Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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personally, I'd just be cordial to her. keep it respectful but don't give her anymore extra flirty attention. chances are she will ask you why you changed, you're not the same, blablabla. I'd just keep it real and tell her "i was only flirting with you cause i thought you were single. Not feeling the vibe like before". She may try to guilt trip you at that point but don't give in. Keep it cordial and dry with no bitterness at that point. She will either move on or try to get you back. if you see her trying to own your attention again, you could have an opportunity to flip the game on her. At that point, make her work hard to get your attention again. Charge her ass a high price. The more work she will put in, the more she won't want to give up. But you gotta be ready for her to give up at anytime and be at peace with that.Should i just stop speaking to her all together treat her like a ghost...............
all that is if you want to play mind games though. You could just keep it cordial/dry and simply pay her no more attention cause frankly, that energy will be better spent improving yourself and getting to know a woman who is more worthy of your attention.
@kevm3 @Turbulent I think we are getting a bit redundant in here. Not saying that as an insult or anything, just saying I think ALL of as a whole automatically made posts on women and how they act in terms of RELATIONSHIPS....
Alot of us have not addressed other examples for example in public and how they treat civil workers....
A perfect example of this is that I just started working at a Pathmark Supermarket in the middle of October and lord let me tell you
It opened up my eyes even more about how these women even those(especially those) of 40 and up just have NO CLASS at all and try to "test" or try and play the Cashiers like myself. Occasionally you will meet those who act respectful and actually have class. But this one (just came off my shift at 8 pm....i worked 4 to 8 today) Black lady in line actually after I rang up her stuff did what the customers always do and started looking up the screen bytching about "I thought this....I thought this was___price" then when you are trying to explain to them, that that is not the price coming up on your computer, they just talk over you and go into that its not what the sign says....This lady was pissing me off and I'm being respectful to her and explaining...
starts going on about how "I must be new" ....then tells me to forget that specific item and she will take it up to customer service.....I say okay and I'm trying to void it for her but it accidently scans again(the scanners are sensative) and she starts going on about how what I am doing and How "Your holding up the line"
Anyway long story short....this is exactly what I was talking about ages ago when I was asking you guys to see if you can talk about the mothers more often and not just the females that are our peers......
Because in a place like this you just witness up close that its women of all ages that show no class and seem like they are uncivilized children with how they act out.
We have had over 1000 pages in this thread.....we should start talking also about how women act in PUBLIC.....but necessarily in terms of relationships.....
In the time I have been here you especially shake your head at the men that seem to enable and encourage their behavior. It annoys me how they get away with this stuff so much.
Cause you know the same ones would preach about unfairness with the way they are being treated at their job and shed tears.....and mention NOTHING about how they disrespect people who are trying to do their own jobs.
I don't mean to sound crass or messed up or anything but this is why alot of times I cannot take "female empowerment" too seriously.....especially when you see people like Chris Matthews(MSNBC) constantly sucking up to certain women and basically being one of the people to encourage this behavior
Alot of us have not addressed other examples for example in public and how they treat civil workers....
A perfect example of this is that I just started working at a Pathmark Supermarket in the middle of October and lord let me tell you
It opened up my eyes even more about how these women even those(especially those) of 40 and up just have NO CLASS at all and try to "test" or try and play the Cashiers like myself. Occasionally you will meet those who act respectful and actually have class. But this one (just came off my shift at 8 pm....i worked 4 to 8 today) Black lady in line actually after I rang up her stuff did what the customers always do and started looking up the screen bytching about "I thought this....I thought this was___price" then when you are trying to explain to them, that that is not the price coming up on your computer, they just talk over you and go into that its not what the sign says....This lady was pissing me off and I'm being respectful to her and explaining...
starts going on about how "I must be new" ....then tells me to forget that specific item and she will take it up to customer service.....I say okay and I'm trying to void it for her but it accidently scans again(the scanners are sensative) and she starts going on about how what I am doing and How "Your holding up the line"
Anyway long story short....this is exactly what I was talking about ages ago when I was asking you guys to see if you can talk about the mothers more often and not just the females that are our peers......
