"Men" who complain about women shyt-testing. Right or Wrong?

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Has a man done something that lowered your attraction to him?

He just did something, his behavior was in a way that you just didn't like and make you go

I feel ya. I thought ya'll were talking more about just plain ole disrespect.

I guess for me b/c i tend to go slow, I don't have to set up any explicit tests. I just sit and observe and ghost if it ain't working. But that's still a test lol!

But dudes saying they are CONSTANTLY being tested. My thing is, is there never a point that you get to where u can just relax and be urself with the other person?

Because I know what that feels like and it's amazing. No tests. No tricks. No finesse. You just you with somebody else being them.

 

[Carlton Banks]

So really these are just standards?

Like if a dude I'm dating is constantly talking about fukking to the point that it literally ruins the vibe and connection, I'm ghosting...

Or if a dude is on his cell phone being rude 24/7 or something like that?

Or we talking about chicks trying to disrespect ur manhood by buying u pink shirts or dying the tips of ur hair blonde or trying to paint ur fingernails? (Don't ask)

It's like I get it but I've legit never had a p*ssy meeting with my homegirls and outlined a "vagenda" to discuss this shyt.

I love ya'll. Learn something new everyday. Lol!

Why y'all brehs not correcting her???

No. shyt tests are basically exactly what the name is. You, give a man shyt as a test to see how he deals with it to make a better decision about continuing further with him. For example, you just start acting like a bytch to him for no reason because subconsciously you wanna see how he handles your "moods" (shyt). Or you act indecisive and difficult on occasion to see what he does.

 

[MaxPain]

I feel ya. I thought ya'll were talking more about just plain ole disrespect.

I guess for me b/c i tend to go slow, I don't have to set up any explicit tests. I just sit and observe and ghost if it ain't working. But that's still a test lol!

But dudes saying they are CONSTANTLY being tested. My thing is, is there never a point that you get to where u can just relax and be urself with the other person?

Because I know what that feels like and it's amazing. No tests. No tricks. No finesse. You just you with somebody else being them.[/QUOTE

When u set ur boundaries and a woman fully respects u.

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

You build a roster by going on dates..going for drinks,etc .

I've gotten p*ssy the same night by just stepping up to a chick, but to be honest i'm attractive,was carrying my guitar around and those chicks were already loose from the alcohol

You’re probably under 30 right blood?

If you are I’ll fill you in on some game. A woman is gonna put any man that she is dealing with through some shyt (husband,father,brother, etc). Hood dude, square, street dude. It’s her nature. A shyt test is for dudes who aren’t thorough. Dudes who are about theirs and hold shyt down aren’t for any bloody games. From man or from a woman.

Your woman is shyt testing you because she doesn’t respect or fear you. Period. If she has to test you, she doesn’t trust you.

 

[Sukairain]

I don't have the time or inclination to indulge in any stupid games. No bombohole can test

 

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Why y'all brehs not correcting her???

No. shyt tests are basically exactly what the name is. You, give a man shyt as a test to see how he deals with it to make a better decision about continuing further with him. For example, you just start acting like a bytch to him for no reason because subconsciously you wanna see how he handles your "moods" (shyt). Or you act indecisive and difficult on occasion to see what he does.

Lol at bold!

Okay the spirit of what u are saying seems different from what @Hennessypapi was describing.

I think what he was saying is just common sense and people not being willing to put up with or being attracted to shyt that is a deal breaker, like literally not having a backbone.

But what you are describing is extra as hell and sounds dysfunctional. I don't think I've ever put on a bytchmode front with a man before unless i felt genuinely disrespected. That energy doesn't feel good to just wear w/o cause. I just feel like you don't have to do all of that. I can be firm in my standards without settin up emotional booby traps.

Lemme find out ya'll dealing with Jigsaw ass bytches outchea.
"I WOULD LIKE TO PLAY A GAME!"


Hell relationships hard enuff. I'm tempted to say those types of people ain't got nothing better to do.
A woman having standards yes. Hell u want ur woman to have standards b/c if she let anybody fukk what does that say about u depending on what u want from her.

But a bytch acting like she Predator and you in a jungle as Danny Glover...nah...the p*ssy ain't worth it. (Or maybe it is b/c I'm not a dude and can't call it.)

 

[the bossman]

I'd think I was dating a damn android. Not really tryin to fukk Siri. (Shudders) I don't think anybody wants a doormat.

