Men's Dating Advice be Condescending as Hell

[Westbama Heartthrob]

Inspired by the comment section here

Post from lil bill

I don't know how many times we gotta tell y'all but I'm determined to crack through that thick a$$ skull to the point I dedicated the whole second channel to...

youtube.com

Is it really that many nikkas that bad?

Cause it seems like even on here folks always assume the worst and think all of em ain't got sense to wash their ass

When that ain't even an excuse. Cause they can find an equal in the opposite sex

 

[Da_Eggman]

Listen to Suga Free and you good

 

[WIA20XX]

Ill Bill? smh.

Even if he's right on this topic, I can't take any Black Male Feminist seriously tbh.

 

[cyndaquil]

When you think about it, if all this dating advice and podcast stuff actually worked then we would see LESS dating advice and podcasts rather than more. People are doing more harm than good with this stuff. Stop giving everybody once size fits all advice and rules. This how men and women both miss out. Best advice about dating I ever got was to focus on my goals and be my best self for me.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Men

 

[KidJSoul]

It's easy to blame men for everything

Yes there are some men that don't even do the bare minimum of having good hygiene or good personality

But there are some women that do have high standards within the relationship and are picky. Or if they don't, they'll still criticize you like they do

And we are sensitive to acknowledging that because it would mean giving women the same scrutiny we give men for their standards

 

[Ski Mask]

Being around the blackpill/redpill shyt made me realize the advice that some people give online isn't for those struggling it's hamsterwheeling ment to shut those complaining up.

Thats why it's the same take a shower bro, just work out bro, mouthpiece bro, and other vague shyt that if they spew at those who try to get off the wheel.


At the end of the day, yeah some need to do that, but there are others who've tried plenty and still failed. But some aren't ready to accept that not everyone wins in the dating game.

 

[Insensitive]

Part of it's well deserved tough love because men need actionable advice not just "feel good" advice.
The other part is assuming a lot of bullshyt "because man".

The middle ground is taking everything on a case-by-case basis.


idk. Looking back when I was struggling, I really had no business worrying about a woman even if
we all want companionship.

- Be clean.
- Have all of your money making skills in order (certifications, degrees, licenses etc. for whatever field you're in)
- Be financially stable.
- Be the fittest you can be.
- Pick up some fashion tips.
Be the best "You" possible so when you step on the court (social life, dating, work life etc.)
You're ready to play.


Don't go through life feeling you weren't at YOUR BEST that's how you resent everything.

 

[Jonah]

When you think about it, if all this dating advice and podcast stuff actually worked then we would see LESS dating advice and podcasts rather than more. People are doing more harm than good with this stuff. Stop giving everybody once size fits all advice and rules. This how men and women both miss out. Best advice about dating I ever got was to focus on my goals and be my best self for me.

It's a grift

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

That's dudes here lol All I can do is laugh and
Plenty of normal women out here

 

[Givethanks]

It's really not that serious, people project a lot and aren't real with themselves. It's a way to cope or defense mechanisms.

Fake people mad that other fake people are being fake with them.

It's funny how my friends who are "cool" always complain about dating, but my "weird" friends always have dates, matches and are always talking to women.

 

[FTBS]

For everything you can list...hygiene, income, money, clothes...shyt height etc, there is are a million dudes who are exceptions to each of those rules. There are no rules. Chicks respond to what they respond to...its random as fukk. Thats what is so frustrating for guys. We are linear thinkers. Broads be all over the place. So really there is no advice. Dudes just be repeating what "worked" for them... that has nothing to do with the next man's situation. Then dudes like Bill operate on assumptions on what dudes arent doing because for them thats all it took so you must not be doing it.

Just do you, have some self respect, and see what happens . But thats not gonna get a million views and go viral and its not fodder for a weekly podcast. You cant get guys and girls to argue over that over and over again. Like Chris Rock said, aint no money in the cure.

 

[FTBS]

It's really not that serious, people project a lot and aren't real with themselves. It's a way to cope or defense mechanisms.

Fake people mad that other fake people are being fake with them.

It's funny how my friends who are "cool" always complain about dating, but my "weird" friends always have dates, matches and are always talking to women.

Breh...short, broke, ugly, fat, awkward dudes be eating . There are no rules.

 

[The ADD]

Thankfully they aren’t needed in the GMB era

 

[steadyrighteous]

When you think about it, if all this dating advice and podcast stuff actually worked then we would see LESS dating advice and podcasts rather than more. People are doing more harm than good with this stuff. Stop giving everybody once size fits all advice and rules. This how men and women both miss out. Best advice about dating I ever got was to focus on my goals and be my best self for me.

This is all there is to it. It's not about "get in the gym", "focus on your mouthpiece" or "dress better"

None of that matters if you don't know who you are, and if you don't know yourself backwards and forwards.

And that starts when you focus on your own personal and professional goals.

Because once you're fully invested in progressing as in individual, things don't fall into place, but everything that doesn't fit your goals FALLS AWAY. Including women.

It's not about building yourself into a man who is irresistible to all women, it's about building yourself into a man who knows which women are best for him. The rest of them can then be ignored (dating wise, not on some incel turn your nose up shyt)

Nyggas spend so much time and effort and mental power trying to figure out why they can't "get" women and less time trying to think about the type of woman that would be conducive to their goals and lifestyle, and that starts with knowing yourself first, not trying to figure them out.