Men's Dating Advice be Condescending as Hell

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Being around the blackpill/redpill shyt made me realize the advice that some people give online isn't for those struggling it's hamsterwheeling ment to shut those complaining up.

Thats why it's the same take a shower bro, just work out bro, mouthpiece bro, and other vague shyt that if they spew at those who try to get off the wheel.


At the end of the day, yeah some need to do that, but there are others who've tried plenty and still failed. But some aren't ready to accept that not everyone wins in the dating game.

Also some need to realize that they have to lower their standards when it comes to looks.
Now there are fine women with ugly dudes but not everyone is going to luck up like that

 

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Listen to Suga Free and you good

 

[Givethanks]

Breh...short, broke, ugly, fat, awkward dudes be eating . There are no rules.

It really magnifies how low someone's self esteem and perception can be.

Until I joined this site, I've never seen certain memes like the nerd wanting the popular girl, then when she gets fat and she tires to holla at the nerd when he's rich. Or other wired Reddit/4CH memes when it comes to dating.

 

[Ski Mask]

Also some need to realize that they have to lower their standards when it comes to looks.
Now there are fine women with ugly dudes but not everyone is going to luck up like that

Honestly as someone who grew up surrounded by those who did that, I wouldn't recommend that, that shyt is depressing. Had a cousin who's boyfriend who couldn't be around her unless he was drunk and a brother who dated a woman who was ugly inside and out cause he couldn't be alone.

Don't get me wrong, I get telling dudes who are stuck on 10s that, but there's a limit/darkside to lowering them standards. If It was a choice between someone I'm not attracted to or alone, I might as well just pay for it.

 

[FTBS]

Also some need to realize that they have to lower their standards when it comes to looks.
Now there are fine women with ugly dudes but not everyone is going to luck up like that

Honestly as someone who grew up surrounded by those who did that, I wouldn't recommend that, that shyt is depressing. Had a cousin who's boyfriend who couldn't be around her unless he was drunk and a brother who dated a woman who was ugly inside and out cause he couldn't be alone.

Don't get me wrong, I get telling dudes who are stuck on 10s that, but there's a limit/darkside to lowering them standards. If It was a choice between someone I'm not attracted to or alone, I might as well just pay for it.

Its not about lowering standards for looks as much as it is raising standards elsewhere. We will put up with anything for a pretty face and a fat ass. In retrospect so many of the chicks I thought were all that were just pretty idiots or pretty a$$holes with nothing to offer beyond that. Sex dont even be all that with many of them. You raise your standards in terms of intelligence, respect, character etc. a lot of the bad chicks will be eliminated but the ones that remain (with varying levels of physical attractiveness) will be much better options for you. Not to mention a chick that treats you a certain way and makes you feel a certain way will be more attractive to you (relatively speaking of course).

 

[Jaguar93]

Ill Bill? smh.

Even if he's right on this topic, I can't take any Black Male Feminist seriously tbh.

That whole little sector of YouTubers. From FD to bill be on that bs lol.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Being around the blackpill/redpill shyt made me realize the advice that some people give online isn't for those struggling it's hamsterwheeling ment to shut those complaining up.

Thats why it's the same take a shower bro, just work out bro, mouthpiece bro, and other vague shyt that if they spew at those who try to get off the wheel.


At the end of the day, yeah some need to do that, but there are others who've tried plenty and still failed. But some aren't ready to accept that not everyone wins in the dating game.

They're starting from a place of assuming if someone is failing in one aspect of life, they must just be a shytty person overall.

All that canned advice assumes the person is not trying all that. The conversation should always start with "what advice were you given, did you follow it? Are you still following it?"

And then the conversation goes from there. Some men smell like shyt, are built horribly, have terrible hairlines, repulsive personalities and...are not only in relationships but keep cheating on their girl with other women.

A lot of the time it boils down to proximity and luck. Do you know enough people who are single and looking? Are you around people who will set you up with someone? Are you in situations where you can spark conversation and throw your number out, start a courtship and then shoot your shot? What kind of lifestyle are you comfortable with? There is so much advice giving and not enough questions being asked to the people struggling.

But those dating "guru" and Podcaster don't actually care about helping people. They care about making CONTENT. They're turning your struggle into a brand that they can then use to make money. Solving the problem isn't really in their best interests.

 

[Jaguar93]

Dating advice from both genders are trash.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I think this is true to a certain extent depending on where you live. Miami ain't no joke from what I hear.

But yeah dude basically said go touch grass.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

It's easy to blame men for everything

Yes there are some men that don't even do the bare minimum of having good hygiene or good personality

But there are some women that do have high standards within the relationship and are picky. Or if they don't, they'll still criticize you like they do

And we are sensitive to acknowledging that because it would mean giving women the same scrutiny we give men for their standards

The universe has it's way of dealing with those women. Why keep having them as your focal point? Do you think constantly thinking about those women is good for your mental well being?

 

[Ski Mask]

Its not about lowering standards for looks as much as it is raising standards elsewhere. We will put up with anything for a pretty face and a fat ass. In retrospect so many of the chicks I thought were all that were just pretty idiots or pretty a$$holes with nothing to offer beyond that. Sex dont even be all that with many of them. You raise your standards in terms of intelligence, respect, character etc. a lot of the bad chicks will be eliminated but the ones that remain (with varying levels of physical attractiveness) will be much better options for you. Not to mention a chick that treats you a certain way and makes you feel a certain way will be more attractive to you (relatively speaking of course).

I agree with men raising standards past just a pretty face and body. Alot of head and heartache can be avoided that way.

I was just speaking on my experience when I was younger on how people tried to set me up with the precious' and mama June's after I started my self improvement journey. And I realized I didn't have the sex drive to dumpster dive, I told myself if my journey ends up with them still being my only options I'll quit and just pay for it.

 

[BlackAchilles]

Lowkey a lot of ppls advice about everything is mad patronizing

Can't even exclude myself from this

 

[Ski Mask]

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But those dating "guru" and Podcaster don't actually care about helping people. They care about making CONTENT. They're turning your struggle into a brand that they can then use to make money. Solving the problem isn't really in their best interests.

Agreed that's why I recommend those who need it to leave the redpill/blackpill spaces after getting the info they need.

 

[desjardins]

90% of it boils down to how much she likes you
Women from every tier, even gold diggers, have dudes they place zero expectations on
Basically no rule is one size fits all since the deciding factor for what's acceptable is out of your control

 

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Its not about lowering standards for looks as much as it is raising standards elsewhere. We will put up with anything for a pretty face and a fat ass. In retrospect so many of the chicks I thought were all that were just pretty idiots or pretty a$$holes with nothing to offer beyond that. Sex dont even be all that with many of them. You raise your standards in terms of intelligence, respect, character etc. a lot of the bad chicks will be eliminated but the ones that remain (with varying levels of physical attractiveness) will be much better options for you. Not to mention a chick that treats you a certain way and makes you feel a certain way will be more attractive to you (relatively speaking of course).

Yeah, I should've been more specific. Intelligence goes a long way. Not being able to hold a conversation on subjects outside of pop culture is exhausting