Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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might have to drop a gem on that.MrFantastic
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Honestly thats how i feel.... BUT I dont want to be an insecure jerk and tell her that... Especially when she hasnt shown any signs of using it as an memento.. And its just a very nice watch.. Thats why I use Reincar method and not even ask or dig subjects like this one.
But I do agree... Because my ex bought me two watches.. And even though I lie everytime somebody ask me where I got them.. It does make think of her in a small way.
my exgirl bout me earrings and lied about the price (a strike in the demise of our relationship cause i told her to take em back. didnt care about the price...but the fact she lied about that and tried to pass em as real diamonds irked me). I dont wear them...i bought her a gold namplate and gold necklace that same christmas and apparently she still wears it daily. I doubt thats true but meh....
My nikkas told me to ask for that back i said fugg it...that 300 bucks aint shyt to a nikka. But let this bytch know that anytime she see that she gonna remember me especially when she with these other nikkas who are pale in comparison.
My nikkas told me to ask for that back i said fugg it...that 300 bucks aint shyt to a nikka. But let this bytch know that anytime she see that she gonna remember me especially when she with these other nikkas who are pale in comparison.
"In a conversation the other day with a female friend, she mentioned something about watching the movie Cinderella (Disney version) with her daughter, and the conversation turned to the topic of chivalry and romance.
This got me thinking about the modern (and destructive) concept of romance held by many women, and I wondered how much TV and movies have assisted in the corruption of dating and marriage motives.
Ask any hapless beta chump what he thinks "romance" is, and you are likely to hear a bunch of crap about opening doors for women, candlelit dinners, and bouquets of roses. This is the beta-game idea of romance, and it is clearly a losing proposition.
I don't have a daughter, but I am going to go out on a limb and assume that Disney's Cinderella is probably one of the first "romance" oriented movies that American women are exposed to when young. When you take a closer look at how the story is framed, you get an entirely different perspective on what women define as romance. It turns out that romance isn't pretty.
To sum up the Disney plot line:
1) Pretty, but insecure girl is oppressed by - wait for it - other females (evil stepmother/stepsisters).
2) Pretty, insecure girl makes it to the royal ball and catches the eye of Prince Charming.
3) Cinderella is forced to flee to meet midnight fairy-godmother deadline.
4) Prince Charming moves heaven and earth to find Cinderella.
5) Happily ever after ensues, Cinderella tells stepmother/stepsisters to go suck it, she got the prince.
The typical beta male, if exposed to this story, only sees the concept from a male perspective. That perspective is that you should pursue the woman of your dreams, and your knightly pursuit of her will win her heart.
Ha. Haha. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
Foolish beta, thy balls shall be as blue as thine heart. Entering this story with your eyes open, you get a much clearer look at the greasy, clanking hypergamous machinery behind the whole operation. Let's take a couple red pills and re-examine the story:
1) Pretty, but insecure girl is oppressed by - wait for it - other females.
Well, of course. There is nothing women enjoy more than playing victim. It also reflects a reality most women can identify with. The real socio-sexual oppressors of women are other women.
2) Pretty, insecure girl makes it to the royal ball and catches the eye of Prince Charming.
Prince Charming. Who the fukk is Prince Charming? I'll tell you - he is the necessary plot device that allows the final triumph of Cinderella's hypergamy. If you've snagged Prince Charming, you have clearly triumphed over those Mean Girls(tm) who have you scrubbing the stove and sorting lentils. You will note that she does not find her redemption in a marriage to Accountant Charming, or Auto Mechanic Charming, or Insurance Salesman Charming. Oh no, nothing less than The Prince will afford her the undeniable triumph over those other bytches.
It would be easy to imagine that if life sucked for Cinderella, she could have found a more pleasant life as the wife of the village baker, or perhaps the wife of a storekeeper. But that would not provide an opportunity for spiking the football right in your rivals' faces, would it?