Because in a place like this you just witness up close that its women of all ages that show no class and seem like they are uncivilized children with how they act out.
We have had over 1000 pages in this thread.....we should start talking also about how women act in PUBLIC.....but necessarily in terms of relationships.....
In the time I have been here you especially shake your head at the men that seem to enable and encourage their behavior. It annoys me how they get away with this stuff so much.
Cause you know the same ones would preach about unfairness with the way they are being treated at their job and shed tears.....and mention NOTHING about how they disrespect people who are trying to do their own jobs.
I don't mean to sound crass or messed up or anything but this is why alot of times I cannot take "female empowerment" too seriously.....especially when you see people like Chris Matthews(MSNBC) constantly sucking up to certain women and basically being one of the people to encourage this behavior
lately i'm becoming more and more "zen" or at peace with it all. it's not really about women. it's just human nature. you got male and female cool people just like you have a$$holes. the only difference is that an a$$hole or a smart ass will play the system and test it's limits. Men and women have different "limits" in society. it's not that women are worse than men. they are just more "enabled" to be a$$holes in certain situations. But you better believe if male a$$holes could get away with the same behavior they'd act the same way. But they know better. they know they'll get punished physically.
That woman that was being an a$$hole to you, she does it because no one in her life has established limits to her. not her man, not her friends, not her fam and not strangers. why should she stop when she doesn't have to? I wish i could give you a solution for them but there isn't. it's all about action/reaction. People will do what they feel like doing no matter how good or bad as long as they can deal with the consequences. You only have control over your thoughts and actions. Protect yourself and your boundaries the best way you can and let nature take it's course. but this goes beyond dealing with women. this is dealing with people in general.
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As for women in public.I cant stand loud mouth ones.I remember a poster uploading the Fresh Prince episode of Carlton and Will out at dinner with Vivica Fox and how she kept giving the waitiress a hard time.Its sort of like when we were children our parents check us in public when we would show out.Its same thing with these women,they start showing out and expect us to check them like a child.Nobody got time for that
"I normally don't do this with guys" 3rd chick that's told me that in the past few months. 
Anyways, I've been going out on the solo the tip the past few weeks, minus halloween weekend. I'm really enjoying it. Right now I just hit up this one bar near by. Met 1, but she was from Mexico and dipped out. bytched out on 1 little skeo and just hooked up with a nice thick 41 year old this past saturday.
I'm the last one out of my click brehs. Everyone is pretty much shackled up. For me, I'm focusing on my career and enjoying this bachelor life. To be blunt, I've been an absolute whore these past few months. 1 after the other. I even ended up smashing my homegirl that I've known for over 13+ years.
Anyways, I've been going out on the solo the tip the past few weeks, minus halloween weekend. I'm really enjoying it. Right now I just hit up this one bar near by. Met 1, but she was from Mexico and dipped out. bytched out on 1 little skeo and just hooked up with a nice thick 41 year old this past saturday.
I'm the last one out of my click brehs. Everyone is pretty much shackled up. For me, I'm focusing on my career and enjoying this bachelor life. To be blunt, I've been an absolute whore these past few months. 1 after the other. I even ended up smashing my homegirl that I've known for over 13+ years.
As for women in public.I cant stand loud mouth ones.I remember a poster uploading the Fresh Prince episode of Carlton and Will out at dinner with Vivica Fox and how she kept giving the waitiress a hard time.Its sort of like when we were children our parents check us in public when we would show out.Its same thing with these women,they start showing out and expect us to check them like a child.Nobody got time for that
You ever see those women out with a little child whether their own child, a grandson or grandaughter, neice or nephew,etc.......and they throw a tantrum when the child does something as small as walking 2 steps? I remember one time in this Burger King this women who looked like a grandmother kept going too hard for no reason when the little boy she was with was moving in a little in his seat. The little guy wasn't even being loud or cursing or anything like that to warrant a response....I noticed alot of them do this.
