"Men" who complain about women shyt-testing. Right or Wrong?

[ignorethis]

Whoever invented the term "shyt-test" deserves a medal.

Perfect phrase to sum up something most women do but nobody had a name for it.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

don't you have a PhD in psychology/sociology or some shyt like that? 80%(yes i pulled this statistic out my ass) of women are not that well in touch and have control over their emotions like that enough or well-enough to be able to communicate them verbally at least. You are outside the norm

Nope. I don't think it's about me. This shyt ain't normal. I firmly believe, this is one of the consequences of growing up in broken homes: cycle of dysfunctional relationships.

One of my exes told me I was too goodie two shoe. He now has a baby mama that has dogged him out in public, cheated on him and he is embarrassed to be in public with her.

But he wanted that b/c that's what he is used to. He interprets dysfunction as love. Because I wasn't testing his manhood constantly, he didn't think I really cared about him. He sees the fights and the arguments as validation. He viewed me with suspicion b/c I was being nice.

Women who are like my ex do this shyt b/c they think that shyt is normal when it's not. Nor is it healthy. They will NEVER be happy with someone treating them right b/c they see kindness as weakness or as untrustworthy. They will literally START fights b/c at least that means all of their dude's energy is focused on them.

If you have to dog somebody out to gain their affections or put them through an emotional gauntlet constantly for them to be true, they gotta go. Because ur not going to change them. They just gonna wear you down until you become just like them. I don't want anybody thinking this type of shyt is normal. Healthy people will appreciate you if you REALLY honest to God trying to do right by them and not on some creep shyt.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I enjoy most of her opinions but what she doesn't realize is that she's an outlier.

It's not that, I just think people being brainwashed b/c there ARE plenty of men and women who aren't on this nonsense.
But I feel like the average blk man and blk woman is carry a very heavy burden dealing with dsyfunctional ass people when they don't have to. Hell im speaking from experience. I went through phases. Too nice to everybody, guys try to take advantage. Be a bytch and have em eating out the palm of your hand, but who wants a dude who needs you to fukk over them for them to act right?
Let it all go and found tons of other normal ass people who not trying to play anybody or test anybody, but just wanna chill and enjoy life together.

We can't normalize this shyt. This isn't a natural part of relationships. Peace should be the default status in the relationships with people closest to you. Not lying, not cheating, not constant struggle to prove urself, not second-guessing. It's impossible to sustain something in that kind of environment.

 

[7th Letter Specialist]

Do any of y'all test y'all women

 

[Carlton Banks]

Let it all go and found tons of other normal ass people who not trying to play anybody or test anybody, but just wanna chill and enjoy life together.

Where you find these people at?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Where you find these people at?

Hard to say sometimes. You just gotta be open and positive. I don't believe that the majority of people are "ain't shyt". Lmao

What are ur hobbies and stuff ur interested in? Do some volunteering too. Do meet ups with like minded people.

 

[Kokoro]

I guess for me b/c i tend to go slow, I don't have to set up any explicit tests. I just sit and observe and ghost if it ain't working. But that's still a test lol!

you ass

 

[Hungerpain]

I don't tolerate tests/disrespect from anyone especially a creature thats physically inferior to me.
Idgaf if its their "nature" or not.
Its in my nature to lash out in violence everytime something makes me angry..but I dont because I'm a civilized person and their will be consequences for my actions.
Primary reason women never evolved is because nikkas wanna cater to them and take pride in playing their games like they're children.
bytch got one time to "test" me then she a dub.

 

[kevm3]

Complaining about the inevitable is a waste of time. Sooner or later the woman is going to test you. It's up to you to knock her test out of the park when she throws it your way.

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

I’m damn near 30, I don’t play into this nonsense.

Once it starts, I cut them off. There are too many young, good looking women with their shyt together to put up with this immature shyt

 

[Shadow King]

I'm not fine enough or enough of a catch to deal with shyt tests...if a woman is playing any games I'm losing and blocking numbers.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

they been doing it since Adam and Eve, Adam failed

Wrong analogy

 

[Ms. Quick]

What kind of shyt testing y’all been through. Christ. I thought it was light hearted fun. Like telling your dude his center is trash and watching him create another.

 

[Marc Spector]

i dont even give a fukk about shyt testing

im a proud beta laid back breh

Take me as I am or at least take this dyck

either way ima still be who the fukk I am

So much of this PUA artist bs involves a degree of deception. I mean pretending to be a "high value male" instead of actually becoming one....and funny things a alotta of high value males hate the fact that its hard to meet someone who likes them for them...or not having the time to really meet a woman...


fukk that B. Find someone who accepts you for you. If you complacent and willing to compromise thats who you are.

Dudes drop gems on confidence cuz thats so important...but a bytch asks to change the date to one hour after the first time and allll a sudden thats going too far? like we all aint adults with busy lives? lol ok.

 

[Rollo Goodlove]

I loveshyt test