Oh, ok well I think that proposition was a bench mark. That’s how it read to me. Like if she was accepting and very grateful for the gesture and was pleasant on the trip, she could’ve been upgraded to something official but since she fumbled the way she did and all other flaws he may have turned a blind eye to, this very well have been the nail in the coffin. Maybe he had second thoughts feeling he went too hard but in my eyes he played it the way it’s supposed to. Yea dating has changed the last 10 years people barely go on dates that shyt lame to the youth
Need confirmation I bushed a chick appropriately...
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The Devil's Advocate
Call me Dad
And what happens when you leave a job mid shift?? You lose them as a reference. Don't even bother putting them down on your resume for your next job. But while looking for a new job, you now have this big gap where it looks like you wasn't working. Either that or you write it down and they tell them what you did. And deep down inside, you're still in your feelings about it. Which is why you are still happy you got to stick it to them.. Or you assume you did, cause you really have no idea..
Do you even know if they care you left? Did they go out of business? Were the actual owners inconvenienced? Or just some manager that they also don't give a fukk about, who replaced you in a week? Like that woman might just be doing.. But you won't know.. You'll just assume she's hurt and feels cheated, like you just did. But really you have no idea. But you're in your feelings enough to still be thinking about the ways she is possibly hurting, cause deep down, she hurt you... Like that job did
Give yourself some peace man.. The closure is for YOU, not them.. If HE felt closure, he wouldn't be on here asking US for confirmation that he did the right thing.
OP is a simp who at some point wanted to import a hooker from Punta Cana and marry her so take everything he says with a grain of salt. Clearly he was simping that woman but wants to pretend being alpha for the coli.
And what happens when you leave a job mid shift?? You lose them as a reference. Don't even bother putting them down on your resume for your next job. But while looking for a new job, you now have this big gap where it looks like you wasn't working. Either that or you write it down and they tell them what you did. And deep down inside, you're still in your feelings about it. Which is why you are still happy you got to stick it to them.. Or you assume you did, cause you really have no idea..
Do you even know if they care you left? Did they go out of business? Were the actual owners inconvenienced? Or just some manager that they also don't give a fukk about, who replaced you in a week? Like that woman might just be doing.. But you won't know.. You'll just assume she's hurt and feels cheated, like you just did. But really you have no idea. But you're in your feelings enough to still be thinking about the ways she is possibly hurting, cause deep down, she hurt you... Like that job did
Give yourself some peace man.. The closure is for YOU, not them.. If HE felt closure, he wouldn't be on here asking US for confirmation that he did the right thing.
Eh sometimes I just do temp checks to see if I'm in the minority on a take. Doesn't change the take I'll just preface it with "Unpopular take, but for"
The Devil's Advocate
Call me Dad
So? Thats all it takes for you to come out the pocket for a woman you just recently started fukking
No winder women feel so entitled like that
The problem here is y'all not reading behind the OPs illusions. He doesn't even mean to do them. But if you look closely, you can see what's really going on. And why I said what I said in the previous post..
Dude really likes this girl. I'm not saying she's wifey.. But they been fukking for months.. Who knows how much longer they been talking. He didn't do this to get any p*ssy, he had it already. He didn't do it cause he got time off. He says flat out, it's for HER birthday. He wants to do something special for HER birthday. If he wanted to trick, he'd have been spending money. Nobody starts tricking after they get p*ssy, months later, for some random hoe he barely want... So lets get that established
He also plans a trip out of the country... B-b-b-b-b-but it's just Mexico... Ok so when's the last time y'all took a broad to Mexico? Was she just some random you'd already been smashing for months? Of course not. Was you buying both tickets, paying for the room AND paying for shyt while there? For a random? You already smashed for months? That wasn't shyt to you but someone you could cut off so easily in a day? Of course not.. He liked this girl
Liked her enough to sit and plan this out, have the money ready, everything ready to go when........ She says the wrong thing. Two sentences. That IMMEDIATELY makes him disappear her forever from his life. Why? Because she MUST be trying to get over on me. He believes this so much he won't even ask for an explanation. Won't even give her a chance to explain her words. This man was ready to spend THOUSANDS a second ago and now won't ever speak words nor allow her to speak to him. Why such a drastic change? For an extra day he wasn't even sure she wasn't going to pay for? Or because he was afraid of being right?
But peep game.. He couldn't go back and ask her to confirm. He was already hurt by his own assumptions. So he came to the coli for the confirmation. Look at the title... NEED CONFIRMATION!! Why are random nikkas online that you never met, confirming how you should dump your girl you been fukking for months and was taking to Mexico.. Shouldn't she confirm that to you?? Shouldn't you already know in your heart you did the right thing? You should be here typing a STORY, instead you are here typing I NEED CONFIRMATION.
Is she somewhere asking for confirmation? Do you know or you guessing? I know who is. I know for 100% fact who is burdened by not getting closure to the situation, because they are here right now, asking us for it. The questions he wants to know the answers to, from his girl, cannot be found cause he closed that door. Now he opening the door to the coli, trying to get it from us. When instead of being a man and saying "excuse me but what the fukk does that mean" and being able to peep finesse from a mile away, no matter what she says.. He now wonders if he truly should have just talked to her... This woman he's chosen to associate with for months, slide up in, risk babies and everything else with, and taking her out the country on trips, for her happiness on her born date...