Note also that it is not Prince Reliable, or Prince Mechanical Aptitude, or Prince Treats-His-Mother-Nicely. Prince Charming, no less. When your heart craves a victory lap, nothing but a total win will do.
So now we see that the prince in this story exists only to be something that there is only one of. Just a trophy, nothing more. Still feeling romantic, Mr. Beta? If you're paying attention, you should be feeling sick.
3) Cinderella forced to flee to meet midnight fairy-godmother deadline.
Not much to say here, other than the fleeing is a necessary plot device to set the prince up to pursue her. Modern women simply substitute flakiness and shyt-tests. See how perfect this story suits women? Even Cinderella's fleeing (shyt test) is not her fault; it just happened that way. Hamsters, rejoice.
4) Prince Charming moves heaven and earth to find Cinderella.
An alpha male with an unrequited crush is a motivated soul. But instead of availing himself of the assumed ocean of eager, available women, he searches for Cinderella. Yes, my dear, he only has eyes for you.
5) Happily ever after ensues, Cinderella tells stepmother/sisters to go suck it, she got the prince.
And this is where the rubber really hits the road. This is the emotional jackpot for the female ego/libido. Carriages? Footmen? A gala event? Ha. Nothing, nothing compares to the opulent luxury of an undeniable triumph over your sexual competition.
And this is where I believe the damage takes place. Perhaps the process of priming the female soul for alpha widowhood begins even earlier than originally thought.**
This story and all its derivatives are basically a tale of a lottery winner, except in the hypergamous sense. But for every lottery winner, there are millions of poor, trailer-court occupants, pissing their dollars away on a billion-to-one chance of living in luxury. Playing to this impulse keeps women spending their youth on a shot at alpha lottery winnings that, for most, will never come. In isolation, this story would be just a fable. But our culture is made up of an unhealthy amount of this kind of thinking, and the additive effects of it are a key contribution to setting young women up for a lifetime of disappointment, followed by "settling" (defined as anything other than marrying an alpha).
And the lesson for beta males everywhere is that your notion of romance could not be more different than a woman's. For most women, romance is an alternate definition for sexual conquest, and triumphing over her rivals."
UMan - blog - If You Knew What She Meant by "Romance", You'd Stop Buying Her Flowers
This got me thinking about the modern (and destructive) concept of romance held by many women, and I wondered how much TV and movies have assisted in the corruption of dating and marriage motives.
Ask any hapless beta chump what he thinks "romance" is, and you are likely to hear a bunch of crap about opening doors for women, candlelit dinners, and bouquets of roses. This is the beta-game idea of romance, and it is clearly a losing proposition.
I don't have a daughter, but I am going to go out on a limb and assume that Disney's Cinderella is probably one of the first "romance" oriented movies that American women are exposed to when young. When you take a closer look at how the story is framed, you get an entirely different perspective on what women define as romance. It turns out that romance isn't pretty.
To sum up the Disney plot line:
1) Pretty, but insecure girl is oppressed by - wait for it - other females (evil stepmother/stepsisters).
2) Pretty, insecure girl makes it to the royal ball and catches the eye of Prince Charming.
3) Cinderella is forced to flee to meet midnight fairy-godmother deadline.
4) Prince Charming moves heaven and earth to find Cinderella.
5) Happily ever after ensues, Cinderella tells stepmother/stepsisters to go suck it, she got the prince.
The typical beta male, if exposed to this story, only sees the concept from a male perspective. That perspective is that you should pursue the woman of your dreams, and your knightly pursuit of her will win her heart.
Ha. Haha. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
Foolish beta, thy balls shall be as blue as thine heart. Entering this story with your eyes open, you get a much clearer look at the greasy, clanking hypergamous machinery behind the whole operation. Let's take a couple red pills and re-examine the story:
1) Pretty, but insecure girl is oppressed by - wait for it - other females.
