I just realized I'm a passive woman who is attracted to passive men but I really want an assertive man.
Passive dudes tend to be really sweet. but im a traditional chick who wants a man to step up and be a leader and protector.
It's really hard to find that balance in a dude.
How ironic I left this out of my post and was going to message you privately and here it is.
I'm glad you can to this realization though.
I'm the exact same way with women, so I've noticed this in you for a while.
You like the idea of passive humble and sweet men, but when shyt hits the fan you need a man's man. That is going to speak up, be aggressive and take charge, but not on some cowardly prey on the weak stuff.
Yeah that's hard to find, you really have to get to know men like that in certain settings to see that kind of balance.
how do some of what is typed seem normal?
I love that song. 
Everything I say is wrong. wtf?
This shyt so true.