Man puts hands and feet on his daughter’s boyfriend for being in her room in the bed with her. Drama ensues. Right or wrong?

[Gil Scott-Heroin]

This thread yet again reveals the wack conflict resolution skills in society...

The boy was not a threat to yours or your daughter's livelihood, so you do not become physical with him. All these assertions that you should, first of all i dont believe half the nikkas saying it are that dumb, and for the half who are that dumb, they win the prizes when they play dumb...

You do not put your hands on someone else's child...

You can reprimand the boy by banning him from your home and telling his mom. You don't touch the kid...

I also dont believe in touching your daughter as discipline because I think corporal punishment is an enslavement tactic, but thats another thread. If you cant discipline your children without being violent, you are losing at parenting and it says more about you than anything your kid does...

I have 3 daughters, I pray I'm never in a situation someone thinks its their right to physically discipline them, who isn't their mother or me. I also hope I'm never in a situation my girls think they can have a boy in their bed in my home, but I'd rather deal with that than deal with someone else hitting/"roughing up" my children...

My daughters are 7, 6, and 3. I'm not playing this shyt with anyone about mine and every nikka in here believing it's their right to violate another person's child in a situation such as this, are real life losers, straight up...

These nxggas can't be serious with the shyt they posted in here.

They just can't.

Cosplaying with their [non] parenting ass bullshyt, talking about how her pops had every right to beat his ass (some even saying he had the right to kill that boy). I can't possibly fathom why anyone thinks this is a situation where he had to put his hands on lil dude for simply being in the room. Now, if he was refusing to leave (which doesn't seem the case), I could understand. The pops obviously didn't put proper boundaries in place, otherwise, the daughter wouldn't have had the gall to test them whilst he was still there. She knows the other party [the boy] will suffer the brunt of the consequences, and she knows the only way she can have a 'relationship' with boys is sneaking behind her folks' backs.

And you just know this type of behavior that her pops demonstrates, she will seek out in the future in a potential partner. She will gravitate towards someone that resorts to violence because that's what's been in her orbit as a young'n.

Not to mention, beating that boy's ass ain't going to stop him from doing shyt in the future. He just gonna have a built-in defense mechanism around the fathers of all the girls he dates in the future. Instead of a healthy dynamic which could've been had if her pops sat him down and disciplined him with words.

Example 2345534534599393942 of making enemies out of ourselves.

 

[spliz]

That father was an irresponsible ass adult. U don't go around putting ur hands on minors. For one. U never know WHO'S kid ur touching. Number 2. That kid wasn't a THREAT. The ADULT thing to do would be get that kid out of the house. But not before getting in contact with his parents. And letting THEM handle their child. While I handle mine. What the father did could've possibly put him and his daughter in MORE danger depending on who he was dealing with.

 

[Marco Zen]

Except he wasn't protecting his daughter.

The daughter invited this lil nxgga into her room; this is a consensual activity between the two.

If you're condoning the pops putting his hands on this minor under his roof, than I'm assuming under any circumstances where he catches his daughter with another boy outside of the crib, you're condoning her pops to put his hands on whomever? If not, than who the fukk is he protecting?

The only thing he's protecting is his fragile ass ego.

But it didn't happen outside the home.

It happened in the home.

Their home.

The place where most people and their family are safe. In large part due to the authority figures/ responisble adults in the home.

A whole grown ass nikka in the daughters bedroom. And if I'm not mistaken didn't the father say he warned the mf before it happened

Going by your logic and multiple replies in this thread, just because the girl invited him in, the father should just let them fukk

 

[Rasille]

If my daughter did that. I’d ask the young man to leave. I’m not putting my hands on another persons child.

 

[Gil Scott-Heroin]

But it didn't happen outside the home.

It happened in the home.

Their home.

The place where most people and their family are safe. In large part due to the authority figures/ responisble adults in the home.

A whole grown ass nikka in the daughters bedroom. And if I'm not mistaken didn't the father say he warned the mf before it happened

Going by your logic and multiple replies in this thread, just because the girl invited him in, the father should just let them fukk

You're still not explaining how he was protecting his daughter.

