Need confirmation I bushed a chick appropriately...

[Silver Surfer]

I feel like there could have been a discussion there to see where her heads at and then tell her the deal. This isn’t a broad you just met.

But it's a broad I don't need around me anymore.....

 

[Jasonmask]

I feel like there could have been a discussion there to see where her heads at and then tell her the deal. This isn’t a broad you just met.

fukk all that like he said we grown, we too old to be coaching people how to move through life they need to figure that shyt on they own. Why would he lace her up w/ great game on how to move so she could use it to finesse the next man

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Had this exact convo this morning. I tend to shut up and act accordingly with people. Like if you do something I don't like, I'll shut up about it, but my actions will reflect my true feelings, when I cut you off. I'm one of those cut you off while chilling with you people. Smile in your face knowing it's the last time we gonna hang out people

Today my homegirl really showed me how silly that is. You gonna keep quiet, secretly building resentment towards a person/thing, but never get it off your chest? You'd rather keep it all inside and lie or hide your intentions, when you could just explain your problem/boundaries and either the person accept it or move on. If you'd actually explain to people what you felt and what you won't be accepting and why... You'd find your circle full of only those people who accepted you, were willing to compromise to meet you halfway, or those who understood you more. But what you'd rather do is hope people just knew everything to do to please you and if they don't, you cut them off without ever giving them the chance to change to keep you.


Basically they running from the rejection... And that's exactly what you see with most of this ghosting/blocking shyt. It's not normally the nutcases who you have to do this with out of safety/concern. It's usually people who have done something wrong in your eyes, but you were too coward to admit it hurt you or made you feel a certain way. So you'd rather run from the conversation completely

it seems like young people are just waiting for the moment when they can hurt someone. they will claim they want good vibes and energy but actions speak louder than words. i would literally be happy for my folk who could get the time off to take a longer vacation than i could. if i mess with you, shyt i put something on your holiday and hope you can ride it out as long as you can. apparantly some people take offense to a nikkas longer holiday yet claim they are all about "good energy and vibes breh"

community is done. it's over

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

fukk all that like he said we grown, we too old to be coaching people how to move through life they need to figure that shyt on they own. Why would he lace her up w/ great game on how to move so she could use it to finesse the next man

Facts.
This place is the twilight zone sometimes. One day its hard on hoes and don't take shyt from a broad and watch for all the red flags. Then turn around the next day nikkas is on some care bear lets have a red table discussion on how you hurt my feelings type shyt.

Nobody is obligated to make you a better person. As you get older you get less patient with certain shyt.
You can say the wrong thing too many times until one day you stop getting a reply.

 

[The Wolf Among You]

it seems like young people are just waiting for the moment when they can hurt someone. they will claim they want good vibes and energy but actions speak louder than words. i would literally be happy for my folk who could get the time off to take a longer vacation than i could. if i mess with you, shyt i put something on your holiday and hope you can ride it out as long as you can. apparantly some people take offense to a nikkas longer holiday yet claim they are all about "good energy and vibes breh"

community is done. it's over

But that’s not what’s happening with OP.
You don’t see a problem with how ol’ girl went about expressing her wanting to stay an extra day?
I agree that he should’ve told her how he felt, but she’s also an adult, and she should’ve been able to see her error from the jump.

 

[Bigb41513]

I understand why you did what you did. You could’ve told her that you were leaving Monday and offered to pay for her flight Tuesday. Tuesday flights are usually cheaper, since you were gonna pay for her flight home has she agreed on the days. Told her she had to pay for the room tho. If she wasn’t cool with that oh well lol.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

But that’s not what’s happening with OP.
You don’t see a problem with how ol’ girl went about expressing her wanting to stay an extra day?
I agree that he should’ve told her how he felt, but she’s also an adult, and she should’ve been able to see her error from the jump.

nope. not if it's my actual friend. my friend was literally ending/begining every statement with "bytch" tonight. "bytch do you know how lost i got in home depot"... etc. we had a good time as usual , i know she is not trying to hurt me. the last guy i was talking, his favorite phrase was literally "you stupid" anytime i would say something cheeky. i didn't take offense to that cause i know he's not trying to hurt me.

if it was someone i thought could hurt me by saying "ok i'm leaving tuesday" or "good for whom" i wouldn't be fukking with them in the first place

 