On the other hand, I hate people who say no just because too...lol!
Me: "You might wanna try holding ur breath when u go underwater..."
"NO! Don't try and control me!"

think about a time when you was with your man, spouting off about some bs that didn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. maybe you were feeling some doubt. some uncertainty. maybe it was your time of the month who knows. but what you really wanted at the time was for him to tell you to stfu, grab your ass(or however it is you like your man to take you), and then proceed to fukk you till your eyes roll to the back of your head from so much pleasure.

let's say he didn't do all that. instead he humored the bs, trying to solve the problem or just listening to you babble on and on. subconsciously you are a bit disappointed he didn't see thru the bs and it even makes him seem a little bit unattractive in your eyes, because you wanted him to just take control of the situation, calm you down, give you some affection, etc.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

You’re probably under 30 right blood?

If you are I’ll fill you in on some game. A woman is gonna put any man through some shyt. Hood dude, square, street dude. It’s her nature. A shyt test is for dudes who aren’t thorough. Dudes who are about theirs and hold shyt down aren’t for any bloody games. From man or from a woman.

Your woman is shyt testing you because she doesn’t respect or fear you. Period. If she has to test you, she doesn’t trust you.

I'm 27...

and I feel it...and I admit up until I was 26 I had issues,confidence issues and shyt so I was doing all that shyt..I know I was giving off feminine energy..so I see the reason why the tests were given.

It's brehs out there who are annoyed by the tests...which I understand but they on some

"Woman shouldn't do it at all! " shyt, and it's like...with that attitude those guys are gonna continue to get run over and tested.

 

[Shutdown10]

What's up with this high school all corny cac Alpha male shyt...


If a woman shyt tests you...she's a stupid bytch...it's that simple...

If you tolerate shyt tests...you must be a thirsty motherfukker....

I don't tolerate games, shyt tests and all that....

My time is valuable...time is money....and if Ima fukk off some time...it ain't gonna be trying to figure out where a woman's head is at...I am grown....

None but real facts written here.

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

I'm 27...

and I feel it...and I admit up until I was 26 I had issues,confidence issues and shyt so I was doing all that shyt..I know I was giving off feminine energy..so I see the reason why the tests were given.

It's brehs out there who are annoyed by the tests...which I understand but they on some

"Woman shouldn't do it at all! " shyt, and it's like...with that attitude those guys are gonna continue to get run over and tested.

At least you are honest about it. A woman will be a woman and you want her to be strong if you are a strong dude as well.

She will gain wisdom and strength through you so she will never disrespect you because that is disrespecting herself.


A good woman will make you a better man by making sure you uphold your moral code and standards, but test you? Nah man wrong dude. She is more than likely looking for a way out cause you are frustrating her.

 

[Carlton Banks]

Lemme find out ya'll dealing with Jigsaw ass bytches outchea.
"I WOULD LIKE TO PLAY A GAME!"

This is exactly what a lot of men are dealing with when it comes to women. Then again I won't be bias and say it ain't a two way street. A lot of times women have their defenses up for good reason and make men go through this struggle where she thinks everything you're saying and doing is all "game."

 

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think about a time when you was with your man, spouting off about some bs that didn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. maybe you were feeling some doubt. some uncertainty. maybe it was your time of the month who knows. but what you really wanted at the time was for him to tell you to stfu, grab your ass(or however it is you like your man to take you), and then proceed to fukk you till your eyes roll to the back of your head from so much pleasure.

let's say he didn't do all that. instead he humored the bs, trying to solve the problem or just listening to you babble on and on. subconsciously you are a bit disappointed he didn't see thru the bs and it even makes him seem a little bit unattractive in your eyes, because you wanted him to just take control of the situation, calm you down, give you some affection, etc.

LMAO! I feel you but that's not personally how I go about getting what I want. Like if I want affection, I'll ask. I'm big on communication. When I feel vulnerable, I'll ask my man to hold me. Or I'll tell him when I'm feeling anxious. Growing up we talked about anything and everything. Or we touched or held each other.

Spoiler: Example

With my ex, the overwhelming majority of our arguments came b/c he didn't clean up behind himself, and was too stubborn to allow ME to clean up.

But see I'm not a yeller or a thrower. When I get mad I just start asking questions...
"Soooo why your bathroom look like some shyt scene from Fallout 4? You really tryin to be the nikka king under the mountain of laundry?"

When I'm mad or hurt, it's not a test. Im literally frustrated or at my breaking point.
I just want a solution. Dykk is nice but that's not gonna fix that pile of nasty ass drawers or them rings around ur toilet.

