Stop asking white people for life advice. They believe their perspective and experiences are default.
Plenty of black people have been shot by police while not engaging in a crime or being combative.
They also don’t take into account the amount of cops who are blatantly disrespectful to us, and escalate situations, or the fact that we are racially profiled, and have to deal with the police more often than they do. Add to that, Bill DeBlasio, white man with clearly black son said he had to tell his son how to deal with police, and white people got mad and said he was being racist and demonizing them. So are we supposed to tell our kids how to handle police of not?
This is why it makes no sense to let white people tell us how to function. They are clearly sociopaths.