Well, of course. There is nothing women enjoy more than playing victim. It also reflects a reality most women can identify with. The real socio-sexual oppressors of women are other women.
2) Pretty, insecure girl makes it to the royal ball and catches the eye of Prince Charming.
Prince Charming. Who the fukk is Prince Charming? I'll tell you - he is the necessary plot device that allows the final triumph of Cinderella's hypergamy. If you've snagged Prince Charming, you have clearly triumphed over those Mean Girls(tm) who have you scrubbing the stove and sorting lentils. You will note that she does not find her redemption in a marriage to Accountant Charming, or Auto Mechanic Charming, or Insurance Salesman Charming. Oh no, nothing less than The Prince will afford her the undeniable triumph over those other bytches.
It would be easy to imagine that if life sucked for Cinderella, she could have found a more pleasant life as the wife of the village baker, or perhaps the wife of a storekeeper. But that would not provide an opportunity for spiking the football right in your rivals' faces, would it?
Note also that it is not Prince Reliable, or Prince Mechanical Aptitude, or Prince Treats-His-Mother-Nicely. Prince Charming, no less. When your heart craves a victory lap, nothing but a total win will do.
So now we see that the prince in this story exists only to be something that there is only one of. Just a trophy, nothing more. Still feeling romantic, Mr. Beta? If you're paying attention, you should be feeling sick.
3) Cinderella forced to flee to meet midnight fairy-godmother deadline.
Not much to say here, other than the fleeing is a necessary plot device to set the prince up to pursue her. Modern women simply substitute flakiness and shyt-tests. See how perfect this story suits women? Even Cinderella's fleeing (shyt test) is not her fault; it just happened that way. Hamsters, rejoice.
4) Prince Charming moves heaven and earth to find Cinderella.
An alpha male with an unrequited crush is a motivated soul. But instead of availing himself of the assumed ocean of eager, available women, he searches for Cinderella. Yes, my dear, he only has eyes for you.
5) Happily ever after ensues, Cinderella tells stepmother/sisters to go suck it, she got the prince.
And this is where the rubber really hits the road. This is the emotional jackpot for the female ego/libido. Carriages? Footmen? A gala event? Ha. Nothing, nothing compares to the opulent luxury of an undeniable triumph over your sexual competition.
And this is where I believe the damage takes place. Perhaps the process of priming the female soul for alpha widowhood begins even earlier than originally thought.**
This story and all its derivatives are basically a tale of a lottery winner, except in the hypergamous sense. But for every lottery winner, there are millions of poor, trailer-court occupants, pissing their dollars away on a billion-to-one chance of living in luxury. Playing to this impulse keeps women spending their youth on a shot at alpha lottery winnings that, for most, will never come. In isolation, this story would be just a fable. But our culture is made up of an unhealthy amount of this kind of thinking, and the additive effects of it are a key contribution to setting young women up for a lifetime of disappointment, followed by "settling" (defined as anything other than marrying an alpha).
And the lesson for beta males everywhere is that your notion of romance could not be more different than a woman's. For most women, romance is an alternate definition for sexual conquest, and triumphing over her rivals."
UMan - blog - If You Knew What She Meant by "Romance", You'd Stop Buying Her Flowers
Happy Matrimony:
"I'm 35 and have been married for 12 years. Sex was pretty good and frequent before getting married, but pretty much stopped on the wedding day. We didn't even have sex on the wedding night. Immediately after the wedding all oral sex stopped; she won't even let me do it for her.
For the past 10+ years we have been having sex less than 10 times per year, which meets the definition of a sexless marriage. If it were up to me I would have sex every day. No matter how much I have complained, begged, planned, romanced, etc, she still refuses my advances. Even worse, the past two years she has started feeling pain on those rare occasions when we do have sex.
About 7 years ago I was at a bar and ended up making out with a girl I met. She invited me back to her place; on the way there I changed my mind and went home. A couple days later I told my wife that I was seriously thinking about sex with other women, that I needed sex, and maybe we should get a divorce. She promised things would change and convinced me to give it another try.
