‘Over 30, dating in LA is awful’

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Men and women like to shame men into being sympathetic towards women like the one in the OP but Ima illustrate why thats bullshyt.

My last girlfriend came from a broken household (dad was a dirtbag) and my parents have always been together since I can remember. As a result of my upbringing, despite running through a lot of women I always really preferred to just have one woman and would enter relationships as if my girlfriend was my future wife. Her? I was her first boyfriend despite her being 29 years old when we met.

Eventually, about 8 months into our relationship i met shorty's family excluding her parents. The family was mostly women and somehow, for some reason the topic of invitro fertilization came up. When the topic came up, all of the women who were for the most part raised by their single mom said that they didnt see an issue with invitro fertilization. I spoke out and said that I am against invitro fertilization and think that it sets the children up for a slew of issues that can be disadvantageous when life is hard enough as it is. They (including my ex) however felt that if a woman could not find a man and had the means to support the child it shouldnt be an issue. They also mentioned how there are lots of people who dont have both parents but grow up to be fine/successful etc.

Major red flag

Another day I was just having a philosophical discussion with her and the topic came up again. I asked her, "If you were in your late 30s, and single would you do that?" She said she had thought about it and that she would consider it. I asked her "why?". She said she really wants to have children and if she couldnt find a good man she didnt see why that should prevent her from fulfilling her desire to have kids. I told her it was a selfish thing, and that the kids dont ask to be born let alone born into such situations. How many high functioning people from those backgrounds may appear fine, but have deep rooted, hidden psychological issues as a result. shyt. My ex is one of them. And my sister (technically half sister and the GOAT woman on earth) is even one of them. I also asked her why she thinks its so difficult to find a good man. I told her how there is no shortage of men who can make a good husband and good father, but they might not be a certain height, might not make a certain amount of money, might not be the most attractive, might not be the greatest in the sack, might not be the most adventurous/charismatic...but can still be really good men. I told her how if a girl has to resort to invitro fertilization it isnt because she cant find a good man, its because she is unable to reasonably lower her standard. When i told her that she had nothing to rebut. I didnt change her mind (we all know women are stubborn) but she knew deep down that I was right. She wonder why i felt so strong about the topic considering that we were together and she didnt foresee ever having to make that decision, but like i said it was a major red flag.

The reason is because any woman who is unwilling to sacrifice some of what she "wants" or thinks she "deserves" is not fit to be in a relationship and doesnt value the presence of a male in the household / as a leader of the home. It is women like that who once they have a child with someone would be that much more likely to divorce a man or put him on child support at the slightest indiscretion. Women who value men and the idea of the nuclear family will stick it through and work things out though

I say that to say, stop feeling sorry for women like this. Women nowadays are spoiled and as a result insatiable when it comes to dating. Live and let die.
 
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It’s not even that. It’s more like you get better cooperation from non black women than black women.

Like if I’m a square, I can just be a square with a non black woman and she accept me for me.

If I’m a square with a black woman, then it’s like I’m too soft, passive, not assertive enough, not aggressive, not toxic etc. Thats what hinders a lot bw / bm relationships out here.


The idea that a bm must be Tupac in a business suit, and there’s no in between.

Nah, I going have to disagree on that. The problem is a lot of you squared nikkas for some reason don’t pick the square chicks. Y’all too busy chasing hoodrats, street chicks, and hood chicks.
 

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I often wonder if people(men and women) who find themselves in this position ever self evaluate.

nope.

had a friend in LA complaining about it being hard to find a black man cuz they’re all interested in white women…I wanted to bring up the fact that she was married to a white man for several years but then she would’ve gotten more upset :francis:

ppl—not just women—but ppl nowadays seems to have very little self awareness and zero accountability…sometimes I envy that cuz I feel I do a little too much self reflection and am hard on myself as a result…would be nice to be selfish and just blame everyone else lol
 

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Thanks breh. I'm not even saying that as a brag cause to be honest due to some wreckless financial decisions and what not I am not where I should be in life. But I am at least debt free and definitely on the path towards that so the sky's the limit from here. It's been a grind the last ten years
 

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Didn't take long for her to start dissing blacc men.

Camille Austin on TikTok

Yoooooo I don’t even comment on topics like this, but she just said, in this video, back to back:

“My shoe collection cost more than your annual salary. You don’t even make enough money to breathe in my direction”

and then IMMEDIATELY said

“Men put so much of their mental well-being into how much they’re able to provide and how much money they’re making and whether or not that makes them eligible to date.”

She said that shyt BACK TO BACK. In the same video.

I can’t believe I actually saw the first video and felt sorry for her.

SM damn H.
 

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Nah, I going have to disagree on that. The problem is a lot of you squared nikkas for some reason don’t pick the square chicks. Y’all too busy chasing hoodrats, street chicks, and hood chicks.
whats a square chick

if a square is like you said, not a hoodrate, street chick, hoodchick, stripper etc. then i think you wrong breh.

there is a lot of trauma and damage in the black community (both males and females). It be girls who are squares but are even worse than the girls you mentioned. What I will say is that people need to stop trying to give the benefit of the doubt or change people's mentality. People need to stop ignoring red flags.
 

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She is gonna hit the wall, the Crypto Kings, Athletes, Ballers, and Executives ain't gonna check for her when they have a roster of exoticals on deck at any moment in time....

Women's prime is in their 20s and their value drops once they go past 30 whereas a man's value and resources increase over time since he had to build his career from scratch and not rely on his looks to skate thru his 20s...

She got plenty of options but she is being picky but she got 3 years left in her thottie career trying to get a ring....

Not gonna happen...
 

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Yoooooo I don’t even comment on topics like this, but she just said, in this video, back to back:

“My shoe collection cost more than your annual salary. You don’t even make enough money to breathe in my direction”

and then IMMEDIATELY said

“Men put so much of their mental well-being into how much they’re able to provide and how much money they’re making and whether or not that makes them eligible to date.”

She said that shyt BACK TO BACK. In the same video.

I can’t believe I actually saw the first video and felt sorry for her.

SM damn H.

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yep don’t feel sorry for her…she probably don’t even feel sorry for herself…she just putting on for twitter in all likelihood
 

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Why does being square always revert to be boring and lame?

Like what the hell is definition of a square?

no no no a square means you not in the streets at all. There’s nothing with being a square. I’m a square.
 

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Yoooooo I don’t even comment on topics like this, but she just said, in this video, back to back:

“My shoe collection cost more than your annual salary. You don’t even make enough money to breathe in my direction”

and then IMMEDIATELY said

“Men put so much of their mental well-being into how much they’re able to provide and how much money they’re making and whether or not that makes them eligible to date.”

She said that shyt BACK TO BACK. In the same video.

I can’t believe I actually saw the first video and felt sorry for her.

SM damn H.
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