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General Mills

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IMO she was good outside of not being willing to travel.. she was not that bad :ehh:.... but the fact she never wanted to travel :patrice:has to be more to it then she just not feeling like it,.. :francis: damn Mills why you have to let her go..... i think maybe you should have tried to get her to travel with you earlier in the relationship :manny: things maybe could have played out different

It was def more than just not feeling like it. . It was something mental.

When we were dating and not living together I at first would suggest dinner or something like that. . She always politely refused and said no need to waste money. We can just chill at each others houses and enjoy our company. I was cool with it at the time. It did not seem odd. We had great conversations. But I would ask.

After we were together. . I just got tired of always being in the house. .But I did not want to go to events and stuff solo. They have all kinds of food festivals, music festivals, concerts, beaches, amusement parks, etc. . I love to go out every once in a while. I am a homebody. . but not 100% of the time.

When I asked her about changing I was caught totally by surprise by her reaction. That's when I truly realized it was more than her just not feeling like going out. Something internal was keeping her from going out.

At that point. . .I honestly felt like I was being choked. . The house started feeling like a prison and I saw no other existence other than our daily routine and the more I thought about it the more depressed I got.
 

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It was def more than just not feeling like it. . It was something mental.

When we were dating and not living together I at first would suggest dinner or something like that. . She always politely refused and said no need to waste money. We can just chill at each others houses and enjoy our company. I was cool with it at the time. It did not seem odd. We had great conversations. But I would ask.

After we were together. . I just got tired of always being in the house. .But I did not want to go to events and stuff solo. They have all kinds of food festivals, music festivals, concerts, beaches, amusement parks, etc. . I love to go out every once in a while. I am a homebody. . but not 100% of the time.

When I asked her about changing I was caught totally by surprise by her reaction. That's when I truly realized it was more than her just not feeling like going out. Something internal was keeping her from going out.

At that point. . .I honestly felt like I was being choked. . The house started feeling like a prison and I saw no other existence other than our daily routine and the more I thought about it the more depressed I got.
i really feel she would have told you in the future why she was like that, if that guy did not do that shyt :francis: .. maybe her fam knows why?... honestly i really want to know why she did not like going out and i don't think its that born again shyt
 
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:whew: Moving out was the right move. Door got kicked in literally a week later. My roomie was not at home. .But his cousin was and he did time. Meanwhile me and Janet had a good thing. I really liked her. And I knew she was all about me. After I got the guts she was in super love. :wub: But she was in turmoil. . She was living in sin. She was one of those all day at church on sunday chicks.:lawd: She also went during the week for choir practice and bible study. :blessed:

I love God but am not a real church goer. But I would go with her sometimes. Honestly. . I did not like her Pastor. "Prophet" Larry Mitchell. . He always came off WRONG to me. I did not like him at all. . He straight up LIED. The first time I went there he called me up to the front. . .Put his paws on me and said . . Your a drunkard. :ehh: I said no I am not. :comeon: He said why when I laid hands on you I see you recently so drunk that you are on the floor? :dame: I said word? I have not had a drink in over a year.. . And I am far from a drinker. I never had my first till I was 22. :childplease: He then looked at my hands. . Said you work with your hands.. . Manual labor right. . I said no again. I work behind a keyboard. :childplease: He told me to take a seat.


Her sister brought her boyfriend in. . He looked at him and called him a demon to his face. I was :mjlol: but it was fukked up. Dude was so MAD!! :pacspit: The church. . . . he made his service about talking about people and what he "sees" So the whole service people are sitting there scared hoping he does not call them out. . And when he calls somebody else out everybody laughs. It is a sense of fear and relief when he does not call on you. :whew:


I called her out on it.. . She did not understand where I was coming from. :beli: In the two years were married. He upgraded his car from a Caddy to a Benz Truck. And he bought a Big Ass RV. He had two churches. One in Jax and the home church in Gainseville. The one in Jax burned down mysteriously one day. Insurance is what I am thinking. . Cause he he bought like 5 more whips. :beli:


Faith Tabernacle of Praise Ministries
I'm confused, did you marry Janet in two years or were y'all married for two years?
 

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i really feel she would have told you in the future why she was like that, if that guy did not do that shyt :francis: .. maybe her fam knows why?... honestly i really want to know why she did not like going out and i don't think its that born again shyt

I remember asking her moms about that. She just said she had always been that way. :yeshrug: Said when she first started going to school in Kindergarten her grandmother had to go and sit in the class or she would not go. She eventually had to wean her off that.

But her moms acted like it was no big deal. :francis: Like it was perfectly fine. Confused the heck out me.
 

