Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
Are u really gonna deny what I'm saying is factually incorrect?
Do u really need a gatdamn graph and stats? U are lost breh.
"Men need to boycott marriage! Marriage isnt worth the risk" (video)
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Are u really gonna deny what I'm saying is factually incorrect?
Do u really need a gatdamn graph and stats? U are lost breh.
VegetasHairline
Veteran
Am I the only one who sees the irony in @CrimsonTider defending the woman's side of this debate seeing that he has a Drake avi
yes, you are
mcdivit85
Superstar
If you knew your close friend was getting ready to marry a man that you knew FOR A FACT was a cheater, deadbeat and had a history of using women for money, you're saying that you wouldn't pull her to the side and tell her that she needs to reconsider before she makes a LEGALLY-BINDING CONTRACT with this person? And you wouldn't do this because you wouldn't want to "rain on her parade"? You would just tell her to get a pre-nup and hope for the best?
I don't believe any person who is truly a friend and cares about someone's well being would simply stand by while that person is looking down the barrel of a gun. I can understand telling that person the deal and then letting that person do what they do. But not at least trying to tell them the whole truth and telling them to step back? That's not a friend...that's a bystander.
I know I would tell my friend if he was going to make a horrible choice in who to marry. Not because I'm trying to "rain on his parade" when it comes to marriage, but because I wouldn't want to be see my friend be a frog fattened for a snake. If that makes me the bad guy, then that's cool...I'll take that L.
I understand that people are grown, but sometimes being a friend means pulling that grown man/woman aside and letting them know that they may need to reconsider a decision they're making. Being someone's friend is not just patting them on the back and telling them everything is ok when you know its not. There's several people who've made bad decisions who will tell you they wish one of their "friends" would've stopped being the good guy and simply told them the truth, so they may have saved themselves from some pain, heartache and financial ruin.
I'm not jumping on you because I'm trying to discredit marriage. I actually agree with your idea of marrying if that's what you want to do and not if you don't. But the above statement you made was simply myopic to put it nicely.
Peace
a murda
I love my wife brehs
i dont know .....it just happens
For who?
i'm in the middle on this shyt. I think the main concern is assets. if you already have a home and get married, check your states/provinces laws cause if you divorce you may have to give half. also, not sure but the same thing could apply to your retirement funds if they are used to buy a house.
thisgs to remember:
-prenups only protect assets accumulated before marriage (and even certain types of assets can't be protected)
-prenups can be annuled by the judge if deemed unfair (you're basically at the mercy of the judge)
-marriage is a combining of assets. divorce is the 50/50 division of your combined assets.
-you do get tax and legal benefits in marriage
-part of the problems in divorces beyond money is if your are sentimentally attached to certain assets (animals, intelectual proprety. family objects). divorces can get real nasty.
-people who come up on top in divorce are most likely the lawyers
thisgs to remember:
-prenups only protect assets accumulated before marriage (and even certain types of assets can't be protected)
-prenups can be annuled by the judge if deemed unfair (you're basically at the mercy of the judge)
-marriage is a combining of assets. divorce is the 50/50 division of your combined assets.
-you do get tax and legal benefits in marriage
-part of the problems in divorces beyond money is if your are sentimentally attached to certain assets (animals, intelectual proprety. family objects). divorces can get real nasty.
-people who come up on top in divorce are most likely the lawyers
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
If you knew your close friend was getting ready to marry a man that you knew FOR A FACT was a cheater, deadbeat and had a history of using women for money, you're saying that you wouldn't pull her to the side and tell her that she needs to reconsider before she makes a LEGALLY-BINDING CONTRACT with this person? And you wouldn't do this because you wouldn't want to "rain on her parade"? You would just tell her to get a pre-nup and hope for the best?
I don't believe any person who is truly a friend and cares about someone's well being would simply stand by while that person is looking down the barrel of a gun. I can understand telling that person the deal and then letting that person do what they do. But not at least trying to tell them the whole truth and telling them to step back? That's not a friend...that's a bystander.
I know I would tell my friend if he was going to make a horrible choice in who to marry. Not because I'm trying to "rain on his parade" when it comes to marriage, but because I wouldn't want to be see my friend be a frog fattened for a snake. If that makes me the bad guy, then that's cool...I'll take that L.
I understand that people are grown, but sometimes being a friend means pulling that grown man/woman aside and letting them know that they may need to reconsider a decision they're making. Being someone's friend is not just patting them on the back and telling them everything is ok when you know its not. There's several people who've made bad decisions who will tell you they wish one of their "friends" would've stopped being the good guy and simply told them the truth, so they may have saved themselves from some pain, heartache and financial ruin.
I'm not jumping on you because I'm trying to discredit marriage. I actually agree with your idea of marrying if that's what you want to do and not if you don't. But the above statement you made was simply myopic to put it nicely.
Peace
If I knew for a fact then I would tell her she needs to protect herself financially and health wise. However, I'm not going to hold an intervention for a adult who knows what they are getting into. If I know all these things about this guys then I know she would know them too. No one is blind to a guy who is all those thing (I love how you guys always do the most tragic cases). If she still decided to do it, what can I really do but try to get her to protect herself for the potential fall out? Nothing.
I simply don't like people telling me how to live my life. I'm an adult. let me make my own mistskes and just be there for me. I do unto others as I would have them do me.
mcdivit85
Superstar
I understand your point, and I would agree for the most part. It seems the only difference is I would tell my friend to reconsider where as it seems you would tell them to simply protect themselves.
And I used that example because that was a similar example to what prompted the response to which I replying. No rabbits out of the hat over here.
Peace
Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
You are the one coddling adults. Thank god my friends aren't screw ups who don't have the common sense to choose a good mate.
at your friends.
Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
You are the one coddling adults. Thank god my friends aren't screw ups who don't have the common sense to choose a good mate.
I didn't know that informing your friends about potential dangers is "coddling" You are a horrible friend and family member.
SouthernBelle
#Feyonce
All my friends and family members would disagree with you, a stranger who knows nothing about me. The only reason I've lost a friend since the age of 12 was because she passed away. Again, thank god my adult friends don't need interventions because they don't know how to choose mates.