Then my family come visit on some "This how u living?"

Lol! I just don't think tests work in something sustainable. At some point u gon HAVE to learn to use ur words. Nobody should be constantly made to feel like they jumping thru hoops or on unstable ground just to be with you. Like ur supposed to be that person's haven and vice versa. Hell the rest of the world testing you, so you gon have a final when u get home too?!

Who wants to do that type of stuff?

 

[Entropy Fan]

Listen man...

The better u do on shyt tests INITIALLY....the less u will get in the future..

If u set boundaries early and stand by em, ull barely get shyt tested...

Its in a womans best interest to do this..

If u cant stand up for urself, how are u gonna stand up for her?...


Thats why brehs say white women are “easier” to deal with, its cuz white women initially shyt test black men less cuz they perceive us to be naturally masculine (thru media)....where a white guy has to prove his masculinity...

Pass her initial shyt tests, and itll rarely happen...


And no, it will never change, women do this to find out if ur a p*ssy or not, they been doing it since Adam and Eve, Adam failed...

But if we follow our nature and hoe test we are bad.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

think about a time when you was with your man, spouting off about some bs that didn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. maybe you were feeling some doubt. some uncertainty. maybe it was your time of the month who knows. but what you really wanted at the time was for him to tell you to stfu, grab your ass(or however it is you like your man to take you), and then proceed to fukk you till your eyes roll to the back of your head from so much pleasure.

let's say he didn't do all that. instead he humored the bs, trying to solve the problem or just listening to you babble on and on. subconsciously you are a bit disappointed he didn't see thru the bs and it even makes him seem a little bit unattractive in your eyes, because you wanted him to just take control of the situation, calm you down, give you some affection, etc.

I messed around with a chick who would do this shyt

I got a bj from her in a park once,she was drunk but I was in a homeless shelter, she lived in a hostel so I was confused and didn't know how I was gonna fukk her...(Hindsight I should've gotten a hotel,or even fukked her in the park) ..we didn't fukk and she went home horny. I was acting like I didn't know wtf I was doing,she was right and picked up on it..I wasn't used to dating women AT ALL...I was NEW to this dating shyt..my previous experience with women were all hookers, and one fat white single mom() ..

Then the shyt show came

-Would say stupid shyt like "I'm cutting my hair bald..I think I would look better "
-She pretended to answer a call and then proceeded to say "yea i'll come do your hair deshawn....yea i'll bring weed"
-We were going to a food spot then she goes off and starts..."oh wait I want sushi..let's go here".
-Talk about you're nice...the chubby guys were always nice to me in school

-Saying stupid shyt and I wasn't agreeing i'm just like " " this shyt was completely new to me and I was checking out mentally from her by the minute.


I remember we were walking on the street and she was just piling it on..it was blatant and I got tired of it and literally just made a left turn and walked away from her....she followed me a few blocks but then I noticed and she left.

Looking back I was intriguing her because she was obviously attracted, and I was distant, but I admit I was being passive..so she would still give me a chance..but would do shyt like show up to the park when I'm with my homies and then just expect me to leave with her and I would say NO.

I was doing all the shyt that intrigues her like being distant,unpredictable, but also doing alot of shyt like letting her behavior go unchecked .

We're both virgos so we read through bullshyt...



Oh and she ended up being bi-polar like me so in the end so she wasn't normal

 

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This is exactly what a lot of men are dealing with when it comes to women. Then again I won't be bias and say it ain't a two way street. A lot of times women have their defenses up for good reason and make men go through this struggle where she thinks everything you're saying and doing is all "game."

I REALLY don't want things to be like this for people in relationships b/c it really ain't necessary.

This sounds like psychology warfare and that's not a good thing. And I don't want men to become inured to this shyt b/c this ain't normal.

I ain't trying to sell dreams but this ain't no #allwomen shyt. I'm serious. Not every chick is filtering her desires through some minesweeper bullshyt and vice versa.

shyt like this is why I hear men and women saying I'm tired of people playing games. It should be easy to be authentic and genuine w/o trying to figure out how much u can push or pull somebody.

Sometimes I think people grow up watching dysfunction and then take that shytty energy into their relationships, and then they look at people who ain't playing that shyt like THEY are weird.

Nah I'm not crashing and burning with ur dysfunctional ass. And if u encounter any chick like that, I hope u leave em where they at.