In regards to JB's question, I can't say that there is any particular place to 'find a good woman' as much as places you want to avoid if you are looking for one... steady club goers are generally to be avoided. Now, you can come across decent women at school, church, at work, etc., but the key is to continually filter any woman you deal with wherever you happen to meet her. You could meet her anywhere so be prepared.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Spades Of Aces
The Infinity Watcher
It definitely is. Helped me put a lot of things in perspective when in comes to dealing with women. You really have to search for a woman that truly has your best interests at heart.
Wow Wow Wow she never called! It's been like 2 months and she never called me! And she was the one that asked for MY number! Why she play with my emotions? 
I didn't even have intentions of fukking either! She was one of those down to earth real sistah sistah type gals that I'd really wanna get to know and latch onto her big black african american lips like a leech.
I didn't even have intentions of fukking either! She was one of those down to earth real sistah sistah type gals that I'd really wanna get to know and latch onto her big black african american lips like a leech.
u mad son?
All Star
How do you know if a chick is lying about her past? My girl always says small things here and there that makes me stop and think "wait, how does she know this/what makes her think that". Like she told me she only ever been with one guy nd that was for three years, outside of that she never fukked around. I mean one example is when we first started getting sexual, she initiated it, i fingered her and then she gave me head, this was like the 3rd time of meeting her, she then got on top of me and I told her i didnt wanna have sex cos it was too early, she was like "wow ur not like other guys" and genuinely couldnt believe it... And shes always saying stuff like that, "other guys would have done this/done that". she says things like "oo im done with my bad boy phase/ive met enough dikkhead boys/etc" and im there thinking what? u only ever been with one dude apparantly??
now fair enough she may just have heard from her other friends the type of shyt 'guys do' and i might just be paranoid, but recently she was drinking and called me up, I cracked a joke and called her a hoe and she kinda took it to heart, and then she said something along the lines of "whatever happened is in the past, your my future now" ... i was like hold up, i thought i knew ur past? she said she isnt lying to me but she wont tell me for shyt what it was she was actually talking about. Its got to the point where she would rather break up with me than tell me. now we talked about this before, we was talking about heaven and hell, she was like "im going to hell, theres alot of bad things i done in my past" .. and when i asked her she didnt tell me for shyt and was like "its none of ur business etc etc". now i dont know whether its to do with her sleeping around or if its something else but im finding it hard to think what that something else could be. i dunno
This shyt is driving me crazy lol
on top of that she had flavoured lube in her cupboard when i first met her, she said she bought it just out of curiosity when she went to a sex store with her friend ... it was pretty much empty. she also had no qualms having sex without a rubber cos she already had pills. they double up as those pills which delay ur period as well though. im just adding up all these things and thinking hmmmm i dunno
now fair enough she may just have heard from her other friends the type of shyt 'guys do' and i might just be paranoid, but recently she was drinking and called me up, I cracked a joke and called her a hoe and she kinda took it to heart, and then she said something along the lines of "whatever happened is in the past, your my future now" ... i was like hold up, i thought i knew ur past? she said she isnt lying to me but she wont tell me for shyt what it was she was actually talking about. Its got to the point where she would rather break up with me than tell me. now we talked about this before, we was talking about heaven and hell, she was like "im going to hell, theres alot of bad things i done in my past" .. and when i asked her she didnt tell me for shyt and was like "its none of ur business etc etc". now i dont know whether its to do with her sleeping around or if its something else but im finding it hard to think what that something else could be. i dunno
This shyt is driving me crazy lol
on top of that she had flavoured lube in her cupboard when i first met her, she said she bought it just out of curiosity when she went to a sex store with her friend ... it was pretty much empty. she also had no qualms having sex without a rubber cos she already had pills. they double up as those pills which delay ur period as well though. im just adding up all these things and thinking hmmmm i dunno
I don't like the lie or my chick being a past slut. So i would tell her to break down all the info or you will leave her.
And when she does tell you about her gangbang past still leave her what man want to wife a slut?
she has been lying to you about some serious shyt, you need to break up with her now, before the 2 of you get too deep. You dont want to find out the truth 5 years from now. She has lied about her sexual past and more than likely lied about other things as well.
I once was with a chick, she told me early on that she would use sex/flirting to get what she wanted from me, it was years prior and she said she wasnt that way. Well me not trying to be the judgmental type, didnt but too much stock into it, well it came back to bite me in the ass months later.
it's all in the execution. i've only done it once but she was laughing by the "no it wasn't!" part. it's just about being bold. tho it wasn't a white girl I tried this on.
boldness is a go to tool for me. no better way to make a first impression outside of tongue kissing a better lookin chick in front of her. the best shyt is to go to a cafe or food court, see a chick sitting by herself and go up like
Me: Who's sitting here
Her: Nobody
Me: ok. *sits down and begins to*
Her:.....
begin convo from there
the only dudes who are eating are nikkas who dont give a fukk
passiveness will always loose
You know she's lying if her lips are moving LOL.. but really, when red flags like that start popping up, it's clear as day she's lying. She's only been with 1 guy and yet she's ready to bounce her head on your lap on day 3? One metric you should always apply is if she did it to me this quick, there has to have been others she was as quick with. Also, if she did it to someone else, she will eventually do this to me. Observe patterns in a person's behavior and never think you are special.
man....
follow your intuition. what is it telling you. deep down you already know what it is. you'll never know the exact truth but you already have that feeling where something isn't right. She says the past is the past to try to guilt trip you into not judging her but peep this. all she had to do was not lie and let you decide if you're still cool with it or not. instead she chose to take that choice away from you and when she's about to be found out, "the pas is the past, don't judge me!"
the red flags and hints are all there. at this point, if you still go forward you can't say you didn't see it coming. it's on you now...
