My boy thinks I'm trying to smash his chick

[DaRealness]

I've seen this kind of situation happen before and it never ends well. I know of two brothers who haven't spoken to each other for years because of a shady chick just like this. She managed to cause a rift in a family and then just scuttle away like nothing happened getting on with her own life while the two brothers fell out over her.

People saying "he's your boy, he's your boy".....look fukk that. Just walk away from the both of them. Trust me you don't need the unnecessary bullshyt in your life. Don't for one minute think this chick is "innocent", she's knows exactly what she's doing. She's playing games and she knows it. When she sat in between the both of you, that alone was a small sign. I've seen chicks like this before. Calling their man's friends pet names like "babes", "darling" etc etc and getting too touchy feely and ringing their man's friend just to say "hi" even when that man's friend has a girl himself that she could be befriending instead.

Your boy like others have pointed out is insecure and making accusations, so you know how much of a friend he is anyway, plus she doesn't respect him either but that's not your problem.

Seriously dude, just walk from 'em both and leave 'em to it. I can see her cheating on him eventually anyway just make sure that dude isn't you.

 

[Swagaveli]

100% accurate real nikka shyt here breh. Nothing else to say about this matter. How old are you all ?

The problem isn't the girl. The problem is you and your boy. Hoes gonna hoe, with you or some other dude. She's irrelevant. You already snaked him when you didn't tell him about the messages and her trying to add you on Facebook.

Your boy is a bytch and snake as well cause instead of checking his girl, he checked you. That tells me he's insecure - a real dude knows no one can take his broad if she honestly is his. If anything, him being your mans, he should let you make a move on her to see what type of chick he's dealing with. When me and my current girl were dating, I let 3 of my wolves make a move on her. They all failed, I knew they would, that's how i knew she was a keeper. If they had succeeded, then props to my wolves and on to the next chick. That's how real dudes roll. You and your friend need to stop acting like b1tches over a broad.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

If you was truly being completely on th eup and up you should have told her you think it's inappropriate for you two to be FB friends.

You should tell her that her inboxing you on FB makes you uncomfortable. Honestly, if everything y'all had to say was completely innocent then you could say it in the open on your walls.

She's choosing and you're giving her room to get next to you.

It's not about "not doing anything wrong" it's about not even appearing to do anything wrong. As a rule of thumb, don't be in intimate situations with women who you shouldn't be having sex with. Don't spend the night on their couch cause you're too drunk to drive, don't crash in their room during a business trip, don't exchange phone numbers, don't have lunch regularly - none of that shyt.

 

[Silver Surfer]

Back when I was 18 i worked with a dude...and we was supposedly "boys".....we worked with this girl also and me and her where together..he was older than me and she told me that he was trying to hit on her...you think Im gonna be cool with him after that?


he's a snake

ho's are one thing....but this is treachery

 

[twan83]

Peep this...

Few weeks back I'm chillin at my boy's crib with him and his girl. This is the first time I met her. So all of three of us are on the couch having a conversation with her sitting between both of us. When she talks she happens to touch my knee frequently with her hand, but I didn't think nothing of it, cause she would touch my man's knee too. When I left that night, she kissed me on the cheek.. of course I didn't think anything of it, considering it is customary.

I guess my boy must of given her my full name because she tried to add me as a friend on FB, but I didn't accept. I mean, what do I look like adding a chick I don't know, let alone she is my man's girl. So she messages me on FB like "How come you aren't accepting me as a friend." I responded "I usually don't add my friend's girlfriends". So she messages back a couple of minutes later "well let's get to know each other so we can be friends".

She started asking me questions, really minor stuff.. nothing to get suspicious about. I responded since they were harmless. So my dumbass added her as a friend. Next thing you know she's liking almost everything I post. My boy is my friend on my page too. He kinda got tight on some "Why is she liking everything you post?"

Now, I know I'm not f*king with her or doing some foul shyt, but it seems like he thinks me and her got something going on, cause he never comes to get me when she's around like he used to (not that I care). But I just wanna tell the dude to relax and to know that I won't snake him.

How do I get this across to him that I don't want his girl, or do I just let the shyt go? She still does private message me, but never on some next sh*t. Did I do something foul? I think I kept it 100.

If he was your real boy he keep it 100 and ask you straight up what you think bout oh girl you keep it 100 and think she aint no good. He would be like coo good looking out and he would either say you wanna share her or drop her like a stone

 

[GoFlipAPack]

The problem isn't the girl. The problem is you and your boy. Hoes gonna hoe, with you or some other dude. She's irrelevant. You already snaked him when you didn't tell him about the messages and her trying to add you on Facebook.

