catch chicks solo and work on your mouthpiece from that point.
hope for your sake she doesn't turn around a couple of years later and asks for a divorce. people are fickle like that. but yeah , if u feel she's down for u like that, and she's making more than u, and u feel secure in ur career, this doesn't sound as big of a deal in that case.
DarkHorse23
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THIS! When i use to approach women consistently and was trying to cure my approach anxiety, i NEVER approached women i was attracted to when they were with other people. It was always them by themselves because it made me feel more comfortable. Even after my approach anxiety improved somewhat and my confidence improved, i still can count of my hand how many times i've approached women in groups. Rarely if ever. Now some may say that's the best time to approach them because they will be more comfortable with their friends around, but i don't give a fukk. It's not about her being comfortable, it's more of me being comfortable because if i ain't comfortable, i ain't going be confident, and if i ain't confident and on my game I ain't getting shyt. I simply don't like talking to groups of women.
Sidenote: I once approached a girl with her mother and grandmother. Grandma was staring a hole through me, but i didn't give a fukk. I was in a zone
Moving makes sense for a wife if there's mutual benefit imo, ie she has a great opportunity for a job in the new area as do you. I would NOT do it for a girlfriend though. You end up following her and she'll most likely end up little boying you, aka holding it over your head that she's making more than you. A lot of times I see these scenarios ending up with the woman cheating on the dude and the dude ending up messed up because he's in an area where he accepted significantly less. If your gf decides to move on, then you are really screwed because all her benefits leave when she dumps you.