Modern day polygamy in Africa: first wife feeding second wife goes viral

[TNOT]

One Man, Many Wives, Big Problems

. "And remember: Everyunbalanced polygynous marriage, other things being equal, leaves some man bereft of the opportunity to marry, which is no small cost to that man.

The social dynamics of zero-sum marriage are ugly. In a polygamous world, boys could no longer grow up taking marriage for granted. Many would instead see marriage as a trophy in a sometimes brutal competition for wives. Losers would understandably burn with resentment, and most young men, even those who eventually won, would fear losing. Although much has been said about polygamy's inegalitarian implications for women who share a husband, the greater victims of inequality would be men who never become husbands."

Step yo game up.


Young boys would adapt, the same way we adapted to being raised in the west hypersexual, yet conservative norms and moral values.

 

[dem bath salts]

Different cultures. If nobody is being hurt, then its not my business. 2nd wife look fine as fukk.

 

[TNOT]

Hareming is actually a detriment to most men, not enough women to go around and some rich a$$holes basically scoop up a huge portion of available women. You're left with a bunch of sexually frustrated men running around.

This is happening in America, right now.

People be out here settling because they know they cant do better.

 

[Reece]

It wouldn’t play out this way because NOT all women are desirable when you are a man of means. So the hundreds of wives would likely be no more than 10.


Average women would get smutted out or flat out ignored and in turn would have to settle for men on their level.

I won’t even get into the field day courts would have if the current laws concerning divorce were kept as they are, couple that with the cost of living in the western world.

You’d probably see LESS marriages

You seriously comparing us to Arab cultures don’t even allow their women a tenth of the freedom westerners ?

As usual. Women always think of the advantages but, none of the disadvantages.

She forgot to account for the fact that men usually pick a favorite wife or two out of their multiple wives. Good luck being wife #10.

She forgot to account for the fact that a man with multiple wives has even less time for you or your kids. Good luck depending on a dude with seven other women.

She forgot to account for the fact that come time for the father to die, you have multiple women and multiple heirs to contend with for the father's resources, which is going to turn hella nasty and will probably suck extra hard if you weren't one of the wives he favored.

She forgot to account for the fact that her daughter will be essentially sold off to the highest bidder and be wife #5 instead of having the nice family you might envision for her, and your son will have to figure out how to become wealthy and powerful, otherwise he'll be a scrub that cant acquire women away from the wealthy men, which isn't the future you envisioned for him either.

Women only think 5 minutes ahead I swear

 

[CEO of Morgan Industries]

I supported a policy decision with data about social outcomes.

Just say you wanna marry more women.

I'm telling you its a bad idea because as good as you have it now, you will demonstrably and statistically have it worse.

I'm already married, and one woman is enough for me.

I told you why your data is insufficient for supporting your claim. Respond to my critiques or add data to support your position and show that the instability goes beyond Western sabotage of these countries and that polygamy is having a clear effect on political and societal instability, don't commit a bunch of fallacies where you try to insinuate that the personal backgrounds of posters here who disagree with you are somehow the issue with your position being accepted as the correct one. I see only ad hominems and an inability to meet the burden of proof on your end at this point.

I can be convinced that my position is weak, but you have done a poor job of that.

 

[Dzali OG]

And you will face more.

A guy like Trump would have like 12 wives if he could.

11 of which COULD make 11 other men happily ever after...

That's the point: He has those now, just minus the paperwork.

And just like as now, those 11 other women/wives are getting their backs blown by their boy toy using Trump for money.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

I'm already married, and one woman is enough for me.

I told you why your data is insufficient for supporting your claim. Respond to my critiques or add data to support your position and show that the instability goes beyond Western sabotage of these countries and that polygamy is having a clear effect on political and societal instability, don't commit a bunch of fallacies where you try to insinuate that the personal backgrounds of posters here who disagree with you are somehow the issue with your position being accepted as the correct one. I see only ad hominems and an inability to meet the burden of proof on your end at this point.

I can be convinced that my position is weak, but you have done a poor job of that.

Data is data without context.

All of this isn’t the result of colonialism. Most of the world is colonized.

You don’t have this problem in South America.

And you being married is interesting. Considering that you both settled for one another, how do you think you’d compare with knowing your wife might really have you as her backup to the guy she missed out on or met too late?

