For every relationship there are different “levels”.
There is no “one size fits all” answer when it comes to modern day relationships.
I’m going to preface what i’m about to say and clarify that my particular beliefs are for BLACK RELATIONSHIPS only. I don’t give a damn about what white men and women are doing in their coupling and if you are a black man/woman in an interracial relationship then Allah bless you, but this ain’t for you either.
Black MEN and WOMEN as it pertains to us as African American are in a unique and unprecedented predicament when it comes to how we view ourselves within the lens of a society built off of our oppression. It is important to remember that there was a time during slavery when Black marriages weren’t recognized as official couplings, and it was routine for black families to be forcibly separated and sold. Black men didn’t know if their wives would still be THEIR wives on any given day. Not to mention their children.
On top of that, black women were routinely used as sex slaves for their masters. It was nothing for a black man to have to stand by and watch as his wife was mounted by a white master and used as little more than a cum bucket, him being powerless to do anything to stop it.
There are DEEP cultural and psychological scars and trauma that have worked to undermine cohesive coupling between black men and women. Black men have been emasculated and downtrodden. Denied jobs, career advancement, education, and the basic privileges of human decent since the formation of this nation. Black women have been treated even WORSE. As whores, maids, mammy’s, and cattle. We look at each other through a lens of stained glass. Thats why the need to be “dominant” is rampant amongst black men, because its something we’ve never truly experienced. Thats why the need to be appreciated and heard is rampant amongst black women, because again, having their thoughts and opinions valued and respected is something they’ve historically NEVER experienced.
Black men don’t need to “dominate” black women in the traditional sense. There is no need for physical violence or verbal abuse. There IS a need for respect and to be allowed to “lead” the household.
Black women don’t need to “undermine” black. Men or treat them as if they are disposable or a dime a dozen. There IS a need for a black woman’s opinion and expertise in any given area to be heeded.
Once we as an African American culture get over this bullshyt “competiton” that has been set up over centuries to keep us at each other’s throats, we’ll be better off. There is no such thing as “black male/female privilege” and once we figure THAT out we’ll be much more willing to admit that our thoughts, feelings, opinions are TOGETHER stronger than they ever have been apart
Enough with this "legacy of slavery" bullshyt y'all nikkas continue to spew smh.
1. First of all, BOTH the "need and desire to be dominant" among males and the "need and desire to be appreciated" among women are
natural. They are human universals. They are a product of genetically high testosterone levels, the higher the levels, the more of these "needs and desires" exist in a person, and we (on average) have naturally higher T levels than cacs and every other race.
2. Men dominating women and everyone/thing else around them was a thing in Traditional African civilizations too (and the rest of the world) since the beginning, because women as a group
naturally prefer more dominate, more hyper-masculine men over soft-ass, simp-ass, less-masculine ones. The more assertive and combative a woman is, the more masculine and dominant her taste in men is gonna be, because even the strongest, most independent women on the planet want men that are even stronger, more independent than themselves. Its simply the natural order, we see this in
every culture around the world in one form or another, and we see this throughout the entire Animal Kingdom too, so enough was this bullshyt about the affects of slavery.
3. Most of the issues, conflicts and “competition” we see between Black men and women in America today were
just as common in nearly all of Africa since the dawn of mankind, as well as in many other cultures and ethnic groups too. So what the fukk does slavery gotta do with that?
But there's one thing I will agree with u on, neither Black (fe)male privilege exist and we need to put our issues between us aside if we want to get rid of white privilege, which fukked over us all.