Things improved for a few months, but then went back to how they were before. For a couple years I continued to try everything I could think of to get her in the mood, but nothing worked. She would promise sex for things like birthdays and anniversaries, but when the time came she would be too tired or have another lame excuse.
About 5 years ago I simply gave up. I mostly stopped initiating sex, stopped doing things she wanted me to do, and pretty much zoned out. We've gone on like this for so long, I feel more like roommates than spouses. Despite all of this, I love and care for her very much; I know she loves me too.
I've thought about divorce on many occasions, but I feel trapped. She has mentioned suicide on several occasions; she often says things like she couldn't live without me, if I die she would die, etc.
After years of a sexless marriage, I made a bad decision and had an affair. There's no excuse for this, but I was badly missing sex and didn't feel like my wife could handle a divorce. I met up with this woman on three occasions and on the last we had sex. Unfortunately, my wife found out about it.
When confronted, I told her I wanted a trial separation or an open marriage. I could live happily with an open marriage, I love my wife very much, but I do have sexual needs. With a trial separation I was hoping we could both date and maybe she'd realize we're not in love. She will not agree to either option and wants to try to work it out.
Since she found out she has hurt herself on a few occasions by pounding her head on the wall/floor, hitting herself, pulling her hair... She has also drunk large amounts of alcohol and taken too many sleeping pills. I've been very close to calling for help, but I have been able to calm her down. She has now promised me she won't kill herself, but I'm not so sure.
We have gone to therapy, but the therapist is solely concentrating on the issue of sex. Oddly, my wife now wants sex all the time. She has even told me she wants sex with strangers and that if we do the trial separation she might not be able to resist strangers. At this point I feel like she's playing games to try to make me jealous. Unfortunately, I no longer want sex with her. I can definitely go through the motions, but I'm not into it. I still find her beautiful, but maybe after so much rejection something between us has broken.
At this point, I'm not sure what to do. Maybe a divorce would be best, but I really don't think she could handle it.
Any advice would be appreciated!
tl;dr; 10+ yr sexless marriage; can't divorce because wife is potentially suicidal; i had an affair; need some advice how to let her down easily."
Sexless marriage. Affair. Suicidal wife. Need advice. : relationships
"I'm 35 and have been married for 12 years. Sex was pretty good and frequent before getting married, but pretty much stopped on the wedding day. We didn't even have sex on the wedding night. Immediately after the wedding all oral sex stopped; she won't even let me do it for her.
For the past 10+ years we have been having sex less than 10 times per year, which meets the definition of a sexless marriage. If it were up to me I would have sex every day. No matter how much I have complained, begged, planned, romanced, etc, she still refuses my advances. Even worse, the past two years she has started feeling pain on those rare occasions when we do have sex.
About 7 years ago I was at a bar and ended up making out with a girl I met. She invited me back to her place; on the way there I changed my mind and went home. A couple days later I told my wife that I was seriously thinking about sex with other women, that I needed sex, and maybe we should get a divorce. She promised things would change and convinced me to give it another try.
Things improved for a few months, but then went back to how they were before. For a couple years I continued to try everything I could think of to get her in the mood, but nothing worked. She would promise sex for things like birthdays and anniversaries, but when the time came she would be too tired or have another lame excuse.
About 5 years ago I simply gave up. I mostly stopped initiating sex, stopped doing things she wanted me to do, and pretty much zoned out. We've gone on like this for so long, I feel more like roommates than spouses. Despite all of this, I love and care for her very much; I know she loves me too.
I've thought about divorce on many occasions, but I feel trapped. She has mentioned suicide on several occasions; she often says things like she couldn't live without me, if I die she would die, etc.