[The Wolf Among You]

nope. not if it's my actual friend. my friend was literally ending/begining every statement with "bytch" tonight. "bytch do you know how lost i got in home depot"... etc. we had a good time as usual , i know she is not trying to hurt me. the last guy i was talking, his favorite phrase was literally "you stupid" anytime i would say something cheeky. i didn't take offense to that cause i know he's not trying to hurt me.

if it was someone i thought could hurt me by saying "ok i'm leaving tuesday" or "good for whom" i wouldn't be fukking with them in the first place

The intentions behind those words from those people are well meaning, their intentions are not to hurt you and you can feel that.
Her “good for whom” and “Okay…I’m leaving Tuesday” are loaded with petty entitlement. That’s why it came off the way it did. All of this could’ve been avoided had she simply asked a genuine question: “do you mind if I stay until Tuesday?”, If he says no then she gets to stay another day on his dime, if he says yes then it’s probably money related and she can pick up the cost for the extra day.
When people are doing something nice, don’t attempt to take advantage of their kindness.

 

[JLova]

But it's a broad I don't need around me anymore.....

So it really had nothing to do with the extra day. You just weren't feeling her anymore regardless.

 

[JLova]

fukk all that like he said we grown, we too old to be coaching people how to move through life they need to figure that shyt on they own. Why would he lace her up w/ great game on how to move so she could use it to finesse the next man

I personally don't like leaving things open ended. I mean....there should have been a response and then a bush at the least. Just seem passive aggressive to me. Both of them are not being direct. I'm an older breh, though so I been through all that shyt...much more direct than I used to be where I would be wishy washy and wait for reasons to bush broads when I probably shouldn't have.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

All of this could’ve been avoided had she simply asked a genuine question: “do you mind if I stay until Tuesday?”, If he says no then she gets to stay another, if he says yes then it’s probably money related and she can pick up the cost for the extra day.
When people are doing something nice, don’t attempt to take advantage of their kindness.

uh yeah re-read the op. she did ask a question and he even said he gave an answer. the whole thing was discussing a schedule so people are supposed to...... discuss their schedule lol. this happens everyday in adult life lol. I went on a company trip... they said stay as long as you want but we only paying for the round trip flight and days that you actually work on the project. nobody gives a shyt that i stayed longer, lol they encourage it! i didn't even have to inform them of my personal schedule. so i dont get it, . i be trying to have fun and actually foster relationships with real good vibes for everyone, not just "good vibes for me as long as you do as i say and make sure you speak in a formal tone" though so i might be all alone on this one

 

[Jasonmask]

I personally don't like leaving things open ended. I mean....there should have been a response and then a bush at the least. Just seem passive aggressive to me. Both of them are not being direct. I'm an older breh, though so I been through all that shyt...much more direct than I used to be where I would be wishy washy and wait for reasons to bush broads when I probably shouldn't have.

Like the boy @Bossino said we don’t owe any closure to shyt. Women not having that really drives them up the wall. Op has seen enough for himself and felt the need to cut ties before he got too invested. In my experience it’s rare for women to like/appreciate super testosterone aggressiveness it either scares them or it comes off corny/thirst. Maybe If this was the mid 2000s when we were younger and culture was way different. But in this day of information no excuse, I saw emotional intellect being a buzz word sometime this year and reading the room that broad ain’t do either

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

It's her birthday and I been fukking her all summer?

So? Thats all it takes for you to come out the pocket for a woman you just recently started fukking


No winder women feel so entitled like that

 

[JLova]

Like the boy @Bossino said we don’t owe any closure to shyt. Women not having that really drives them up the wall. Op has seen enough for himself and felt the need to cut ties before he got too invested. In my experience it’s rare for women to like/appreciate super testosterone aggressiveness it either scares them or it comes off corny/thirst. Maybe If this was the mid 2000s when we were younger and culture was way different. But in this day of information no excuse, I saw emotional intellect being a buzz word sometime this year and reading the room that broad ain’t do either

It's not about closure to me, just about people saying what's on their mind instead of playing games. My point was that OP was ready to move on from her anyways and ejected. But he's clearly thinking about it because he's asking people about it.

I been out of the game for 12 years so I guess things are different now. Certainly wouldn't be buying a trip for someone I'm not even interested in. So the story is confusing to me.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Sometimes you want to travel and have a good time with warm and appreciative female companionship.

Nah OP asked her where she wanted to go and offered dates where he COULD take off. He wasnt going to no damn if this girl did not have a birthday. He only thought of this to try and impress her so he could trick on her. He was basically begging for her approval and she treated him like the sucka he is. Now he's mad posting here about it when its his fault she even had the audacity to try and assert herself like that.