MEN, how do you do it? [relationships]

[Matt504]

this is mostly aimed at men..

I respect and appreciate every female poster who contributes here at thecoli, please call me on my bullshyt if you spot it.

[I don't proclaim to sit on some moral high horse, nor do I intend to come off as pointing fingers, I'm just as fukked up as some of the worst of those of you reading this.]


..how do you do it?

..how do you have sex with a woman you can't have an intellectual conversation with, a woman who you can't lay with postcoitus and talk about something meaningful or fulfulling with?

how do you psychologically abuse a woman to the point she's willing to do anything in the world for you because she's afraid of losing you?

have you ever sat up late at night and imagined that the fukked up shyt you just told her, just might have really hurt her feelings?

do you get a funny feeling in your tummy when you're doing something that you wouldn't want her to find out about?

Those who "know" me, know that I'm pretty open about my emotions and don't mind discussing them openly, all I ask from you is that you be honest, I care.

 

[Killer Instinct]

..how do you have sex with a woman you can't have an intellectual conversation with, a woman who you can't lay with postcoitus and talk about something meaningful or fulfulling with?

Because two parties are physically attracted to each other. You see someone you like out at a party or the mall and at that moment the first thing that pops into your head usually isn't discussing quantum physics or politics. It's just sex. Women want it the same way as men do.

 

[MikelArteta]

 

[Matt504]

Because two parties are physically attracted to each other. You see someone you like out at a party or the mall and at that moment the first thing that pops into your head usually isn't discussing quantum physics or politics. It's just sex. Women want it the same way as men do.

I agree, but does anyone ever feel like they're taking advantage?

would you continue to have sex with a person who can't mentally stimulate you, if so, isn't that person reduced to a sexual object?

 

[kp404]

I agree, but does anyone ever feel like they're taking advantage?

would you continue to have sex with a person who can't mentally stimulate you, if so, isn't that person reduced to a sexual object?

that's exactly what it is for many people, they just don't want to admit it unfortunately, and that's when communication becomes key.

 

[mortuus est]

 

[Matt504]

that's exactly what it is for many people, they just don't want to admit it unfortunately, and that's when communication becomes key.

 

[kp404]

For real...people try to act all high and mighty and don't wanna admit to the woman/man that they only want their bodies for strictly pleasure...if mothafukkas from both sexes would just be honest (communication), then relationship building can really expand...people are just too chickenshyt. We have to start being honest with ourselves and each other, that is the key to relationships...once that honesty envelops the relationship, whether it is short term, sporadic, or longterm, it greatly affects mental, emotional, and physical dependency; This is not the case for everyone, obviously as some people are brutally honest with their mates about what they want, but both sexes have difficulty communicating their true desires...

The only way to really engage another person is to communicate with them..if you automatically have any reservations about communicating with a woman/man you just met, you need to think about what the problem is and if it is serious, don't even attempt anything regardless of physical attraction or implicit and explicit damages will occur for both parties...and that's for a simple fukk, a few dates, or a longterm relationship. period.

 

[Larry Lobster]

Chill my nikka, we just want the p*ssy

 

[Matt504]

Chill my nikka, we just want the p*ssy

why don't men just tell women that they just want the p*ssy?

why play all the games?

 

[kp404]

why don't men just tell that they just want the p*ssy and women tell men that just want some dikk?

why play all the games?

Fixed.

 

[BocaRear]

why don't men just tell women that they just want the p*ssy?

why play all the games?

Because women feel like it's dehumanizing, women don't wanna hear you say you just want them for their body. They want you to hear you say you care about their interests & opinions on things.They love the lie & we love the cooch. That's just the game.

 

[Turbulent]

why don't men just tell women that they just want the p*ssy?

why play all the games?

because we are more attached to the outcome than the principle. We are slaves to the outcome. Our ego would rather trick the other person into a yes than be principled (hold on to our integrity) and maybe get a no.

EDIT: BocaRear also made a good point and the way i see it, a lot of times we're scared of the consequence of being honest and maybe chastized, judged, rejected because a lot of us define ourselves based on how others feel about us.

 

[Truth Hurts]

The GIFs on here

 

[Raava]

People are selfish and don't want to deal with what comes with the truth. Men don't want to deal with not getting what they want, awkward convos, women's feelings, being the bad guy etc...I don't understand wanting to trick someone, when there are plenty of women who will do whatever willingly without being tricked. Women don't want to hear...basically what they don't want to hear so they try to make something happen when you really can't.

I appreciate everyone who is honest with me. Some much less drama that way. Feelings may be hurt but I would rather deal with just that, than with that in addition to lies. I never understood how someone could be that cruel or uncaring about another person, but more people than I thought are like that.