After years of a sexless marriage, I made a bad decision and had an affair. There's no excuse for this, but I was badly missing sex and didn't feel like my wife could handle a divorce. I met up with this woman on three occasions and on the last we had sex. Unfortunately, my wife found out about it.
When confronted, I told her I wanted a trial separation or an open marriage. I could live happily with an open marriage, I love my wife very much, but I do have sexual needs. With a trial separation I was hoping we could both date and maybe she'd realize we're not in love. She will not agree to either option and wants to try to work it out.
Since she found out she has hurt herself on a few occasions by pounding her head on the wall/floor, hitting herself, pulling her hair... She has also drunk large amounts of alcohol and taken too many sleeping pills. I've been very close to calling for help, but I have been able to calm her down. She has now promised me she won't kill herself, but I'm not so sure.
We have gone to therapy, but the therapist is solely concentrating on the issue of sex. Oddly, my wife now wants sex all the time. She has even told me she wants sex with strangers and that if we do the trial separation she might not be able to resist strangers. At this point I feel like she's playing games to try to make me jealous. Unfortunately, I no longer want sex with her. I can definitely go through the motions, but I'm not into it. I still find her beautiful, but maybe after so much rejection something between us has broken.
At this point, I'm not sure what to do. Maybe a divorce would be best, but I really don't think she could handle it.
Any advice would be appreciated!
tl;dr; 10+ yr sexless marriage; can't divorce because wife is potentially suicidal; i had an affair; need some advice how to let her down easily."
Sexless marriage. Affair. Suicidal wife. Need advice. : relationships
George Gooney
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"One of the greatest tools a man can have is options. Options, or lack thereof, can make or break a man. Too many guys allow themselves to be monopolized by females. In many cases, when a female sees that she has a monopoly on you, she will flip the script. She will feel like she can step to you any way she wants to. This is the case in any situation where there is a monopoly on services. For example, in order to drive, you have to have a stateissued driver's license. The only place where you can get a driver's license is the state-run DMV. The DMV has a monopoly, and the people at the DMV know that you can only come to them for a license. This is why they treat you like crap at the DMV. At any DMV you go to, you will see ridiculously long lines and DMV workers with the worst attitudes, who drag ass when it comes to helping you. What incentive do they have to give you good customer service? You ain't going nowhere. No matter how funky they
treat you, you're still going to have to stay there and take it, because you have to. The same goes for dating. When you're with a female, and she sees that you don't really have the ability to get other females, she will start talking to you any way she wants. And she knows that you'll just sit there and take it. Ultimately, she will lose respect for you. She will nitpick you about everything, degrade you, and eventually she'll kick you to the side. As a man, you have to let a female know that she is not doing you a favor by being in the picture. You have to let her know that she can be replaced and your life won't miss a beat without her. You don't have to do this verbally. When you verbally let females know about your options, they can usually see that it is an obvious bluff. Saying things like "I've got other girls who would want me, too," isn't convincing at all. You have to show her with your actions. When you keep yourself well maintained, and you keep your paper flowing, you automatically get real options. If you generally stay fly, and carry yourself like the top-notch man you truly are— even you married men can do this—you will always have females checking for you. A man with options will keep a female minding her P's and Q's. When a female knows she can easily be replaced, she is less likely to come at you out of pocket. This is another reason why women are determined to get their men to commit to marriage. Women know that once a man is married, there are legal repercussions for him if he cheats. This is why a lot of men complain that their wives let themselves go, or that their personality changed (i.e., she got bytchy) after they got married. Married women do tend to switch their game up after the wedding, because in their minds they know "they got you." In this legalistic day and age, a lot of guys figure, "it's cheaper to keep her." Always have options when it comes to females."