Your boy is a bytch and snake as well cause instead of checking his girl, he checked you. That tells me he's insecure - a real dude knows no one can take his broad if she honestly is his. If anything, him being your mans, he should let you make a move on her to see what type of chick he's dealing with. When me and my current girl were dating, I let 3 of my wolves make a move on her. They all failed, I knew they would, that's how i knew she was a keeper. If they had succeeded, then props to my wolves and on to the next chick. That's how real dudes roll. You and your friend need to stop acting like b1tches over a broad.

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

Real talk, these are the type of situations that emerge when you hang with weak ass insecure ass nikkas. All this FB shyt is no big deal. If you tight with people in real life and they boyfriend and girlfriend all hanging out with you, i feel it shouldn't even be a problem with being friends on FB.

Dude just can't handle that the chick finds OP interesting/cool so his own swag feels threatened. Every minor lil prop she gives dude is like a dagger into his own bytchmade heart. I'm sure shorty senses that too. Maybe she does all that shyt to make her man step his game up and be more intellectual, cuz chicks do lil sly indirect shyt like that.

The cards already been dealt. Homeboy gonna always give you the look anyways when it comes to real shyt between ya'll. Might as well drop him from the circle and fukk shorty and give that nikka something to really be upset about.

 

[Sharp]

If he was your real boy he keep it 100 and ask you straight up what you think bout oh girl you keep it 100 and think she aint no good. He would be like coo good looking out and he would either say you wanna share her or drop her like a stone

I hate interfering in other people's relationships. I only give solicited advice. I don't know her well enough to label her a hoe. She hasn't been inappropriate with me yet. She hasn't even flirted with me. So I'm not going to throw her under the bus. The problem is that if he gets serious with her, then by default she's going to be around me, and although I will prevent anything from every happening I don't want my boy to be uncomfortable. Chicks come and go.

Real talk, these are the type of situations that emerge when you hang with weak ass insecure ass nikkas. All this FB shyt is no big deal. If you tight with people in real life and they boyfriend and girlfriend all hanging out with you, i feel it shouldn't even be a problem with being friends on FB.

Dude just can't handle that the chick finds OP interesting/cool so his own swag feels threatened. Every minor lil prop she gives dude is like a dagger into his own bytchmade heart. I'm sure shorty senses that too. Maybe she does all that shyt to make her man step his game up and be more intellectual, cuz chicks do lil sly indirect shyt like that.

The cards already been dealt. Homeboy gonna always give you the look anyways when it comes to real shyt between ya'll. Might as well drop him from the circle and fukk shorty and give that nikka something to really be upset about.

That's my day one dude. We been rolling for over 20 years. I believe in karma, so I would never cross him over a chick. I'm just gonna stop talking to his girlfriend on pm.

 

[twan83]

I hate interfering in other people's relationships. I only give solicited advice. I don't know her well enough to label her a hoe. She hasn't been inappropriate with me yet. She hasn't even flirted with me. So I'm not going to throw her under the bus. The problem is that if he gets serious with her, then by default she's going to be around me, and although I will prevent anything from every happening I don't want my boy to be uncomfortable. Chicks come and go.



That's my day one dude. We been rolling for over 20 years. I believe in karma, so I would never cross him over a chick. I'm just gonna stop talking to his girlfriend on pm.

Thats all im saying if he asked you u straight up u tell him straight up. Not gonna say she a hoe or anything but if she is you tell em if she aint you tell em.
The kiss on the cheek thing ain't even a big deal period ive known my boy's gf and they all do that shyt not nothing even serious and i know you said it wasn't.
Facebook wise her requesting you not a big deal either in my eyes granted the kiss on cheek and facebook could be misinterpreted as bad but at same time it could be just her being like thats her man's best friend i wanna be cool with him also too.
If it was me i wouldn't have added her unless i knew for sure they were SERIOUS and if they were i wouldn't care if i added her if they just talking then naw.
Ur good man just always keep it 100 with your boy thats all.
my boy put me on one girl that was fukking around on me and i dropped her with the quickness. he showed me proof and all and that i can respect he kept me out of harms way of a no good female and i have done the same for him numerous of times. WE LOOK OUT FOR EACH OTHER

 

[Rominati]

Good thread, Ive been in these messy situations alot during my late teen years. Lemme give ya some game. In this this scenario. ALL THREE OF YA A WRONG. Ive been both nikkas in this scenario, the friend who the bytch wants to fukk, and the sucka duck nikka who is trying to hol on to a loose bytch.


I had a bird like that on my cypher like 3 years ago. She was always buddy buddy with the crew. I been cut her off and eventually she ended up fukking one of my associates. The thing about hoes like that is, they know exactly what they are doing. EXACTLY what they are doing. Girls aint dumb or clueless, she knows what she is doing is foul shyt, and she knows that ya mans is prolly low key heated bout all this.