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Yeah, I guess being twice divorced in your 20s you can really be proud of your pos rep on an internet msg board
You the definition of a p*ssy nikka. Talks shyt, on a nikka that gets shown love for what he do. Troll or not u a real deal Loser. Spending your time left and right to talk down on anybody, be mad at ya damn self for being such a p*ssy boi/girl shim fukk nikka
 

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but .. but .. but the Egyptians were white



:feedme:

How Sway?

His stories would definitely fit well into the black fiction literature. I do not know the ins and outs of publishing on kindle, but I do not think that it is hard at all. I am considering doing it a few years from now. He should also look into getting an editor. The great thing about those books on Kindle is that they can be 50 pages, and you can sell them for $0.99 to $2. Trust me with the stories that he tells us it would definitely draw in readers, especially female readers.
Just pick a niche and start writing. Watch the moeny flow in. Amazon does take a certain cut. Now over a few months to years if his fan base grows into the thousands he can write books and sell them for more than $6. Imagine 1,000+ people buying a book that's $6.
 

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His stories would definitely fit well into the black fiction literature. I do not know the ins and outs of publishing on kindle, but I do not think that it is hard at all. I am considering doing it a few years from now. He should also look into getting an editor. The great thing about those books on Kindle is that they can be 50 pages, and you can sell them for $0.99 to $2. Trust me with the stories that he tells us it would definitely draw in readers, especially female readers.
Just pick a niche and start writing. Watch the moeny flow in. Amazon does take a certain cut. Now over a few months to years if his fan base grows into the thousands he can write books and sell them for more than $6. Imagine 1,000+ people buying a book that's $6.
Thank you

He would definitely eventually cake if he started now
 

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We were so far behind on the rent that the Apt complex just wanted us gone. They did not even want us to get it current. . So I had to find us a new place. . I am grilling her like WTF???:childplease: What was going on that you could not pay the rent??? Also I forgot. before I left. . .. I had a friend. ( old ex actually ) who worked at ADT. She was a supervisor. I called her and told her I was married. . etc. . she was happy for me. .She had a new dude too. . I asked her if they were hiring. .She said yes. . I helped my wife with her resume. .Got her an interview. So right when I was leaving she was going for her final interview. . One of the first letters I got from her was her happy as fukk cause she got the job.

Wellllll. . .She lost the job. . Because she lied on her application. . She did not have a high school diploma brehs. :merchant: .

Damn I am trying to get this shyt out and I am missing shyt. . When I first met her kids her 11-12 year old cornered me in the hallway one time and said. . You know me and my mom have the same taste in men. :huhldup: Lil girl was built like a grown woman. . . I literally ran out of the trailer.



Ok so back to this shyt. . I am asking and asking. WHAT THE fukk HAPPENED??? . Not even really wanting to know. :sadcam: She is deflecting and playing dumb. . .I get us a new place. . A townhouse. As I am paying for that her truck gets repo'd. Well. . MY TRUCK! Cause it was in my fukking name. :snoop: Somehow my car in 4 months has brakes that are worn down to the metal and is now sounding like a go-cart. . . I am :mindblown::mindblown::mindblown::mindblown:


And to top it off. . .One day her 7 year old says. . I miss my sister. . I go. . Your sister is in the kitchen. . She says noooo. My sister Anya. I am thinking she is talking about her cousin or some shyt. . So I offhand mention it to her. . Your daughter was asking about Anya. . She says ok. . I will get her from her grandmother. . .I am like ok. . Then I ask her. . Is she a cousin? She says no. She is my daughter. .

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I remember asking her moms about that. She just said she had always been that way. :yeshrug: Said when she first started going to school in Kindergarten her grandmother had to go and sit in the class or she would not go. She eventually had to wean her off that.

But her moms acted like it was no big deal. :francis: Like it was perfectly fine. Confused the heck out me.
At first it seemed like agoraphobia to me. That theory took a hit when you mentioned that she was a different person in the classroom, but I thought that maybe she didn't see the kids as peers and she was in control of them so they didn't trigger her fears...but then you mentioned that she liked to go to garage sales / thrift stores etc and I was like :mindblown: because that environment is full of weird fukks.

Then I thought maybe it was a control thing and she can't handle when things aren't *her* way or aren't what she expected but then you mentioned that she hated driving and always insisted that you do it. Or maybe it was just an internal compromise and having you drive removed her from having to react and respond to the unexpected movements of other drivers? Either way I was like :mindblown: again.
 

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When I did talk to her before I blocked and deleted her. . I got a update on the kids. .The oldest as you know I ran into. She has multiple kids by different dudes. Looks old as fukk. .Looks wacker than her moms. The middle girl is a dyke. Saw pics of her and she is dusty as fukk. Like she smokes and smells like black n milds. Dusty ass dreads. The son Steven is in Prison. Doing 5 years. The youngest moved to Cali. She straight up disappeared . She has no idea where she is. :wow:
:dahell::wow:
 
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