Now y'all suddenly want us to believe he don't care, he got closure, it's killing her, he's got the power, she was trying to finesse him by asking for one day, and to continue acting like this towards people forever.....
Ok
First red flag for me was you saying that’s someone you been fukkin with for months but her initial bday plans were with her friends. I’ve never known a woman who was into a man who didn’t wanna spend her bday with that man.
come along with me and where would you like me to pay for you to go are 2 very different things
we only need to see her comment regarding “better for whom” to show us OP did the right thing in bushing her, I wouldn’t have blocked her, just simply walked away from the situation
@Silver Surfer
You sparked a convo.
How do you feel about the feedback?
You shared a piece of your life.
None of us will ever know the full story.
If you run into her again, you going to ignore her in person?
You sparked a convo.
How do you feel about the feedback?
You shared a piece of your life.
None of us will ever know the full story.
If you run into her again, you going to ignore her in person?
O³ (O cubed)
No more PAWGs, PLEASE??!!!??
I don't get OP. If I'm paying for a trip you're leaving when I'm leaving. If you want to stay an extra day, you pay.
Oh, let me bush her without any communication or clarification. Instead of being mature and talk, you cut her off without explanation then feel guilty.
Oh, let me bush her without any communication or clarification. Instead of being mature and talk, you cut her off without explanation then feel guilty.
MoveForward
Veteran
What’s the big deal? No need to ghost her, it’s fukked up. Sometimes women get ahead of themselves with your money because most suck at managing their own finances and you just have to reel them back in. Just be upfront and tell her how you feel. If she gives you push back just tell her you don’t want to go forward with the situation and leave it at that.
Jean Jacket
NOPE
Just tell the bytch you are not staying till Tuesday. She's not your wife. fukk her brains out and move on to the next.
I don't understand how this is a moral dilemma.
I don't understand how this is a moral dilemma.
Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
The work for whom was disrespectful
Especially if you clearly said 'me' the first time
Especially if you clearly said 'me' the first time
Jean Jacket
NOPE
The problem here is y'all not reading behind the OPs illusions. He doesn't even mean to do them. But if you look closely, you can see what's really going on. And why I said what I said in the previous post..
Dude really likes this girl. I'm not saying she's wifey.. But they been fukking for months.. Who knows how much longer they been talking. He didn't do this to get any p*ssy, he had it already. He didn't do it cause he got time off. He says flat out, it's for HER birthday. He wants to do something special for HER birthday. If he wanted to trick, he'd have been spending money. Nobody starts tricking after they get p*ssy, months later, for some random hoe he barely want... So lets get that established
He also plans a trip out of the country... B-b-b-b-b-but it's just Mexico... Ok so when's the last time y'all took a broad to Mexico? Was she just some random you'd already been smashing for months? Of course not. Was you buying both tickets, paying for the room AND paying for shyt while there? For a random? You already smashed for months? That wasn't shyt to you but someone you could cut off so easily in a day? Of course not.. He liked this girl
Liked her enough to sit and plan this out, have the money ready, everything ready to go when........ She says the wrong thing. Two sentences. That IMMEDIATELY makes him disappear her forever from his life. Why? Because she MUST be trying to get over on me. He believes this so much he won't even ask for an explanation. Won't even give her a chance to explain her words. This man was ready to spend THOUSANDS a second ago and now won't ever speak words nor allow her to speak to him. Why such a drastic change? For an extra day he wasn't even sure she wasn't going to pay for? Or because he was afraid of being right?
But peep game.. He couldn't go back and ask her to confirm. He was already hurt by his own assumptions. So he came to the coli for the confirmation. Look at the title... NEED CONFIRMATION!! Why are random nikkas online that you never met, confirming how you should dump your girl you been fukking for months and was taking to Mexico.. Shouldn't she confirm that to you?? Shouldn't you already know in your heart you did the right thing? You should be here typing a STORY, instead you are here typing I NEED CONFIRMATION.
Is she somewhere asking for confirmation? Do you know or you guessing? I know who is. I know for 100% fact who is burdened by not getting closure to the situation, because they are here right now, asking us for it. The questions he wants to know the answers to, from his girl, cannot be found cause he closed that door. Now he opening the door to the coli, trying to get it from us. When instead of being a man and saying "excuse me but what the fukk does that mean" and being able to peep finesse from a mile away, no matter what she says.. He now wonders if he truly should have just talked to her... This woman he's chosen to associate with for months, slide up in, risk babies and everything else with, and taking her out the country on trips, for her happiness on her born date...
Now y'all suddenly want us to believe he don't care, he got closure, it's killing her, he's got the power, she was trying to finesse him by asking for one day, and to continue acting like this towards people forever.....
Ok
Thank you for saying what should have been said in the very beginning. Insecurity ruins shyt. This is what ive been noticing a whole lot. Theres way too many people who are insecure as fukk with themselves and are looking for other people to validate or justify their reasons for being insecure. Whats worse is that all of it is really self hatred through self sabotage. Someone thinking to themselves they dont deserve someone good for themselves. Theyre looking for every reason to stay hurt or live in their suffering. Its having to let go of that hurt and its hard because pain is something that we cant always handle or come back from.
Op needs therapy and he needs to talk to that woman.
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