treat you, you're still going to have to stay there and take it, because you have to. The same goes for dating. When you're with a female, and she sees that you don't really have the ability to get other females, she will start talking to you any way she wants. And she knows that you'll just sit there and take it. Ultimately, she will lose respect for you. She will nitpick you about everything, degrade you, and eventually she'll kick you to the side. As a man, you have to let a female know that she is not doing you a favor by being in the picture. You have to let her know that she can be replaced and your life won't miss a beat without her. You don't have to do this verbally. When you verbally let females know about your options, they can usually see that it is an obvious bluff. Saying things like "I've got other girls who would want me, too," isn't convincing at all. You have to show her with your actions. When you keep yourself well maintained, and you keep your paper flowing, you automatically get real options. If you generally stay fly, and carry yourself like the top-notch man you truly are— even you married men can do this—you will always have females checking for you. A man with options will keep a female minding her P's and Q's. When a female knows she can easily be replaced, she is less likely to come at you out of pocket. This is another reason why women are determined to get their men to commit to marriage. Women know that once a man is married, there are legal repercussions for him if he cheats. This is why a lot of men complain that their wives let themselves go, or that their personality changed (i.e., she got bytchy) after they got married. Married women do tend to switch their game up after the wedding, because in their minds they know "they got you." In this legalistic day and age, a lot of guys figure, "it's cheaper to keep her." Always have options when it comes to females."
That whole 'insecure thing' is brainwashing, aka the shaming tactics we've been bringing up all throughout this thread. If you feel like it's an issue, then bring it up and handle that. Thing is, if it's a watch her ex gave her and she never brings it up, then it shouldn't be too much of a deal, but if she's always making little comments about how she wishes you would be like her ex and buy her things and uses that watch as a reference, you need to check her on that. "If your ex was really giving you what you wanted, then you'd be over there and not with me."
Cinderella and snow white are both hypergamy movies at its finest.
When they reach the age of 14 every teen should be given a deconstruction(like the one above) of all big 'romance' works in pop culture. I can't begin to imagine how many children have their heads filled with mindfukk each year from movies like Titanic and Twilight...
Yagirlcheatinonus
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If you're not respected by your male peers your woman won't respect you.
This chick I got the digits texted me back a day and a half later after a couple messages
But she apologized and said its been a hectic week
Not something you see everyday
It takes nothing to send a text, I don't buy that I was to busy bla bla
Chicks are always on their phones always
I know right 
Like i dont get it.
It takes seconds . Only thing is I know she feelin the kid. Late 2011, bytch said I looked like a model when I first got at it during a school party. She was visiting a friend on my campus...and she knew a chick that transferred to Ryerson from my school cause they both in the same program. Said all her friends housemates were complimenting me; (i actually boned one of em that night and walked past this chick in the kitchen during my walk home
) I think I actually tried to get her number that night but she said she doesnt give it to nikkas at parties 
.
Saw her last week again at Yonge and Richmond or some shyt...the Booster Juice over there. Began talking...couldnt get the digits cause some stranger ruined my flex and interrupted me so I said fukk it I gotta go back to work.
Got the digits through the friend (i usually wouldnt but fugg it) and commenced.
. Spanish or Portuguese chick I think. Last name Ferraro and I need one of those for the squad
Like i dont get it.
It takes seconds . Only thing is I know she feelin the kid. Late 2011, bytch said I looked like a model when I first got at it during a school party. She was visiting a friend on my campus...and she knew a chick that transferred to Ryerson from my school cause they both in the same program. Said all her friends housemates were complimenting me; (i actually boned one of em that night and walked past this chick in the kitchen during my walk home
) I think I actually tried to get her number that night but she said she doesnt give it to nikkas at parties .Saw her last week again at Yonge and Richmond or some shyt...the Booster Juice over there. Began talking...couldnt get the digits cause some stranger ruined my flex and interrupted me so I said fukk it I gotta go back to work.
Got the digits through the friend (i usually wouldnt but fugg it) and commenced.
. Spanish or Portuguese chick I think. Last name Ferraro and I need one of those for the squad
Shameonyou
All Star
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women are controlled by their feelings over what is "right"
women are controlled by their feelings over what is "right"