T-K-G
Veteran
just based on how she's actin about it we both know she went through a hoe phase
when im in that situation with girls i just demote em to jump off status (you dont tell her that of course) and smash em on the side until i find a main chick
if her gettin smutted out in the past really bugs you then get rid of any emotions you may have towards her and just get the p*ssy, obviously she's about that life if she let a bunch of other nikkas get it
Always go with your gut, if it stops and makes you think those are known as red flags
Let me break this down for you and the other lads around here, never believe anything a chick tells you about her sexual past. NOTHING. In all my years of dting, talking to women, etc. only one woman has ever told me her right number for sexual partners and it was 40
. Every girl will paint themselves as pure to you, its all a joke. I remember for example a girl I dated told me she only had sex with two people in her lifetime, then I Found her diary and it listed every guy she ever dated and there were like 30 names in that, so am i really suppose to think that out of those 30 guys she dated only two were lucky to hit?
3rd time meeting her, im sure you know of the 3rd date rule alot of people seem to follow and chicks have picked up on if they don't put out on the third date the guy loses interest and finds someone else. I remember I met a chick the second time i did she was giving me head in her car in a busy parking lot, telling me "she doesnt usually do this". Women use these code words and code phrases on you to hype you up and make you feel like your special when in reality your not they have done this before to every guy they everr dated. The wow your not like other guys is another piece of crock women use, anything for you to feel special like wow this girl treats me so good, im so lucky to have it .
Whenever women say they are done with thier bad boy stage etc., another joke, these type of broads cant get enough of the bad boys and dudes that treat em like crap, they tell you this to calm your fear in case you think your not edgy enough for her, they will drop the your the first guy who bought em flowers, or the first guy who actually cared about me, they don care about that ish they will tell you whatever you want to hear in that moment to make you feel special.
More than likely your broad has been ran through by badboys, more than likely she's been with more than 1 guy these past 3 years, especially by her agressive sexual nature, most women are agressive early in the relationship to reel guys in then the sex dies. Trust me i was in a 3 year relationship i the beginning it was like
, year 2 and year 3 it was like blah this ish is so boring."whatever happaned is in the past your my future now" - aka i was a slut, ho, cumbucket in the past but im trying to change my ways because i finally have a good guy who i will probably cheat on because hes not edy or boring.
She said shes not lying to you trying to cover her tracks, so maybe now your thinking shes not a slut maybe she was raped or molested by a uncle when more than likely she slept around
Ho's rarely if ever will reveal their deep dark secret, they will mask it. I have had women i messed with who i didnt know were whores till they messed up, told me they only slept with 4 dudes, then suddenly there mentioning like jamal how they were freinds with benefits at one point so thats 1., then they mentioned how they had a abortion with Frank that's 2. Then Jamarcus will post on her fb like "yo its been awhile, you should come over we can hang out again" thats 3., then her ex boyfriend that's 4. Then you go through her facebook and see a old picture of her and a nikka named steve thats 5. I thought you said it was only 4
ah more lies more lies, its just like the girl who doesn';t sleep around but has a box of condom in the last drawer of her dresser
secondly never sleep with a girl your not married to without a rubber. I've heard it all in my life, i have a iud, i'm on the pill, i can't get pregnant, then dr is sticking a qtip up my dikk cuz my piss is burning, or i get the call the dr said im pregannt and im miscarrying.
Take everything a women tells you with a grain of salt trust me.
Trust me i've had women tell me to my face that they love me with all their heart, im the best thing to ever happen to them, then when there showering in my washroom, i look at their phone and 5 minutes prior they texting their ex "how you beat it good papi yesterday"
just based on how she's actin about it we both know she went through a hoe phase
when im in that situation with girls i just demote em to jump off status (you dont tell her that of course) and smash em on the side until i find a main chick
if her gettin smutted out in the past really bugs you then get rid of any emotions you may have towards her and just get the p*ssy, obviously she's about that life if she let a bunch of other nikkas get it
At this point in my life I would run, I've been there and its goign to lead to nothing but stress, heartache etc.
women like these still go off emotions and right now your just a high to them once it cools down they will be back to their old ways.
you'll think everything is going great, then she'll leave her fb open and you'll see like some dude writing, let me come over and smash for old times sakes your bf doesn't have to know, and she'll just say lol back.
you'll be written off as boring and predictable shortly as you don't incite the drama she's used to, guys pumping and dumping and not calling back, guys just using her for sex and then leaving.
Good luck I would cut all ties and make my exit!
T-K-G
Veteran
At this point in my life I would run, I've been there and its goign to lead to nothing but stress, heartache etc.
women like these still go off emotions and right now your just a high to them once it cools down they will be back to their old ways.
you'll think everything is going great, then she'll leave her fb open and you'll see like some dude writing, let me come over and smash for old times sakes your bf doesn't have to know, and she'll just say lol back.
you'll be written off as boring and predictable shortly as you don't incite the drama she's used to, guys pumping and dumping and not calling back, guys just using her for sex and then leaving.
Good luck I would cut all ties and make my exit!
sounds like you an emotional ass nikka who used to catch feeling over the hoes mad easy
once these hoes violate just cut off your emotions and treat em accordingly
it aint even that hardbecome the nikka that smashin n dashin