@Turbulent
going to try to learn to handle people like her. Your right though I have had a$$hole male customers before its just that we know the ratio is extremely lopsided lets be honest. If you were to ask female cashiers what gender if they had the chance to deal with on one given day if they had the chance 9 out of 10 would say men.it's like Patrice said. As men we know there could be ramifications if we cross the line. A dude who gets in another dude's face, raises his voice and acts disrespectful knows that their is a possibility he may get socked in the jaw. As men we all hve an unspoken understanding of this notion. Women however seem to not be aware of that notion. They think it doesn't apply to them. No one ever introduced that option to their lifeYou ever see those women out with a little child whether their own child, a grandson or grandaughter, neice or nephew,etc.......and they throw a tantrum when the child does something as small as walking 2 steps? I remember one time in this Burger King this women who looked like a grandmother kept going too hard for no reason when the little boy she was with was moving in a little in his seat. The little guy wasn't even being loud or cursing or anything like that to warrant a response....I noticed alot of them do this.
@Turbulent
Everyone feels so safe. kids talking shyt to teachers and then saying "you're not allowed to touch me". This is very bytchmade feminine behavior. Heck i don't even like cops but some people do the same thing to cops. Men typically respect opther men because we kinda relate to one another. Dudes don't want to start shyt with me as i don't want to start shyt with them cause we understand the physical danger. we've all been in manly fights. We understand what it's like to be in a position where you could have killed dude and shyt just got real. So we take that shyt very seriously. A lot of women will read this and may understand the words but they'll never feel what i'm spitting right here. it's like some type of code...
Brehs, I'm feeling pretty weird. I don't know if this is a dealing with women issue as much as it might be a dealing with the self, life issue, but me being engulfed in a highly sex-driven society, while possessing a low sex drive and testosterone, is starting to wear on me. I don't know what it is. I thought I was doing the right thing by adhering to my natural inclinations and my intuition, but all of these eager beavers around me have started to seep into my subconscious.
Basically, people are bewildered, and sometimes upset when I don't pursue women and bring them home at night
People are pointing out my attractiveness levels, and are telling me about girls that are into me, but are finding me foolish, and almost idiotic, when they learn that I'm oblivious to that shyt. It's starting to screw me up because I feel like I'm starting to force myself to become a horndog. I'm dawning this false sense of entitlement. I'm starting to feel like I'm entitled to a bunch of sex and that's a really dangerous attitude to have. I'm finding out that these average/below average girls are participating in threesomes and getting loads of sex, and now I'm getting the "well that ain't fair, what about me?" mindset. I don't like thinking like that!
I went through a brief phase where I wasn't thinking about sex, or any matters relating to it, and it was healthy. Things felt good. I've started to give way too much thought to many aspects surrounding it inside of this culture suddenly, and it's wack. This might not be the thread for this rant, but I like you guys and didn't want to make a whole new thread about it, I thought that would be overly selfish.
It's not fun for me to measure myself up against others socially and spiritually, but I've been feeling like a real anomaly, guys. I feel like the 6'8 kid in high school who didn't play any sports, and just studied, and got viewed at as a disappointment as a result. Maybe my low T is hereditary, and combined with the fact that I'm deterred by the negative qualities that sex can bring, and my depression levels, have created this scenario for me. I'm afraid of trying to boost my testosterone, though, cause I don't know if that will truly solve anything. I don't know if that will generate genuine happiness for me. Seeking validation through sex seems superfluously silly.
Basically, people are bewildered, and sometimes upset when I don't pursue women and bring them home at night
People are pointing out my attractiveness levels, and are telling me about girls that are into me, but are finding me foolish, and almost idiotic, when they learn that I'm oblivious to that shyt. It's starting to screw me up because I feel like I'm starting to force myself to become a horndog. I'm dawning this false sense of entitlement. I'm starting to feel like I'm entitled to a bunch of sex and that's a really dangerous attitude to have. I'm finding out that these average/below average girls are participating in threesomes and getting loads of sex, and now I'm getting the "well that ain't fair, what about me?" mindset. I don't like thinking like that!