On the flip, one of my mans jumpoffs wanted to fukked me 2 semesters ago. Almost identical to your story. bytch used to post all over my FB wall, inboxing me asking to chill, all that stuff. I had no intentions of hitting her. I was trying to use her to fukk her friend. But she obviously liked me, And that shyt ended up putting a permanent rift in me and my boys 5 year relationships as pals. Lemme give you some advice, if you really got luv for ya boy. Just block that bytch on facebook.



But on the flip, ya mans is a lil bytch. He dont got no control over his hoes. As a Real nikka if I was ya mans, and you told me this info, that bytch would of been dead to me and I would give you the green light to go do ya thing. He is holding on to dear life to a sloopy messy hoe. bytches love making nikkas fight and tense over em. That chick is no good.


Ya boy should of been dropped her. You should of curved her shyt as well. fukk all that friendly shyt. Every one of my homeboys girls who were "friendly" with tha crew ended up doing some hoe shyt.



But the main problem in this whole story is lack of communication between you and ya nikkas. A lesson I learned the hard way and lost sum good friendships over. Sometimes you just gotta tell ya mans straight up.


"YO ya chick is a hoe, and she is throwing the p*ssy at me, what are we gonna do about this"


Yo boy may not want to hear it, cause it is a major ego killer. But if the friendship is strong ya will handle the situation like some real nikkas. Either ya both play the bytch, or ya both drop her.


Never let p*ssy get in the way of ya homies. The girl who ended the friendship of me and my boy didnt even end up fukking either of us. And she moved on to the next 10 dikks. Dont let something as temporary as girls fukk up life long friendships

 

[Skip b]

OP you are in the wrong here, You were supposed to let your Boy know his ole lady was trying to make a move on him. You actually knew off the bat it would be a bad idea to add her, when you did decide to add her your brain was no longer in control and you were thinking with you're dikk, whether or not you were the aggressor in the situation, you look bad because you made sure you left that door and avenue open

 

[Cupcake Strawberry]

I've seen this kind of situation happen before and it never ends well. I know of two brothers who haven't spoken to each other for years because of a shady chick just like this. She managed to cause a rift in a family and then just scuttle away like nothing happened getting on with her own life while the two brothers fell out over her.

People saying "he's your boy, he's your boy".....look fukk that. Just walk away from the both of them. Trust me you don't need the unnecessary bullshyt in your life. Don't for one minute think this chick is "innocent", she's knows exactly what she's doing. She's playing games and she knows it. When she sat in between the both of you, that alone was a small sign. I've seen chicks like this before. Calling their man's friends pet names like "babes", "darling" etc etc and getting too touchy feely and ringing their man's friend just to say "hi" even when that man's friend has a girl himself that she could be befriending instead.

Your boy like others have pointed out is insecure and making accusations, so you know how much of a friend he is anyway, plus she doesn't respect him either but that's not your problem.

Seriously dude, just walk from 'em both and leave 'em to it. I can see her cheating on him eventually anyway just make sure that dude isn't you.

prolly the best advice in this thread and this coming from a female. i know chicks like this.

 

[kevm3]

It's obvious from HER actions that she is showing intense interest in you. Honestly, do not be friends with her. Keep your interactions with her cordial, but do not be her friend. She can and will manipulate your boy against you and apparently your boy right now is of the mind to harbor her from you because he's afraid of losing her to you based upon observing her actions. Keep in mind not everyone is built with the mindset you might possess in that you check the woman first. Do not interact with her. I am very careful with my friend's girls. Sometimes they want to be real friendly, but I know the possible repercussions behind that, so I don't have discussions with them unnecessarily.

 

[Commander in Chiefin]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtEQKyHa7MU

Edit: Why the fukk wont youtube embed for me

 

[Sharp]

It's obvious from HER actions that she is showing intense interest in you. Honestly, do not be friends with her. Keep your interactions with her cordial, but do not be her friend. She can and will manipulate your boy against you and apparently your boy right now is of the mind to harbor her from you because he's afraid of losing her to you based upon observing her actions. Keep in mind not everyone is built with the mindset you might possess in that you check the woman first. Do not interact with her. I am very careful with my friend's girls. Sometimes they want to be real friendly, but I know the possible repercussions behind that, so I don't have discussions with them unnecessarily.

Yeah, maybe I'm being a little naive because I know that she can't do anything I won't allow. But you're right. I do need to factor in the possibility that she can manipulate the relationship between me and my boy, turning us against each other, making it easier for her to slide in there with me. I know I'm reaching because she didn't even get at me yet, but women do have their ways. In the past I have been cool with his other girlfriends, but that's because we hung in person. This social media stuff is making it look suspect. This girl currently talks with him about topics I post on FB.

I can see his beef... she's supposed to be focused on him while she's talking to him about something another dude said. I'm gonna go ahead and delete her off FB. Me and him aren't beefing. We still talk and chill, he just isn't around me when he's with her and that's cool. Guess we'll leave it like that.