"Marriage Isn't for Black Women"

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Why Marriage Can Be Bad for Black Women - How Marriage Is Affected by Race

"Many people reading this probably think that’s part of what the institution of marriage is all about: Taking on one another’s commitments and supporting each other through financial hardship. Those people do not understand that this country’s institutions constantly fail black people. They do not know about the median $100,000 wealth gap between black and white families, generated by centuries of discrimination and oppression. They cannot grasp the harsh reality that America promised opportunities to black people who chose to embark on the quest for higher education, but in reality saddled us with mountains of debt. They do not know that redlining confined us to subpar neighborhoods with subpar schools. That the justice system continues to prey on us, instead of protect us. They cannot fathom an existence where they are labeled “undesirable” simply because of the color of their skin.

I choose to fight against these hardships by remaining unmarried. I've made decisions that ensure we have access to basic resources like healthcare, food in the fridge, and, potentially, savings to buy a house.

If that means I have to forfeit the fairy tale wedding, then so be it. If that means I must bear the brand of “black single mother,” then so be that, too. I give you, America, permission to label me as you see fit. I long stopped believing in American dreams."

- What I find strange about this article is that it ignores the hundreds of thousands of black African families in the US which are succeeding in part because two-parent households/extended households under a single roof have potentially more financial resources to draw from and more persons to lack after and encourage the children.
- Essentially, you can mitigate white supremacy by not having single-parent households



The author:

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Get married, brehettes.

 

[MillionMills]

 

[⠀X ⠀]

The lengths these women will go to rationalize their dysfunction...

 

[bennyfein]

The lengths these women will go to rationalize them being single...

Fyp

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

The lengths these women will go to rationalize their dysfunction...

It's very sad. Black America needs to support the importance of having two parents actively involved in the lives of children for practical socio-economic and cultural reasons. There are many studies which suggest that single parent households leads, more often, to worse results in children. Just having less access to income to detrimental to raising a child in America.

 

[Cadillac]

black twitter needs to assault all these fukkin publications not just the root

side note

#therootarticles thing on Twitter showed me tons of sistas see these conniving bytches agenda.

Hopefully and likely those viewing of this article can see the agenda

 

[315]

Is New School University a prestige school?

 

[Guile]

She makes some good points.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Another note: I strongly dislike 'thinkpiece' culture. See below:

According to the National Center for Education Statistics, of associate's and bachelor's degrees awarded to black students between 2013 and 2014, more than 60 percent went to black women. Meanwhile, Michelle Alexander points out in her book The New Jim Crowthat there are more black men under correctional control today than there were under slavery in 1850—at least 1.7 million, to be precise—limiting their opportunities for education and employment. Black men are roughly seven times more likely to be killed than black women.

Even if black men overcome all this—if they survive, if they thrive—they do not want to marry a woman like me. Black men are twice as likely as black women to seek marriage outside of their race. Statistics collected by OkCupid reveal that black women are the least desirable demographic in the dating pool.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

She makes some good points.

Like what?

 

[315]

Another note: I strongly dislike 'thinkpiece' culture. See below:

This is the same author?

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

This is the same author?

It's in the same article, yes.

 

[Londilon]

Its black men who do the choosing so its impossible to say that statement. If anything it would be marriage is not for black men thats why there are so many people planning a baby instead of planning an marriage, plus on here we have GMB.

 

[Henri Christophe]

Oh well.

Marriage worked for my parents

My mother found an ambitious nikka & she submitted



I aint getting married tho.... These bytches from this current generation are nothing like the women that raised me


I aint ever gon marry these hoes