I went through a brief phase where I wasn't thinking about sex, or any matters relating to it, and it was healthy. Things felt good. I've started to give way too much thought to many aspects surrounding it inside of this culture suddenly, and it's wack. This might not be the thread for this rant, but I like you guys and didn't want to make a whole new thread about it, I thought that would be overly selfish.
It's not fun for me to measure myself up against others socially and spiritually, but I've been feeling like a real anomaly, guys. I feel like the 6'8 kid in high school who didn't play any sports, and just studied, and got viewed at as a disappointment as a result. Maybe my low T is hereditary, and combined with the fact that I'm deterred by the negative qualities that sex can bring, and my depression levels, have created this scenario for me. I'm afraid of trying to boost my testosterone, though, cause I don't know if that will truly solve anything. I don't know if that will generate genuine happiness for me. Seeking validation through sex seems superfluously silly.
EA
A Pound & A Prayer
Update on my situation:
I spoke to my girl last night about everything and she tried to flip everything on me. Saying things like "I've found out that you're not willing to compromise for me. Not even a little bit."
I won't lie, I was getting heated and I literally just gave up there on the spot. I told that I really wanna be with her but I'm too young to deal with this stress and bullshyt. I said to her that I'm done and that she probably won't hear from me but I'm not gonna do stuff like delete her number and block her on whatsapp.
She then tried to turn it on me again saying things like "See, this is what I get for going against my gut feeling and getting with a younger guy." I swear these girls are selfish and/or irrational. I had to tell her about herself and I told her that she's the only reason this is happening because I've done nothing wrong...and she agreed with me
The she said that she knew our relationship wasn't gonna last because I said I would struggle to stand by her if I knew she was killer. (I know I could have just humoured her and lied but we ain't Bonnie & Clyde, she can miss me with that shyt
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I slept it off and I feel a bit weird. Hopefully a good workout will make me feel better.
I spoke to my girl last night about everything and she tried to flip everything on me. Saying things like "I've found out that you're not willing to compromise for me. Not even a little bit."
I won't lie, I was getting heated and I literally just gave up there on the spot. I told that I really wanna be with her but I'm too young to deal with this stress and bullshyt. I said to her that I'm done and that she probably won't hear from me but I'm not gonna do stuff like delete her number and block her on whatsapp.
She then tried to turn it on me again saying things like "See, this is what I get for going against my gut feeling and getting with a younger guy." I swear these girls are selfish and/or irrational. I had to tell her about herself and I told her that she's the only reason this is happening because I've done nothing wrong...and she agreed with me
The she said that she knew our relationship wasn't gonna last because I said I would struggle to stand by her if I knew she was killer. (I know I could have just humoured her and lied but we ain't Bonnie & Clyde, she can miss me with that shyt
)I slept it off and I feel a bit weird. Hopefully a good workout will make me feel better.
Brehs, I'm feeling pretty weird. I don't know if this is a dealing with women issue as much as it might be a dealing with the self, life issue, but me being engulfed in a highly sex-driven society, while possessing a low sex drive and testosterone, is starting to wear on me. I don't know what it is. I thought I was doing the right thing by adhering to my natural inclinations and my intuition, but all of these eager beavers around me have started to seep into my subconscious.
Basically, people are bewildered, and sometimes upset when I don't pursue women and bring them home at night
People are pointing out my attractiveness levels, and are telling me about girls that are into me, but are finding me foolish, and almost idiotic, when they learn that I'm oblivious to that shyt. It's starting to screw me up because I feel like I'm starting to force myself to become a horndog. I'm dawning this false sense of entitlement. I'm starting to feel like I'm entitled to a bunch of sex and that's a really dangerous attitude to have. I'm finding out that these average/below average girls are participating in threesomes and getting loads of sex, and now I'm getting the "well that ain't fair, what about me?" mindset. I don't like thinking like that!
I went through a brief phase where I wasn't thinking about sex, or any matters relating to it, and it was healthy. Things felt good. I've started to give way too much thought to many aspects surrounding it inside of this culture suddenly, and it's wack. This might not be the thread for this rant, but I like you guys and didn't want to make a whole new thread about it, I thought that would be overly selfish.