She invited that lil nxgga into her room, so what was the purpose of her pops beatin' on him? She wasn't in any danger; she wanted that boy in her room. We don't need the obvious pointed out to us on what a home is, what I want to know is why do you think the pops putting his hands on that boy was a means for protecting his daughter? If you're under the impression he was protecting her, then you should be of the opinion he should puts his hands on any boy who is with her in a private setting, anywhere, not just at his crib. You'd have somewhat of an argument of him protecting her then.

Otherwise, you're inadvertently saying, the only thing he's protecting is his ego. Does that make sense to you?

 

[ThrobbingHood]

real talk....imagine being that much of a bytch.

lil breh got caught violating a rule in a mans house with his daughter and ate a few smacks. instead of taking in it as a young man(i'm assuming he's atleast in 10th grade) he ran home to cry to his mom.

Breh… i had a few situations where I got into some scuffles with the girl’s dad. I learned my lesson when one pulled a gun out on me. I took that L and walked it off.

I would’ve been embarrassed to cry to my parents about it. I was always in the wrong violating their boundaries.

Lesson learned: only mess with girls from broken homes. Their single mother doesn’t care enough about them.

 

[Mr swag]

Boundaries are set. Young man overstepped the boundary. Consequences ensued.

Today's children are shielded from consequences. If he were my child, a discussion with Dad would happen. I would verify, my son was told not to go in the room. I would verify the daughter understood the boundary as well. If all parties are on the same page, my son learned a lesson. He and I would discuss what happened and how to move forward.

The daughter's father and I would have a discussion off to the side. He will not put hands on my child ever again. I am the person to dispense punishment. He calls me first and I reprimand my child. Don't do it again.

If you tell me that I can’t pull off your son from pipping down my underaged daughter in MY house…….you gonna die

 

[Mr swag]

soft ass mama's boy

Dude standing there nodding

 

[ThrobbingHood]

All that mattered to me was pops not being involved. I couldnt imagine telling my parents about my own fukkery AND another adult having to check me on top of that.

Take your lumps, be glad he aint really try to hurt you and KIM. Thats accountability. You know you was wrong and you accept what comes with it. Running to tell mommy is weak as fukk

Made my post above before seeing this. I agree 100%. Part of being a man is having accountability for messing up. The son is clearly a momma’s boy.

 

[Ohene]

I would kick him out of my crib but i wouldn’t put hands on him

That’s just asking for legal trouble

 

[Ohene]

Boundaries are set. Young man overstepped the boundary. Consequences ensued.

Today's children are shielded from consequences. If he were my child, a discussion with Dad would happen. I would verify, my son was told not to go in the room. I would verify the daughter understood the boundary as well. If all parties are on the same page, my son learned a lesson. He and I would discuss what happened and how to move forward.

The daughter's father and I would have a discussion off to the side. He will not put hands on my child ever again. I am the person to dispense punishment. He calls me first and I reprimand my child. Don't do it again.

This

 

[Ohene]

Typical piece of shyt parenting on both sides.


The father raised a daughter that would have a dude get in her bed under her parents' roof.

The father don't want to acknowledge his daughter trash because he raised her to be trash, so instead of disciplining her and himself for being a trash father he take it out on that dude.


The mother of the dude raised her son to be stupid to do some shyt like that. Then, have the nerve to not let him suffer the consequences of his actions based off the poor parenting he received. She should have been slapped too.

This lol

 

[Ohene]

Kids shouldn't have had a boyfriend/gf to begin with. There's no benefit in being in a relationship as a kid.

Didn’t have my first gf until i was 19

 

[Belize King]

If you tell me that I can’t pull off your son from pipping down my underaged daughter in MY house…….you gonna die

Did you set the expectation to both your daughter and the boyfriend?

If so, they both wrong. No self control only impulse and blatant disrespect.

Did you only tell your daughter and not the boyfriend? Is the boy in the wrong?

 

[prince_peoples]

Why he run to his mom to snitch?

When I was in high school I had fades with grown men, win of loss never told my mom shyt.

We living in different times