I'm reading all these posts about women and what not and as a women myself I have a few concerns. It's seems like guys follow this "code" on dealing with females but how are I supposed to know when a man is really into you? Because clearly u can't go by what he says if its just all apart of the game and he isn't supposed to REALLY tell u how he feels it's all so confusing
Dating is just like marketing.You have to be able to know your desired audience (rich or poor,hood or classy...ect),and you have to be able to construct a marketing plan whereby you'll be able to capture their attention and keep them fixated.
Think about Apple.The reason why people first bought the Iphone was because it was able to distinguish itself from it's competitors by giving them something that no other phone had at that moment.
Variety!
Before the iphone,cellular phone companies weren't really serious about trying to revolutionize the phone industry.All they cared about was money.But after the Iphone came out,everyone and their moma was trying to come up with a plan to defeat Apple.
Now the reason why I say this is because I would like to invite you to look at yourself as a product.A product that is being marketed to a certain group of people (i.e Men).
As a product you have to be able to distinguish yourself from your competitors (i.e other women).
The only way you'll be able to do that is by adding different features to your resume....meaning learning and applying as much as you can to distinguish yourself from other people.
Both externally and internally as well.
Think of it like us men are shopping for a house that we can call our home,but as men we know that there are only four types of houses.
House #1:is the type of house that looks good on the outside but as soon as you get inside you realize how ugly it is.
House #2:is the type of house that also looks good on the outside,and maybe even look good on the inside as well.But as you start to explore the interior of this house some more, you quickly realize that it needs a whole lotta repairs.I mean the plumbing systems is messed up,there is mole on certain corners of the wall...I mean things that you won't naturally see at first glance until you spend time really exploring the house.
House #3::is the type of house that looks unattractive on the outside,but as soon as you get inside it's like..."WHOA!!!This house is beautiful!It just needs some repairs externally,but internally it's amazing!.
and finally there is
House #4::Now house number four is the type of house that is absolutely amazing on the outside,and naturally beautiful on the inside.This house is the most expensive house because much time and effort were placed into making it look like the way it does.Wanna know why?Because the owners of the house knew their targeted audience and decided to create a house that will actually appeal to them.
You are a house where a man will eventually decide to stay and call his home.And as a house you have to decide what type of person you want living with you,and be able to effectively market yourself to your desired person.
If you know you have a broken plumbing system,leaking roof and all of the other horrors that come with owning,and buying,a new home.Then no one will want to buy you(i.e.marry or settle down) because there is too much to fix.
Sooooo....what you have to do is be like apple and reinvent yourself.You have a resume that speaks volumes for you,and you have to continually be adding to that resume.
Make sure you read,watch,and learn as much as possible about sex.Get rid of that mentality of "I'll never do that" or "I'll never try that". Instead adopt a playful attitude of "I wonder what it would be like if I were to try this?".
By doing this you're showing your man that not only are you open minded,but very sexual as well.Long story short....
MAKE YOUR SEX GAME ON POINT!Learn every and anything there is to know about sex.
secondly,
Make sure that you have skills outside of the bedroom as well.Learn everything you can
cooking,sowing,knitting...ect.
The more skills you have under your belt the more distinguished you become as a woman and as an human being.
Now I'm not saying forget about you're academic life,schooling..ect.
What I'm saying is have a balance.A lot of women have great careers for themselves but when it comes to everything else outside of the business world.They lack that feminine finesse.
Be that type of woman that can put on a suite and tie and be professional,yet be able to put on an apron and get cooking.Basically being well versatile in both family and business life.
And last but not least....
stop worrying about the games that men play and focus your happiness.What makes you happy? What are some things you'd like to do or learn?If you knew no one would criticize you or make fun of you what type of things would you do?
Because as you focus on your happiness you'll come to the point where you completely understand when someone is taking advantage of you,and when you're being appreciated.
So I say all this to say:focus on your happiness while making yourself a better person and you'll eventually attract the right man.Cause a good man is always looking for a good woman.Trust me!