It's not fun for me to measure myself up against others socially and spiritually, but I've been feeling like a real anomaly, guys. I feel like the 6'8 kid in high school who didn't play any sports, and just studied, and got viewed at as a disappointment as a result. Maybe my low T is hereditary, and combined with the fact that I'm deterred by the negative qualities that sex can bring, and my depression levels, have created this scenario for me. I'm afraid of trying to boost my testosterone, though, cause I don't know if that will truly solve anything. I don't know if that will generate genuine happiness for me. Seeking validation through sex seems superfluously silly.
Ignore them. Are those guys going to be there to remove the STD from your body or to pitch in on the child support payments? Are they going to step in and deal with a woman you can't stand for the 18 years you'd have to deal with her if you got her pregnant? The problem is we live in a twisted, amoral society and we live in a culture of simped-out coochie hounds who will do or say anything to get sex and then complain when the repercussions come around and tear them up. If you want to be average, think like the average person. If you want to be one of the mindless masses, give in and adopt their mindset. But if you're smart like I think you are and man enough to not do what others are doing, you won't give in to the peer pressure.
I think the fundamental problem in our society right now is that feminism has stripped most women of anything other than looking pretty and offering sex. We were created as spiritual beings, and sex is something men enjoy that satisfies them on a physical level, but ultimately a man wants something MORE than sex from a woman. He's looking for quality in conversation and morals. I don't think it's a testosterone problem as much as you don't feel motivation to deal with women who aren't bringing something more than the potential of sex to the table... and a real man demands quality.
Let those negroes run into the minefield and stay true to what you're doing.
Update on my situation:
I spoke to my girl last night about everything and she tried to flip everything on me. Saying things like "I've found out that you're not willing to compromise for me. Not even a little bit."
I won't lie, I was getting heated and I literally just gave up there on the spot. I told that I really wanna be with her but I'm too young to deal with this stress and bullshyt. I said to her that I'm done and that she probably won't hear from me but I'm not gonna do stuff like delete her number and block her on whatsapp.
She then tried to turn it on me again saying things like "See, this is what I get for going against my gut feeling and getting with a younger guy." I swear these girls are selfish and/or irrational. I had to tell her about herself and I told her that she's the only reason this is happening because I've done nothing wrong...and she agreed with me
The she said that she knew our relationship wasn't gonna last because I said I would struggle to stand by her if I knew she was killer. (I know I could have just humoured her and lied but we ain't Bonnie & Clyde, she can miss me with that shyt
I slept it off and I feel a bit weird. Hopefully a good workout will make me feel better.
The more you deal with women, the more you will be exposed to 'how they argue'... it's inherent in their nature. They will argue based off of emotion and will always 'flip the script' and do what it takes to make themselves appear right. If you are winning the argument, they will try to call you a jerk, cry or some other similar tactic. Women don't argue for fairness for the most part. They argue for self- benefit and they are very skilled at using various tactics to shame and psychologically push you to their point of view.
@kevm3 @Turbulent I think we are getting a bit redundant in here. Not saying that as an insult or anything, just saying I think ALL of as a whole automatically made posts on women and how they act in terms of RELATIONSHIPS....
Alot of us have not addressed other examples for example in public and how they treat civil workers....
A perfect example of this is that I just started working at a Pathmark Supermarket in the middle of October and lord let me tell you
It opened up my eyes even more about how these women even those(especially those) of 40 and up just have NO CLASS at all and try to "test" or try and play the Cashiers like myself. Occasionally you will meet those who act respectful and actually have class. But this one (just came off my shift at 8 pm....i worked 4 to 8 today) Black lady in line actually after I rang up her stuff did what the customers always do and started looking up the screen bytching about "I thought this....I thought this was___price" then when you are trying to explain to them, that that is not the price coming up on your computer, they just talk over you and go into that its not what the sign says....This lady was pissing me off and I'm being respectful to her and explaining...
starts going on about how "I must be new" ....then tells me to forget that specific item and she will take it up to customer service.....I say okay and I'm trying to void it for her but it accidently scans again(the scanners are sensative) and she starts going on about how what I am doing and How "Your holding up the line"
Anyway long story short....this is exactly what I was talking about ages ago when I was asking you guys to see if you can talk about the mothers more often and not just the females that are our peers......