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

That's the point: He has those now, just minus the paperwork.

And just like as now, those 11 other women/wives are getting their backs blown by their boy toy using Trump for money.

Without kids there is no financial obligation. Marriage introduces that obligation and legal protection and access (healthcare, banking, taxes, etc)

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

As usual. Women always think of the advantages but, none of the disadvantages.

She forgot to account for the fact that men usually pick a favorite wife or two out of their multiple wives. Good luck being wife #10.

She forgot to account for the fact that a man with multiple wives has even less time for you or your kids. Good luck depending on a dude with seven other women.

She forgot to account for the fact that come time for the father to die, you have multiple women and multiple heirs to contend with for the father's resources, which is going to turn hella nasty and will probably suck extra hard if you weren't one of the wives he favored.

She forgot to account for the fact that her daughter will be essentially sold off to the highest bidder and be wife #5 instead of having the nice family you might envision for her, and your son will have to figure out how to become wealthy and powerful, otherwise he'll be a scrub that cant acquire women away from the wealthy men, which isn't the future you envisioned for him either.

Women only think 5 minutes ahead I swear

Right

It’s so stupid.

the competition is already hard enough. So their decision is to kick the competition can down the road into the depths of the marriage and to death.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

Step yo game up.


Young boys would adapt, the same way we adapted to being raised in the west hypersexual, yet conservative norms and moral values.

In polygamy, men get married later in order to make more money. And women get married younger because families “sell” them off and are favored by older men.

 

[Gold]

It's not about Paper but more so status because "Paper" is an Western thing, general wealth would maybe be a better way to frame it.

My grandfather was a chief and had land and such but didnt have "paper" if that makes sense.

My grandfather was a chief too. Had plenty of land and had 2 wives.
His first wife gave him hell though

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

This is happening in America, right now.

People be out here settling because they know they cant do better.

Having a mate beats having nothing and being envious of the next dude with 5 wives and you’re staring in the mirror struggling to find out why you can’t compete and plot on doing something extreme to make yourself stand out.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

It's not about Paper but more so status because "Paper" is an Western thing, general wealth would maybe be a better way to frame it.

My grandfather was a chief and had land and such but didnt have "paper" if that makes sense.

Money, cows, gold bars. All the same. It drives more inequality into fewer hands and creates a bigger pool of resentment from chronic and multiple generations of men who can’t compete that expands with every generation.

 

[Gold]

In polygamy, men get married later in order to make more money. And women get married younger because families “sell” them off and are favored by older men.

True. Most of the marriages are between a man and his friend's daughters.
My Grandfather was 28 years older than his second wife when he married her.

I wouldn't say "sell" though because that encourages a negative connotation.

The women who find themselves married to wealthy chiefs were almost always the envy of the village.

 

[Cynic]

As usual. Women always think of the advantages but, none of the disadvantages.

She forgot to account for the fact that men usually pick a favorite wife or two out of their multiple wives. Good luck being wife #10.

She forgot to account for the fact that a man with multiple wives has even less time for you or your kids. Good luck depending on a dude with seven other women.

She forgot to account for the fact that come time for the father to die, you have multiple women and multiple heirs to contend with for the father's resources, which is going to turn hella nasty and will probably suck extra hard if you weren't one of the wives he favored.

She forgot to account for the fact that her daughter will be essentially sold off to the highest bidder and be wife #5 instead of having the nice family you might envision for her, and your son will have to figure out how to become wealthy and powerful, otherwise he'll be a scrub that cant acquire women away from the wealthy men, which isn't the future you envisioned for him either.

Women only think 5 minutes ahead I swear

Nothing but facts

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

True. Most of the marriages are between a man and his friends daughters.
My Grandfather was 28 years older than his second wife when he married her.

I wouldn't say "sell" though because that encourages a negative connotation.

The women who find themselves married to wealthy chiefs were almost always the envy of the village.

I say “sell” because it differs across societies. Some places trade cows, others titles , others trade actual commodities.

It’s still a financial investment to justify the trade

Dudes just want to justify shytting on the next man. That’s why they want to brag about having more women. When they can barely get a single date. It’s sheer fantasy and ignorance.

The problem is that no one realizes how average they truly are.