Un-AmericanDreamer
Simp City
I wonder why this isn't an issue for African immigrants
A culture shift is needed BADLY
"I coulda went to school to be a doctor/
But I dropped out and chose to be a baller"
Being intelligent and educated needs to become "cool" again
I blame this on thotty single moms.
I wonder why this isn't an issue for African immigrants
I wouldn't say several schools equaled the entire Black population. During this same period, a lot of Black people were still sharecroppers and many were poor and had to drop out at early years to support the family.During segregation, we USED to know what worked.
After the Civil Rights and Black Power movements, the complete breakdown of the cohesive two-parent black family, and the marketed culture of the Crack Trade, successful strategies for youth achievement were all but abandoned.
Its time to take a look backwards, in order to move forward.
"Dunbar High School in Washington, DC, defied the odds and, in the process, changed America. In the first half of the twentieth century, Dunbar was an academically elite public school, despite being racially segregated by law and existing at the mercy of racist congressmen who held the school’s purse strings. These enormous challenges did not stop the local community from rallying for the cause of educating its children. Dunbar attracted an extraordinary faculty: one early principal was the first black graduate of Harvard, almost all the teachers had graduate degrees, and several earned PhDs—all extraordinary achievements given the Jim Crow laws of the times.
Over the school’s first eighty years, these teachers developed generations of highly educated, high-achieving African Americans, groundbreakers that included the first black member of a presidential cabinet, the first black graduate of the US Naval Academy, the first black army general, the creator of the modern blood bank, the first black state attorney general, the legal mastermind behind school desegregation, and hundreds of educators.
By the 1950s, Dunbar High School was sending 80 percent of its students to college.
Today, as with too many troubled urban public schools, the majority of Dunbar students struggle with reading and math."
It's multifaceted. I'll start with nutrition. Fat is food for the brain. She doesn't carb up in the morning ( or hardly ever) so there's no crash. A lot of kids with behavioral issues in school act out because blood sugar levels are inconsistent. She's been eating high fat / high protein / low carb her entire life. I've only dealt with meltdowns when we let her eat a lot of carbs. No need to punish her for them either because it's our fault for feeding it to her.
The second thing my wife and I decided not to do was punish her for things we caused ourselves or for little mistakes. Its easier to drive this point home with examples. When she was 18 months i was fed up with buying diapers so I used an alternative method of potty training. I let her walk around the house bottomless. I read that by that age, for some kids as early as 7 months, they are aware that piss and shyt is nasty. What they aren't aware of is theres a magical place outside of the diaper to put piss and shyt. Even if you try to tell them to use the potty they may not want to because its easier not to.. or any other reason. What they do know is piss and shyt doesn't belong on the floor. When you take the bottoms off they'll do all they can to hold it. And when desperate enough they'll sit on the pot. It worked day one. If for some reason it didn't work and she pissed on the carpet do she deserve a spanking? No, if anyone deserves a spanking it'd be me, right? I'm the dumbass that took the diaper off a un potty trained kid
Still on the diaper thing. I didn't want to do night time diapers either. I read the most reliable method of potty training was to set your alarm every hour after your child sleeps and check the bed for wetness until you can narrow down when they usually piss the bed. Once you figure it out (it took me 3 days, should've took 2 but I fukked up) you set the alarm an hour before they piss and wake them and walk them to the potty. Within a week they should do it themselves. So she went a few days and had success but one day she wet the bed. Should I spank her for that, no. So many people punish their kids while setting standards kids can't live up to. People make mistakes at work all the time and get a pass. Kids should have the same liberty. It makes them unafraid to fail.
Another thing we did was set her up for failure and praise her effort while she fails. That way failure doesn't bother her. We always set the bar higher than her ability without stressing her out. No pressure, she's a kid. We don't lose sight of her age. We never tell her she's unable. You know. "That's too hard." I generally don't use that language. I'll reword it to "Don't be upset if you're not ready". The reason is we wanted her to have grit. Not the ability to try but the ability to try hard.
I mentioned in another thread there's an industry you can make over 6 figures with 4 weeks of training and cat's were clowning or coming up with excuses but I don't speak about things I don't live. I work in this industry and leave my family for months at a time to give her the ability to go further in life than I have. I found the type of school (Montessori) she could thrive in. The public schools around here are broken. I knew if we sacrificed for a few years things would pay off. This year she was able to test into a STEM school in our area and we researched the fukk outta it. It's free but you have to be accepted. Now that she's in they're willing to keep her in the 1st grade while giving her 4 grade work.
Some people might think those concepts are disconnected but they aren't. Prep the mind. Set the stage for failure. Make her feel capable. Then set the stage for success. It's all connected.
I can go on but this post is already too long. I got carried away
I agree with you about taking full accountability for our success. We need to take a step back and examine what worked for us in the past and forge a future from it. The only question is - How?
How do we change an entire culture and get everyone on the same page. How can those who are aware invoke a systematic change in thinking of over 42 million people?
From my time in Bowie, it literally came down to the Marion Berry era. He single handedly saved the Black population by giving them government jobs even out of HS. This in return gave Black who otherwise would never have access to 50k a year jobs outside of skilled fields into professional six figure jobs as those jobs went from unattractive to even CACS wants them.I actually grew up in the Maryland school system a long time ago.
One day, out of the blue, the teacher administered a test with questions like "a + 10 = 13. What is a?". This was completely new material. None of us had ever seen a letter in a math equation. I promptly recognized it as similar to the computer coding I had recently gotten heavily into so I aced the test. The next day the class was split in two. Every Black was put on the right side of the room. Every White and Asian on the left side. They only had one math teacher and she only had one period. So she alternated teaching both sides.
And in the middle of the left side, they put me - the sole "advanced" black kid.
I always wondered how this could happen to a lot of my friends. Here's my thoughts:
1) While we were touted as being in the richest majority Black area on earth, many of the Blacks weren't "generationally wealthy" like their White counterparts. Many were trying to "keep up with the Joneses" and were one emergency away from financial ruin, with no family to lean on when when/if said crisis happened.
2) Many of these upper middle class Blacks had extensive familial, friendship and cultural ties with lower class Blacks in close proximity in the poorer parts of Maryland and DC. Sometimes these ties didn't lead to positive educational influences.
3) The last 2 reasons led to a a lack intellectual curiosity or preparedness. Nobody guiding the child to explore nor anybody showing them why it could be useful.
Years later I learned that the test wasn't as out of the blue as I had recollected. Many of the "advanced" kids had spent weeks preparing with their parents and their tutors.
I wouldn't call it wealthy as the values aren't goin going up like that and the COL is high af. I would say, salary wise, they have it better than Black people anywhere else in the country. Especially job status wise. Nothing comes close either.Unless I’m mistaken, isn’t Maryland home to 8 of the top 10 wealthiest black communities in America?