Because in a place like this you just witness up close that its women of all ages that show no class and seem like they are uncivilized children with how they act out.
We have had over 1000 pages in this thread.....we should start talking also about how women act in PUBLIC.....but necessarily in terms of relationships.....
In the time I have been here you especially shake your head at the men that seem to enable and encourage their behavior. It annoys me how they get away with this stuff so much.
Cause you know the same ones would preach about unfairness with the way they are being treated at their job and shed tears.....and mention NOTHING about how they disrespect people who are trying to do their own jobs.
I don't mean to sound crass or messed up or anything but this is why alot of times I cannot take "female empowerment" too seriously.....especially when you see people like Chris Matthews(MSNBC) constantly sucking up to certain women and basically being one of the people to encourage this behavior
The thing is, I can't even blame women. I blame society and the lame simps that empower women to act like this. You won't see women pulling that off in the MIddle East because men over there don't tolerate it. I am not recommending we go to that Middle Eastern model that actually oppresses women, but I am illustrating a point that if you allow it, women will do it.... and we have a breed of men that reward women for bad behaviors and pave over it with excuses. You think a woman is going to get out of line and sass someone like Suge Knight? Women go wild and do things like hit men or act crazy in public because we have a whole contingent of society that tells them that it is ok.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
@kevm3 @Turbulent I think we are getting a bit redundant in here. Not saying that as an insult or anything, just saying I think ALL of as a whole automatically made posts on women and how they act in terms of RELATIONSHIPS....
Alot of us have not addressed other examples for example in public and how they treat civil workers....
A perfect example of this is that I just started working at a Pathmark Supermarket in the middle of October and lord let me tell you
It opened up my eyes even more about how these women even those(especially those) of 40 and up just have NO CLASS at all and try to "test" or try and play the Cashiers like myself. Occasionally you will meet those who act respectful and actually have class. But this one (just came off my shift at 8 pm....i worked 4 to 8 today) Black lady in line actually after I rang up her stuff did what the customers always do and started looking up the screen bytching about "I thought this....I thought this was___price" then when you are trying to explain to them, that that is not the price coming up on your computer, they just talk over you and go into that its not what the sign says....This lady was pissing me off and I'm being respectful to her and explaining...
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Although it hasn't been quoted, but that's why I posted that video yesterday of this chick who thought she was so big and bad by kicking a guy in the nuts until he punched her through the glass. Men are just simply getting sick and tired of this disgusting behaviour.
I don't encourage laying hands on a woman, but since women generally crave attention (good or bad), then we need to just take it away from them. In your case - and I used to work in the bank in a ratched ass part of town over 10 years ago as a cashier, so I've been through your scenario MANY times - you had no choice but to interact with this 'lady', but the best thing you could have done in that case is simply not take the bait and remain professional. If it's a work colleague you have to deal with and they go against company etiquette, report them just as quick as they'd report you if it's the other way around.
In other cases outside of work, have nothing more to do with them. That's it. Don't get into any rah rah with them, because they feed off that. Having a monotone voice and expressionless poker face and walking away will hurt them more than any screaming or cussing will ever do.
If I'm dating a chick and she shows me up just ONCE in public, the relationship is over.
I've mentioned this ratched ass distant female cousin (who is actually a hoe who cheated on her long term boyfriend but that's another story) who got in my face back in June and the situation nearly got real ugly but I managed not to react the way I probably would have done even a few years ago. The family now knows I want nothing to do with this bytch ever again, nor do I wanna hear about her, even though her friend who was there tried calling me the following wanting to speak to me, I ignored that little bullshyt message.
I don't get into any flame wars with chicks who don't know how to act like decent, grown ass women. I'll delete their numbers and all traces of their existence on my part and that's it.
