Loving who you love vs. emphasizing black love

[RoyalQ]

more than likely your genes will undetectable by the time you have grandkids. they'll most likely date white. especially if your well off now, and have well off kids with nice professions and you grandkids will be raised in a white neighborhood. You have no right to be upset at other IR because your not reinforcing the community either. Its so odd how black men can claim to be so pro-black and fall right into the bosom of a non-black woman. Your pro-black stance would have a much more powerful impact on a fully black kid who felt like the world is against him, rather than a mixed kid who will no doubt think he's better than even you.

 

[RoyalQ]

and if you've already solidified your stance that you aint going no where, why you asking question?? and i bet not see you throwing around the word bedwench either.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

I would happily fukk other races but will never develop an emotional attachment even if I did.... Black Kids first, love second

 

[PhonZhi]

If you claim to be pro black and you're with a non-black woman you're a clown.

this

 

[DrX]

u dont have any control over the future so do what makes u happy...marry her and just try your best bro

 

[Will Ross]

If you claim to be pro black and you're with a non-black woman you're a clown.

That makes no sense at all your blackness is not tied to a black woman.
Following that logic you can only be pro black if your married.

 

[Will Ross]

more than likely your genes will undetectable by the time you have grandkids. they'll most likely date white. especially if your well off now, and have well off kids with nice professions and you grandkids will be raised in a white neighborhood. You have no right to be upset at other IR because your not reinforcing the community either. Its so odd how black men can claim to be so pro-black and fall right into the bosom of a non-black woman. Your pro-black stance would have a much more powerful impact on a fully black kid who felt like the world is against him, rather than a mixed kid who will no doubt think he's better than even you.

Most mixed people marry black,

 

[CoochieMane]

Mess up a good thing because you're worried about what posters on an online forum think man.

 

[FemiO]

I consider myself a racially conscious person. I became aware of the mechanisms of white supremacy fairly early in my life (early teens) thanks to Malcolm X's autobiography. For better or for worse, racial consciousness is the primary lens through which I view the world.

I've embraced and am proud of my blackness, but I also have a strong sense of self and individuality. If I'm honest with myself, race is something I'm really passionate about because I think white supremacy has prevented many blacks (including myself) from being free and at peace to reach their true potential as individuals. By extension, romance is the one area that I still choose to idealize and see as highly personal, private, and individual. I know racial dynamics are pervasive, but if there's any space in which they should not dominate, for me, it's that space.

I've dated a variety of women: black, Asian, and white, and now my current girlfriend is a Latina. I love her, and she fits the bill for everything I want in a wife/life partner. I have a great relationship with her family and they've welcomed me since day 1. She and I have the same philosophy on education, family economics, finances, and building wealth. More importantly, her values are solid and her loyalty to me is unimpeachable in my mind. This is the woman I want to raise my kids. There's no doubt in that we'd build something great together.

The only issue is that, from time to time, there's this tinge of discomfort with the feeling that I'm betraying my community by dating "out". I'm disgusted when black football players, basketball players, financiers, or whomever suddenly wind up with non-black women when they're successful. Every time I see a new instance of this, the question flashes to mind: am I doing the same thing?

I also have the nagging fear that my kids could succumb to white supremacy/the black inferiority complex, and run away from their blackness through dating, friends, or whatever growing up. The idea of being old and grey, seeing my kids "preferring" not to date black or associate with the black community, or worse yet seeing them disconnect from their black family, is terrifying. I've seen it happen so often with the kids of mixed families or black families who do well. It's extremely depressing.

What do other brehs think (I'm not asking what to do. It'd be stupid to walk away from this. Just asking for thoughts)? Any of you guys in or have been in similar situations? What'd you do?

your kids will take after you, depending on how you raise them. they won't feel inferior of you teach them not to be.

but then again...your kids are gonna be biracial. whether they identify with being black is their choice, at that point

personally? the idea of marrying someone other than a black woman makes me wanna throw up. but if you're happy, enjoy it.

 

[LadySimone]

Bruh...the "community" ain't comin' to your house at the end of these long days.
Don't fucc up your good thing worrying what the hood think.
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Uh don't throw black people under the bus with this shyt. We owe our existence to the hood, the church, the activists, the mosques, the social clubs, the HBCUs, the Greek system, the many institutions and individual throughout history that risked their lives so we can be here. Especially as a black man the hood shows up when something happens to you.

Don't forget them so you can feel comfortable with lupe or Becky.

 

[LadySimone]

He learned bold from hanging around his momma and aunties cause that's chick shyt. I swear until I came on here I've never saw dudes care who dudes messing with outside of the chick being ugly or not. This coli/Internet shyt don't jive with what happens in most people's lives on stuff like this. Tbh dudes whole post but definitely bold

Other communities determine the direction of their paper trail. They don't allow the best and the brightest cede to a rival group because of the whims and fancy of love or lust.

Why would hulk hogan say that shyt about what type of black man his daughter can date? Follow the money!

@Taadow

 

[LadySimone]

So you think it's meaningless? If it's not your chick to begin with, what does it matter if she's ugly or not? This shyt doesn't trip you out? Do you care about money flowing through the black community or are you indifferent to it?

I think black people really really need to study the history of historically wealthy people. Arranged marriages exist for that very reason. Wars in Europe that killed thousands were due in part to keep maintaining and acquiring wealth.

Granted an athlete is not an aristocrat but the point is the same.

 

[LadySimone]

Where did I say I care what some next nikka chick look like? Idgaf who dudes I mess with chicks look like that's not why they my boys. What shyt is supposed to trip me out? Honest question.

I think most of these black community nikkas are full of shyt regarding stuff like black money flowing through the community honestly esp online. I mean what does that even mean? I probably do just as much as the majority of y'all and don't even think about it. It just feels like "lame" for lack of a better word IRL dudes come on here to out black each other and that's just weak to me.

Ask nicole Simpsons family what it means. They ate good off OJ. Because their daughter married a rich man if any of her relatives needed money for a car, a business, a lawyer, tuition, surgery, vacation, they had a place where they could potentially get it.

Now imagine if OJ and his millions married a black woman (I know he had in the past) he could have spread that wealth to other black people if he were generous enough. Potentially taking a lot of black folks out of fire poverty. Or he could have married a similarly rich black woman and created a dynasty. I'm exaggerating here but back in the day that's exactly how they did it.

Now thanks to self hatred and self interest "the rule of the loins" we got black people who could be marrying eachother and building fortunes instead taking care of people outside of the race.

Cash warren got a black daddy, he married a white Latina, she is on her way to becoming very wealthy through her investments. Now imagine if cash daddy married a black woman his son married a black woman and that black women was on her way to becoming a multi millionaire from her Honest Co. Company?

 

[LadySimone]

That makes no sense at all your blackness is not tied to a black woman.
Following that logic you can only be pro black if your married.

That's not following logic at all. If you denounce marriage as an evil or think single parenthood is benign than you are anti black because broken homes and lack of marriages have killed black communities

 

[LadySimone]

OP just do you bro. It seems like you are choosing her on solid grounds given you've talked about values and culture.

Just keep your children away from black entitlements and if you get butt plugged by the police find your community of black men and Latino women to march for you.

Leave our resources alone.