Need confirmation I bushed a chick appropriately...

[Silver Surfer]

Emphasis on the second statement.

Foreign women from patriarchal societies play the long game.

Every 1st world Breh is a mark and don't you forget it.

Of course they do.....as they should.

Outcomes are key and if they align.....so be it.

I knew a retired marine when I was a contractor that brought in a foreign chic as his wife and this old dude was on cloud nine....whatever they had worked out and I was in my early 20s when I saw it.

Good for him and may God bless him

 

[Silver Surfer]

Thank you for saying what should have been said in the very beginning. Insecurity ruins shyt. This is what ive been noticing a whole lot. Theres way too many people who are insecure as fukk with themselves and are looking for other people to validate or justify their reasons for being insecure. Whats worse is that all of it is really self hatred through self sabotage. Someone thinking to themselves they dont deserve someone good for themselves. Theyre looking for every reason to stay hurt or live in their suffering. Its having to let go of that hurt and its hard because pain is something that we cant always handle or come back from.

Op needs therapy and he needs to talk to that woman.

We all need therapy and the only woman I should be having any meaningful conversations with are the ones that I bring around my daughters....mention to my mother.....and have fanciful thoughts of marriage about

Until that time.....stfu and enjoy the rides I provide....because my time on this planet is limited

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

The problem here is y'all not reading behind the OPs illusions. He doesn't even mean to do them. But if you look closely, you can see what's really going on. And why I said what I said in the previous post..



Dude really likes this girl. I'm not saying she's wifey.. But they been fukking for months.. Who knows how much longer they been talking. He didn't do this to get any p*ssy, he had it already. He didn't do it cause he got time off. He says flat out, it's for HER birthday. He wants to do something special for HER birthday. If he wanted to trick, he'd have been spending money. Nobody starts tricking after they get p*ssy, months later, for some random hoe he barely want... So lets get that established




He also plans a trip out of the country... B-b-b-b-b-but it's just Mexico... Ok so when's the last time y'all took a broad to Mexico? Was she just some random you'd already been smashing for months? Of course not. Was you buying both tickets, paying for the room AND paying for shyt while there? For a random? You already smashed for months? That wasn't shyt to you but someone you could cut off so easily in a day? Of course not.. He liked this girl




Liked her enough to sit and plan this out, have the money ready, everything ready to go when........ She says the wrong thing. Two sentences. That IMMEDIATELY makes him disappear her forever from his life. Why? Because she MUST be trying to get over on me. He believes this so much he won't even ask for an explanation. Won't even give her a chance to explain her words. This man was ready to spend THOUSANDS a second ago and now won't ever speak words nor allow her to speak to him. Why such a drastic change? For an extra day he wasn't even sure she wasn't going to pay for? Or because he was afraid of being right?




But peep game.. He couldn't go back and ask her to confirm. He was already hurt by his own assumptions. So he came to the coli for the confirmation. Look at the title... NEED CONFIRMATION!! Why are random nikkas online that you never met, confirming how you should dump your girl you been fukking for months and was taking to Mexico.. Shouldn't she confirm that to you?? Shouldn't you already know in your heart you did the right thing? You should be here typing a STORY, instead you are here typing I NEED CONFIRMATION.




Is she somewhere asking for confirmation? Do you know or you guessing? I know who is. I know for 100% fact who is burdened by not getting closure to the situation, because they are here right now, asking us for it. The questions he wants to know the answers to, from his girl, cannot be found cause he closed that door. Now he opening the door to the coli, trying to get it from us. When instead of being a man and saying "excuse me but what the fukk does that mean" and being able to peep finesse from a mile away, no matter what she says.. He now wonders if he truly should have just talked to her... This woman he's chosen to associate with for months, slide up in, risk babies and everything else with, and taking her out the country on trips, for her happiness on her born date...

Now y'all suddenly want us to believe he don't care, he got closure, it's killing her, he's got the power, she was trying to finesse him by asking for one day, and to continue acting like this towards people forever.....


Ok

Assessment is spot on.

 

[Rell Lauren]

she cant stay and extra day thats the point lmfao. She didnt say 'thats cool I'll stay an extra day', she made demands that his terms were not sufficient, hence him walking away. They dont owe each other anything hence deading the convo.

Had he said, are you paying for it? The conversation likely ends there. Plus, that's not his girlfriend. Why would it matter to him that she wants to stay longer? They're just using each other for sex. Who cares what she does, right?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Had he said, are you paying for it? The conversation likely ends there. Plus, that's not his girlfriend. Why would it matter to him that she wants to stay longer? They're just using each other for sex. Who cares what she does, right?

the fact you feel a dialog is required displays you are in over your head and would be food out here.

 

[Rell Lauren]

the fact you feel a dialog is required displays you are in over your head and would be food out here.

Just like OP.

 

[HabitualChiller]

Like @Babyface said, this shyt goes over my head.

I couldn't fathom paying for a girl to come with me to a whole nother country that isn't at the very least a long-term FWB (over a year) and at that point, she might as well be my fukking girlfriend.

 

[invalid]

“I’m staying till Tuesday”

eh....I don’t like this gif.
at all.
very tone deaf.

 

[Gold]

I think you should have clarified you’re only paying until (Monday) and hashed it out. I think this was a bit excessive but sounds like you don’t like her like that so eh.

This is an impossible conversation to have.

Its like telling someone you're taking them out to a fancy restaurant and you will cover everything but dessert.
You think they gonna reach for their wallet when the check comes?

You either do the whole thing and have control of what happens, or you only pay for yourself.

Making financial arrangements with someone who doesn't wanna pay is a bad idea.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Just like OP.

Negotiate with terrorist all you want. Enjoy the results too

 

[Apollo Creed]

This is an impossible conversation to have.

Its like telling someone you're taking them out to a fancy restaurant and you will cover everything but dessert.
You think they gonna reach for their wallet when the check comes?

You either do the whole thing and have control of what happens, or you only pay for yourself.

Making financial arrangements with someone who doesn't wanna pay is a bad idea.

bro sit this out, you’re married for Christ sakes

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Take prostitutes on vacation breh
Why is this thread long?

 

[Pazzy]

I’m a real man. Never blocked a person a day in my life

Word up. All of us humans are going to die and be sniff in a casket one day. fukk are we scared of each other for. Hell, death should make people appreciate life period. You dont always get a chance to have a life and one day you will lose it.

OP, you only get one life. You might only get one chance to get back with this woman. Get your ass up, make that phone call and tell her that you will see her tomorrow. This woman might be your future wife. Go and do it.

 

[Pazzy]

One thing about instincts and assumptions....they are there for a reason.

.. I showed you text transcripts.....and her responses where out of pocket compared to mine. Bad behavior is not rewarded

You overreacted. Just message her and tell her youll see her tomorrow. I got the feeling you overreacted.

 

[the bossman]

I dunno ...you seemed like you only hang out with wives and serious commited relationships

I've had all types of different relationships with women except marriage.

The main point I was making was that this situation came about because of mixed signals or blurred lines as I originally put it.

In one breath she was nothing more than just someone you fukked here and there, next she became someone you wanted to spoil for her birthday on some "you can have whatever you liiiiike". now you try to flip back to HOH.

Few questions
If it was not her birthday would you have still offered to take her on a trip?

Is there a reason why you wanted to take only her and not any of the other women you been just fukkin?

Are you still going to Mexico yourself or have you canceled the trip since it didn't work out with her?