You have to walk away from these broads who act like this, because when you react, then YOU look bad. You may be fully justified, but we live in a feminist and super simp society where women can do no wrong in the eyes of many. I can't remember the name of that rapper whose girlfriend punched him in the face in the street and in front of the camera because of something he said in a freestyle. Nobody said anything about how it was wrong for her to punch him, all everybody did was get on some "ha ha he's a punk, that girl snuffed him", yet if he hit her back, it would have raised all types of hell.
What I say applies to relationships, on the job, in public, wherever. There has to be a penalty for that kind of behaviour no matter what the setting is. They want equality, fine. Let them suffer the consequences just as much as we would.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Brehs, I'm feeling pretty weird. I don't know if this is a dealing with women issue as much as it might be a dealing with the self, life issue, but me being engulfed in a highly sex-driven society, while possessing a low sex drive and testosterone, is starting to wear on me. I don't know what it is. I thought I was doing the right thing by adhering to my natural inclinations and my intuition, but all of these eager beavers around me have started to seep into my subconscious.
Basically, people are bewildered, and sometimes upset when I don't pursue women and bring them home at night
People are pointing out my attractiveness levels, and are telling me about girls that are into me, but are finding me foolish, and almost idiotic, when they learn that I'm oblivious to that shyt. It's starting to screw me up because I feel like I'm starting to force myself to become a horndog. I'm dawning this false sense of entitlement. I'm starting to feel like I'm entitled to a bunch of sex and that's a really dangerous attitude to have. I'm finding out that these average/below average girls are participating in threesomes and getting loads of sex, and now I'm getting the "well that ain't fair, what about me?" mindset. I don't like thinking like that!
I went through a brief phase where I wasn't thinking about sex, or any matters relating to it, and it was healthy. Things felt good. I've started to give way too much thought to many aspects surrounding it inside of this culture suddenly, and it's wack. This might not be the thread for this rant, but I like you guys and didn't want to make a whole new thread about it, I thought that would be overly selfish.
It's not fun for me to measure myself up against others socially and spiritually, but I've been feeling like a real anomaly, guys. I feel like the 6'8 kid in high school who didn't play any sports, and just studied, and got viewed at as a disappointment as a result. Maybe my low T is hereditary, and combined with the fact that I'm deterred by the negative qualities that sex can bring, and my depression levels, have created this scenario for me. I'm afraid of trying to boost my testosterone, though, cause I don't know if that will truly solve anything. I don't know if that will generate genuine happiness for me. Seeking validation through sex seems superfluously silly.
Fam, ignore them. They aren't paying your bills and from what it sounds, it seems like they don't really give a fukk about you. If these are your "friends" you're referring too, then you need to find new ones if this is how they're making you feel. It's one thing to be naturally curious about a friend and ask them certain questions, but it's another to be so persistent to the point of bullying and making a person feel like they have something "wrong" with them. You need to cut them loose if they persist. If it's relatives or workmates, tell them to mind their own business and that you're happy the way you are. Succumbing to peer pressure and taking drastic measures is dangerous and besides, if things go wrong, you won't see those same people for dust. Look at all these chicks who were looking good naturally but went under the knife because one or two people made a negative remark about their looks. When the surgery goes wrong and they end up looking messed up for real, are those same people around?
As long as you're healthy and doing what you want to do, then that should be the end of it. Let these chicks have their little sex orgies, because they're the same ones who seek out for guys like you to look after them and their little brood in five years time. On the one hand, brothas who lay the pipe 24/7 are dogs, but when you're not oversexed and just functioning normally, people don't like that either. smh.
Anyway, I've found that in most cases it's not that people want to see you happy, they just want to see things get fukked up for you and have something to talk about. Yeah, I see a lot of people for what they are and what they're truly about, they're not fooling me. I've been around long enough to know how people really stay. I'm at a point now where I'm going to be starting a new job very soon that will take me places and enable me to do the things I want to do. I've got no problems at all dating and messing with certain chicks every now and then, but if it's something serious, unless the right woman can be a complement (and that's probably not even the best word to use) to me, I'm just not interested.
DO YOU.
